Episodes

  • The Yellers

    The Yellers
    Aug 13 2024
    Couples generally raise their voice when they are not being heard, understood, or when they're feeling desperate. Feeling that nobody is listening can make anybody want to yell! But there are better ways of making yourself heard, and Lilian and Rick want to share them with you today.
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    24 mins
  • Kids Stuck in the Middle

    Kids Stuck in the Middle
    Jul 9 2024
    Our Children need to be allowed to simply be children, but we often put them in the middle of our relationship conflicts, creating a triangulation that's not healthy for anyone. Co-parenting effectively involves modeling loving, respectful intimacy for our kids. Let's talk about how you can do it!
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    20 mins
  • Your Place ... or Mine?

    Your Place ... or Mine?
    May 14 2024
    Many couples choose to have separate residences for myriad of reasons: job requirements, school district preferences, even military postings. Making decisions together can be challenging when you're living apart. How do you keep it together? How do you define your own couplehood around residences, visits, children, and intimacy?
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    21 mins
  • The Eye Roll

    The Eye Roll
    Apr 9 2024
    Who hasn't seen their partner rolling their eyes? Who hasn't done it themselves at times? So much is being said in this gesture, often underlining attitudes that make one or both partners feel unsafe in the relationship. What is encoded in nonverbal communication? Is this something you or your partner do routinely? What can replace it to make nonverbal communication work better?
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    20 mins
  • It's Not Just About the Chores

    It's Not Just About the Chores
    Mar 13 2024
    Couples argue incessantly about who does (or doesn't do) what chore, when, and how, and resentment around these seemingly mundane tasks can build and become a symptom of deeper issues in the relationship. You don't have to keep doing this dance- Rick and Lilian will tell you how you can change your dynamics!
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    20 mins
  • Speaking Different Languages

    Speaking Different Languages
    Feb 13 2024
    The prevalence of couples who meet on the internet is increasing, while the command of each other's language can be rudimentary, creating communication challenges. Do we use communication as a bridge_ or as a weapon? And is it a metaphor for speaking different languages in other, less obvious ways?
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    18 mins
  • Dealing With Money

    Dealing With Money
    Jan 9 2024
    The way we handle money in relationships can be a metaphor for how we handle love. Do you keep your money jointly or separately? Do you argue over how to spend money? In this episode, Rick and Lilian talk about issues around control, intimacy, and safety around money.
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    18 mins
  • Keeping Secrets

    Keeping Secrets
    Dec 12 2023
    What is it you don't tell your partner? What kinds of secrets do couples keep from each other? Do you keep secrets so you can avoid conflict with your partner, or do you tell your partner everything, or something in-between? What's the best policy?
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    19 mins