If you’ve ever tried to talk to your spouse about the mental load and ended up feeling more frustrated than before, it’s not because you’re doing it wrong. So many couples want to share the load more fairly, but there are hidden barriers that make these conversations stall out or spiral into conflict.

In this episode, I’m breaking down the main reasons why dads often don’t step in, why moms end up carrying it all by default, and what keeps these conversations from moving forward. More importantly, I’ll walk you through how to recognize the specific barriers in your relationship so you can finally shift the dynamic and feel like a team again.

Tune in to discover:

• Why men often don’t recognize the mental load in the first place

• How default “factory settings” after kids leave moms carrying more than their share

• Why asking for help still leaves you holding the invisible weight

• The role of defensiveness in shutting conversations down

• What to focus on instead so you can break the cycle and build more equity at home

The Us System: https://marriedafterkids.com/the-us-system

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Sometimes the most powerful shifts in marriage come from hearing what other couples are struggling with (and how they’re working through it). That’s why in this episode, I’m taking you behind the scenes and sharing the exact conversations I’m having with my clients right now.

These are the patterns, perspective shifts, and tools that come up over and over again, no matter what stage of marriage someone is in. From unmet needs to the mental load to feeling stuck in the same cycle, these conversations are the ones that bring the biggest breakthroughs. And today, I want you to benefit from them too.

Tune in to discover:

• Why perspective shifts are one of the most underutilized tools in marriage

• How unmet needs and resentment can keep you stuck in painful cycles

• Why “just talking about it” often isn’t the work, and what actually is

• The importance of having the right tools and systems, not just good intentions

• The top mindset shift I teach my clients that changes everything

The Us System: https://marriedafterkids.com/the-us-system

FREE Marriage Shutdown Checklist: https://marriedafterkids.com/marriage-shutdown?utm_source=podcast&utm_medium=links&utm_campaign=MSoptin

Connect with me for a FREE Married After Kids Intervention Call:

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So many couples struggle with resentment, overwhelm, and burnout after kids, even when both partners are “doing a lot.” My guest today, Paige Connell, has become a powerful voice on the realities of the mental load, time equity, and the systemic stress that weighs families down. Her candid, relatable storytelling has reached millions, and today she’s breaking down how she and her husband shifted from frustration to fairness in their marriage.

In this conversation, we talk about why it’s not just about who does the chores, but how couples view time, money, and responsibility. Paige shares her own journey of redefining equity at home, why small moments like forgetting to refill the soap carry so much weight, and how to start having conversations that actually move the needle in your relationship. If you’ve ever wondered why it feels like everything defaults to you (and how to change that), this episode is a must-listen.

In this episode, you’ll hear:

• How Paige and her husband faced their own reckoning with the mental load

• Why resentment often builds even when both partners are “helping”

• The hidden weight of time equity and how society undervalues unpaid labor

• Practical shifts that turn daily fights into collaborative logistics

• Why creating equity at home frees up space for joy, fun, and a stronger marriage

Connect with Paige:

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/sheisapaigeturner/

TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@sheisapaigeturner

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The Us System: https://marriedafterkids.com/the-us-system

FREE Marriage Shutdown Checklist: https://marriedafterkids.com/marriage-shutdown?utm_source=podcast&utm_medium=links&utm_campaign=MSoptin

Connect with me for a FREE Married After Kids Intervention Call:

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Fair Play has changed the conversation around mental load for so many couples, and it is an incredible starting point. But after using it myself and walking clients through it, I’ve seen that sometimes it doesn’t go as far as we hope, and it can even leave couples feeling stuck or disappointed.

In this episode, I’m sharing where Fair Play shines, the gaps I’ve noticed, and what else needs to be in place for this tool to actually create the change you want. If you’ve ever tried Fair Play and still felt frustrated, unseen, or like something was missing, this conversation will give you the clarity and tools to move forward.

Tune in to discover:

• Why Fair Play was groundbreaking and why I still recommend it

• The most important gap the system leaves out (and why it matters so much)

• How life circumstances like travel or shift work complicate the system

• Why divvying up tasks is only part of what makes marriage work

• What else your marriage needs beyond Fair Play to truly thrive

The Us System: https://marriedafterkids.com/the-us-system

FREE Marriage Shutdown Checklist: https://marriedafterkids.com/marriage-shutdown?utm_source=podcast&utm_medium=links&utm_campaign=MSoptin

Connect with me for a FREE Married After Kids Intervention Call:

https://marriedafterkids.satoriapp.com/offers/277730-married-after-kids-intervention-call

Follow me on Instagram so you don’t miss a thing! www.instagram.com/marriedafterkids

What if the changes you want in your marriage could happen faster than you ever thought possible? Most couples assume that improving their relationship has to take years of work, but that’s not actually true. There’s one shift that can speed things up dramatically, and it might not be what you expect.

