Beyond the Sessions is answering YOUR parenting questions! In this episode, Dr. Rebecca Hershberg, Dr. Emily Upshur, and I talk about...

3:47 - "When something is challenging for you, watching a close counterpart (like a sister) breeze through it is very difficult."

4:39 - These reactions can be externalizing (like being mean to her sibling) or internalizing (like feeling bad about herself).

5:12 - To what extent is it the older siblings job to manage her younger sister's struggles?

6:32 - Conversations you can have individually with each child to understand their feelings and validate their experiences before your work to collaboratively problem solve.

10:55 - How to give them a path toward a resolution, so being an ally to each other isn't in direct conflict with their unique needs.

13:12 - Reminding yourself of what you can control and reframing your goal to be: "How can I help them each get their needs met without controlling their relationship with each other?"

21:14 - Dr. Sarah shares her personal experience of being bullied as a child.

WANT TO LEARN MORE ABOUT PARENTING MULTIPLE CHILDREN?

🎧 How can I handle jealousy and sibling rivalry

🎧 Navigating sibling fighting

🎧 Transitioning from one child to two

✨We want to hear from you! Go to https://drsarahbren.com/question to send us a question or a topic you want to hear us answer on Securely Attached - Beyond the Sessions! ✨

Join me for an enlightening episode as we delve into the complexities of parenting and relationships with couples therapist Dr. Marina Rosenthal.

In this episode, we explore:

Differing Parenting Styles: We shed light on the stress that arises when partners have different parenting styles, values, or standards and strategies for communicating so neither parent feels criticized.

Navigating Conflicts: Practical strategies for couples to build insight into their parenting patterns, emphasizes that there are multiple good ways to parent and highlighting the importance of recognizing shared values despite differing standards.

Managing Resentment and Communication: Tips on managing resentment and building a system that works for the family through effective communication and modeling healthy conflict resolution in front of your children.

Balancing Control and Flexibility: The balance between maintaining control over parenting practices and allowing flexibility for different approaches, ensuring that children grow up in a supportive and resilient environment.

LEARN MORE ABOUT DR. MARINA ROSENTHAL:

https://www.drmarinarosenthal.com/

GET MARINA'S FREE RESOURCES THAT SHE MENTIONS IN THE EPISODE:

https://stan.store/drmarinarosenthal

CHECK OUT ADDITIONAL RELATED EPISODES:

🎧 The parallels between couples and family therapy, my first conversation with Dr. Marina Rosenthal

🎧 96. Balancing the load of parenthood: Becoming a team with your partner-in-parenting with Lauren A. Tetenbaum

🎧 144. Couple goals: Unlocking the secrets to a thriving partnership as you parent together with Dr. Suzanne Burger

Beyond the Sessions is answering YOUR parenting questions! In this episode, Dr. Rebecca Hershberg, Dr. Emily Upshur, and I talk about...

3:23 - The developmental appropriateness of independent play - it might not last as long as our culture might lead you to believe it should.

4:25 - To foster independence, you might have to first allow your child to be dependent on you. (And the psychology of how and why this actually works!)

7:05 - The difference between independent play versus "why can't they play quietly so I can take a phone call?"

10:12 - In our culture, we're often taught that we should always be engaging, stimulating, and entertaining our kids to help them reach their full potential.

11:40 - When we say "play" what we really mean is exploration and engagement and by understanding this, it shifts what we think our role is in this interaction.

12:30 - How to foster independent play with older kids if you didn't start building this skill from a young age.

WANT TO LEARN MORE ABOUT PLAY?

🎧 Listen to my podcast episode with The Workspace for Children's Lizzie Assa

🎧 Listen to my podcast episode with Jennie Monness

🎧 Listen to our BTS discussion about enrichment classes and brain development

WANT TO LEARN MORE ABOUT RIE (RESOURCES FOR INFANT EDUCARERS)?

🎧 Listen to my podcast episode about using RIE with babies with Deborah Carlisle Solomon

🎧 Listen to my podcast episode about evolving RIE into respectful parenting with Janet Lansbury

✨We want to hear from you! Go to https://drsarahbren.com/question to send us a question or a topic you want to hear us answer on Securely Attached - Beyond the Sessions! ✨