This week is a Best Of SMR!

Our topics revolve around two main themes: ticklishness and sexual desire issues in marriage.

Ticklishness and a sensitivity to touch can affect sexual encounters. We explore a technique to cure ticklishness and noxious touch.

The second topic focuses on two emails from listeners who are experiencing low libido and difficulties with penetration. There is pressure and guilt associated with these issues and we offer suggestions for relieving them.

Takeaways

Ticklishness can affect sexual encounters and set the stage for intimacy.
A technique to cure ticklishness and noxious touch involves rewiring the brain's response to touch.
Pressure and guilt can negatively impact sexual desire and performance in marriage.
Relieving pressure and guilt requires open communication and exploring different approaches.
Seeking medical advice and addressing underlying issues can help improve sexual experiences.
Libido fluctuates and requires dedication and effort to maintain a satisfying sex life.

On the Xtended Version ...

In the XTD content, a husband has no attraction towards his wife, and while he kinda thought this may be an issue while they were dating, their honeymoon confirmed it.

What should he do now?

Enjoy the show!

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This week is a Best Of SMR!

A wife calls in wanting to know how to handle her husband's struggle with pornography.

A husband calls in asking for help in how to talk about sex with his wife, who was raised in a way that she won't even talk about it.

Takeaways

Struggles with pornography in marriage are common and can be addressed through open and honest communication.
Having conversations about sex with a spouse who has difficulty talking about it requires patience and understanding.

It is important to separate one's own worth and value from a spouse's struggles or actions.
Taking responsibility for one's own actions and decisions in the relationship is crucial for personal growth and change.

Each individual has the power to redefine their beliefs and values about sex and intimacy, regardless of their upbringing.
Approaching conversations about sex with a positive mindset and assuming the best intentions from one's spouse can lead to more productive discussions.
Struggles in marriage are normal, but it is possible to improve how they are addressed and resolved.

On the Xtended Version ...

In the XTD content, we explore the idea of what is normal. Is this even the right question?

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On today's episode we we revisit an old episode of SMR.

Our conversation explores the concept of intimacy anorexia and the pain of love cycle of abuse and neglect in marriage.

We discuss the experience of being in a sexless marriage and the frustration of not having one's physical needs met. We also examine the dynamics of deliberate withholding of love and intimacy and the cruelty that can arise from it.

Takeaways

Intimacy in a relationship involves both knowing and being known.
Deliberate withholding of love and intimacy can be a form of cruelty.
It is important to face what is present in a relationship rather than focusing on what is missing.
Self-intimacy is also crucial in maintaining a healthy relationship.
Marriage requires navigating struggles and challenges with honesty and integrity.

On the Xtended Version ...

In the XTD content, we continue the best of SMR by revisiting Kate Bowler's helpful words regarding what to say and what not to say when faced with someone else’s grief or loss or struggle.

Words we all need to learn and use. Or stop using.

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On today's episode we discuss various topics related to marriage and sex.

We cover two segments from previous episodes, one about a couple who stopped fighting after improving their sex life, and another about a wife who is not attracted to her husband's penis.

What are the deeper meanings and implications of these issues, emphasizing the importance of understanding oneself and one's spouse.

Takeaways

Open and honest conversations are essential for a healthy marriage and sex life.
Understanding oneself and one's spouse is crucial for a deeper connection.
The meaning and significance of certain body parts can vary between individuals and couples.
Exploring the deeper meanings and implications of sexual issues can lead to personal growth and a stronger relationship.

On the Xtended Version ...

In the XTD content, another listen into the last part of the Q&A session at 2024 SMR Getaway.

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This week was recorded live the 2024 SMR Getaway Q&A.

We answer a voicemail from a listener who has realized that since they began listening to SMR and talking more about their sex lives with each other, they don't fight anymore.

We also have an email from a husband who is aroused by big, beautiful women, yet married a woman who is not. Instead she was safe and mature. What can he do?

On the Xtended Version ...

In the XTD content, a listen into the Q&A session of 2024 SMR Getaway.

Enjoy the show!

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This week is a rapid fire Q&A - recorded live from the 2024 SMR Getaway.

We discuss topics such as how to get turned on by seeing a partner's penis, how to improve desire in a low-drive spouse during a stressful time, how much time couples typically spend on sex, and how to teach kids healthy sexual boundaries without invoking shame.

We emphasize the importance of open communication, setting boundaries, and creating opportunities for connection in relationships. We also discuss the need to let go of societal scripts and expectations around sex and focus on what works for each individual couple.

On the Xtended Version ...

In the XTD content, we cover more question from the Getaway last week.

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Dr. John Delony joins me as we talk through the concept of anxiety as a smoke signal, indicating that something is amiss in our lives.

He encourages individuals to face their discomfort and choose the hard path of growth and change (sound familiar?). He also highlights the significance of belief in something bigger than ourselves and the need to drive our own lives instead of trying to control others.

Lastly, we discuss the importance of self-awareness and taking responsibility for our own actions in relationships.

Learn more about Dr John here https://www.ramseysolutions.com/john-delony

Takeaways

Dr. John Deloney's journey into therapy and coaching was inspired by his father's work as a homicide detective and hostage negotiator.
Anxiety is a smoke signal that something is amiss in our lives, and it is important to face our discomfort and choose the hard path of growth and change.
Belief in something bigger than ourselves is crucial for managing anxiety and finding peace and clarity.
It is important to drive our own lives and take responsibility for our own actions, rather than trying to control others.
Self-awareness and recognizing our own part in relationships is essential for personal growth and healthy connections.
On the Xtended Version ...

In the XTD content, we continue the conversation with Dr John by looking further into how vulnerability and open communication are key to building strong and intimate relationships. Plus, it is important to embrace the mundane aspects of life and find joy in the everyday moments.

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In this conversation, Dr Corey is joined by Tyler and Brannon Patrick, also known as The Therapy Brothers, as they discuss the topic of betrayal, trauma, addiction, and infidelity in marriages.

They emphasize the importance of addressing the underlying issues and not just focusing on the specific behavior, such as pornography usage. There is a need for honesty, accountability, transparency, and living in alignment with personal values. Plus we also discuss the role of individual healing and growth in the context of a relationship.

There is a challenge in navigating sexuality and an importance in creating a safe space for open and honest communication. Overall, our conversation emphasizes the power of personal agency and the potential for growth and healing in our relationships.

Learn more about the Therapy Brothers here - https://therapybros.com

And https://lovestrong.com

Takeaways

Addressing the underlying issues is crucial when dealing with betrayal, addiction, and infidelity in marriages.
Honesty, accountability, and transparency are essential for rebuilding trust and creating a healthy relationship.
Individual healing and growth are necessary for both partners to move forward and create a stronger connection.
Navigating sexuality after betrayal can be challenging, but creating a safe space for open communication is key.
Personal agency and taking responsibility for one's own healing are powerful catalysts for change in relationships.

On the Xtended Version ...

In the XTD content, we get personal as we talk through our own journeys with betrayal and healing.

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