To find freedom, heal, and feel powerful in your emotions, check out the Alive & Free Collective by CLICKING HERE.

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How do you keep the spark alive in your marriage when you're completely exhausted by the demands of parenting, careers, and life itself? Join us as we share our personal journey of navigating emotional depletion and maintaining a thriving marriage. Drawing from years of counseling, coaching, and continuous learning, we discuss the importance of having a vision for your marriage and intentionally investing in your relationship amidst the chaos. With heartfelt reflections and real-life examples, we explore how to keep your connection strong, even when overwhelmed by responsibilities.

Do you ever feel like your partner is to blame for your unhappiness? We delve deep into the concept of contempt in relationships and how it often stems from a desire to avoid feeling powerless. Learn how true love and vulnerability can break this destructive cycle and transform behavior. We'll share insights on how unconditional love can endure even when one partner feels disconnected, and the difference between true vulnerability and manipulation. By communicating without expectations, you can foster a more honest and loving relationship.

Feeling stuck, sad, or disconnected in your marriage? Discover the importance of intentional daily acts of love and mutual effort in rebuilding connection. We'll highlight the necessity of addressing feelings of inadequacy and seeking professional help, such as marriage counseling. Explore the power of relentless prayer, creating boundaries, and maintaining faith even when one spouse isn't willing to grow. Through our personal experiences and the tools that have helped us maintain intimacy, we hope to bless and support your journey towards a loving and fulfilling marriage. Don't forget to check out our Alive and Free Collective for comprehensive courses and community support.

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(0:00:05) - Navigating Depletion in Marriage
(0:09:22) - The Deception in Marriage
(0:17:35) - Building Connection and Love in Marriage
(0:24:09) - Rebuilding Connection and Love in Marriage
(0:37:16) - Restoring Marriage Through Prayer and Boundaries
(0:44:50) - Nurturing Connection in Marriage

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(0:00:05) - Navigating Depletion in Marriage
Navigating complexities of marriage while parenting and working, investing in connection and having a vision for a strong relationship.

(0:09:22) - The Deception in Marriage
Contempt in relationships stems from blaming others to avoid feeling powerless, but true love and vulnerability can break this cycle.

(0:17:35) - Building Connection and Love in Marriage
Proactive steps for emotional and spiritual health, mentorship, avoiding unrealistic expectations in relationships, and nurturing a connection with God.

(0:24:09) - Rebuilding Connection and Love in Marriage
Intentional daily acts of love, mutual effort, addressing inadequacy, seeking professional help, and prioritizing connection in marriage.

(0:37:16) - Restoring Marriage Through Prayer and Boundaries
Relentless prayer, boundaries, finding identity in Christ, addressing triggers, and seeking support for struggling marriages.

(0:44:50) - Nurturing Connection in Marriage
Nature's beauty in marriage, finding balance, staying connected through highs and lows, sharing personal journey and tools, expressing gratitude, and supporting our community.

To find freedom, heal, and feel powerful in your emotions, check out the Alive & Free Collective by CLICKING HERE.

To become a life coach and get started in your career helping people get free and healthy emotionally and start a business doing so, go to our training video to learn more.

In this episode, we discuss the profound qualities of compassionate coaching that goes beyond surface-level fixes and addresses the root causes of behavior, while sharing heartfelt appreciation for the impact of learning from others’ experiences.

Join us as we unravel the complex emotions tied to healing and unconditional love. Hear about the challenges of overcoming false beliefs and the hesitation to seek help due to a sense of self-sufficiency rooted in faith. We draw parallels between investing in professional guidance and financial coaching, emphasizing the wisdom of humility and surrender in pursuing personal growth. Witness how discomfort and pain can drive significant breakthroughs, and learn about the meticulous process of finding the right mentor or coach who offers more than just reflective listening.

