Episodios

  • Episode 286: Autism and Relationships with Tara McMullin (Neurodivergence in Relationships)

    Episode 286: Autism and Relationships with Tara McMullin (Neurodivergence in Relationships)
    Aug 22 2024
    Tara McMullin, creator of What Works and the co-founder of YellowHouse.Media, shares her journey of receiving an autism diagnosis at 38 and its profound impact on her relationships. She explores the concept of 'biographical illumination,' revealing how understanding her diagnosis has brought clarity and validation to her life. Tara also discusses the intricate dynamics of 'masking' and emotional communication in relationships. Together, we explore the importance of recognizing and respecting personal boundaries, advocating for mutual understanding, and navigating the complexities of being autistic. Featured topics: How being diagnosed with Autism at 38, transformed Tara’s perspective on work, relationships, and parenting (3:20) The impact of autism on relationships, including getting your social needs met, learning to compromise, and the journey to understanding (10:49) Highlighting the burden on neurodivergent individuals to conform and mask their true selves to meet societal expectations (14:44) The distinction between being autistic and being an asshole—two entirely different concepts (32:35) Debunking the myth that people with autism lack empathy; their empathy is just expressed differently (33:17) Learn more about Tara McMullin: Tara McMullin is a writer and critic who studies the future of work through the lens of philosophy, critical theory, and media. She's the creator of What Works and the co-founder of YellowHouse.Media, a boutique production agency. She believes that care, curiosity, and context create an environment where we can not only learn but experience new and sometimes challenging ideas with grace. She's coached, taught, and facilitated for over 15 years—including more than a dozen classes with CreativeLive. Tara brings her own experience as an autistic feminist, endurance athlete, and amateur baker to everything she does. Resources & Links: Private Coaching with Kate Phoenix Rising: A Divorce Empowerment Collective Tara’s website Tara on Instagram Tara on LinkedIn “I'm a normal autistic person, not an abnormal neurotypical”: Autism Spectrum Disorder diagnosis as biographical illumination Catherine D. Tan The Electricity of Every Living Thing, Katherine May Episode Link: https://kateanthony.com/podcast/episode-286-autism-and-relationships-with-tara-mcmullin-neurodivergence-in-relationships/ =================== DISCLAIMER: THE COMMENTARY AND OPINIONS AVAILABLE ON THIS PODCAST ARE FOR INFORMATIONAL AND ENTERTAINMENT PURPOSES ONLY AND NOT FOR THE PURPOSE OF PROVIDING LEGAL OR PSYCHOLOGICAL ADVICE. YOU SHOULD CONTACT AN ATTORNEY, COACH, OR THERAPIST IN YOUR STATE TO OBTAIN ADVICE WITH RESPECT TO ANY PARTICULAR ISSUE OR PROBLEM. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
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    58 m
  • Episode 285: Weaponizing Neurodivergence in Abusive Relationships with Zawn Villines (Neurodivergence in Relationships)

