• The Bar Dancer

  • Oct 9 2018
  • Length: 17 mins
  • Podcast

  • Summary

  • For women, leaving home after dusk implies an automatic invitation to danger and societal censure. Some people have even justified sexual assault and rape on the premise that women out late at night should expect aggression. Amidst this, four women — a cab driver, a bouncer at a popular club, a bar dancer, and a home guard constable guarding the women’s compartment in the local trains — have been defying societal constraints and patriarchal mindsets each night when they go to work. These four Mumbai women work through the night, breaking boundaries that society has traditionally set on women’s mobility, morality, and sexuality. Here are their stories. This episode follows Rozy, a dancer who knows she’ll earn more in a dance bar than in an office. ROZY, THE BAR DANCER Voice Over (Proceedings from the Maharashtra State Legislature in the background) Rozy: Society should not decide that. Women should know how to carry themselves. And they know it. Just because a girl is wearing a short dress doesn’t mean she’s doing something wrong. Society will not decide what women have to do. Voice Over Rozy: I could not pay my fees. Moreover, I had family issues. My mother was the earning family member and would work as domestic help. But we couldn’t get the amount of money we wanted. That’s why I had to come to this field. I wanted to do Hotel Management, in fact. Voice Over Rozy: I was crying, I did not want to work there. It was a very new experience for me. Guys were there, sitting and smoking. It was normal. They came for their enjoyment. But it was quite weird for me. Initially, it was quite weird, but days passed, years passed, I got used to it. Kunal: What part of this was weird to you? Rozy: Just guys smoking and drinking. Only that. Nothing bad was going on over there. Nothing bad. Later on, I got used to this too. Voice Over Kunal: Did it feel like a very normal thing to do? Rozy: It wasn’t so normal, but the bottom line was, we had to perform and earn money. It was like a stage show, kind of. Many actresses, performers, do stage shows and they get paid for it. I told myself that this wasn’t a bad thing. You are just getting paid for your performance, that’s it. Kunal: But how long did it take for you to digest this part? Rozy: Say, almost 6-7 months to digest the fact that I had to do it. Kunal: So, you kept feeling weird till then? Rozy: Yes. Because, suddenly, like people do it, they perform… You know what our job is? We don’t get the chance to learn the trade. We just have to dance on whatever songs they tell us. This was a bit weird, initially. But now, we can do it. As we girls get used to it, it gets easier. But I must add that this isn’t a bad thing at all; the bar line is not a bad line to be in. It is not at all bad. Voice Over Kunal: Have you had such an experience, ever? Rozy: I have had. There was a guy who was throwing money at me. I didn’t like this. I told the manager that I did not like it, you please ask him to go. Maybe, later on, he would do something wrong. I have had many such experiences. Kunal: But he was just throwing money at you? Rozy: That was just part of it. Kunal: So, there was more to it? Rozy: Ya, I mean, things happen. Many things happen. But, safety is always available for us. Voice Over Ramesh, the customer: I was 35 and she was 18. Back then, I still felt good that I could win a pretty girl’s affection, you know. Voice Over Solanki: I completely stopped going to work. Instead, I invested all my savings in a small flat, so that I could stay with her. Voice Over Solanki: She was doing what was best for her. I should have done what was best for me, you know. Rozy: We are performing. If a guy is coming to the bar, we didn’t call him. They came on their own. They came alone or with their friends. We didn’t tell them to give us money. They can come here and just sit. It’s not a problem. We didn’t ask them to spend money. It’s their wish and they will, if they want to. And they did. It’s not that we ask them to do something. No. It all depends on them. If they want to spend money they will, if they don’t want to, they won’t. Voice Over Rozy: I told them that I was working in this field. They were initially opposed to it; they didn’t agree to it. They said it was not a good thing and even told me that I would be working late at night. But later, I explained it and even showed them how these bars work and showed them nothing ‘wrong’ was happening and it is completely safe. That’s when they agreed to it. Kunal: How important was it for you to have their approval? Rozy: It was important because this was the income that was sustaining my household. So, it was very important for them to understand me and where I am. It was very important for me. Voice Over Rozy: We have fixed drivers, also. Depends. If we have fixed drivers, then it’s cool. If not, they give us designated cars and autos, depending on where we live, and they ...
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