Episodes

  • OPENHOUSE Official Trailer

    OPENHOUSE Official Trailer
    Sep 7 2020
    Openhouse - a fresh, fun and real podcast that explores the amazing impact that therapy and human connection can have on all areas of our lives. ⠀In Series 1 of Openhouse, Dr Helene Laurent-Oliver will guide me through a series of personal therapy sessions. Together, we plan to explore all aspects of my life and EVERYTHING is up for discussion!⠀Dr Helene is a Clinical Psychologist who trained at Oxford University and Royal Holloway University of London - she is amazing - we are so excited to start this podcast and we hope you join us for the ride. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
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    5 mins
  • 01 - LIVE THERAPY - What happened to Louise Rumball?

    01 - LIVE THERAPY - What happened to Louise Rumball?
    Sep 7 2020
    Hi friends! Louise here introducing my first ever solo episode of Openhouse - a fresh, fun and real podcast that explores the amazing impact that therapy and human connection can have on all areas of our lives. ⠀⠀In this intro episode, I’m going to introduce you to who I am and tell you a little more about the journey I have been on throughout life so far. ⠀From childhood to adolescence, through university and into adulthood, this episode will give you some background context of my life and how I got to where I am today, as well as why I decided to start this podcast. From good and bad relationships, to career development, perfectionism, trauma, substance abuse and subsequent sobriety, this episode is the first one in which I start to peel back the layers into who I am, and why I am this way.⠀With 1 in 4 people being diagnosed with a mental health disorder in their lifetime, we need to pick up the pace on the mental health discussion and I want to help make a change by getting us talking.⠀In Series 1 of Openhouse, Dr Helene Laurent-Oliver will guide me through a series of personal therapy sessions. Together, we plan to explore all aspects of my life and EVERYTHING is up for discussion!⠀Dr Helene is a Clinical Psychologist who trained at Oxford University and Royal Holloway University of London - she is amazing - we are so excited to start this podcast and we hope you join us for the ride.⠀We live in a society where so much is left unsaid and we so often suppress, avoid, and distract ourselves from the things that truly need our attention. Openhouse is here to foster open and honest communication along this journey we call life, whilst providing you with a space to self-reflect, learn and grow.⠀Everyone is invited - and I’m so glad you turned up.⠀If you love this podcast, be sure to subscribe and leave a 5 star review.⠀Connect with Louise:⠀📲 @iamlouiserumball⠀–––––––––––––––––––––––––––––– ⠀Vibe With Me by Joakim Karud http://soundcloud.com/joakimkarud⠀Music promoted by Audio Library https://youtu.be/-7YDBIGCXsY⠀–––––––––––––––––––––––––––––– Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
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    19 mins
  • 02 - THERAPY - Discussing regrets and how to heal from regret, guilt and shame

    02 - THERAPY - Discussing regrets and how to heal from regret, guilt and shame
    Sep 21 2020
    Hi friends! Welcome to Episode 2 of OPENHOUSE, where I have my first LIVE therapy session with Dr. Helene. Together, not knowing where the session would take us, we began by exploring how I felt about doing live therapy.⠀Having gone through a couple of months of therapy already, I mention to Dr Helene that I wonder if this session may be more structured and controlled. She queries what the need for control and structure means to me?⠀We explore my biggest regret and how trauma can cause lasting effects on development into adulthood. The brain does not fully develop until around the age of 25, so often, the decisions that we make before that age in response to trauma are immature and irrational. ⠀ Why does memory loss often occur around traumatic events? What kind of lasting effects can repression of memories cause later in life? How did “brushing it under the rug,” so-to-speak, contribute to my physical and mental pain?⠀The need to belong and to feel accepted has been long programmed into our biological code, and Dr. Helene and I examine how the desire to feel accepted and how the fear of being an outcast led to destructive behavior at University after my traumatic experience. ⠀We also explore how social media can play a tremendous role in how we believe others should perceive us. For me, there is the “online” Louise and the “offline” Louise, and I’m conflicted with my need for perfection and control that is in direct conflict with my desire to be “real” on social media and in life.⠀We loved sharing Episode 2 with you - our first ever live therapy session! We hope in this episode that people may understand that therapy is not just needed in times of crisis. It is never too late to pick up a topic to discuss with loved ones, or more preferably, a professional.⠀What is your biggest regret so far? How are you processing it?⠀⠀Love the podcast? Did our message resonate with you? Be sure to subscribe and leave a 5 star review! We appreciate you!⠀Connect with Louise:⠀📲 @iamlouiserumball⠀www.thisisopenhouse.com––––––––––––––––––––––––––––––⠀Vibe With Me by Joakim Karud http://soundcloud.com/joakimkarud⠀Music promoted by Audio Library https://youtu.be/-7YDBIGCXsY⠀–––––––––––––––––––––––––––––– Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
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    43 mins
  • 03 - THERAPY - How does our childhood define the adults we become?

