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That's Where I'm At

By: Laura Richards
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  • Welcome to "That's Where I'm At" with your host, Laura Richards! Join Laura Richards, a survivor of narcissistic abuse with 33 years experience, as she guides you through the journey of identifying, healing from, and thriving after emotional and psychological abuse. With a mission to raise awareness, foster emotional recovery, and empower you to love yourself, Laura brings honesty, compassion, and a touch of humor to every episode. Dive into deep, meaningful conversations, tackle tough topics, and uncover moments of hope and healing. Our supportive community is here for you, offering insights, support, and a shared path to recovery and empowerment. Subscribe now and be part of a transformative journey that’s messy, real, and truly inspiring!
    2023
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Episodes
  • Dance, Shake, Heal: Techniques for Stress and Trauma Relief with Angie Berrett

    Dance, Shake, Heal: Techniques for Stress and Trauma Relief with Angie Berrett
    Jun 26 2024
    In this episode, I’m joined by Angie Berrett, an Intuitive Movement Coach, Advanced Trauma-Informed Yoga Instructor, Registered Nurse, and Stand-Up Paddleboard Yoga Instructor who understands the human body and how it works. She helps people use play and movement to connect to their bodies, releasing stress, anxiety, depression and trauma. Having journeyed from a child abuse survivor to a registered nurse and eventually a yoga instructor, she has dedicated much of her life to caring for others. In 2017, she reached a low point and embarked on a path to healing. Through discovering playful movements, she learned to listen to her body and overcome her suffering in ways traditional methods couldn't achieve. Today, she uses these experiences to help others heal their pain and transform their lives. Angie is the Owner and Creator of the Angie Berrett Movement, where she coaches individuals on releasing stored trauma from their bodies while enhancing energy, strength, and flexibility. Her expertise has been featured in Psychology Today, Brainz Magazine, Authority Magazine, Bustle, Subkit, The Feisty News, and NewsBreak. Additionally, she has appeared on several podcasts, including The Bright Side of Life, Caregiver Chronicles, Wellness by Design, and Billy Dee’s Podcast, among others. Today, Angie shares her journey of surviving child abuse, hitting rock bottom, and discovering the healing power of play and movement. She discusses how she now helps others transform their lives by using playful movement techniques to release stress, anxiety, depression, and trauma. She explains the science behind how trauma affects the brain and body and shares practical techniques for releasing stored tension and resetting the nervous system. Tune in to learn why activities like dancing, shaking, and even throwing "temper tantrums" can be powerful tools for processing difficult emotions and experiences. Timestamps: [02:48] Angie's journey of trauma and hitting rock bottom [07:22] Seeking help and starting the healing process [08:59] Discovering yoga and trauma-informed practices [11:40] Learning about the power of play in healing [14:35] How Angie helps clients through playful movement [19:29] Demonstration of swaying exercise for body awareness [22:52] Play vs. competition for adults [25:00] Different play activities and their benefits [28:21] The hand brain model and how stress affects the brain [31:33] The nervous system's stress responses [34:37] How chronic stress builds up in the body over time [37:50] Techniques for releasing stored tension and energy [41:34] The importance of "shaking it off" to discharge stress Quotes: Play is something that helps get us into a state where our minds can shut off. We can separate from our trauma, and we can be in our sensory experiences without overwhelm or overload.When I use the term play, I really use it in a way that there is no set outcome for what's gonna happen. It's not competitive. There is no I win, I lose. It's more about the exploration of, oh, what did I experience along the way?Play and movement give us the opportunity to release that fight or flight energy in a way that's not actually taking us into that stress.Our rational brain is gonna limit us 100% of the time. So when we can find ways to turn that off, your body is gonna give you the information when you start learning how to listen to it, of how to release it.Animals out in the wild have traumatic experiences, but they don't develop PTSD or residual stress like humans do to the same degree that we do. And the reason is because after animals in the Wild have had a traumatic experience, they'll shake it off.Chronic stress actually can and regularly does turn into trauma for most of us. so the hand brain model is something that is a fantastic way of learning what happens in our body and why play and movement are so helpful for trauma, like child abuse, domestic abuse, that kind of stuff, as well as the chronic stress. RESOURCES: MARRIED TO A “NICE” GUY: GETTING OVER NARCISSISTIC ABUSE: https://a.co/d/07nUVKDf FOLLOW THE PODCAST: http://www.thatswhereimatpodcast.com BOOKS & JOURNALS: https://www.amazon.com/author/laurarichards RESOURCES FOR YOUR HEALING: https://www.thatswhereimatpodcast.com/resources FOLLOW ANGIE: https://angieberrettmovement.com https://www.linkedin.com/in/angieberrettmovement https://Instagram.com/angieberrettmovement https://www.facebook.com/AngieBerrettMovement https://youtube.com/@angieberrettmovement?si=B4qvgq0VYuMw7ngt Free guidebook on play and movement angieberrettmovement.ac-page.com/healing-in-motion
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    46 mins
  • Healing Loudly: Escaping the Grip of Narcissistic Parents and Finding Emotional Freedom with Jessica