In our discussion on the coaching industry, we highlight the ethical standards necessary for effective coaching and contrast it with traditional therapy. Discover Coach Launch, our program designed to equip coaches with essential tools for genuine transformation, and learn about the importance of addressing deep-seated issues rather than just symptoms. We also touch on inner child work and integrating spiritual elements into the healing process, introducing the Alive and Free Collective as an affordable resource for continuous personal development. Don't miss this episode if you're ready to elevate your coaching journey and find holistic growth.

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(0:00:00) - Qualities of a Good Coach
(0:12:15) - Breaking Free From Surviving to Thriving
(0:25:37) - Choosing the Right Mentor or Coach
(0:31:18) - Navigating the Coaching Industry
(0:35:49) - Avoiding Coaching Mishaps and Finding Support
(0:42:34) - Mastering Coaching With Coach Launch

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(0:00:00) - Qualities of a Good Coach
Overcoming dyslexia through brain exercises and trauma healing, investing in leadership and coaching, and the importance of safe and effective coaching.

(0:12:15) - Breaking Free From Surviving to Thriving
Overcoming false beliefs, seeking professional help, and embracing discomfort and humility for personal growth.

(0:25:37) - Choosing the Right Mentor or Coach
Choosing a mentor involves referrals, guidance, and confronting personal issues within a growth-minded community.

(0:31:18) - Navigating the Coaching Industry
Coaching empowers personal growth, but lacks regulation. Coach Launch trains coaches to address root causes and provide comprehensive support.

(0:35:49) - Avoiding Coaching Mishaps and Finding Support
Personal biases in coaching, finding the right therapeutic approach, integrating spirituality, and seeking ongoing personal development through the Alive and Free Collective.

(0:42:34) - Mastering Coaching With Coach Launch
Coach Launch equips you with tools for coaching business, including methods, boundaries, LLC formation, tax documentation, and client management.

To find freedom, heal, and feel powerful in your emotions, check out the Alive & Free Collective by CLICKING HERE.

To become a life coach and get started in your career helping people get free and healthy emotionally and start a business doing so, go to our training video to learn more.

What if your current relationship struggles are deeply rooted in past experiences of rejection and abandonment? Join us as we uncover the profound impact of childhood wounds on our adult lives. Through deeply personal stories, we shed light on how unmet expectations and feelings of being left out by friends can trigger recurring rejection and how recognizing these triggers can be the first step towards healing. We even touch on the sensitive topic of porn addiction, revealing its significant effect on relationships and self-worth.

Ever wondered why childhood abandonment leaves such a lasting mark on our relationships? We'll share personal anecdotes of feeling abandoned during critical childhood moments and discuss how this unresolved pain shapes our expectations and behaviors today. By turning these emotional triggers into opportunities for growth, you can build stronger, healthier connections. Additionally, we highlight a fascinating aspect of human behavior—how some individuals in ministry might use kindness as a shield against rejection.

After having a baby, the dynamics of attachment can become more complex. We explore the oscillation between anxious and avoidant behaviors that new parents may experience, and the necessity of reevaluating attachment wounds for greater security. We emphasize the importance of radical ownership over one's rejection wounds and the powerful role of God's unconditional love in this healing journey. Join us as we discuss how to foster meaningful connections grounded in personal worth and compassion for others' broken attachments.

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(0:00:00) - Understanding Rejection Wounds and Abandonment
(0:03:30) - Healing Childhood Abandonment Through Relationships
(0:16:35) - Navigating Attachment After Having a Baby
(0:22:04) - Healing Rejection Wounds and Ownership
(0:30:52) - Navigating Values in Relationships
(0:35:44) - Taking Ownership in Healing Attachment
(0:39:37) - Healing Past Wounds and Inner Child

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(0:00:00) - Understanding Rejection Wounds and Abandonment
Personal experiences with rejection and abandonment, unmet expectations in relationships, and the impact of porn addiction on connections.

(0:03:30) - Healing Childhood Abandonment Through Relationships
Childhood abandonment and emotional wounds impact adult relationships, leading to unrealistic standards and control mechanisms.