    03 - THERAPY - How does our childhood define the adults we become?
    Oct 5 2020
    Hi friends! Welcome to Episode 3 of OPENHOUSE. This one is a little different to our usual pre-recorded podcast episodes and it is a live-streamed therapy workshop where we explore how childhood impacts your development into adulthood.⠀This episode includes an at-home worksheet booklet for you to work through as we go through the session. If you want to join into the session, please head to http://www.thisisopenhouse.com/episodes/episode-3- to get yours!⠀The importance of childhood experiences cannot be underestimated. Seemingly small events in childhood can sometimes have more significance than major events in adulthood and hugely impact the way we develop. The situations that we grow up in become our baseline normal and we form ideas about how life should be and how others should act from this perspective. Many are not always aware of this template that has been built from a young age.⠀Should we experience stressful situations as a child, we also may develop unhelpful coping mechanisms that can endure long into adulthood and our adult relationships.⠀Join us in this session where we explore a number of questions - looking through the lens of Louise and her life experiences, before asking you to look inwards and query:⠀What did you learn from your family?⠀⇢ What is an attachment style and how do they impact our connection with those around us? ⠀ ⇢ How to work out our attachment style with those closest to us. Are you secure, anxious, avoidant, or disorganised? How does this differ across family members?⠀ ⇢ What is self esteem, how is self esteem built in childhood and how does it change into adulthood?⠀⇢ What are love languages and how can you most effectively manage your relationships in order to help them flourish by understanding these?⠀We also run through a number of different analogies - including the Oil Rig analogy - to best understand how you can bolster your self esteem to support you as you grow from childhood, into adolescence and then into adulthood, as well as answering live questions along the way.⠀Did you like this live podcast? Did our message resonate with you? Be sure to subscribe and leave a 5-star review and please do share onto your socials and tag us - so we can start a conversation with you! We appreciate you! ⠀Connect with Louise:⠀📲 @iamlouiserumball⠀ www.thisisopenhouse.com ⠀Connect with OPENHOUSE:⠀📲 openhouselife⠀––––––––––––––––––––––––––––––⠀Vibe With Me by Joakim Karud http://soundcloud.com/joakimkarud⠀Music promoted by Audio Library https://youtu.be/-7YDBIGCXsY⠀––––––––––––––––––––––––––––– Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
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    1 hr and 14 mins
  • 04 - PERFECTIONISM - 99 Problemz & Perfectionism is one!

    04 - PERFECTIONISM - 99 Problemz & Perfectionism is one!
    Oct 19 2020
    Hi friends - Louise here and thrilled to be introducing Episode 4 of our podcast.⠀In today’s live therapy session Dr Helene and I explore what it means to be a perfectionist. For me, I have never classified myself as one - I always thought that I was too ‘much’ to be a perfectionist. I wasn’t super tidy, nor the perfect homemaker, the perfect partner or the perfect daughter, and I always had so much on my plate, that I never thought this term was right for me.⠀However, what came out of Episode 3 was that perfectionism has shown up in my life in so many of ways but mainly as a constant and relentless drive and pressure to be more successful, to be in better shape and to achieve more and keep up with those around me. The underlying driver of perfectionism is the feeling that you have to be MORE of something to be more worthy, more lovable or more valuable.⠀In this episode, we go deeper and explore why this is - how it ties back to my family experience, school and university experiences and early career milestones, as well as how it has mainly shown up in my relationship with my career and my body in adulthood. We also touch upon my relationship with men and ageing.⠀In today’s society, we so often are left feeling just not good enough in comparison to those around us and the shiny lives of others on social media - so I love how we are able to run through the impact social media also has on those who have a tendency to feel ‘less than’.⠀In this episode, we also go through an analogy to understand how to keep your self-esteem stable, as well as considering how your life objectives can either support your self-esteem or sabotage it. These exercises can be completed at home after the episode.⠀So, this is OPENHOUSE. Our goal is to normalise these conversations so together, we can be happier. Everyone is invited and I’m so glad you turned up.⠀If you love this podcast, please be sure to subscribe and leave a 5 star review and share your listening experience with us on social media.⠀Love Louise x⠀Connect with me:⠀📲 @iamlouiserumball⠀📲 @openhouselife⠀Join the OPENHOUSE Mailing list to be the first in the know for all workshops, new releases and free content:⠀ www.thisisopenhouse.com ⠀––––––––––––––––––––––––––––––⠀Vibe With Me by Joakim Karud http://soundcloud.com/joakimkarud⠀Music promoted by Audio Library https://youtu.be/-7YDBIGCXsY⠀ –––––––––––––––––––––––––––––– Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
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    37 mins
  • 05 - SOBRIETY - Louise Rumball's Sobriety Story

