I am continuing the conversation today and sharing the resource I created that helps you to identify if you are stuck in your healing journey. Last week I went over common thoughts that you will have while in VICTIM and EMERGER stages. Today I will cover common thoughts that relate to RECLAIMER and CHOOSER stages.

Remembering that there are NO wrong or bad stages, yet we can get stuck along the way. I offer a few thoughts on how to move forward and ultimately, how to be the chooser in your life and have and EMPOWERED divorce.

Example of Reclaimer Thoughts:

I am learning to trust my body

My truth matters

I am worthy of healthy

I can feel my emotions

I am not my trauma

Example of Chooser Thoughts:

I trust myself, and I've got my own back

My choices reflect my values

I am the creator of my life

I am MORE than enough

What others think and feel about me is none of my business

For FULL list of stages click HERE

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DATING FROM WITHIN WORKSHOP⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ : Next one MAY 23rd-25th

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⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠INTIMACY WITHIN SELF-PACED COURSE⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

Walking your through the 7 levels of intimacy were you learn to intimately connect back towards you. Trauma disconnect you, reconnecting can be a beautiful experience and with this self paced course you can take it at your own pace. Workbook included.

⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠MONTHLY DIVORCE Q&A⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

Join myself and others who are navigating the complexities of divorce and the aftermath that you may not have expected. Come with questions and learn from others as well.

⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠DIVORCE 101 SELF PACED GUIDE⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

Not sure where to even start? The 'D' word can feel overwhelming to say the least. But lets slow this down a bit as I will help you take the next right step for you, just right now from a place of empowerment.

⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠SHOULD I STAY OR GO GUIDE⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

I specifically designed this to guide you through one of the most challenging questions you might face in your life. This course isn't just about finding an answer; it's about discovering what that answer means for you and your well-being. Through my own journey and deeply personal decision around should I stay or go, I realized that there is no 'right' choice- but that I make the choice right, by being the chooser of it.

RELATIONSHIP DYNAMIC ASSESSMENT

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One of my favorite things and most commented items I have in my office..... I am giving away to one of YOU, my amazing listeners.

Come find out what, and how to get yours!

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Winner will be announced May 27th

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DATING FROM WITHIN WORKSHOP⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ : Next one MAY 23rd-25th

Missed it? no worries, find the next Workshop ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠HERE⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠BELIEVING IN YOU COACHING MEMBERSHIP⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

Increasing your awareness and turning the healing focus towards you takes your healing up a level or two. Group coaching, individual coaching, worksheets, new tools taught each week, support, live sessions recorded, all you need to heal.

⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠INTIMACY WITHIN SELF-PACED COURSE⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

Walking your through the 7 levels of intimacy were you learn to intimately connect back towards you. Trauma disconnect you, reconnecting can be a beautiful experience and with this self paced course you can take it at your own pace. Workbook included.

⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠MONTHLY DIVORCE Q&A⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

Join myself and others who are navigating the complexities of divorce and the aftermath that you may not have expected. Come with questions and learn from others as well.

⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠DIVORCE 101 SELF PACED GUIDE⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

Not sure where to even start? The 'D' word can feel overwhelming to say the least. But lets slow this down a bit as I will help you take the next right step for you, just right now from a place of empowerment.

⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠SHOULD I STAY OR GO GUIDE⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

I specifically designed this to guide you through one of the most challenging questions you might face in your life. This course isn't just about finding an answer; it's about discovering what that answer means for you and your well-being. Through my own journey and deeply personal decision around should I stay or go, I realized that there is no 'right' choice- but that I make the choice right, by being the chooser of it.

RELATIONSHIP DYNAMIC ASSESSMENT

Book Your Consultation ⁠⁠⁠⁠HERE⁠⁠⁠⁠

Learn More About Assessment ⁠⁠⁠⁠HERE⁠⁠⁠

Book you Brainspotting session with me ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠HERE⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

You have been victimized. You didn't choose it, you didn't cause it, and, you don't want to get stuck IN it.

You are NOT your trauma.

Today is the first of 2 episodes around the 4 stages of healing and the thoughts that are most common in each.

This resource is intended to not only help you gain more awareness as to where you are at , where you might be stuck, but also give you some ideas of what a CHOOSER chooses to think.

The 4 stages that I will be identifying are:

Victim

Emerger

Reclaimer

Chooser

Join me today as I go through the first two stages, and then I will offer you a few Ideas where you can increase your awareness and practice this week, before I share the next 2 stages in part 2.