(0:16:35) - Navigating Attachment After Having a Baby
Disorganized attachment can impact relationships, especially after becoming a parent, leading to oscillating behaviors and a need for healing.

(0:22:04) - Healing Rejection Wounds and Ownership
Healing from rejection and abandonment, taking ownership of emotions, creating security in relationships, and finding worth and truth in oneself.

(0:30:52) - Navigating Values in Relationships
Honest communication, mutual values, porn addiction, self-worth, rejection wounds, and God's unconditional love in personal relationships.

(0:35:44) - Taking Ownership in Healing Attachment
Taking ownership of rejection wounds, healing attachment systems, and building meaningful connections through vulnerability and compassion.

(0:39:37) - Healing Past Wounds and Inner Child
Self-awareness and emotional health are crucial in relationships, as we must heal our own wounds and avoid placing expectations on others.

To find freedom, heal, and feel powerful in your emotions, check out the Alive & Free Collective by CLICKING HERE.

To become a life coach and get started in your career helping people get free and healthy emotionally and start a business doing so, go to our training video to learn more.

Have you ever wondered if saving sex for marriage is worth the wait? This episode confronts the normalization of premarital sex and contrasts it with the values of purity and intimacy within marriage, particularly among 20-somethings and 30-somethings. Through interviews and societal debates, we explore the idea of "test driving" a relationship before committing and examine the emotional and spiritual impact of these choices. Hear personal stories that underscore the importance of valuing oneself and one's partner by embracing purity and unshared intimacy.

Maintaining purity in today's world is no small feat. Through a heartfelt anecdote about a friend's well-meaning offer to teach about sex, we navigate the pressures and challenges of upholding personal values.

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(0:00:20) - Sex Before Marriage
(0:13:21) - Navigating Boundaries and Purity in Relationships
(0:22:44) - Understanding Shame, Forgiveness, and Attachment
(0:30:26) - Boundaries and Sexuality in Relationships
(0:39:00) - Releasing Shame and Finding Forgiveness
(0:45:18) - Building Character Through Boundaries
(0:58:35) - Embracing Holiness in Marriage

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(0:00:20) - Sex Before Marriage
Examining the normalization of premarital sex, valuing purity and intimacy in marriage, and the importance of saving oneself for a future partner.

(0:13:21) - Navigating Boundaries and Purity in Relationships
Personal values and boundaries surrounding premarital sex, societal pressures, and emotional impact of not honoring one's values.

(0:22:44) - Understanding Shame, Forgiveness, and Attachment
Understanding unconditional love and forgiveness, valuing sexual purity, and the impact of spiritual connections on emotional well-being.

(0:30:26) - Boundaries and Sexuality in Relationships
Love, boundaries, and heart change are crucial for fulfilling relationships, while casual sex undermines trust and intimacy.

(0:39:00) - Releasing Shame and Finding Forgiveness
Intimacy's impact on relationships, getting to know someone beyond physical intimacy, risks of unintended pregnancies and STDs, and God's forgiveness and renewal.

(0:45:18) - Building Character Through Boundaries
Childhood trauma, unhealthy validation-seeking, self-control, integrity, building strong relationships, boundaries around sexuality, accountability to true identity in Christ.

(0:58:35) - Embracing Holiness in Marriage
Marriage and faith bring joy, intimacy, and freedom, leading to transformation and forgiveness, as seen in a former OnlyFans top earner's story.

To find freedom, heal, and feel powerful in your emotions, check out the Alive & Free Collective by CLICKING HERE.

To become a life coach and get started in your career helping people get free and healthy emotionally and start a business doing so, go to our training video to learn more.

How do you keep faith alive when your dreams seem to be falling apart? This episode tackles that very question as we respond to a listener's heartfelt plea for guidance after facing health crises, failed businesses, and career dissatisfaction post-marriage. We share personal stories that highlight the importance of maintaining hope, caring for your heart, and fostering connection amidst ongoing adversity. By providing practical tools and encouragement, we aim to show that healing and reconnection are not only possible but within reach for everyone feeling stuck and hopeless.