    05 - SOBRIETY - Louise Rumball's Sobriety Story
    Nov 9 2020
    In this episode, Louise and Dr Helene explore Louise’s coping mechanisms over the past few years and how an intense life of hard work and constant pressure, often led to her partying harder than she had wanted to on the weekends. Whilst initially seemingly innocent, Louise started to understand that whilst she didn’t classify herself as having a traditional ‘problem’ with alcohol, her relationship with alcohol wasn’t as healthy as it could be, often ending up in awful hangovers, bad decisions and added stress when Monday came around.⠀Louise and Dr Helene explore why, unfortunately, Louise had to come head to head with a traumatising event one evening whilst intoxicated before she decided that it was time to face up to her relationship with alcohol and sleeping pills. ⠀Since that evening, Louise embarked on a journey of sobriety and it has now been 2 years and 8 months since she decided to stop drinking. Until now, Louise has never shared this personal story, but is today sharing in the hope that it may be comforting for others who have been in a similar situation, and potentially inspiring for those who are sober curious and interested in exploring a life without alcohol and drugs.⠀In this episode, she discusses how her relationship with alcohol and sleeping pills developed throughout her 20s, whether she ever classified this as a problem and why it took so many years for her to come to the decision to finally stop drinking.⠀Louise & Dr Helene also discuss how she went sober, whether she did it with professional help or on her own, and how she has managed to stay sober in a world full of party animals and normalisation of drinking.⠀In a touching and uplifting episode, Louise reflects on how far she has come and the incredible positives she has gained from her journey over the last few years - and the message she wants to share with anyone who is listening or has gone through a similar journey.⠀This episode is for anyone - the people who love drinking but hate the hangovers, the people who end up making bad decisions and wish they could stop but don’t know how, those who self medicate with alcohol and drugs to distract from reality, and those who would just be interested in knowing what it might be like to not drink for a day, week or month.⠀In this episode - everything is on the table - and we hope that you enjoy as we breakdown society’s relationship with alcohol, as well as Louise’s. How is your relationship with alcohol? Is it something you would like to work on? Would you one day consider going sober?⠀Love the podcast? Did our message resonate with you? Be sure to subscribe and leave a 5 star review! We appreciate your support in bringing therapy and human communication and connection to the masses!⠀Trigger warning - this episode contains information regarding sexual assault⠀Connect with Louise on social: 📲 @iamlouiserumball⠀Connect with OPENHOUSE: 📲 @openhouselife⠀ www.thisisopenhouse.com⠀––––––––––––––––––––––––––––––⠀Vibe With Me by Joakim Karud http://soundcloud.com/joakimkarud⠀Music promoted by Audio Library https://youtu.be/-7YDBIGCXsY⠀––––––––––––––––––––––––––––– Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
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    47 mins
  • 06 - THERAPY - How to survive a Christmas Season and Family

