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Can understanding the psychology behind forgiveness mend your most strained relationships? Join us on "Psychologist Say" with Harold and me, Dr. Tami, as we unlock the secrets to forgiving and being forgiven. We dive deep into the emotional labyrinth that makes forgiveness so elusive, despite its apparent simplicity. From the difficulty of expressing heartfelt apologies to recognizing the hidden roots of our pain, we break down why letting go is often harder than holding on.

Explore the art of communication and boundary-setting in relationships with us. We tackle the tough questions: When should you speak up, and when is it better to let things slide? Learn why assertiveness is key in preventing resentment, and how understanding individual sensitivities can strengthen your bonds. Our conversation also takes you through the nuances of friendly banter and the importance of sincere apologies in maintaining healthy connections.

Finally, discover strategies for letting go, especially when forgiveness feels unattainable. We discuss the emotional toll of holding onto anger and offer ways to find peace by adjusting expectations. Learn how to accept people as they are and develop empathy for those who struggle with accountability. Whether it's dealing with a difficult colleague, a family member, or a friend, we provide insights to help you release emotional burdens and build more resilient, fulfilling relationships.

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Can affordable therapy really be within everyone’s reach? Join us as Dr. Tami and Harold tackle the critical issue of making mental health care accessible for individuals with low income. We start by demystifying the process of checking eligibility for insurance, highlighting how many might already qualify without knowing it. Dr. Tami shares her clinic's approach to sliding fee scales, ensuring that therapy costs are adjusted based on income and dependents. We also discuss state programs and human service centers that provide behavioral health services using similar sliding fee scales. Indigenous communities are not left out, as we shine a light on the invaluable resources offered by IHS facilities.

We don't stop there. We delve into the broader issue of mental health care accessibility, emphasizing the glaring disparities faced by many. The conversation underscores the importance of making quality mental health services, including evidence-based treatments, available to everyone regardless of their financial situation or insurance status. We call on clinicians to innovate and find ways to make essential services accessible. And, we invite our listeners to engage with us, share their questions, and suggest topics for future discussions. Prioritizing mental health is crucial, and this episode is jam-packed with insights on how to seek the best possible support on a budget.

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Have you ever wondered how trauma shapes our minds and bodies? Join Dr. Tami and Harold on the "PsychologistSay" podcast as she engages in a conversation about unraveling the complexities of trauma and PTSD in honor of National Awareness Month for Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder. Dr. Tami kicks off the episode by identifying how trauma manifests through both direct and vicarious experiences, leaving lasting imprints on our mental and emotional health. Learn practical tips to safeguard yourself from vicarious trauma, especially when dealing with triggering content.

Next, we venture into how trauma is perceived differently by each individual. Using familiar scenarios, such as the disappointment of not making a sports team versus the terror of surviving a car accident, we illuminate how personal history and perception play pivotal roles in shaping traumatic experiences. We also delve into the physiological responses that follow trauma, emphasizing that every person's reaction is unique and worth understanding.

Finally, Dr. Tami explores the spectrum of trauma responses, from acute stress to PTSD, providing a clear distinction between different levels of trauma and their impacts. Through relatable examples like encountering a bobcat, she explains the natural fight, flight, or freeze responses and how the brain stores frightening memories. We discuss the various treatments available for trauma and stress reactions, offering hope and practical advice for those affected. Additionally, we address historical and generational trauma, particularly within Indian country, underscoring the critical role of psychological treatment in healing these deep-rooted wounds. Tune in for an enlightening discussion that aims to foster understanding and offer strategies for recovery.

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Can happiness be our default state? Join Dr. Tami and Harold as they challenge this widespread belief and unpack the unrealistic expectations society places on us. Through candid discussions, they reveal how the pursuit of constant happiness can lead to stress and disappointment. Listen as Harold shares a touching moment of joy playing with his son, which highlights the sporadic nature of happiness and how it often appears when least expected. Dr. Tammy explains how true contentment stems from feeling calm and safe, rather than perpetually happy.

Discover the intricate dynamics between pride and happiness in our next segment. Dr. Tammy and Harold delve into how pride in our achievements can stand alone, separate from the fleeting sensation of happiness. They stress the importance of embracing a full spectrum of emotions instead of being fixated on happiness. This nuanced understanding is especially crucial in relationships, where expecting constant happiness can create undue pressure. By navigating various emotions together, couples can foster a healthier, more resilient connection.

In the final part of the episode, we dissect the difference between genuine happiness and temporary euphoria. Dr. Tammy and Harold caution against external means like drugs or alcohol for seeking joy, as these often lead to short-lived highs rather than true fulfillment. They also tackle the evolution of our eating habits, pointing out how modern consumption has shifted from survival to pleasure, which has contributed to addictive behaviors. This discussion sets the stage for future conversations about how these habits impact our overall well-being. Join us for a thought-provoking conversation that aims to reshape your understanding of happiness and the effort required to attain it.