Ever wonder about the balance between striving for your dreams and surrendering to a higher plan? Our discussion sheds light on this tension with biblical insights, focusing on the story of Abraham and Sarah. We'll explore the consequences of taking matters into our own hands versus trusting in God's timing, emphasizing the necessity of resting in His promises. We illustrate how placing hope in Jesus, rather than in the fulfillment of our desires, can lead to a more profound sense of peace and fulfillment, even when the journey feels impossible.

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(0:00:05) - Navigating Pain and Restoring Hope
(0:12:06) - Trusting God's Promises Through Surrender
(0:18:24) - Deepening Trust Through Intimacy and Healing
(0:29:50) - Learning to Thrive in Relationships
(0:36:57) - Navigating Financial and Relational Healing
(0:44:19) - Growth Through Financial and Relational Hardship
(0:53:35) - Financial Wisdom and Relationship Priorities
(0:57:16) - Prioritizing Intimacy in Marriage

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(0:00:05) - Navigating Pain and Restoring Hope
A couple shares their journey of facing challenges in marriage, emphasizing hope, self-care, and faith amidst adversity.

(0:12:06) - Trusting God's Promises Through Surrender
Exploring the tension between striving for dreams and surrendering to God's will, using biblical parallels to illuminate the journey of faith and trust.

(0:18:24) - Deepening Trust Through Intimacy and Healing
Faith, vulnerability, and emotional healing are explored, emphasizing genuine connection with God and the role of safe relationships in addressing childhood traumas.

(0:29:50) - Learning to Thrive in Relationships
Material wealth and social media portrayal can lead to emptiness; finding true satisfaction through God, overcoming envy, and supporting each other in marriage.

(0:36:57) - Navigating Financial and Relational Healing
Navigating personal and professional challenges through faith, self-reflection, and bold decision-making, with guidance from leadership and reliance on divine guidance.

(0:44:19) - Growth Through Financial and Relational Hardship
Honesty, self-love, and trust in God's guidance lead to personal and financial growth during challenging times.

(0:53:35) - Financial Wisdom and Relationship Priorities
Investing in relationship through financial and emotional support, seeking external counsel, and prioritizing quality time together.

(0:57:16) - Prioritizing Intimacy in Marriage
Understanding masculine needs, healing wounds, prioritizing marriage, and embracing vulnerability for personal growth and strong relationships.

To find freedom, heal, and feel powerful in your emotions, check out the Alive & Free Collective by CLICKING HERE.

To become a life coach and get started in your career helping people get free and healthy emotionally and start a business doing so, go to our training video to learn more.

Ever felt like running away during an argument with your partner? Imagine if those moments could become opportunities for deeper connection and personal growth instead.

This episode unpacks the art of navigating conflict in relationships, from understanding emotional triggers to approaching disagreements with empathy and ownership. We explore the pitfalls of suppressing emotions and the harm caused by dumping pain onto others, highlighting the vital role of self-awareness and emotional intelligence, especially within marriage.

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(0:00:01) - Navigating Conflict in Relationships
(0:13:55) - Navigating Conflict Resolution and Emotional Regulation
(0:17:17) - Navigating Trauma Responses in Relationships
(0:31:12) - Cultivating Love Through Conflict
(0:39:55) - Navigating Conflict With Love and Humility
(0:47:35) - Confrontation and Building True Connection
(0:53:29) - Navigating Conflict and Personal Growth

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(0:00:01) - Navigating Conflict in Relationships
Master the art of conflict and confrontation with self-awareness, empathy, and ownership for deeper connections and healing in marriage.

(0:13:55) - Navigating Conflict Resolution and Emotional Regulation
Humility and emotional regulation are key to resolving conflicts, understanding patterns and triggers, and approaching conflicts with love and connection.

(0:17:17) - Navigating Trauma Responses in Relationships
Emotional triggers and defense mechanisms in relationships, influenced by past trauma, can lead to intense reactions and avoidance behaviors.

