Episodes

  • Oops, I Did It Again! How Trauma Tries to Stop You from Doing "Better"

    Oops, I Did It Again! How Trauma Tries to Stop You from Doing "Better"
    May 5 2024
    My husband said one (very innocent!) word that made me lose my mind recently, and I figured out what it was really about... Here's the craziest part- I had done an ENTIRE EPISODE on this before and I STILL missed this! If you are healing and trying to change and do new things-this trauma response will try to wreck the things you say you want to do... -Real life ways this shows up -Surprising reason it is a GREAT thing!? -How to reframe and get yourself out of the pattern that stops us from progressing
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    16 mins
  • How an Abandonment Wound Shows Up as an Adult: Teaching Myself and My Kid "Spoon Theory"

    How an Abandonment Wound Shows Up as an Adult: Teaching Myself and My Kid "Spoon Theory"
    Apr 28 2024

    "Mommy look!" "Mommy play with me!" "MOMMYYY!"...

    My recent overwhelm had me so triggered that I knew there was more to it...and I was SHOCKED to finally figure out why...

    So many of us did not get what we needed physically and/or emotionally growing up.

    The wounds either has some of us doing the same, orrrr has us overcompensating and constantly pouring from an empty cup being "everything we needed"...

    The childhood shadow that many of us are carrying that is triggering us when we simply can't do it all...

    What to do for your inner child as well as teaching "Spoon Theory" to yourself and your kid so they don't own what others do/don't do like I did.
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    29 mins
  • Conscious Parenting: Handling REJECTION "Supporting" vs "Fixing"

    Conscious Parenting: Handling REJECTION "Supporting" vs "Fixing"
    Apr 22 2024
    My kid runs up to me crying that he was told "he couldn't play" by another kid... My ego was feeling pressure to defend and "fix" it for him, my healed heart felt differently and to be honest, I hated both answers! We took a route that I definitely never got as a kid, and I could not believe how awesome it turned out...
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    11 mins
  • “Annoying” Ways Your Shadow Shows Up

    “Annoying” Ways Your Shadow Shows Up
    Apr 16 2024
    I noticed my husband being “slightly irritated” with our kid (AND me!) recently, and it didn't make sense to me… One question at an ice cream parlor finally unlocked how much deeper it was than it seemed. Real-life ways to spot a shadow in yourself and others How to "integrate" and embrace your shadow The missing piece of healing that many of us miss once we discover our shadows
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    21 mins
  • Hormone Teeter Totter: The Old Narrative That Keeps Women Feeling “Crazy” and Unhealed

    Hormone Teeter Totter: The Old Narrative That Keeps Women Feeling “Crazy” and Unhealed
    Apr 1 2024
    I was feeling "crazy"...EVERYTHING was getting on my last nerve... After all the healing I had done, wth was going on here?? The connection of our hormones to healing and consciousness that I wish someone would have told me about... Major things to look out for and DO that NO ONE talks about...
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    26 mins
  • Hurry Up!! Why We Can’t Stop Rushing

    Hurry Up!! Why We Can’t Stop Rushing
    Mar 26 2024
    The struggle of getting out the damn door is real. We are all in this constant state of rushing to get to somewhere, to get something done, to get...out of our present. -The core reason that I was SHOCKED to find out -How to know it is happening to YOU -Real-life ways to get out of this stressful loop and live more mindfully
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    21 mins
  • "False" Healing Trap: Thinking vs FEELING

    "False" Healing Trap: Thinking vs FEELING
    Mar 14 2024

    Oh damn...

    There was a situation recently that I "thought" I had a handle on. I've done a bunch of healing work; I know what to do!

    I was wrong.

    Our ego can "trick" us into missing the main piece of TRUE healing...

    How to know if you are THINKING or actually FEELING your emotions

    Why FEELING is different and crucial

    Real-life ways to help you get there especially if you've been taught to stuff your emotions down (like me!)
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    15 mins
  • Control Freak: Surprising Ways This Childhood Wound Shows Up

    Control Freak: Surprising Ways This Childhood Wound Shows Up
    Mar 3 2024
    I thought I had worked on my control issues from trauma but then I got sick, really sick. There were some loose ends that didn't make it into my awareness until I literally couldn't do the things I liked to control! Surprising real-life ways control shows up (one I had no idea I was doing too) The major childhood wound it is attached to and how to re-process it to break the pattern of NEEDING to control...
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    16 mins