In this episode, I share the biggest reason progress often feels painfully slow and the exact mindset and approach that will collapse time and help you see results much more quickly. You’ll hear real-life examples from my own marriage and from clients, plus the key to moving from frustration and disconnection into real, lasting change.

Tune in to discover:

• Why so many couples get stuck spinning their wheels on the wrong issues

• The hidden ways traditional methods slow down progress

• What creates hope and momentum when you feel like nothing is working

• How to get unstuck even if you’ve been in the same cycle for years

• The #1 hack to collapse time and get results faster in your marriage

The Us System: https://marriedafterkids.com/the-us-system

FREE Marriage Shutdown Checklist: https://marriedafterkids.com/marriage-shutdown?utm_source=podcast&utm_medium=links&utm_campaign=MSoptin

Connect with me for a FREE Married After Kids Intervention Call:

https://marriedafterkids.satoriapp.com/offers/277730-married-after-kids-intervention-call

Follow me on Instagram so you don’t miss a thing! www.instagram.com/marriedafterkids

Marriage and motherhood are challenging enough, and when ADHD is in the mix it can feel even more complicated. But a strong, connected marriage is absolutely possible. In this episode, I am joined by Sara Wiles, mom, wife, and business mentor, for an honest conversation about what ADHD looks like in her marriage and parenting, and the strategies that create more balance and connection at home.

We also talk about what it means to build a business that supports your life instead of the other way around. Sara’s openness about marriage, motherhood, and entrepreneurship is a breath of fresh air for anyone who has ever felt “too much,” “not enough,” or simply wired differently in their relationship.

Tune in to discover:

• Why marriage after kids feels like building the plane while flying it

• The role of repair in relationships and why it matters more than getting it perfect

• How ADHD shows up in both business and marriage and how to make it work for you

• The truth about highlight reels, comparison, and what we don’t see in other people’s marriages

• What it means to build a life-first business (and why it matters for moms and families)

Connect with Sara on Instagram: @sara_wiles

Learn more about becoming a Virtual Assistant: startandgrowco.com

The Us System: https://marriedafterkids.com/the-us-system

FREE Marriage Shutdown Checklist: https://marriedafterkids.com/marriage-shutdown?utm_source=podcast&utm_medium=links&utm_campaign=MSoptin

Connect with me for a FREE Married After Kids Intervention Call:

https://marriedafterkids.satoriapp.com/offers/277730-married-after-kids-intervention-call

Follow me on Instagram so you don’t miss a thing! www.instagram.com/marriedafterkids

If you want to prevent resentment, reduce conflict, and protect your peace as a parent, one of the most powerful skills you can build is setting boundaries.

I know boundaries can feel confusing, even controversial. Maybe they’ve been used against you in the past, or maybe you’ve thought of them as walls or ultimatums. But the truth is, healthy boundaries are what allow you to show up as your best self, feel emotionally safe, and create a marriage that actually feels good after kids.

In this episode, I’m breaking down the exact boundaries that protect your marriage from resentment and burnout, plus how to put them into place in a way that feels kind, loving, and effective.

Tune in to discover:

• What we so often get wrong about boundaries

• The 5 categories of boundaries that matter most for parents (and how to set them)

• How clear boundaries reduce conflict and increase emotional safety in marriage

• The most common mistakes couples make when setting boundaries (and what to do instead)

• How to know where you need a boundary most in your relationship right now

The Us System: https://marriedafterkids.com/the-us-system

FREE Marriage Shutdown Checklist: https://marriedafterkids.com/marriage-shutdown?utm_source=podcast&utm_medium=links&utm_campaign=MSoptin

Connect with me for a FREE Married After Kids Intervention Call:

https://marriedafterkids.satoriapp.com/offers/277730-married-after-kids-intervention-call

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Double standards can show up in any marriage, but over time they can quietly erode connection and trust. The tricky part is, they’re not always obvious and sometimes they hide in the everyday routines and unspoken expectations you’ve had for years.

In this episode, I’m breaking down how double standards show up, why they can feel so frustrating (even if you can’t put your finger on exactly why), and what to do if you suspect they’re taking a toll on your relationship.

Tune in to discover:

• How to spot double standards you may not even realize are there

• Why these patterns feel so personal and emotionally charged

• A simple way to talk about them without starting a fight

• What to focus on if the dynamic feels unfair but hard to change

• The shift that can help you feel like you’re on the same team again

The Us System: https://marriedafterkids.com/the-us-system

FREE Marriage Shutdown Checklist: https://marriedafterkids.com/marriage-shutdown?utm_source=podcast&utm_medium=links&utm_campaign=MSoptin

Connect with me for a FREE Married After Kids Intervention Call:

https://marriedafterkids.satoriapp.com/offers/277730-married-after-kids-intervention-call

Follow me on Instagram so you don’t miss a thing! www.instagram.com/marriedafterkids