    Episode 285: Weaponizing Neurodivergence in Abusive Relationships with Zawn Villines (Neurodivergence in Relationships)
    Aug 15 2024
    Zawn Villines, feminist activist and writer, is back on the show! Together we tackle the offensive and ableist ways that neurodiversity is often used to excuse abusive behavior. Zawn makes it clear that being neurodivergent does not mean someone is inherently abusive. In fact, neurodivergent individuals are more often the victims rather than the perpetrators of abuse. In this episode, we dive into the myths around empathy deficits in autistic individuals and how patriarchy keeps these harmful misconceptions alive. Further, we explore how patriarchy weaponizes neurodivergence against women. This episode is packed with practical advice for women dealing with neurodivergent partners, focusing on finding fair and supportive ways to navigate relationships without sacrificing your well-being. Featured topics: Neurodivergence is not a pass for getting out of household labor (5:12) Patriarchy and the weaponization of neurodivergence against women (15:22) What women can do when faced with a partner using neurodivergence as an excuse (40:05) You can accommodate a partner without sacrificing your life and well-being at the altar of their neurodivergence (41:53) Learn more about Zawn Villines: Zawn Villines is a feminist activist and writer who focuses on misogyny in motherhood and marriage. Her work argues that mothers are central to the feminist project, and that fathers must participate equally in household and parenting labor. She believes that inequality in marriage is a primary driver of sexism, and that it limits women's lives and futures. Inequality at home is a form of abuse, and Zawn teaches women to push back on this unacceptable treatment and claim their rightful place in the family, at work, and in their communities. Her weekly Feminist Advice Friday series advises people about how to live better and more just lives, and how to use their relationships as pathways to liberation and joy. Outside of her activism, Zawn has written full-time about science, medicine, politics, and the law for two decades. She writes a weekly reproductive justice column, and runs a nonprofit childbirth justice organization. She hopes to see more mothers claim the power and dignity of motherhood, and to end notions of mothers as irrelevant. Mothers are raising the next generation of resistance. Resources & Links: Private Coaching with Kate Phoenix Rising: A Divorce Empowerment Collective Zawn's Substack Newsletter Zawn's website Zawn on Instagram Episode Link: https://kateanthony.com/podcast/episode-285-weaponizing-neurodivergence-in-abusive-relationships-with-zawn-villines-neurodivergence-in-relationships/ =================== DISCLAIMER: THE COMMENTARY AND OPINIONS AVAILABLE ON THIS PODCAST ARE FOR INFORMATIONAL AND ENTERTAINMENT PURPOSES ONLY AND NOT FOR THE PURPOSE OF PROVIDING LEGAL OR PSYCHOLOGICAL ADVICE. YOU SHOULD CONTACT AN ATTORNEY, COACH, OR THERAPIST IN YOUR STATE TO OBTAIN ADVICE WITH RESPECT TO ANY PARTICULAR ISSUE OR PROBLEM. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
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    51 m
  • Episode 284: Powered by ADHD with Dr. Amelia Kelley (Neurodivergence in Relationships)

    Episode 284: Powered by ADHD with Dr. Amelia Kelley (Neurodivergence in Relationships)
    Aug 8 2024
    Dr. Amelia Kelley, a trauma-informed therapist and author, joins me to explore the nuances of ADHD in women, discussing how it often goes unnoticed and untreated. We tackle the complex question, "Do I have trauma or ADHD?"—exploring whether childhood trauma manifests as ADHD or if living with ADHD contributes to traumatic experiences. Plus, we uncover the superpowers of ADHD, the fascinating link between hyperfocus and procrastination, and how neurodiversity and ADHD affect relationships. Tune in to gain valuable insights and feel empowered to understand yourself better or loved ones living with ADHD. Featured topics: The impact of untreated ADHD on women's lives (3:25) "Do I have trauma or ADHD?" Exploring the relationship between trauma and ADHD (15:22) Coping skills: Embracing change as a compassionate choice (27:02) The superpowers of ADHD + the link between hyperfocus and procrastination (27:44) Healthy relationships, neurodiversity, and ADHD (34:00) The correlation between ADHD and attachment styles (43:30) Learn more about Dr. Amelia Kelley: Dr. Amelia Kelley is a trauma-informed therapist, author of several books, co-host of The Sensitivity Doctors podcast, and certified meditation and yoga instructor. She is a psychology professor at Yorkville University and a nationally recognized relationship expert featured on SiriusXM Doctor Radio’s The Psychiatry Show as well as NPR’s The Measure of Everyday Life. Her private practice is part of the Traumatic Stress Research Consortium at the Kinsey Institute. She is a contributing author for Psychology Today, ADDitude Magazine and the Highly Sensitive Refuge, the world’s largest blog for HSPs. You can find out more about her work at ameliakelley.com. Resources & Links: Private Coaching with Kate Phoenix Rising: A Divorce Empowerment Collective Amelia’s website Amelia’s book Episode Link: https://kateanthony.com/podcast/episode-284-powered-by-adhd-with-dr-amelia-kelley-neurodivergence-in-relationships/ =================== DISCLAIMER: THE COMMENTARY AND OPINIONS AVAILABLE ON THIS PODCAST ARE FOR INFORMATIONAL AND ENTERTAINMENT PURPOSES ONLY AND NOT FOR THE PURPOSE OF PROVIDING LEGAL OR PSYCHOLOGICAL ADVICE. YOU SHOULD CONTACT AN ATTORNEY, COACH, OR THERAPIST IN YOUR STATE TO OBTAIN ADVICE WITH RESPECT TO ANY PARTICULAR ISSUE OR PROBLEM. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
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    55 m
  • Episode 283: Neurodivergence in Relationships: Intro to the Series