This is an eye opening resource, if you have any questions from these episodes or others, head over to amiewoolsey.com and click ASK ME.

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DATING FROM WITHIN WORKSHOP⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ : Next one MAY 23rd-25th

Missed it? no worries, find the next Workshop ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠HERE⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠BELIEVING IN YOU COACHING MEMBERSHIP⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

Increasing your awareness and turning the healing focus towards you takes your healing up a level or two. Group coaching, individual coaching, worksheets, new tools taught each week, support, live sessions recorded, all you need to heal.

⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠INTIMACY WITHIN SELF-PACED COURSE⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

Walking your through the 7 levels of intimacy were you learn to intimately connect back towards you. Trauma disconnect you, reconnecting can be a beautiful experience and with this self paced course you can take it at your own pace. Workbook included.

⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠MONTHLY DIVORCE Q&A⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

Join myself and others who are navigating the complexities of divorce and the aftermath that you may not have expected. Come with questions and learn from others as well.

⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠DIVORCE 101 SELF PACED GUIDE⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

Not sure where to even start? The 'D' word can feel overwhelming to say the least. But lets slow this down a bit as I will help you take the next right step for you, just right now from a place of empowerment.

⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠SHOULD I STAY OR GO GUIDE⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

I specifically designed this to guide you through one of the most challenging questions you might face in your life. This course isn't just about finding an answer; it's about discovering what that answer means for you and your well-being. Through my own journey and deeply personal decision around should I stay or go, I realized that there is no 'right' choice- but that I make the choice right, by being the chooser of it.

RELATIONSHIP DYNAMIC ASSESSMENT

Book Your Consultation ⁠⁠⁠⁠HERE⁠⁠⁠⁠

Learn More About Assessment ⁠⁠⁠⁠HERE⁠⁠⁠

Book you Brainspotting session with me ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠HERE⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

Today I am answering a few questions to make up for the missed live Q&A this month!

Question #1: What if the good, is too good to be true?

Question #2: When will the EXHAUSTION end?

Join me as I answer both these questions, and with question number 2- I take a turn towards talking about how we as women are CYCLICAL beings! and how it's so important to honor this about ourselves. We can use our cycle phases to manage our healing and be more gentle with ourselves.

Want to join me the FIRST THURSDAY of every month?

Register HERE

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⁠DATING FROM WITHIN WORKSHOP⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ : Next one MAY 23rd-25th

Missed it? no worries, find the next Workshop ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠HERE⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠BELIEVING IN YOU COACHING MEMBERSHIP⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

Increasing your awareness and turning the healing focus towards you takes your healing up a level or two. Group coaching, individual coaching, worksheets, new tools taught each week, support, live sessions recorded, all you need to heal.

⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠INTIMACY WITHIN SELF-PACED COURSE⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

Walking your through the 7 levels of intimacy were you learn to intimately connect back towards you. Trauma disconnect you, reconnecting can be a beautiful experience and with this self paced course you can take it at your own pace. Workbook included.

⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠MONTHLY DIVORCE Q&A⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

Join myself and others who are navigating the complexities of divorce and the aftermath that you may not have expected. Come with questions and learn from others as well.

⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠DIVORCE 101 SELF PACED GUIDE⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

Not sure where to even start? The 'D' word can feel overwhelming to say the least. But lets slow this down a bit as I will help you take the next right step for you, just right now from a place of empowerment.

⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠SHOULD I STAY OR GO GUIDE⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

I specifically designed this to guide you through one of the most challenging questions you might face in your life. This course isn't just about finding an answer; it's about discovering what that answer means for you and your well-being. Through my own journey and deeply personal decision around should I stay or go, I realized that there is no 'right' choice- but that I make the choice right, by being the chooser of it.

RELATIONSHIP DYNAMIC ASSESSMENT

Book Your Consultation ⁠⁠⁠⁠HERE⁠⁠⁠⁠

Learn More About Assessment ⁠⁠⁠⁠HERE⁠⁠⁠

Book you Brainspotting session with me ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠HERE⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

• Join me today as I share a few key ways to assess emotional maturity in other, AND in yourself. Many of my clients want to know what healthy looks like, especially when they have experience abusive behaviors and communication in their relationships. Many fear repeating the patterns and "choosing wrong again" in future relationships.