    Healing Loudly: Escaping the Grip of Narcissistic Parents and Finding Emotional Freedom with Jessica
    Jun 12 2024
    In this episode, I’m joined by Jessica Kazaniwskyj, who had two narcissistic parents (one of which was also an alcoholic). She used her determination to escape their grasp and divorced them when she was sixteen. However, like many raised in that environment, she then found herself under the grasp of a man with similar qualities. She was with him for over fifteen years, even marrying him despite the red flags. Through years of healing and endless curiosity about why she felt the way she felt and wanting to break these patterns desperately, she finally found the courage to walk away from her marriage. Shortly after, she met her current husband, who was everything she had requested. Jessica's journey led her to become an empowerment life coach who specializes in childhood trauma, as so often we repeat those patterns into adulthood. She's an avid reader in her spare time, loves movies and documentaries, and is a die-hard Notre Dame football and Chicago Cubs fan. Today, Jessica shares her compelling story of overcoming a tumultuous childhood, enduring toxic relationships, and breaking free from narcissistic abuse. Jessica's journey involves resilience, self-discovery, and embracing vulnerability. She talks about her journey of healing and empowerment after leaving a toxic relationship. Jessica shares insights on recognizing red flags, understanding trauma bonds, and healing loudly to help others suffering in silence. Tune in to hear Jessica’s views on healing, accountability, and the path to emotional freedom. Timestamps [02:45] How Jessica decided to become a life coach [05:15] Jessica's childhood and her emancipation [12:00] Jessica's college and financial aid challenges as an emancipated minor [14:25] Strained relationship with her father after emancipation [17:03] Jessica's feelings about her abusive mother's cancer diagnosis [19:54] Red flags in Jessica’s first marriage and being isolated [31:24] Challenges of keeping a clean home with an indifferent partner [34:00] The trauma of the pandemic and personal loss [35:02] Emotional neglect and the end of Jessica’s marriage [36:34] Why Jessica remained with her husband for 15 years [41:41] How emotional toll led to Jessica's divorce [45:05] How Jessica met her new husband [58:28] Faking it till you make it and positive self-talk [01:06:49] Feeling happier and glowing after healing Notable Quotes The thing that's gonna set you free is being vulnerable. Telling you narcissists don't have that ability because of the vulnerability. You have to be emotionally intelligent to be vulnerable.If something's not working, dive in deeper. I'm gonna heal loudly because there's too many people dying quietlywhen you're actually fed up is when you'll actually say, you know what, this is the work I need to do, and do it.You're not crazy. They want you to think you're crazy, but you're not crazy. And you can get better, but there is an element of personal responsibility. You are pulling these people to you, so you have to fix that part of yourself. RESOURCES: MARRIED TO A “NICE” GUY: GETTING OVER NARCISSISTIC ABUSE: https://www.amazon.com/author/laurarichards FOLLOW THE PODCAST: http://www.thatswhereimatpodcast.com BOOKS & JOURNALS: https://www.amazon.com/author/laurarichards RESOURCES FOR YOUR HEALING: https://www.thatswhereimatpodcast.com/resources FOLLOW JESSICA: https://linktr.ee/kazaniwskyjcoaching
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    1 hr and 9 mins
  • Let's Get Your Shift Together: Adriana's Story of Overcoming Narcissistic Abuse

