James is the founder of the Positive Parenting Alliance and creator of the Parents Promise. Having seen up close the multitude of issues in the family courts and the numbers of children and parents affected James wanted to begin a new conversation about separation.

In May 2021, after many conversations with like-minded people and organisations the Parents Promise was launched. Backed by over 20 organisations ranging from the likes of the children’s mental health charity Place2Be to Relate to Black Mums Upfront the aim of the Alliance is to effect important cultural change around separation in the UK and beyond. In January 2023 the Alliance launched a ground-breaking HR initiative encouraging a number of large UK corporations including Tesco, ASDA, Natwest and Unilever to sign up to recognise separation as a ‘life event’. In 2025 he turned his focus to the subject of separation and schools and the Parents Promise Education Initiative launched in September.

As for James’s ‘day job’ he has 20 years experience in marketing and PR and has worked ‘both sides of the fence’ as agency leader and client. In his spare time James is a keen runner, bourgeoning autism awareness activist and usually wrapped tightly around the fingers of his three little girls.

Key points of the episode:

• The Parents Promise. What is it?
• What happens when the relationship starts to slip.
• The damage that conflict between parents does to children.
• Family courts and their problems and biases.
• The problem with court orders.
• The "Mrs. Doubtfire" comparison.
• The complete blindspot in society about seperation and damage.

Reach out for more info:

https://www.linkedin.com/in/james-hayhurst-59a5a15

https://theparentspromise.org.uk

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Ryan Parke is The Men's Coach, a TEDx and international, award-winning public speaker. In 2019, the most successful man Ryan personally knew, died by suicide. Bewildered and devastated by his death, Ryan was sparked into undergoing detailed research on men’s health.

Ryan’s knowledge and ability, to present complexity in an accessible way, stands him out as a speaker and particularly on the subject of testosterone, Ryan is challenging outdated yet popular opinion. In so doing, he is opening up a whole new narrative in how we approach male mental and physical health. Ryan works with companies and charities that want to improve mental health for men by taking an evidence-based approach. His 90-day coaching programme helps men to overcome depression, beat procrastination and achieve their life goals.

Key points of the episode:

• Welcoming Ryan back for a second time - a first on Men on Show
• What Andrew rates so highly about Mens work.
• The optimal environment to reach out to someone you are concerned about.
• The hormones that are key in male mental health.
• A three step framework for conversation.
• The empowering story that Andrew shares.
• How the framework works even on young boys.
• How his teachings became a book, and who, perhaps surprisingly it is aimed at.
• A fascinating and telling experiment.
• The most important factor in testosterone production.
• Healthy diet shifts.
• His new book coming out approx November 2025

Reach out to Ryan on www.themenscoach.co.uk

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James Searjeant is an experienced educator and advocate for inclusive education, currently serving as a primary and nursery headteacher in South East London. James actively contributes to national discussions on SEND, curriculum, assessment and accountability, calling for systems that better reflect the progress and achievements of all pupils. He is dedicated to developing inclusive and equitable approaches that support every learner to thrive.

Key points of the episode:

• Who inspired him on the way up.
• How he lived with anxiety all his life and how he developed a "quiet resilience"
• His thoughts on a difficult and key educational transition.
• How we are using tools of the last century and how it needs to change,
• His thoughts on phones and social media.
• The poor policies behind seeming good and excellent official reviews.
• A message of hope for men and boys.

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Shaun Flores is a mental health advocate, public speaker, and five-time TEDx speaker using his voice to challenge stigma around OCD, masculinity, and identity.

After a late diagnosis of OCD at 27, Shaun rebuilt his life through therapy, storytelling, and advocacy sharing his journey to help others find clarity, language, and resilience. His talks go beyond awareness and offer real tools for navigating shame, neurodiversity, and emotional health especially for young men and marginalised communities.

Shaun has delivered sessions with the NHS, Panasonic, Papa John’s, and schools across the UK. He’s the founder of The Flores Effect™ and Rejection Rehab™, programmes built to help people speak from the soul not the script. His story has been featured in BBC, Channel 4, Metro UK, and Men’s Health.

Whether he’s leading a workshop, breaking down OCD myths, or unpacking the “performance of normal,” Shaun’s mission is simple: to leave the world better than he found it one conversation at a time.

Key points of the episode:

• ** WELCOMING A 4 TIMES TED TALK SPEAKER**
• How porn and it's fallout negative body image are damaging society.
• His inspirations and influences growing up- a long list!
• How the death of his father deeply affected him.
• How he did not get the support he needed, and neither did his Mum.
• ...who had her own health issues as well.
• The values his Aunt taught him (as a man)
• How he got into the modelling industry.
• His thoughts on the modelling industry.
• The problem of "Money over Mental Health"
• The surprising percentage of men that have a negative body image, - not only women. The concept of "Comparisonitis"
• The surgery some men have had to look "good"
• His thoughts on online porn.
• The REAL average penis size.
• The false correlation between penis size and partner.
• How easy access to unrealistic porn is damaging.
• Towards the beginning of a possible solution.

Reach out to Shaun on:

seanflores1994@gmail.com

Linked in and Insta @shaunflores

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Harun Rabbani is a serial entrepreneur, mentor, and retreat leader who has spent over two decades helping high-performing individuals recover from burnout, reconnect with purpose, and lead with renewed clarity.

