In this episode of the Self Driven Child podcast, I'm thrilled to welcome back one of my favorite voices in parenting, Jess Lahey. Jess is a New York Times bestselling author, an educator, and someone who's been on the front lines of both teaching and parenting. We discuss the emotional rollercoaster that is the transition from high school to college—not just for our kids, but for us as parents too.

We talk about the balance between supporting our children and giving them the space to grow into their own people. Jess shares personal anecdotes about her own children's experiences, shedding light on the challenges and triumphs that come with this major life change. Jess gives insights on how to approach the first day of college, handle the inevitable bumps along the way, and most importantly, how to step back and let our kids take the reins.

Episode Highlights:

[00:42] - Introduction to the episode and guest Jess Lahey.

[3:25] - Jess shares her experience with her children's transition to college.

[7:09] - The importance of letting kids create their own identity in college.

[14:24] - How to support your child without taking over, and the power of apology.

[22:19] - Preparing kids for the unexpected challenges in college.

[26:19] - The importance of helping kids build competence and a sense of control.

[39:17] - Understanding why kids push away during major transitions and how to handle it.

Links & Resources:

https://www.cnn.com/2024/08/16/health/college-student-independence-wellness/index.html

https://www.jessicalahey.com/comingofageinthemiddle/2015/6/21/season-of-the-malcontents

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In this episode, I sit down with my co-author, Dr. William R. Stixrud, to do an origin story into the key concepts from our latest book, "What Do You Say?: How to Talk with Kids to Build Motivation, Stress Tolerance, and a Happy Home". We discuss the crucial importance of connection between parents and children, exploring how empathy and validation can transform relationships and foster mental well-being. Bill shares insights from our research and experiences, highlighting the profound impact of close relationships on kids' stress levels and overall happiness. Tune in as we unpack practical strategies for effective communication and building stronger bonds with your children.

Episode Highlights:

[01:37] - Bill discusses the motivation behind writing our second book, "What Do You Say?".
[03:13] - The challenges of balancing control and fostering independence in children.
[06:57] - The unexpected mental health risks in high-achieving children.
[08:19] - The power of empathy and validation in strengthening parent-child connections.
[10:25] - How reflective listening can enhance communication and trust.
[12:25] - The importance of understanding before judging in parent-child interactions.
[18:27] - Real-life stories illustrating the impact of empathetic responses.

Links & Resources:

• Get the book: What Do You Say?: How to Talk with Kids to Build Motivation, Stress Tolerance, and a Happy Home by Dr. William R. Stixrud and Ned Johnson
• Website: Get the Top 10 Tips from Our Books: https://www.theselfdrivenchild.com
• Submit questions: Bill@theselfdrivenchild.com or Ned@theselfdrivenchild.com
• High Schoolers College Prep: https://prepmatters.com/ or call (301) 951-0350

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Today we are talking about the roots of "The Self Driven Child" with my co-author, Dr. William R. Stixrud. Discover how our understanding of autonomy and control transformed our approach to parenting and education. We explore the neuroscience behind stress and motivation, sharing our journey from initial insights to the profound impact our work has had globally. Join us as we recount our Marvel origin story and reveal the science and anecdotes that shaped our bestselling books.

Dr. William Stixrud, a clinical neuropsychologist, joins me, Ned Johnson, as we discuss the key principles of our collaboration. From handling stress to fostering intrinsic motivation, this episode covers it all. Whether you're a long-time listener or new to our podcast, this episode offers valuable insights into creating a supportive environment for children and young adults.

Episode Highlights:

[0:34] - Welcoming Dr. William Stixrud and introducing the topic of autonomy and control.

[1:34] - The global impact of "The Self Driven Child" and the importance of a sense of control.

[2:12] - Discussing stress and its effects on the brain from Dr. Stixrud's early research.

[5:39] - How stress and control relate to motivation and mental health.

[6:28] - Personal anecdotes and professional experiences on stress and motivation.

[8:45] - The concept of autonomy in parenting and education.

[13:17] - The bi-directional relationship between stress and brain function.

[17:07] - Practical advice on supporting autonomy in children.

[20:24] - The impact of test preparation on stress and performance.

[25:38] - Addressing the physiological aspects of stress and anxiety.

[30:02] - Reflections on the journey of writing "The Self Driven Child".

[31:03] - Concluding thoughts and a sneak peek into the next episode.

