Personalize Your Plan

Parenting adolescents can be challenging emotionally as we navigate their development. Humans, and human parents, can take things personally, especially when it comes to our children's behaviors and reactions.

When parenting through the preteen, teen and young adult years a crucial question is HOW do we want to personalize, HOW do we want to attach? Connecting to- not cutting off from- your beloved child who is literally physiologically designed to be pushing off into their new adult existence and away from you requires some new skills. In this episode we talk about finding the nuanced balance between being involved and giving space for growth.

Ghandi said “Detachment is not indifference; it is a prerequisite for effective involvement.”

Listen as we discuss how to fulfill that prerequisite-how to build up rather than tear down your relationship with your adolescent child.

Practice:

Personalize your parenting plan by bringing awareness to what your mind is full of. Are you aware when you are taking something personally? If you are taking it that way, do you want to take it personally or step back to consider other possibilities that exist?

Resources

I feel statement

Fundamentals of Adlerian Psychology by Rudolph Dreikurs

Troubled by Kenneth R. Rosen

Life is in the Transitions by Bruce Feiler

Have you listened to the Plan P is for Parents Playlist on Spotify? Just added to the playlist “Just the Two of Us” “and you can cry, ain’t no shame in it”

Are you ready to work with a coach to find the Plan that feels right for you? Start on your personalized path here.