    Episode 283: Neurodivergence in Relationships: Intro to the Series
    Aug 1 2024
    I am kicking off a new series for August all around neurodivergence in relationships. With my amazing lineup, we delve into topics like ADHD, autism, and other spectrum disorders within a family and how they might affect various aspects of your divorce. This week I wanted to take a few moments to introduce the series to you. Throughout the month, you’ll hear from incredible guests like: Dr. Amelia Kelley Tara McMullin Zawn Villines Tracy Otsuka These amazing women share their insights and strategies for embracing the unique gifts and challenges that come with being neurodivergent. In this episode, I also open up about my own experiences co-parenting a child who has ADHD. Here’s why you should tune in: This series is not just about understanding neurodivergence; it's about empowering you with the knowledge and tools to navigate these unique challenges. Whether you're dealing with neurodivergent individuals in your own life or simply want to be a more informed and compassionate ally, this series offers invaluable perspectives and practical advice you won't want to miss. Resources & Links: Private Coaching with Kate Phoenix Rising: A Divorce Empowerment Collective Episode Link: https://kateanthony.com/podcast/episode-283-neurodivergence-in-relationships-intro-to-the-series/ =================== DISCLAIMER: THE COMMENTARY AND OPINIONS AVAILABLE ON THIS PODCAST ARE FOR INFORMATIONAL AND ENTERTAINMENT PURPOSES ONLY AND NOT FOR THE PURPOSE OF PROVIDING LEGAL OR PSYCHOLOGICAL ADVICE. YOU SHOULD CONTACT AN ATTORNEY, COACH, OR THERAPIST IN YOUR STATE TO OBTAIN ADVICE WITH RESPECT TO ANY PARTICULAR ISSUE OR PROBLEM. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
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    24 m
  • Episode 282: Knowing Your Dealbreakers (The 7-Step Divorce Mindset Reset)

    Episode 282: Knowing Your Dealbreakers (The 7-Step Divorce Mindset Reset)
    Jul 25 2024
    What are your divorce dealbreakers? In the final installment of my divorce mindset reset series, I share why knowing your dealbreakers is important before you enter into your divorce proceedings. I discuss the work required to determine what they are and offer insight into why you should stick to them as you move through your divorce. Overall, knowing your dealbreakers helps you prioritize what matters most so you can maintain focus during your negotiations. You’ll hear: Why it is important to know your dealbreakers before you enter into your divorce proceedings Non-negotiables are the issues you feel strongly about and refuse to compromise on, even if it means presenting them in front of a judge Some considerations and strategies for dealbreakers in a high-conflict divorce Resources & Links: 7-Step Divorce Mindset Reset Bundle Private Coaching with Kate Phoenix Rising: A Divorce Empowerment Collective Episode Link: https://kateanthony.com/podcast/episode-282-the-7-step-divorce-mindset-reset-knowing-your-dealbreakers/ =================== DISCLAIMER: THE COMMENTARY AND OPINIONS AVAILABLE ON THIS PODCAST ARE FOR INFORMATIONAL AND ENTERTAINMENT PURPOSES ONLY AND NOT FOR THE PURPOSE OF PROVIDING LEGAL OR PSYCHOLOGICAL ADVICE. YOU SHOULD CONTACT AN ATTORNEY, COACH, OR THERAPIST IN YOUR STATE TO OBTAIN ADVICE WITH RESPECT TO ANY PARTICULAR ISSUE OR PROBLEM. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
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    20 m
  • Episode 281: Understanding What’s Legal vs. What’s Fair (The 7-Step Divorce Mindset Reset)

