Episodes

  • Receiving an amend - what a relief!

    Receiving an amend - what a relief!
    Dec 30 2023
    In this episode, James explores an amend. What it is, how it’s different from an apology, and what it feels like to make amends. James also gives some personal insight into the transformative power of receiving an
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    14 mins
  • Safety Plan for Family Visits

    Safety Plan for Family Visits
    Dec 22 2023
    In this episode, I gave some practical tactics for how to create a safety plan and going into a family visit like the holidays. These tips can be used for a safety plan going into any potentially stressful situation.
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    13 mins
  • EMDR that stuff!

    EMDR that stuff!
    Nov 21 2023
    This episode is a follow up to the previous episode where I revealed the way greed and pride play out for me as a rescuer. This episode describes the miraculous turn around her using EMDR to neutralize the systemic, trauma and pain drives rescuing behavior, i.e. violence.
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    5 mins
  • Pride and Greed - why rescuers need more of these.

    Pride and Greed - why rescuers need more of these.
    Nov 20 2023
    In this episode, I explore how as a rescuer, I limit myself and my success in the world, because I’m afraid to be proud, and I’m afraid to have a selfish desire.
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    9 mins
  • “They are messing with my peace of mind.” Are they?

    “They are messing with my peace of mind.” Are they?
    Oct 18 2023
    There are three stages in resolving conflict. Stage 1: process the triggers get neutral. Stage 2: get a safety plan around how to create safety without asking anything from anyone. Stage 3: get a safety plan about how to negotiate, and make sure that your plan includes win-win solutions.
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    9 mins
  • Revenge Fantasies Resolved

    Revenge Fantasies Resolved
    Sep 21 2023
    Part 2 of the previous episode. The feelings underneath the fantasy.
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    2 mins
  • Revenge Fantasies

    Revenge Fantasies
    Sep 20 2023
    When I’m being bullied, it’s hard to resist revenge fantasies. This episode is more of a confession. Something I might share in a meeting. I wonder if you can relate?
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    9 mins
  • Solving conflict - processing triggers

    Solving conflict - processing triggers
    Sep 16 2023
    Whether we are in conflict with a preteen, an employee, a boss, a romantic partner, a family member or anyone else the steps to finding a cooperative solution are the same. In this episode I talk about how cleaning my side of the street by processing triggers is essential in finding creative and cooperative solutions to conflict.
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    11 mins