Talking about sex in our own relationships can be difficult and uncomfortable—even for a queer sex therapist with a lot of practice. It’s vulnerable to talk to partners about our desires and the changes we feel around sex. That’s why we’re discussing how to talk to both new and long-term partners about our sexual desires.

You’ll hear—
(09:51) The challenges of talking about sex with our partners
(15:47) Societal pressure around orgasms
(22:31) How exploring gender and sexual labels can impact your preferences
(34:58) TW: sexual assault, domestic violence, skip to (38:34)
(39:35) Queer Joys

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In small communities, whether that’s a small city or simply being queer and polyamorous, exes and old connections often overlap. We're discussing how to navigate these interactions and collaborate with our partners to establish agreements or guidelines for engaging with others in our social circles. We'll explore topics such as control, comfort and discomfort, preferences and requests vs rules, and ultimatums. These concepts can help us manage our partners' relationships outside of our own while also considering what is possible and ethical.

You’ll hear—
(12:52) How much control do you have over interactions with your exes
(16:12) Making requests and ethical boundaries
(24:48) The importance of flexibility and understanding in agreements
(31:58) Queer joys

Connect with Keely:

• Follow them on Instagram and TikTok

• Follow Connective Therapy Collective on Instagram and Facebook

Connect with Melisa:

• Follow them on Instagram

• Follow Therapeutic Ideas on Instagram

If you like the show, please leave a rating and review and tell us your thoughts on Instagram @Queer_Relationships_Queer_Joy

Are you navigating non-monogamy as a newbie, feeling intimidated by those with more experience who have read all the books or had lots of partners? Or maybe you're the one with the experience, rolling your eyes at the fresh faces? We’re exploring the nuances of different experience levels in the context of non-monogamy because experience doesn't guarantee a great partner or ethical behavior, just as being new doesn't always lead to disaster.

You’ll hear—
(12:38) The nuances of being experienced or new to non-monogamy
(22:15) Having a beginner’s mind and staying curious
(30:07) Generational differences in non-monogamy
(38:37) Going into a relationship with intentionality
(42:52) Queer Joys

Let us know your experience exploring these dynamics as either a newbie or someone with experience. As always, you can find us on Instagram, Facebook, and TikTok.