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What if the key to understanding your adult struggles lies hidden in your childhood memories? On this episode of Psychologist Say, I, Dr. Tami, introduce Harold, our new official podcast production team member, as we embark on an insightful journey into unmet emotional needs. We explore how crucial nurturing and responsive care from parents are to a child's emotional development and how a parent's reaction to their child's crying can have long-lasting effects. Uncover how these early experiences manifest in adulthood, often triggering memories and shaping our emotional health.

Childhood emotional trauma can leave deep scars that follow us into adult relationships. Harold and I emphasize the importance of doing personal "homework" to understand our histories and the traumas that shape us. We also stress the need for self-compassion and the acknowledgment of our parents' humanity and imperfections. By processing difficult comments and revelations and seeking professional help for intense traumas, we can better manage the impact they have on our well-being and foundational beliefs.

Supportive relationships are vital for emotional growth and self-discovery. We discuss how having friends who provide both support and honest feedback can reshape our self-perceptions, especially when they challenge our internal negative beliefs. As we highlight the value of self-awareness and compassion in breaking unhealthy relationship patterns, we remind you that many might already be doing this emotional work unknowingly. Tune in to learn more about how self-compassion and supportive friendships can guide you on your journey toward healthier relationships and personal growth.

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Can the fear of public speaking be more than just a nervous feeling? Discover how our brains can perceive an audience as a threat, leading to anxiety that can freeze even the most confident individuals. Join us on this episode of Psychologist Say with our special guest, Harold, as we unpack the psychological mechanisms behind public speaking anxiety. Learn about performance anxiety, social anxiety disorder, and the roles of the sympathetic and parasympathetic nervous systems in managing stress. Harold shares his journey of overcoming this common fear, offering hope and practical advice for anyone struggling to communicate effectively in front of an audience.

Ever thought extroverts naturally excel at public speaking? Think again. We challenge this common misconception by exploring how public speaking anxiety impacts both introverts and extroverts. From the fear of being judged to the dynamics of how different personality types find comfort in social settings, this conversation highlights the complexity of human behavior. Gain valuable insights into how understanding these traits can help manage social anxiety and improve interpersonal relationships. Whether you're an introvert or an extrovert, you'll find relatable experiences and expert advice that emphasize the importance of recognizing and addressing these fears.

Ready to tackle your public speaking anxiety head-on? We'll arm you with practical strategies and emphasize the importance of practice in overcoming this challenge. Harold and I discuss when it's crucial to seek mental health support, especially if anxiety significantly impairs your daily life. By recalling past successes and sharing personal stories, we aim to boost your confidence and motivate you to continue making progress. Download the episode and follow us on social media for more insightful content that encourages you to engage in meaningful conversations and conquer your fears one step at a time.

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Can choosing the right therapist be the key to unlocking a healthier, happier you? In our latest episode of Psychologist Say, Dr. Tami and our insightful guest Harold tackle this critical question head-on. We dive into the burgeoning world of telemedicine and how it has revolutionized access to therapy, particularly for those living in remote areas or grappling with social anxiety. We also discuss the important, yet often overlooked, decision of whether in-person or virtual therapy suits your needs. From exploring the impact of therapist gender on the therapeutic relationship to emphasizing the importance of making that initial step towards finding help, this episode is brimming with invaluable insights for anyone on a mental health journey.

But what happens when therapy doesn't seem to be working? Dr. Tami and Harold share their expertise on navigating these waters, highlighting the necessity of open communication with your therapist and the importance of a good personality fit. Whether your therapist is direct and animated or more reflective and reserved, collaboration and honest feedback are key to effective therapy. We delve into the significance of expressing feelings of disconnection and how, sometimes, seeking a different therapist may be the best route. Tune in for a thoughtful discussion on making therapy work for you and ensuring that your path to mental wellness is as effective and fulfilling as possible.

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What if your therapist holds profound respect for your bravery, but never tells you? In this thought-provoking episode of Psychologist Say, I, Dr. Tammy, unpack the fascinating article "10 Things Your Therapist Probably Won't Tell You" by Gerlach from Psychology Today. We dive into the sacred and intimate relationship between therapist and patient, exploring how therapist disclosures, when done right, can build a bridge of trust and rapport. Walking into a therapist's office takes immense courage, and this episode acknowledges that bravery while providing insights into the qualities to look for in a therapist and addressing common questions that arise during therapy.

Join me as we talk about the stigma around mental health and the strides we are making to overcome it. Understand that therapists view their clients with utmost respect and recognize that some truths take time to surface. This heartfelt episode provides a closer look at the unseen yet deeply felt aspects of psychotherapy, emphasizing the courage it takes to seek help and the respect therapists hold for their clients. Tune in and gain a deeper understanding of what makes the therapeutic process both challenging and incredibly rewarding.

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