    Let's Get Your Shift Together: Adriana's Story of Overcoming Narcissistic Abuse
    May 29 2024
    In this episode, I'm joined by Adriana Bucci, founder of Let's Get Your Shift Together. Having faced nearly three decades of narcissistic abuse and four years of severe chronic pain, Adriana made the courageous decision to embark on her healing journey. Through inner work, she not only found relief from physical suffering but also addressed the deep wounds inflicted by narcissistic upbringing, toxic relationships, and challenging work environments. Inspired by her journey, Adriana became a life coach, aiming to empower survivors of narcissistic abuse to heal, establish boundaries, and reclaim their lives on their terms. Today, Adriana shares her journey of escaping an abusive relationship with her narcissistic mother. She recounts the manipulation, gaslighting, and emotional turmoil she endured and how she ultimately found the strength to break free and embark on a path of healing.
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     Timestamps

    [01:08] Adriana’s background

    [02:22] How chronic pain got Adriana to what she is doing now

    [06:13] Adriana's openness to exploring new health solutions

    [12:31] Adriana's traumatic childhood with a narcissistic mother

    [16:40] How Adriana took control of her finances while in university

    [20:00] How Adriana’s mother guilt-tripped her into moving back home

    [21:32] How narcissists often display conflicting desires

    [26:19] Why couples counseling with a narcissist is the worst thing

    [29:21] Adriana's path to healing and embracing healthy boundaries and forgiveness

    [32:13] The journey of self-discovery and recognizing toxic relationships

    [34:24] The incident that prompted Adriana to finally move out

    [45:41] Discovering the truth about her father and the child support trust

    [01:02:07] Adriana’s mixed emotions upon learning about her mother's declining health

    [01:05:18] Adriana's healing journey and moving forward after her mother's passing

    Quotes
    • Narcissist manipulates their counselors and therapists. That's why, like couples counseling with a narcissist is the worst thing you can do.
    • It doesn't mean that when your abuser dies, you're gonna be relieved and happy. You are gonna go through that rollercoaster, but it's okay to feel that relief.
    • I got the idea one day because I was about 22 years old at this point. And I was like, hold on, I am over the age of 18, I am legally an adult. Nothing is stopping me from walking into a bank and getting my bank account. So I did that.
    • There's a difference between being a loving mom and being a little bit overbearing versus just full-out sabotaging them.
    • People who are uncomfortable with the word narcissist will just use the word toxic. But at the end of the day, a toxic person is still abusing you and not, you know, treating you properly.
    • When people use the word narcissist, it's not the diagnosis of narcissistic personality disorder because you have to understand they're not gonna go to therapy. They're not gonna think to themselves.
    • Just because you have family doesn't mean you have to allow them to treat you the way they treat you. So it's, it's something really to consider, that's for sure.
    Resources

    FOLLOW THE PODCAST: http://www.thatswhereimatpodcast.com

    RESOURCES FOR YOUR HEALING: https://www.thatswhereimatpodcast.com/resources

    BOOKS & JOURNALS: https://www.amazon.com/author/laurarichards

    FOLLOW ADRIANA:

    HER WEBSITE: https://www.letsgetyourshifttogether.com

    GROUP COACHING PROGRAM: https://www.letsgetyourshifttogether.com/bulletproofprogram
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    1 hr and 10 mins
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