After navigating the emotional toll of building multiple businesses while hiding behind a mask of success, Harun experienced a personal breakdown that became the catalyst for profound transformation. Today, he works closely with leading experts — including embodiment teacher Nelia Freitas and forensic psychiatrist Dr Ali Ajaz — to create powerful healing spaces for men and women seeking a deep reset, especially those with ADHD and other forms of neurodiversity.

Harun’s work blends science, spirituality, and leadership — with one clear message: Your breakdown isn’t the end of your story. It’s the beginning of your true leadership.

Key Points of the Interview

• How burnout is misunderstood.
• His burnout experience and what he learned from it.
• Signs of burnout.
• Our "male intuition" and how we ignore it....
• ....and why we do it.
• Relationships, and how to save them!
• Nature or Nurture? The ongoing debate.
• His incredible retreats and what happens on them.
• How as human beings we hold onto emotions and we need to let them go.

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To contact him - www.harunrabbani.com

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From his website:

In 2013, following many years of working with local young people through martial arts Richard Pomfrett created ‘Stay Safe! Workshops’. His vision was to help educate and protect as many young people as possible on the subjects of bullying and staying safe in their community. It was by starting off working closely with a handful of local schools, that gave him the opportunity to develop and create such unique and effective programmes for both.

Since 2013 Richard’s passion for his work as pushed him to continually evolve and shape ‘Stay Safe! Workshops’ to fit the needs of young people today.
It is through these specialised and unique sessions, that we aim to educate as many young people as possible. Raising awareness and passing on vital skills and knowledge at key stages in their development and helping prevent them from becoming part of the future dire statistics.

Reach out on thestaysafeinitiative.org.uk

www.boyz-2-men.org.uk

Key points of the episode:

• His growing up experiences and influences.
• How he loves what he does, working with young people in schools, and how contrasting his school experience was.
• How some school situations still to some degree affect him now.
• How martial arts became a part of his life.
• The anti-bullying and peer mentorship programmes he runs in schools.
• How Andrew Tate and so much more have influenced teenage boys.
• The age that boys begin to be influenced by social media.
• The biggest online influence problems.
• The impact of the 2025 series "Adolescence"
• How the "Incel" movement and Tate are not connected at all.
• The best time to chat with your kids about online influences/
• HIs thoughts on the Australian Social Media ban

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Rick Belden is a poet, author, artist, and men's coach, and a respected explorer and chronicler of the psychology and inner lives of men. He helps men who are feeling stuck get their lives moving again by drawing on over 35 years of experience with men's issues, masculine psychology, and recovery from trauma. Rick is also one of the foremost experts on the Mother Wound in men. As a men’s coach, he has worked with an international clientele that includes hundreds of men of all ages and various backgrounds in 30 states in the USA and 23 nations worldwide.

Find him on Instagram (rickbeldencoaching), Bluesky (rickbelden), and TikTok (rickbeldencoaching).

The Huffington Post article he referenced during the podcast is called "Men and the Mother Wound" and it's available here.

Key points of the episode:

• Unpicking the "mother wound"
• How he modelled himself on other people thinking they were more than him, but realised later they were doing exactly the same thing!
• How he did not have a father he could talk with about anything.
• How "back in the day" is somewhat romanticised.
• How he wanted to make money to get out of the house, and to prove to his Dad he could do dangerous work like them. To prove he was a man.
• How eventually he moved into IT but was still unhappy.
• How men are desperate to be heard!
• Why men in their early 20's are having trouble getting their lives started.
• How your relationship with yourself is the most important thing.
• How men are shamed when they try to follow the new advice of "open up and be vulnerable"
• ...and why this needs to change. Fast.

www.rickbelden.com

www.rickbeldencoaching.com

https://www.huffpost.com/entry/men-and-the-mother-wound_b_9720718

https://www.youtube.com/@RickBelden

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Matt Hudson, Associate Director of MAN v FAT

Matt has been involved in sport, community, health and wellbeing for his whole career, firstly at Colchester United Football Club and latterly Thrive Tribe and MAN v FAT.

As Associate Director of Marketing for MAN v FAT, Matt is part of the HQ team that has built a programme that supports over 8,500 men every week to improve their health and wellbeing as part of an incredible national community. And, with MAN v FAT Soccer going live last year, that community is transatlantic too!

Matt also oversees the MAN v FAT customer service team as part of his role and retains his interest in putting the customer at the heart of all of his decision making.

Born in Colchester, Matt remains an ardent U’s fan and continues to follow their fortunes closely whilst looking after his two daughters.

You can find out more about MAN v FAT on their website and connect with Matt directly on Linkedin

Key points of the interview:

• How a lady inspired him.
• How he lost his Mum somewhat young, and how it affected the family.
• The need for female influence in his life.
• What he did in his 18 years at Colchester, and his thoughts on the positive change in masculinity.
• The importance of mental health awareness in sport.
• The financial pressure in the game and in teams.
• The 2 kinds of intelligence that football managers need for most effect.
• The value of family support.
• Man V Fat - what it is?
• His last 5 and a half years there.
• The main challenges the men they serve face.
• Andrew's threat to wear Speedos!
• How men worry about showing vulnerablilty.
• The simple criteria needed to join.

Reach out at www.manvfat.com

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