Hey Queens 💋 It’s Shay, and in today’s episode, I’m pulling back the curtain on the exact shifts that took me from attracting emotionally unavailable, feminized men… to being fully magnetized to masculine, high-value providers who lead, protect, and pour into me.

I’m not holding back.
Because the truth is—it’s not about your looks, your degrees, or how “healed” you think you are.
It’s about your energetic alignment.
It’s about what your nervous system is subconsciously choosing on autopilot.

In this episode, I’ll walk you through:

👑 The real reason smart, spiritual, powerful women keep attracting men who drain them
👑 How your childhood conditioning is secretly creating your love patterns
👑 What it actually means to embody feminine energy and stop overfunctioning
👑 Why the love you’re dreaming of is waiting for you to realign with it—not chase it
👑 And the three codes you must activate to become the woman love is already seeking

Listen… you are not too much.
You are not too late.
You are simply overdue for a recalibration of your love blueprint.

So turn this all the way up, grab your journal, and let’s get into the divine strategy that will rewrite the love story your body has been carrying.

Because baby girl—when you’re energetically aligned, you don’t chase love... you attract it.

Ladies… we need to talk.

If you’re still calling it “talking” after three months, I love you—but you are playing yourself. There is no such thing as “talking” in grown-woman dating. That’s just a holding pattern for a man who’s keeping his options open.

In this episode, I’m breaking it all the way down.
We’re going deep into why so many high-potential women get stuck in situationships, why you’re still attracting emotionally unavailable men, and how your nervous system might be addicted to the chaos you think is chemistry.

Here’s what we’re covering:
— What it really means when he hasn’t claimed you by Month 3
— Why butterflies are not romance—they’re a trauma response
— The science of bonding: when a man actually falls for you
— How to stop settling and start dating with divine standards
— The 5 non-negotiable levels of compatibility you must vet for

Listen, I’m not here to sugarcoat anything. I’m here to help you stop wasting your time, heal your love blocks, and finally attract the man who’s ready to love, lead, and claim you.

So if you’ve ever felt like you’re doing all the right things and still ending up disappointed—press play. You’re not crazy. You’re just not dating with the tools you were never taught to use.

This episode will change that.

In this episode, I’m pulling back the curtain on the real reason so many high-value women stay single, situationshipped, or endlessly heartbroken — and it has nothing to do with your looks, your past, or your worth.

We’re diving deep into:
The 5 phases of every relationship — and the exact spot where most women get stuck
The science of masculine bonding (and why you fall fast while he falls slow)
The truth about testosterone, oxytocin, and what’s really happening in his body when he says he’s "just not ready"
Why being amazing isn’t enough to be chosen — and how to shift from “situationship energy” into becoming the woman he instinctively wants to commit to
How to release outdated dating patterns and start embodying the version of you that aligned love is already looking for

If you’ve ever felt like love skips over you — or that men adore you but never fully claim you — this episode will feel like turning on the lights in a room you’ve been stumbling through for years.

This is not about chasing, fixing, or shrinking.
It’s about remembering who you are… and moving like it.

Sis… this episode is a testimony.

After 10 years of no contact—no texts, no calls, no clue what he was doing—God brought him back. And not just back… but better. Evolved. Ready. Aligned.

In today’s episode, I’m sharing the raw, unfiltered story of how Love Bugg and I reconnected after a decade of life, heartbreak, and growth. You’ll hear what really happened behind the scenes—how I healed, how he transformed, and how divine timing led us both back to the kind of love that doesn’t play games, doesn’t make you beg, and doesn’t disappear when things get real.

Inside this episode:
The spiritual breadcrumbs that led me back to him
How I knew he was the one—without needing to chase
What vasopressin does to a man’s brain when he truly bonds
Why masculine men don’t cheat when they’ve chosen their queen
The difference between a man who’s interested and one who’s invested

If you’ve ever doubted love…
If you’ve ever been told to “just settle”...
If you’ve ever felt like maybe it’s just not going to happen for you…

Let this be your reminder: What’s meant for you will always find its way back—once you’re healed enough to receive it.

Don’t forget to follow the show, leave a 5-star review, and share this episode with another queen who needs to hear it.

In this episode, I’m taking you deep into the psychology of masculine commitment—the real science behind what makes a high-value man not just desire you, but choose you. This isn’t about playing games or pretending to be someone you’re not. It’s about understanding how the masculine mind bonds, what ignites long-term devotion, and how to awaken the part of you that naturally draws commitment without chasing it.

We’ll explore the subtle shifts in energy, language, and presence that create magnetic polarity, and I’ll walk you through the core principles that high-caliber men respond to instinctively. If you've ever found yourself in situationships, half-commitments, or confused dynamics, this episode will bring clarity, power, and a whole new standard for how you show up in love.

This is about seduction, yes—but the kind rooted in truth, self-worth, and feminine depth.

Let’s begin.

Welcome to the Love On Command podcast! I’m Shay, your certified love transformer and master love coach. Join me as I dive deep into the complexities of dating, relationships, and self-discovery. In each episode, I share my nearly 20 years of experience helping women heal, transform, and attract the right partners.

Are you frustrated with the dating game? Do you feel lost, hurt, or disappointed? I’m here to reveal the reasons behind these feelings and empower you to trust your intuition and judgment again. With insights drawn from my extensive research, including over 100 dates and interviews with thousands of men and women, I uncover the science of attraction and the patterns in male behavior.

I emphasize the importance of understanding your feminine energy and power, guiding you to recognize your worth and discern the intentions of those around you. I challenge common misconceptions about dating and relationships, helping you navigate the confusing advice that often leads to frustration.

Whether you're seeking love, healing from past relationships, or simply looking to enhance your understanding of yourself, Love On Command is here to support you. Remember, no matter your past experiences, you are always the prize. Tune in each week for empowering discussions, practical advice, and the inspiration you need to take control of your love life.

Join me on this transformative journey and rediscover the confidence to attract the love you deserve!

In this episode, I’m breaking down why FaceTime and dinner dates are not enough—and how too many women are unknowingly setting themselves up to be consumed like a buffet instead of being savored like fine dining. I’m walking you through the psychology, the energetics, and the strategy behind holding your value from the very beginning. Because here's the truth: if you're giving him access to all of you too soon—your time, your energy, your body—you're killing the very desire you're trying to build.

We’re talking about setting a standard that says you are high-ticket, high-value, and not everyone gets the privilege of your presence. I'm also diving into the six phases of a relationship, the science behind male attraction, and what actually creates that magnetic pull that keeps him thinking about you long after the date ends.

If you've ever wondered why he pulled back after dinner, why he stopped putting in effort after you gave him your time, or how to cultivate real feminine power without chasing or overgiving—this episode is your blueprint.

Listen in, take notes, and let this be the last time you show up to a first date hoping to be chosen. From now on, you are the one doing the choosing.

In this episode, we’re diving deep into the fascinating world of dating, relationships, and personal empowerment. I’m Shay your love Diva, and today we’ll be exploring how your unique love archetype impacts your dating life and how you can harness this understanding to attract healthier, more fulfilling relationships.

We’ll cover everything from the science behind attraction to the six key phases of a relationship. Plus, I’ll be sharing some powerful insights from my work with women across the globe—helping you identify and break free from the patterns that may be holding you back in love.

By the end of this episode, you’ll have the tools to better understand your love archetype and the confidence to navigate the dating world with clarity and grace. So, get comfortable and let’s dive in—your love life is about to transform!