    06 - THERAPY - How to survive a Christmas Season and Family
    Dec 7 2020
    Welcome to our second live therapy workshop in partnership with FORA London, London’s tailored workspace that provides its residents with spaces to be happy and healthy to deliver their best work.⠀This workshop - ‘how to manage the uncertainty of a Corona Christmas’ is a pre-record of a live therapy workshop where Louise & clinical psychologist Dr Helene Laurent-Oliver work through a vast variety of topics that often come up in therapy in the winter months, whilst going deeper on specific topics such as the winter blues, seasonal triggers, family boundary setting, loneliness, excess around Christmas, and more. The workshop also discusses management techniques to make this Christmas a little less stressful than those gone before.⠀The free worksheet for this session is available at https://www.thisisopenhouse.com/episodes/coronachristmas⠀To start the workshop, Dr Helene explores Louise’s historical connection with the winter blues and how her winters previously have been very different to this one. Dr Helene discusses Seasonal Affective Disorder (SAD), explore whether Louise has ever experienced it, and the two discuss the value of a morning routine and the small daily activities that Louise feels are contributing to her good mental and physical health this year. The two work through a morning routine exercise and Dr Helene also demonstrates a ‘Locus of Control’ exercise to help us better manage anxiety, uncertainty and catastrophising.⠀Louise & Dr Helene then explore how lockdown has impacted Louise and how she is feeling - connected, disconnected, reliant on others, independent?. They discuss friendships, relationships and how, for many, loneliness is rearing its head. The pair also explore a trigger and boundary setting exercise to help you best manage any familial situation this Christmas when many personalities all come under one route.⠀To finish the workshop, Louise & Dr Helene explore how the pandemic this year has made many people feel pressurised that they have not yielded any progress or moved forward. The pair go through a positive and compassionate reflection exercise on the year gone by and look towards 2021. This is led by Louise and her own experiences throughout 2020.⠀Throughout the session, Louise & Dr Helene also take live therapy questions and help viewers at home with any questions that they might have.⠀Love the podcast? Did our message resonate with you? Be sure to subscribe and please do leave a 5-star review! We appreciate your support in bringing therapy and human communication and connection to the masses.⠀Connect with Louise on social: 📲 @iamlouiserumball⠀Connect with OPENHOUSE: 📲 @openhouselife⠀ www.thisisopenhouse.com⠀––––––––––––––––––––––––––––––⠀Vibe With Me by Joakim Karud http://soundcloud.com/joakimkarud⠀Music promoted by Audio Library https://youtu.be/-7YDBIGCXsY⠀ –––––––––––––––––––––––––––––– Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
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    1 hr and 6 mins
  • 07 - HEALING FROM HEARTBREAK - The 10 things I learnt in therapy that helped me navigate heartbreak

    07 - HEALING FROM HEARTBREAK - The 10 things I learnt in therapy that helped me navigate heartbreak
    Jan 25 2021
    When my recent break up happened, it hit me like a truck and I went into a total tailspin of panic, sadness, fear, distress and desperation.⠀Breakups are hard enough in normal, day to day life but there is something about going through any kind of break up during a global pandemic that makes this event even worse. ⠀In this episode, I share the top 10 things that I have learnt from therapy around break ups and how they have helped me so far.⠀This is the episode that I wish someone had given me before everything happened. ⠀I'm bringing the therapy to you.⠀This episode covers:⠀⇢ the things you NEED to know when you enter into break up territory;⠀⇢ why our bodies and minds react so severely to rejection of any kind;⠀⇢ how MRI scanners will show that you're not too different from a drug addict going cold turkey;⠀⇢ how understanding the concepts of attachment, love and fear cycle will help you to be ok with what is happening;⠀⇢ how neural affirmations and self-care can help to calm your nervous system and re-wire your brain;⠀⇢ the psychology behind 'out of sight and out of mind', and what to do with your memories together; and⠀⇢ how to stop romanticising your past relationship and objectively understand the WHY.⠀⠀My two favourite parts of the episode include:⠀⇢ how understanding your - and your ex's - personality style and attachment style will help you to understand why you both might be reacting differently in the wake of a break up; and ⠀⇢ what closure really means (and it’s really not what you think!).⠀If you yourself are struggling, or you know someone that is, please do seek professional help. ⠀If this is not possible, then I hope that you digest this episode and apply some of it to your own situation so you can move forward.⠀Whatever you are going through - my heart goes out to you - I would not wish heartbreak on anyone. ⠀I trust that you can heal.⠀I hope you believe that too. ⠀With love, ⠀Louise⠀x ⠀Connect with Louise on social: ⠀ 📲 @iamlouiserumball ⠀Connect with OPENHOUSE:⠀📲 @openhouselife ⠀ ––––––––––––––––––––––––––––––⠀Vibe With Me by Joakim Karud http://soundcloud.com/joakimkarud⠀Music promoted by Audio Library https://youtu.be/-7YDBIGCXsY Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
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    47 mins