In this episode, Crystal and Laura discuss the speech Kansas City Chiefs kicker, Harrison Butker, gave at a Catholic university's commencement ceremony. In it, he states that women have been "diabolically lied to," and we agree, but not in the way you think.

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In this episode, Laura and Crystal talk about "Boy Room", a show by Rachel Coster. It's an Instagram series that explores the messy and often disturbing world of boy bedrooms in New York City. Comedian Rachel Coster interviews men in their 20s and 30s about their messy living spaces. The rooms are filled with clutter, trash, and filth. The videos have gained a large following and have sparked discussions about messy habits, gender stereotypes, and the dynamics of relationships.

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In this episode, we hear a clip from a podcast where a man VERY PROUDLY explains that he only changes diapers if he's in a good mood, doesn't wake up with the babies during the night and acts like a child. We talk about the importance of reciprocity and the value of care.

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Summary

In this episode, Laura and Crystal discuss the challenges of communication and cadence in their conversations. They then explore a comment about the concept of the 'right way' versus the established way of doing things in a shared household. They delve into the purpose and values of dinner time, including emotional wellness, connection, routine, and communication. They also discuss the importance of accommodating individual needs and finding compromises that align with personal values. Overall, the conversation highlights the importance of understanding and respecting each other's perspectives and finding ways to create a harmonious and meaningful shared experience. This conversation explores the topics of neurodivergence, accommodations, and the importance of considering individual needs. It delves into the challenges of defensiveness and the impact of invisible disabilities. The conversation also addresses the concepts of learned helplessness, entitlement, and binary thinking. The role of enablers and the impact of domestic labor are discussed, along with the importance of self-reflection and collective liberation. Communication, curiosity, and the option of leaving unhealthy relationships are highlighted, along with available resources for support.

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In this episode, Crystal talks with Jon MacDonald, pastor of ⁠Restoration Church⁠ in Redlands, California. Jon has been a pastor for over 20 years and speaks with Crystal today about equity, justice, and how inflexible gender roles hurt couples.

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In this episode, Crystal and Laura talk about what it feels like when your kids see you as "mad mommy" and a write-in win from a follower!

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In this episode, Crystal and Laura talk about the what it's like when one person is expected to facilitate extended family relationships and what happens when someone asks for grace while they adjust to better balance around the house.

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In this episode, Crystal and Laura talk about how to handle sickness in a... healthy way:) and a sticky situation with a blended family.

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Note!! Laura's computer crashed right before we hit record so she's on her phone and the sound isn't as high quality as we would have hoped on this episode!

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