• The Pretty Uncomfortable Podcast

  • By: Tera Vee
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The Pretty Uncomfortable Podcast

By: Tera Vee
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  • Welcome to The Pretty Uncomfortable Podcast, where my kink is life’s discomforts. In this podcast I will confront taboos and stigmas surrounding everything from sex, relationships, mental health, and everything in between. I’m Tera Vee, and as the host of The Pretty Uncomfortable Podcast my goal is to be your new safe word. As an adult content creator who can’t hide my own kind of weird, I’m here to show you that we ALL get uncomfortable at times. It’s time to push past the discomfort, talk about the stuff people are too scared or embarrassed to discuss, and realize that you are not alone. Ever. Join me for the discomfort!
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  • "I Don't Want To Sleep With You": Navigating a Disappointing Herpes Disclosure: Rejection vs Decision

    "I Don't Want To Sleep With You": Navigating a Disappointing Herpes Disclosure: Rejection vs Decision
    May 7 2024
    Here's the shocking thing about herpes- it's not a big deal. No really, it's not a big deal. It can seem that if you have herpes, that is just the story you need to tell yourself to make the sting of having an STI feel better. But here's the thing about having herpes, or any STI; suddenly you are forced into a world that is unfamiliar, and so you LEARN. You read. Research. Educate yourself. And suddenly you are shocked to learn that truly, this is not a big deal. After my diagnosis I thought my dating life was over. I knew nothing about herpes other than what I learned in a severely lacking education system that consistently fails us with sexual health information, and of course media. And so my scared little mind was flooded with the horrible images from google, the mean jokes I heard from movies and television, the jokes I heard from social settings. But then I educated myself, because suddenly this was MINE. I dove into the world of herpes information- everything from the CDC, WHO, social media accounts, magazine articles. If I am being honest, I thought I was going to be doom scrolling, reading horrible information that was going to validate my feelings of fear. Instead, I was faced with so many facts that blew my mind. I had NO clue what a large portion of the world's population has herpes. I had no clue that having herpes did not, in fact, mean the you were suddenly walking around with a constant herpes outbreak. I was shocked to discover how little of an impact it truly has on a person's everyday life, and especially their dating life. There is a sense of empowerment when you realize those scary feelings were silly. That you are going to be ok. It is not that hard to turn it all around and feel quite confident with your diagnosis. And you will see that confidence, and positivity, everywhere throughout the sexual health social media accounts and media articles. And that is truly fucking FABULOUS. But this is where I casually stand up to insert a little HOWEVER in all this fabulousness.... While it is SO important to know that you are going to be ok with your diagnosis. That you are going to have a great and active dating life if you choose to. That your life is going to be barely affected by your herpes. It is also SO important to know that sometimes, it just fucking sucks. AND THAT IS OK. Seriously friend, it is ok if you feel like a badass with your herpes diagnosis, and also cry about your herpes diagnosis. I have had a very active and successful dating life since my diagnosis almost 6 years ago. I barely think about. I can easily and comfortably admit that I still get incredibly nervous when I have to have the disclosure discussion with a new partner, but I also get incredibly nervous when I have to talk to the lady at the cash register in the grocery store, so there's that. But I still can stand on pretty firm footing with my positivity and confidence while living with a positive status. But sometimes that confidence gets rocked. And it feels uncomfortable. And I think of some of the sexual health accounts I follow online, and all of their positivity surrounding herpes, and I feel almost ashamed that I am feeling bad about myself because of my diagnosis. It makes me feel alone. My goal is to make sure you truly know that having an STI is NOT a big deal, but that also, sometimes it DOES hurt. And that is so damn ok. And you are not alone if you are feeling this. And there is nothing wrong with feeling this. You are not alone- the thing is, most people just don't talk about the other side of things. Those damn uncomfortable things. So dammit, let's just get snuggled into the discomfort for a minute! Let's have a cuddle puddle with the uncomfy so that you can see that we have all felt this and you are not alone. In this episode I discuss a herpes disclosure that was disappointing, and really rocked my confidence. It brought up so many feelings that really bothered me. It made me question how I could stand online and spew so much positivity surrounding the subject, while then crying on my couch in disappointment. I felt ashamed of myself, because the people I looked up to in the sexual health world never shared this side of things. Maybe I'm not good enough if I am letting this rock me like this. Maybe I should not have a platform where I share my stories if I can't keep my positivity about this. But then I thought, FUCK THAT. I just feel alone because they aren't talking about it. It doesn't mean they don't FEEL it. They are simply not sharing it. Join me in a conversation where I share how I disclose, why I disclose the way I do, how I handle a "rejection", and why we need to reframe the idea of it being a rejection at all; it is someone simply making a decision. I will share my personal story of a disclosure that left me in tears of disappointment, and why it is not productive to be upset with the person telling you no. I'll share my view on why I disagree with my friends that say "...
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    27 mins
  • Welcome To The Pity Party: When To Feel Sorry For Yourself, And When To Move Forward

    Welcome To The Pity Party: When To Feel Sorry For Yourself, And When To Move Forward
    Apr 9 2024

    Consider this your formal invitation to my pity party. In this episode I sit down to discuss why I have had such a hard time producing more podcast episodes, how I like to indulge at my pity parties, and how I am learning to show up- even when I absolutely don't want to.

    We all have moments, some longer than others, where we just can't. We just can't cope. We just can't put on a happy face. We just can't see the bright side of things. I am here to tell you that that is absolutely ok. But, does that mean that we should just not show up at all? No. Join me in exploring what a pity party looks like, and when is the time to end the party.

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    Have a topic you would like to talk about? Or a question you may be shy or embarrassed to ask? You can safely ask all of your questions anonymously HERE! I’m always and forever your safe word!
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    10 mins
  • The Silent Treatment: Ignoring Confrontation Is Not A Healthy Boundary

    The Silent Treatment: Ignoring Confrontation Is Not A Healthy Boundary
    Feb 7 2024

    The silent treatment seems like a childish game...but it can have a heartbreaking effect on a person. It's easy to want to just ignore an uncomfortable situation, maybe you want to prove to your partner that your mad, so you will just ignore them, or maybe you become like a turtle in the face of discomfort and hide in your shell.

    Whatever the reason, it can be easy to forget what the effect of the silent treatment can do to a person. If you have anxiety, and then layer on a dose of the silent treatment.... oof. It's a tornado of overthinking and panic.

    In this episode I discuss why silence is not a boundary, and what simple steps you can take to step away from a situation in a healthy way, to allow yourself time to think before having as discussion. I also share my history with the silent treatment- both giving it and receiving it, and how I have worked to get better with my communication skills.

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    Stay connected with The Pretty Uncomfortable Podcast & Tera Vee:

    Pretty Uncomfortable | Instagram https://www.instagram.com/prettyuncomfortablepodcast/

    Pretty Uncomfortable | Facebook https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=100088708004607

    Pretty Uncomfortable | TikTok https://www.tiktok.com/@teravee0?lang=en

    Pretty Uncomfortable | Website https://prettyuncomfortable.com

    Tera Vee | Instagram https://www.instagram.com/tera_vee

    …….

    https://ngl.link/tera_vee

    Have a topic you would like to talk about? Or a question you may be shy or embarrassed to ask? You can safely ask all of your questions anonymously HERE! I’m always and forever your safe word!
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    22 mins
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