(0:31:12) - Cultivating Love Through Conflict
Marriage involves love, growth, and communication, and should reflect God's love and prioritize each other without punishment.

(0:39:55) - Navigating Conflict With Love and Humility
Handling emotional triggers and conflict in relationships through spiritual guidance and personal responsibility leads to deeper intimacy and true commitment.

(0:47:35) - Confrontation and Building True Connection
Learning to handle conflict with emotional intelligence and maturity through honest communication and mutual respect.

(0:53:29) - Navigating Conflict and Personal Growth
Self-awareness, emotional intelligence, and adaptability are crucial for healthy relationships and setting boundaries in friendships.

To find freedom, heal, and feel powerful in your emotions, check out the Alive & Free Collective by CLICKING HERE.

To become a life coach and get started in your career helping people get free and healthy emotionally and start a business doing so, go to our training video to learn more.

So for this episode, we received a question from our friend Kristina asking how to step into revival and seeing the kingdom manifested on earth in the midst of being a busy mom.

But this is an amazing question and it reminded us of how difficult it has been in our lives to figure out the same thing.

It’s easy to feel shame about not praying for people and sharing the message of Jesus. It’s easy to stoop into apathy.

But how can we embrace revival without it becoming just another performance? Especially in busy or apathetic/complacent seasons?

We discuss this AND we share some recent miracle testimonials we experienced while praying for people in our city.

Join the conversation today!

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(0:00:01) - Navigating Revival and Identity in Christianity
(0:09:24) - Challenging Theology and Experiencing God
(0:15:01) - Miracles and Testimonies in Everyday Life
(0:26:15) - Embracing Miracles in Daily Life
(0:31:23) - Navigating Church Hurt and Spiritual Integrity
(0:37:39) - Cultivating Family Revival and Connection
(0:41:23) - Stirring Faith Through Testimonies
(0:54:24) - Surrendering to God's Greater Plan

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(0:00:01) - Navigating Revival and Identity in Christianity
The hosts share their experiences from ministry school, discussing revival, spiritual practices, and authenticity in their faith journey.

(0:09:24) - Challenging Theology and Experiencing God
Overcoming burnout and reconnecting with ministry, experiencing God's power and dealing with unanswered prayers.

(0:15:01) - Miracles and Testimonies in Everyday Life
Miracles affirm Jesus' divine authority, emphasizing the power of God's kingdom and the importance of being open to His guidance.

(0:26:15) - Embracing Miracles in Daily Life
Openness to divine opportunities, transformative power of prayer, and trusting in God's power to work through us.

(0:31:23) - Navigating Church Hurt and Spiritual Integrity
Balancing miracles and emotional health in church, transformative experiences, disillusionment with ministry, need for holistic faith.

(0:37:39) - Cultivating Family Revival and Connection
True revival starts in the family through emotional health, strong relationships, and connection with God.

(0:41:23) - Stirring Faith Through Testimonies
Challenges of maintaining spiritual fullness and seeking community, accepting each season's purpose, and consuming faith-building content.

(0:54:24) - Surrendering to God's Greater Plan
Spiritual intimacy, clinging to traditions, and trusting in God's guidance are discussed through personal stories and parallels to the Israelites' journey.

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Description: We've been getting so many questions on instagram and through our email from you guys asking about Sammi, life updates, how she's navigating motherhood, how she's staying connected to herself and God in the midst of huge transition....

So...

I (Spencer) wanted to spend this podcast episode just asking Sammi those questions as well as some vulnerable questions of my own...

It ended up being a really cool episode!

Sammi shared how it has been super difficult to stay connected to herself and God in this season and what she's doing in those little margin moments to connect.

She shares her journal process that she's used for the last 10 years.

If you are facing any difficult or challenging circumstances in this season and you want to experience a rich connection with your heart and with the heart of God, check out this episode!

Thanks for listening.

Also, check your email for updates on our newest emotional health resource for women: The Alive & Free Collective.