Episodios

  • Special Holiday Edition: The Ghosts of Relationships Past

    Special Holiday Edition: The Ghosts of Relationships Past
    Dec 23 2025
    Do you settle down with a good book you have read over and over this time of year? I read my kids the exact same Christmas book every single year. And many years, I re-read a classic for myself… like A Christmas Carol. This year, I offer you a redux of a prior podcast episode… about the Ghosts of Your Relationship Past. Yep. Christmas, with new opportunities. Here it is: Christmas Eve. Chris and Holly have settled into bed. Neither can sleep. It is not, however, sugarplums dancing in their heads. Both are replaying the arguments and hurts of the past. Neither feels connected, although both are desperate for that warm embrace each used to treasure. What happened? Where did their relationship fall into trouble? Can they find their way back? But first, they have to make it through a night of haunts, as the Ghosts of Relationship Past visit them this night. Are they the same ghosts that haunt your relationship? Is there a path through the pain? Listen in as Chris and Holly face the hauntings of their relationship.
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    14 m
  • To-Do’s and To-Don’ts of Saving Your Marriage, Pt. 2

    To-Do’s and To-Don’ts of Saving Your Marriage, Pt. 2
    Dec 17 2025
    You want to save a marriage... but you may not be sure what to do. And I guess it is also a question of what not to do. BOTH what TO do and what NOT TO do, are important. So, let's cover it! In this episode, I cover 5 more to-do's and to-don'ts. In an earlier episode, I covered 5 more of each. Why is this important? Because most people have the hardest time getting started (and continuing) when they aren't quite sure if they are clear on the path. That said, if you want an overall approach, please check out my Save The Marriage System HERE. RELATED RESOURCES: To-Do's and To-Don'ts Pt. 1 
Why You Are Fighting... and What To Do
 Why You Are Derailed... and What To Do
 Why You Are Discouraged... and What To Do How To Save Your Marriage - System
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    17 m
  • Quiet Divorce: The Truth

    Quiet Divorce: The Truth
    Dec 10 2025
    “Quiet Divorce.” It seems to be the topic of article after article. And the articles make it seem like, “No big deal, just happens, oh well.” But it IS a big deal. And it ISN’T anything new. Just another way of describing something we have discussed here often… the dangers of disconnection. I talked about this some time ago, when everyone was talking about Quiet Quitting during the pandemic — people were still technically employed, they just weren’t doing anything for the job. They quit the work, but kept taking a paycheck. I noted that sometimes, people Quiet Quit a marriage. Which is exactly what “Quiet Divorce” is noting. People are still legally married. But emotionally… not so much. Why does this matter? Because this doesn’t have to be the case. You don’t have to be choosing the path of withdrawal. But unless you understand what is going on, it is hard to do anything else. Which is why we need to talk about Quiet Divorce… the Truth about it, and what you can do. RELATED RESOURCES: Why Connection Matters Save The Marriage System The Un-Pause App
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    20 m
  • How You Deal with Negativity

    How You Deal with Negativity
    Dec 3 2025
    It happens. In the middle of a marriage crisis, you can find yourself surrounded by negativity. A spouse negative about the marriage. Friends and family negative about your efforts to save your marriage. You negative, well, about everything you are doing (it is easy to slip into self-blame and self-doubt). Negativity comes from several sources: fear, protectiveness, anger, resentment, lack of understanding, and lack of clarity. Regardless of the source, you may find yourself reacting poorly -- negatively impacting your capacity to save and improve your marriage. Is there another alternative? You bet there is! I would suggest four ways to respond that can change the outcome. Listen to the podcast for the four ways you can respond differently to the negativity, making sure that you don't catch it yourself. Listen below. RELATED RESOURCES: You Need A Plan Dealing With Your Resentment Dealing With Your Spouse's Resentment Grab The Save The Marriage System
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    19 m
  • The Pause Problem (and Solution)

    The Pause Problem (and Solution)
    Nov 19 2025
    When did it happen? When did your marriage’s trajectory head in the wrong direction? Probably long before you thought, long before you could see it. Almost always, it is a conscious and unconscious collusion between the spouses. And it makes sense. Life… you have to get back to it! After all, you are now married, and your marriage is set up to successfully face life… or is it? At some point, after lots of connection, you have faith in your relationship, faith in your love. So, you hit the Pause Button. You think you are putting your marriage into some “suspended animation,” so that you can get on with life — kids, careers, friends, hobbies, travel, etc. You promise yourself(selves) that you will get back to the two of you again… at some point in the future (that often keeps creeping further into the future). Until one day, you (and/or your spouse) find yourself(selves) staring at a near-stranger. A roommate (or housemate). You no longer recognize the relationship you have, and it certainly isn’t what you were looking for. The pain of connection leads to anger, alienation, and resentment. That cocktail leads to a spiral of disconnection. It often accelerates until… separation, affair, or even divorce. And it all began with a decision that made total sense… until it doesn’t work. Is there a solution? There IS! I just released a new app, the Un-Pause App. In the podcast, I tell you about the problem… and the solution. Listen below. RELATED RESOURCES: The Un-Pause App The Save The Marriage System Why Pause Is So Painful
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    20 m
  • To-Do’s and To-Don’ts of Saving Your Marriage, Pt. 1

    To-Do’s and To-Don’ts of Saving Your Marriage, Pt. 1
    Nov 12 2025
    You want to save a marriage... but you may not be sure what to do. And I guess it is also a question of what not to do. BOTH what TO do and what NOT TO do, are important. So, let's cover it! In this episode, I cover 5 to-do's and to-don'ts. And in the next episode, I'll cover 5 more of each. Why is this important? Because most people have the hardest time getting started (and continuing) when they aren't quite sure if they are clear on the path. That said, if you want an overall approach, please check out my Save The Marriage System HERE. RELATED RESOURCES: 
Why You Are Fighting... and What To Do
 Why You Are Derailed... and What To Do
 Why You Are Discouraged... and What To Do How To Save Your Marriage - System
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    16 m
  • Distraction or Traction?

    Distraction or Traction?
    Nov 5 2025
    What gets in the way of you getting traction in your efforts to save your marriage? These days, there is one very substantial reason... one thing that keeps you (and many others) from making progress. And it is only accelerating. What is it? Distraction. Yep, it absolutely gets in your way, pulling you away from what is most important. Pulling you away from priorities and opportunities. What is the antidote? We talk about it in this week's Save The Marriage Podcast. Listen below. RELATED RESOURCES: Save The Marriage System Save The Marriage Toolkit My Books
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    18 m
  • The Zombie Marriage

    The Zombie Marriage
    Oct 30 2025
    Is your marriage infected by the "zombie virus?" Do you find your relationship to be the "walking dead?" Are emotions lost and connections missing? Do you and your spouse respond to each other with "zombie grunts?" The infection can be stopped. You can fight the infection and heal the relationship. Don't allow the big 4 symptoms of a zombie infection to overtake your relationship's immune system. Fight back and restore your relationship to the living and the healthy. Okay, to be fair, this is a “tip o’ the hat” to Halloween… but still an important subject! Listen below. RELATED RESOURCES: Pause Button Marriages Dangers of Disconnection "Can This Marriage Be Saved?” The Save The Marriage System -- DE-Zombie Your Marriage!
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    26 m