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Hey everyone, welcome back to The Self-Driven Child Podcast! In this episode, I sit down with the incredibly insightful Wendy Wilkinson, a parent educator and admissions expert with decades of experience. Wendy shares her wisdom on how to find the right school for your child, navigating the complex world of school choices, and understanding what makes a good fit for different types of learners. Whether you're a parent feeling the pressure of school admissions or just curious about the process, this episode is packed with valuable insights and practical advice.

Episode Highlights:

[00:00] - Wendy discusses the initial reactions parents have when told their child may need extra support.

[00:40] - Introduction to the podcast and today’s topic on choosing the right school.

[01:47] - Welcoming Wendy Wilkinson and a brief overview of her impressive background.

[04:53] - Wendy shares her dream of helping families find the right school for each child.

[07:20] - Overcoming the challenges of school admissions and finding the right fit.

[10:56] - Exploring different types of schools and the importance of a tailored fit.

[13:19] - How to handle learning differences and finding supportive school environments.

[16:37] - Tips for parents on how to identify when a school change might be necessary.

[22:22] - The importance of involving children in school decisions.

[26:06] - Evaluating schools and understanding what makes a good fit.

[29:34] - Navigating the admissions process and understanding school selection criteria.

[37:57] - Advice for parents on filtering out noise and focusing on their child's unique needs.

[41:00] - Where to find Wendy and her team for personalized education consulting.

Links & Resources:

Connect with Wendy: https://www.schoolfirstnyc.com/

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If you have a high school aged student and would like to talk about putting a tutoring or college plan together, reach out to Ned's company, PrepMatters at www.prepmatters.com

Welcome back to the Self Driven Child Podcast! In this episode, we're continuing our incredible conversation with Kaity Broadbent, head of learning at Prenda. Kaity's insights into creating nurturing learning environments are game-changing, and in this second part, we dive even deeper. We discuss the importance of relatedness, competence, and autonomy in child development and how these principles can transform both home and school settings. Kaity's passion and wisdom are truly inspiring—this is an episode you don't want to miss!

Kaity shares profound stories and practical strategies for parents and educators to foster a supportive environment where children can thrive. We explore the impact of adult-child relationships on brain development, the power of empathy, and the importance of giving kids autonomy.

Episode Highlights:

[00:00] - Introduction to the episode and recap of Part 1 with Kaity Broadbent.

[00:55] - Kaity shares an analogy about creating nurturing environments for children.

[02:25] - The impact of unconditional positive regard on children's brain development.

[06:31] - Kaity's unique exercise with educators to highlight the importance of empathy and positive reinforcement.

[08:53] - Discussion on common but ineffective methods used to motivate children.

[10:03] - The role of stress and how it affects children's learning and behavior.

[12:57] - How comparing children to others and using rewards/punishments can backfire.

[16:26] - Strategies for parents to help their children navigate less supportive learning environments.

[18:23] - The significance of having at least one caring adult in a child's life.

[20:50] - Kaity's personal story about the importance of merit-based approval and its effects.

[24:01] - The difference between common and normal behavior in children and how to support them.

[29:58] - Where to follow Kaity Broadbent and learn more about Prenda.

Links & Resources:

Prenda Micro-Schools: https://www.prenda.com/

Social Media: @PrendaLearn

KindlED Podcast: https://www.prenda.com/kindled

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If you have a high school aged student and would like to talk about putting a tutoring or college plan together, reach out to Ned's company, PrepMatters at www.prepmatters.com

Today, I'm thrilled to have Kaity Broadbent, an extraordinary educator and parent, joining us. Kaity is the head of learning at Prenda, an organization dedicated to creating micro-schools that empower students and parents alike. In this episode, we dive into Kaity's unique approach to education, the psychology of motivation, and the incredible benefits of mastery-based learning.

Join us as we discuss how to transform the traditional learning environment into one that fosters autonomy, intrinsic motivation, and lifelong learning. Kaity shares her insights on the importance of relatedness, competency, and autonomy in education, and how Prenda’s micro-schools are revolutionizing the way kids learn. This conversation is packed with valuable takeaways for parents, educators, and anyone interested in the future of education. Don't miss out on part 2 of our conversation in the next episode!

Episode Highlights:

[00:30] - Introduction to Kaity Broadbent and Prenda’s mission.

[02:02] - Kaity's journey into homeschooling and micro-schools.

[04:33] - What is a micro-school and how does Prenda support student-centered learning?

