Episode 128: Every House Rule Has a Story

House Rules can easily become a long list of DON'Ts.

Don't smoke. Don't make noise. Don't bring visitors back. Don't eat in your room.

But what are House Rules actually for?

This week, I've been writing a set of Extended House Rules for a potential long-stay guest — and realised that almost every rule I've included is there because something has happened in the past that made me think, “Right... I need a rule about that!”

From soy sauce spilt over a bedroom carpet and broken mugs hidden in the bin, to unexpected visitors, powerful cooking smells and guests spending rather too long in the shower, experience has shaped the way I run my home.

But I've also realised that my House Rules essentially serve just two purposes:

To protect the property — and to protect the experience of the people staying in it.

In this episode, I explore:

• Why House Rules should have a reason behind them
• The importance of remembering that a live-in Airbnb is someone's home
• Why my kitchen has just one overriding rule: “Leave no evidence”
• Food, cooking, smoking, pets and breakages
• Why I'd rather hear immediately that something has been broken than discover it hidden later
• Visitors, overnight guests and why I want to know who's in my home
• Protecting guests from unnecessary noise
• How my 10-Minute Shower Challenge solved a shared-bathroom problem without really being a rule at all
• Why the rules appropriate for my home may be completely inappropriate for yours

The answer isn't to copy somebody else's House Rules. It's to think about what could affect your property, your guests and the experience you're trying to create — and make your expectations clear before a problem arises.

This week's Superhost Secret

Good House Rules aren't about controlling behaviour. They're about protecting what matters.

Because good hosting isn't about creating more rules.

It's about understanding why you need them.

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After more than 2,500 guests, 18,500 guest nights and over ten years of hosting, I finally encountered a guest I genuinely didn't like.

If you're thinking this episode is going to put you off becoming an Airbnb host... think again.

In fact, quite the opposite.

This story reinforced just how rare serious incidents really are, how supportive Airbnb and the police can be when something does go wrong, and perhaps most importantly, how our own reactions can either calm a situation or make it worse.

In this episode I share, in full, the only hosting experience that has ever genuinely made me feel uncomfortable—and the valuable lessons it taught me about leadership, people skills and keeping everyone safe.

In this episode you'll discover:

• Why this incident was so unusual after more than a decade of hosting.
• The simple precaution I already had in place that proved invaluable.
• Why my live-in helper did exactly the right thing.
• How quickly the local police responded and why their calm professionalism impressed me.
• The advice Airbnb gave when the guest disappeared after check-out.
• The mistake I made when confronting the guest—and what I'd do differently today.
• Why I've now removed same-day bookings from all my listings.
• The practical step I took to ensure this guest can never book with me again.
• Why one unpleasant guest should never put you off hosting.

My Superhost Secret

"In difficult situations, your priority isn't to win the argument. It's to guide everyone safely to the best possible outcome."

Sometimes the greatest act of leadership isn't proving you're right—it's keeping everyone safe.

Mentioned in this episode

• Airbnb Superhost Support
• The importance of smart locks and sensible safety systems
• Managing same-day bookings
• Writing honest, professional guest reviews
• Blocking unsuitable guests from future bookings

Here's how to block a guest

If you ever find yourself in a similar situation, open your conversation with the guest on Airbnb, click the three dots beside one of their messages, select Report this message, choose a reason, and then you'll be given the option to Block this person.

Here's how to do it, from a message thread with the guest:

1. Go to Messages on airbnb.com and open your conversation with that guest.
2. Find the message you want to report and click the three dots next to it (or click Report near their profile picture, depending on your view).
3. Click Report this message, choose your reason, and hit Ok.
4. You'll then be given the option to Block this person — select it and confirm Block.

Once blocked, they won't be able to send you messages, book your listing, or accept a reservation request from you. This also means they'll no longer be able to see your profile or listings when browsing.

Thinking about becoming a host?

If you've ever wondered whether Airbnb hosting could work for you—but have concerns about having strangers in your home—I'd love to invite you to one of my free live webinars.

I'll show you the practical systems, people skills and mindset that have helped me welcome thousands of guests safely, earn a consistent income from my own home and achieve Superhost status year after year.

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Episode 126: Six Words You Must Never Say

Have you ever wanted to help someone who was clearly in crisis… but had no idea what to say?

In this deeply personal episode, Neil shares the remarkable story of Simon – a guest battling alcoholism, homelessness and suicidal thoughts – and the six words he was taught to never say to someone in emotional distress. What began as a hosting decision became one of the most powerful lessons in empathy, communication and human connection Neil has ever experienced.

This episode isn't really about Airbnb. It's about people.

In this episode you'll discover:

• Why the phrase "I know exactly how you feel" can instantly destroy rapport.
• The alternative response that builds trust instead of creating distance.
• What a hostage negotiator taught Neil about communicating with people in crisis.
• How one vulnerable guest unexpectedly validated that lesson a year later.
• The difficult balance between showing compassion and maintaining healthy boundaries.
• Why understanding addiction means recognising there are often "two voices" in the conversation.
• How small acts of kindness can restore dignity without enabling destructive behaviour.
• Why great hosting is ultimately about people skills, not property skills.

My Superhost Secret

Improve your people skills wherever and however you can. No matter what you do in life, your ability to understand, communicate with and empathise with other people will always be one of your greatest assets.

Resources mentioned

• Never Split the Difference by Chris Voss
• How to Win Friends and Influence People by Dale Carnegie
• The Five Love Languages by Gary Chapman

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Connect with Neil

Follow @SuperhostNeil on Instagram and social media for practical hosting tips, behind-the-scenes stories and a healthy dose of humour.

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