    Episode 281: Understanding What’s Legal vs. What’s Fair (The 7-Step Divorce Mindset Reset)
    Jul 23 2024
    Have you ever wondered how to navigate the tricky balance between what's legal and what's fair in a divorce? I dive into Step Six of the 7-Step Divorce Mindset Reset, focusing on distinguishing between these crucial aspects. You'll hear advice on processing emotions through appropriate channels, documenting evidence of legal matters, and working with a coach or other professional to streamline what's pertinent for court. My goal is to help you approach your legal team with clear, legally significant information, thereby reducing costs and improving outcomes. You’ll hear: The key to understanding legal vs. fair in divorce “If you’re focusing on what's fair, you're going to get all of your personal feelings in the way.” The importance of emotional processing, legal strategy, and documenting abuse for legal proceedings How to adopt a legally strategic mindset Resources & Links: 7-Step Divorce Mindset Reset Bundle Private Coaching with Kate Phoenix Rising: A Divorce Empowerment Collective Episode Link: https://kateanthony.com/podcast/episode-281-the-7-step-divorce-mindset-reset-understanding-whats-legal-vs-whats-fair/ =================== DISCLAIMER: THE COMMENTARY AND OPINIONS AVAILABLE ON THIS PODCAST ARE FOR INFORMATIONAL AND ENTERTAINMENT PURPOSES ONLY AND NOT FOR THE PURPOSE OF PROVIDING LEGAL OR PSYCHOLOGICAL ADVICE. YOU SHOULD CONTACT AN ATTORNEY, COACH, OR THERAPIST IN YOUR STATE TO OBTAIN ADVICE WITH RESPECT TO ANY PARTICULAR ISSUE OR PROBLEM. —------------------------------------------------ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
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    18 m
  • Episode 280: Strategy Mindset (The 7-Step Divorce Mindset Reset)

    Episode 280: Strategy Mindset (The 7-Step Divorce Mindset Reset)
    Jul 18 2024
    Shifting to a strategy mindset during your divorce is a game-changer and that’s the topic of this podcast episode. No longer are you trying to convince your partner to see things your way or understand your point of view. Instead, you’re embracing radical acceptance and moving forward with a clear plan. When you adopt a strategy mindset, you can set clear goals and easily make decisions. You’re taking control of the situation and the proceedings in a way you haven’t been able to before. This shift empowers you to navigate challenges with a calm and calculated plan, maintaining control and being proactive. You'll move forward with confidence, knowing you’re in charge of your journey. You’ll hear: Why you must divorce yourself of emotional ties and manipulations so you can be strategic The importance of having support and a taking team approach to your divorce How a strategy mindset can help with high-conflict situations The key factors to maintaining or obtaining a strategy mindset Resources & Links: 7-Step Divorce Mindset Reset Bundle Private Coaching with Kate Phoenix Rising: A Divorce Empowerment Collective The 7-Step Divorce Mindset Reset: Radical Acceptance The 7-Step Divorce Mindset Reset: Self-Care Episode Link: https://kateanthony.com/podcast/episode-280-the-7-step-divorce-mindset-reset-strategy-mindset/ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
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  • Episode 279: Radical Acceptance (The 7-Step Divorce Mindset Reset)

    Episode 279: Radical Acceptance (The 7-Step Divorce Mindset Reset)
    Jul 16 2024
    Radical acceptance means completely accepting a situation, circumstance, or challenge without necessarily approving or agreeing with it. In this installment of the 7-Step Divorce Mindset reset, I share why this concept is especially crucial in the divorce process. Embracing radical acceptance is one of the most powerful things you can do. It's revolutionary yet fundamental. It’s about letting go of the struggle over who you thought your partner was and truly accepting who they are. You’ll hear: Radical acceptance is not remotely akin to forgiveness Tina Swithin’s Radical Acceptance Oath What happens after you’ve come to a place of radical acceptance Resources & Links: 7-Step Divorce Mindset Reset Bundle Private Coaching with Kate Phoenix Rising: A Divorce Empowerment Collective Episode Link: https://kateanthony.com/podcast/episode-279-the-7-step-divorce-mindset-reset-radical-acceptance/ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
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    19 m