We have been talking about how to honestly assess our family relationships and approach them with the mind of Christ. Now it's time to explore how we can actually communicate with our parents. Join Pat Morley and learn a tension-reducing way to start an awkward but crucial conversation. Whether your family's level of dysfunction is low, moderate, serious, or severe, we've got you covered.

We'll also discuss what to do if you can't communicate with your parents—whether it's because they aren't available, or you just can't move on. Join us for a day that could change everything for you, a loved one, or the men you mentor!

Reflection and Discussion

1. Have you attempted to have a crucial conversation with your parents about your childhood wounds? If so, how did it go? If not, what is keeping this conversation from happening?

2. Which next step suits your situation best—keep doing what you’re doing, initiate a crucial conversation, have a facilitated session, or set boundaries? Why is this the next best step for you?

3. Obviously, there’s a natural tension between the need for action and the desire to avoid a potential negative outcome. With that in mind, what is one thing you can do this week to overcome your reluctance and reach out to your parents?

Healing and rebuilding relationships takes time and mutual commitment. What's the current state of your relationship with your parents and siblings? What's the level of ongoing dysfunction? How receptive are you to restoring a relationship with them? How receptive are they? Do they and you both have the communication skills to pull it off, or do you need a facilitator? Do you have the right attitude—a biblical mindset?

Join Pat Morley and honestly assess your current situation. Let's see if we can each have the attitude or mind of Christ about our parents and siblings. And if not, how can you get it? This could be the day everything changes for you—and your family!

Chapter 11: Rethinking Your Parents’ Story

To be sure, our parents are responsible for how they wounded us, whether they knew it or not. Maybe they were good people who made serious mistakes, or maybe they were uncaring, toxic, or even evil. Nothing can minimize, justify, excuse, or change that. What happened to you or your loved one happened.

But what happened to them? It’s a worthy question.

So far, we’ve spent a lot of time on what happened to you. Join Pat Morley as we now take some time to reflect on what happened to our parents. Unraveling what happened to your parents can illuminate what happened to you. It’s going to be a great day!