Are you constantly trying to control your sexual urges by building stronger fences, adding more rules, or relying on willpower? If so, you might be stuck in the exhausting cycle of resisting, giving in, and starting over. In this episode, I’m revisiting a powerful metaphor that will completely change how you think about your sexuality and what it actually means to be in control of it.

Instead of treating your sexuality like something dangerous that has to be locked away, I invite you to imagine it differently. What if the goal isn’t to cage it, silence it, or fight it, but to learn how to tame it? I walk you through a new way of understanding control that isn’t about fear or force, but about building trust, leadership, and a healthy relationship with your own sexual energy.

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Why do urges seem to disappear, only to come right back? If you’ve ever processed an urge and then felt discouraged when it returned, this episode will help you understand what’s really happening. I’m talking about urge flow, the natural pattern of urges coming and going, and why this is not a sign that you’re doing it wrong. It is part of learning how to handle them in a new way.

When you stop relying on willpower and start allowing urges instead of resisting them, they will ebb and flow. The goal is not to make them vanish. The goal is to become someone who can feel discomfort without reacting to it. In this episode, I share why trying to force urges away keeps you stuck and how building the skill of processing them creates real strength and confidence.

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Are you tired of feeling stuck in the same thought loops that seem to run on repeat, no matter what you do? Many of the thoughts that cause distress or lead you back to old habits aren’t actually problems that need solving. In this episode, I revisit a powerful concept that can completely change how you relate to your mind and help you stop letting repetitive thoughts dictate your behavior.

I explain why thoughts often keep showing up simply because they’ve been practiced for years, not because they are true or important. This episode will help you break the cycle of repetitive thinking, reduce self-judgment, and approach your thoughts in a way that supports real change, both in quitting pornography and in everyday life.

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Are you doing all the right things but still feel stuck in the same patterns? When change doesn’t last, the issue usually isn’t discipline, motivation, or willpower. It’s the beliefs running quietly underneath everything else.

In this episode, Coach Hunter Garrett breaks down how deeply held beliefs shape emotions, choices, and habits, often without you realizing it. He walks through five practical steps to help you identify, question, and begin unlearning the beliefs that keep you stuck. This episode shows why lasting change happens from the inside out and how shifting what you believe is what allows behavior to change.

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Are you frustrated by the idea that life should feel better once you finally quit porn? In this episode, I introduce the 50-50 principle and explain why understanding it can completely change how you approach quitting pornography. If you’ve ever thought something has gone wrong because you’re still struggling, still uncomfortable, or still dealing with hard emotions, this conversation will help you see your experience in a very different way.

The 50-50 principle is simple but powerful. Life is always made up of both positive and negative experiences, no matter where you are or what you’ve accomplished. This episode will help you understand why quitting isn’t about eliminating discomfort, but about choosing a different relationship with it so you can grow, change, and build a life you actually want to be present for.

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Are you afraid of your urges? Many people struggle with the fear and discomfort they feel when urges to view pornography arise. But what if you could completely change how you relate to these urges? In this episode, I’m revisiting one of the most important topics for anyone looking to overcome pornography: understanding that urges are not a problem.

You’ll learn how to separate urges from the thoughts that create them and how to describe your urges in neutral, non-dramatic language that makes them feel much less overwhelming. By the end of this episode, you'll know how to sit with 100 urges and make them no longer something you fear. This is the work of true self-control and will completely transform your journey to freedom.

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Are you measuring your progress by counting days without pornography? If so, you may be setting yourself up for frustration and unnecessary shame. In this episode, I take a closer look at the all or nothing mindset that so many people are taught when trying to quit porn, and why starting over every time you slip up works against how real change actually happens.

I walk through what learning truly looks like in any area of life. Whether it is learning a new skill like snowboarding or playing Super Mario Bros, progress is rarely linear. Learn what actually creates progress, how to work with urges instead of fearing them, and how to use slip-ups as part of your growth. This episode will help you rethink what success looks like and stay engaged even when things feel messy.

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What does true freedom from porn look like? In this episode, I’m diving into the core principles shared in a recent live class. We went beyond quick fixes like willpower or filters, which often lead to shame and repression, and explored what really leads to lasting freedom.

These insights have helped clients from all different backgrounds create lasting change. By shifting your mindset and approach to overcoming pornography, you’ll learn the tools to not just quit, but to transform the way you relate to your sexuality and your life.

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