In this episode, we explore the sobering and eye-opening correlation of many former foster youth who end up incarcerated. Social policy experts have deemed this all too common reality as the "foster to prison pipeline." Our guest, Bernie Lattner, has an extremely unique and helpful vantage into this phenomonen as a long time foster dad, mentor, and prison chaplain for a federal prison in Rochester, MN. Bernie is a single foster and adoptive dad and shares some really important insights through the lenses of fostering and being a prison chaplain.

Bernie, Travis, and Courtney engage in a conversation that explores some of the factors that connect the dots between foster care and criminal problems later. Bernie shares insights from prisoners on the things they now realize would have helped them when they were youth looking to find belonging and connection.

Bernie shares his story of growing up with a single father and becoming a foster father to three boys by 2006. He describe the struggles and joys of fostering, especially, kids that have reactive attachment disorder and other behavioral problems. Bernie also mentions his present case of working with a 17-year-old boy who, with Bernie’s intervention and assistance, was able to complete high school. Bernie shares an incredible story of a heart warming moment they share at his graduation.

Helpful information for single fathers and men who are thinking about becoming foster parents can be heard as well in this episode. Join us and listen to Bernie’s incredible story and get the understanding of fostering, adoption and mentoring from the person who has devoted his life to the well-being of the children and families.

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Statistics cited in this episode:
1. Criminal Law Practitioner
2. Youth Today

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Tina gives her testimony of being in the foster care system then being adopted. She is able to discuss what she had to go through during her time in foster care and her experience of recovering from the effects of being in foster care after being adopted. Tina elaborates on the issues of reciprocal adoption of siblings and the role she played as a mother figure in her brother’s life. She also talks about what led her to return to foster care as an adult and speak for those children who are waiting to be adopted. To the prospective and current foster parents, Tina offers them some tips to go by among them being to always avoid burning out. The last part of the conversation is a success story of three brothers brought together and adopted as a set. Seventy-five percent of siblings in foster care are separated, which severely affects children’s well-being and creates trauma. The main cause for the separation is the inability of foster homes to accommodate all the siblings. However, one should take into account additional and avoidable harms inflicted by splitting siblings. Children who remain with their siblings are better off in their transition and benefit from better academic, behavioral, and health status. However, there are occasions when it is better for the siblings to be separated and this is where communication in the form of visits, phone calls and writing letters is important. Foster parents should also be in a position to request for chances of the separated siblings to be connected.

In 2019, Pam and her husband Gary were about to be empty nesters when she saw a story on Facebook about a sibling group of seven whose parents were killed in a car crash. They were desperately needing a family who could keep them all together. It was then that she and Gary made the life changing decision to become new parents again after raising five of their own. Later, their adoption story went viral with an Instagram video that got shared by Kristin Bell and Michael Buble, among many others, propelling her following to more than 100,000 virtually overnight.

Their story was featured in People Magazine and Pam has been a guest on Kate Hudson's podcast and Jada Smith's talk show. With her new found platform, Pam is strong advocate in the foster care space and guides others on all things related to foster parenting and adoption. Pam's heart is to give kids in foster care the best home they can get and stresses the role of love in the process of healing. She talks about her experience of being a foster and adoptive mother and shares about the need to learn and seek help continuously. She also shares about the encouragement she found in her church and her close-knit relatives and friends and neighbors. Pam also talks about how she continues to engage the public on the issue of foster care and adoption through social media, specifically, Instagram. She stresses the fact that every person is capable of making an impact on the life of a kid in foster care and calls for people to really consider becoming foster and adoptive parents or finding ways of supporting those who are.

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Watch this video of Pam's story and hear more from Pam sharing about misconceptions when it comes to fostering.

Learn more about being a foster or adoptive parent or supporting those who are in your community.

Meet kids awaiting adoption.

Please consider donating today to support our mission to dramatically improve the experiences and outcomes for kids in foster care.