  With the help of on of my fav's, Lindsay Gibson and her work around emotional maturity, I will walk you through these key points and how to assess them in others, and in yourself.

  • Self-Awareness:

• • Responsibility for Actions:

  • Empathy:

  • Regulation of Emotions:

  • Resilience:

  • Respect for Boundaries:

  • Consistency:

  • Communication:

  • Flexibility:

  • Shared Humor and Enjoyment

    
    

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    DATING FROM WITHIN WORKSHOP⁠⁠⁠ : Next one MAY 23rd-25th

    Missed it? no worries, find the next Workshop ⁠⁠⁠HERE⁠⁠⁠

    
    

    ⁠⁠⁠BELIEVING IN YOU COACHING MEMBERSHIP⁠⁠⁠

    Increasing your awareness and turning the healing focus towards you takes your healing up a level or two. Group coaching, individual coaching, worksheets, new tools taught each week, support, live sessions recorded, all you need to heal.

    ⁠⁠⁠INTIMACY WITHIN SELF-PACED COURSE⁠⁠⁠

    Walking your through the 7 levels of intimacy were you learn to intimately connect back towards you. Trauma disconnect you, reconnecting can be a beautiful experience and with this self paced course you can take it at your own pace. Workbook included.

    ⁠⁠⁠MONTHLY DIVORCE Q&A⁠⁠⁠

    Join myself and others who are navigating the complexities of divorce and the aftermath that you may not have expected. Come with questions and learn from others as well.

    ⁠⁠⁠DIVORCE 101 SELF PACED GUIDE⁠⁠⁠

    Not sure where to even start? The 'D' word can feel overwhelming to say the least. But lets slow this down a bit as I will help you take the next right step for you, just right now from a place of empowerment.

    ⁠⁠⁠SHOULD I STAY OR GO GUIDE⁠⁠⁠

    I specifically designed this to guide you through one of the most challenging questions you might face in your life. This course isn't just about finding an answer; it's about discovering what that answer means for you and your well-being. Through my own journey and deeply personal decision around should I stay or go, I realized that there is no 'right' choice- but that I make the choice right, by being the chooser of it.

    RELATIONSHIP DYNAMIC ASSESSMENT

    Book Your Consultation ⁠⁠HERE⁠⁠

    Learn More About Assessment ⁠⁠HERE⁠

    
    

    Book you Brainspotting session with me ⁠⁠⁠HERE⁠⁠⁠

    
    

    
    

    
    

Today, we're diving deep into the concept of energy levels and how they manifest in our bodies, particularly through catabolic and anabolic energy. This framework is especially valuable if you're still learning to comfortably feel and identify your emotions.

Here's what we'll cover today:

• The Seven Levels of Energy: We’ll explore each level, adapted to situations like divorce and betrayal, and how these energies influence our daily interactions and well-being.
• • Level 1 (Survival Mode): Linked with feelings of victimhood and powerlessness. " I can't"
  • Level 2 (Conflict Mode): Dominated by anger and blame, serving as protective reactions.
  • Level 3 (Responsibility Mode): A shift towards personal power and taking responsibility for personal healing. Curious.
  • Level 4 (Concern for Self): Focused on self-care and building compassion and esteem.
  • Level 5 (Reconciliation of Self): Embracing change, finding peace, confidence and accepting the past.
  • Level 6 (Connectedness): Creating a life filled with gratitude and possibility, recognizing personal growth.
  • Level 7 (Creation ): Harnessing the power to create and influence our surroundings positively.

Each level reflects a different way of experiencing and responding to the world. Understanding these can empower you to choose how you show up in various situations, whether it's a routine morning or confronting new challenges post-divorce.

Join me as we delve into each energy level, understand their implications, and discover how to harness them to lead a more empowered and intentional life.

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⁠DATING FROM WITHIN WORKSHOP⁠⁠⁠ : Next one MAY 23rd-25th

Missed it? no worries, find the next Workshop ⁠⁠⁠HERE⁠⁠⁠

⁠⁠⁠BELIEVING IN YOU COACHING MEMBERSHIP⁠⁠⁠

Increasing your awareness and turning the healing focus towards you takes your healing up a level or two. Group coaching, individual coaching, worksheets, new tools taught each week, support, live sessions recorded, all you need to heal.