[06:42] - The challenge of traditional classroom settings and the importance of individualized learning.

[07:59] - Explaining the "zone of proximal development" and its role in mastery-based education.

[10:03] - Real-life example of a student's excitement in mastering math through self-set goals.

[12:19] - Integrating self-determination theory into education: competence, relatedness, and autonomy.

[18:36] - The power of positive language and autonomy-supportive teaching methods.

[22:23] - The difference between controlling students and fostering self-governance.

[25:15] - Building trust and positive relationships with students and the impact on long-term influence.

Links & Resources:

Prenda Micro-Schools: https://www.prenda.com/
Social Media: @PrendaLearn
KindlED Podcast: https://www.prenda.com/kindled

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If you have a high school aged student and would like to talk about putting a tutoring or college plan together, reach out to Ned's company, PrepMatters at www.prepmatters.com

In today's episode, we explore the complexities of an issue that's close to the hearts of parents, teachers, and students alike—college readiness. Alongside my friend and co-author Bill Stixrud, we discuss the crucial aspects that determine whether a high-school student is truly ready to take on the challenges of college life. We start by questioning the common rush towards college right after high school, bringing to light the concerning rates of dropout and burnout among college freshmen. Our conversation covers effective strategies for assessing and enhancing readiness, emphasizing the importance of emotional resilience and maturity over mere academic preparation. Listen in to gain insights into making the transition to college successful and sustainable.

Episode Highlights:
[2:26] College readiness and mental health challenges among students.
[7:05] College readiness, stress tolerance, and emotional resilience.
[12:21] Prioritizing life skills over academic achievement.
[14:40] College readiness and the importance of self-care for students.
[19:53] Importance of sleep for adolescent brain development and academic success.
[24:29] Executive functions, self-evaluation, and stress management in adolescents.
[30:10] Stress management and self-care for high-achieving students.
[35:08] College preparation and stress management for high school students.


Links & Resources:
Visit SelfDrivenChild.com for more resources on developing autonomy and resilience in children.
For further insights into college readiness and effective stress management strategies, check out the books “The Self-Driven Child” and “What Do You Say?” by Ned Johnson and Bill Stixrud.

If today's discussion resonated with you, consider exploring our books and resources to better prepare for the college journey ahead. Remember to rate, follow, share, and review our podcast if you find our content valuable. Here's to nurturing a self-driven and resilient next generation!

If you have a high school aged student and would like to talk about putting a tutoring or college plan together, reach out to Ned's company, PrepMatters at www.prepmatters.com

In this episode of the Self-Driven Child Podcast, we're discussing the ever-tumultuous world of college admissions with special guest Jeff Selingo, a seasoned expert and author who's spent over two decades exploring higher education. We’ll dissect the complexities of the admissions process, the heightened stress it causes students and parents alike, and ponder the crucial question: can anything be done to alleviate this pressure? Join us as we navigate through Jeff’s latest insights and offer a fresh perspective on making the journey to college less daunting.

Episode Highlights:
[02:41] - Jeff shatters any illusions of an improved admissions scene.
[03:16] - Reflecting on the evolution of early decision strategies.
[04:49] - How large universities and early action plans are complicating the admissions narrative.
[06:19] - Unraveling the strategy game behind early admissions.
[09:04] - Discussing the broader implications of the admissions calendar shift.
[13:20] - Commercial dynamics of college admissions and the priority list of institutions.
[15:43] - The quest for diversity in admissions post-affirmative action.
[17:35] - Examining the emotional and mental toll of the admissions process.
[19:04] - How colleges desire for a vast applicant pool.
[21:56] - Encouraging students to broaden their college search.
[23:30] - Debunking the myth of the “perfect applicant”.
[26:05] - Exploring alternative narratives and pathways.
[26:59] - The contradiction of the college application.
[29:25] - Big fish, small pond.
[32:58] - The lottery winner’s pressure.
[37:38] - The cycle of the same few colleges.
[40:13] - Advice to kids in the search and application process.


Links & Resources:
•Jeff Selingo’s past guest episode on The Self Driven Child: Episode 4: Who Gets In and Why with Jeff Selingo
•Jeff Selingo’s Books: Dive deeper into the world of college admissions and student success with Jeff’s insightful publications. https://jeffselingo.com/
•Jeff Selingo’s New York Magazine Article: Inside the Craziest College-Admissions Season Ever

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