⁠⁠⁠INTIMACY WITHIN SELF-PACED COURSE⁠⁠⁠

Walking your through the 7 levels of intimacy were you learn to intimately connect back towards you. Trauma disconnect you, reconnecting can be a beautiful experience and with this self paced course you can take it at your own pace. Workbook included.

⁠⁠⁠MONTHLY DIVORCE Q&A⁠⁠⁠

Join myself and others who are navigating the complexities of divorce and the aftermath that you may not have expected. Come with questions and learn from others as well.

⁠⁠⁠DIVORCE 101 SELF PACED GUIDE⁠⁠⁠

Not sure where to even start? The 'D' word can feel overwhelming to say the least. But lets slow this down a bit as I will help you take the next right step for you, just right now from a place of empowerment.

⁠⁠⁠SHOULD I STAY OR GO GUIDE⁠⁠⁠

I specifically designed this to guide you through one of the most challenging questions you might face in your life. This course isn't just about finding an answer; it's about discovering what that answer means for you and your well-being. Through my own journey and deeply personal decision around should I stay or go, I realized that there is no 'right' choice- but that I make the choice right, by being the chooser of it.

RELATIONSHIP DYNAMIC ASSESSMENT

Book Your Consultation ⁠⁠HERE⁠⁠

Learn More About Assessment ⁠⁠HERE⁠

Book you Brainspotting session with me ⁠⁠⁠HERE⁠⁠⁠

Today, we're diving deep into the transformative concept of catabolic and anabolic energy and its profound impact on our emotional and physical well-being. By understanding our emotions as energy in motion, we unlock the potential to be more present in our bodies, neutralize the intensity of our emotions, and foster healing and growth.

Key Points Discussed:

• Understanding Catabolic and Anabolic Energy: Unpacking the differences between these two types of energy and how they manifest in our lives. Catabolic energy, often associated with stress, fear, and survival instincts, can be draining and destructive. In contrast, anabolic energy is constructive and healing, promoting growth and repair.
• Emotions as Energy in Motion: Exploring the concept that emotions are not just mental states but dynamic energies that move through our bodies, affecting our physical and emotional health.
• The Somatic Connection: How recognizing emotions as energy helps us connect more deeply with our bodily experiences, leading to greater awareness and healing. Drawing on the work of Peter Levine and insights from "The Body Keeps the Score" by Bessel van der Kolk.
• Neutralizing Intense Emotions: Strategies for shifting from catabolic to anabolic states, using awareness and specific practices to transform the energy of our emotions and reduce their intensity.
• The Role of Brain Spotting and Somatic Experiencing: Discussing how these modalities utilize our understanding of emotions as energy to facilitate healing from trauma.

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  ⁠DATING FROM WITHIN WORKSHOP⁠⁠ : Next one MAY 23rd-25th

  Missed it? no worries, find the next Workshop ⁠⁠HERE⁠⁠

  
  

  ⁠⁠BELIEVING IN YOU COACHING MEMBERSHIP⁠⁠

  Increasing your awareness and turning the healing focus towards you takes your healing up a level or two. Group coaching, individual coaching, worksheets, new tools taught each week, support, live sessions recorded, all you need to heal.

  ⁠⁠INTIMACY WITHIN SELF-PACED COURSE⁠⁠

  Walking your through the 7 levels of intimacy were you learn to intimately connect back towards you. Trauma disconnect you, reconnecting can be a beautiful experience and with this self paced course you can take it at your own pace. Workbook included.

  ⁠⁠MONTHLY DIVORCE Q&A⁠⁠

  Join myself and others who are navigating the complexities of divorce and the aftermath that you may not have expected. Come with questions and learn from others as well.

  ⁠⁠DIVORCE 101 SELF PACED GUIDE⁠⁠

  Not sure where to even start? The 'D' word can feel overwhelming to say the least. But lets slow this down a bit as I will help you take the next right step for you, just right now from a place of empowerment.

  ⁠⁠SHOULD I STAY OR GO GUIDE⁠⁠

  I specifically designed this to guide you through one of the most challenging questions you might face in your life. This course isn't just about finding an answer; it's about discovering what that answer means for you and your well-being. Through my own journey and deeply personal decision around should I stay or go, I realized that there is no 'right' choice- but that I make the choice right, by being the chooser of it.

  RELATIONSHIP DYNAMIC ASSESSMENT

  Book Your Consultation ⁠HERE⁠

  Learn More About Assessment ⁠HERE

  
  

  Book you Brainspotting session with me ⁠⁠HERE⁠⁠