Episodes

  • Our Story of Polarity: A Day in the Life Look at Embracing Masculine and Feminine Energies

    Our Story of Polarity: A Day in the Life Look at Embracing Masculine and Feminine Energies
    Jan 8 2026

    If you want more passion, polarity, and “juiciness” in your relationship, this episode is a real behind-the-scenes look at how masculine and feminine energies actually work in daily life.

    Many couples lose sexual charge not because something is “wrong,” but because their connection becomes neutralized over time. When the masculine and feminine poles aren’t consciously tended, relationships can start to feel stale, flat, or disconnected even when you’re doing all the “right” things.

    In this episode of the Together Podcast, Mike & Courtney unpack masculine essence and feminine essence (Shiva and Shakti), how to discover your authentic balance on the spectrum, and how to consciously choose polarity so intimacy stays alive.

    They share a personal story from their holiday season, how sickness and “mission mode” shifted their dynamic, and the exact moment they restored connection by flipping the polarity with presence, emotional truth, and nervous-system safety.


    ✨ In this episode:

    • What masculine & feminine energy really means (beyond gender)

    • How to find your authentic balance (not your coping strategy)

    • Why things get “stale” and how to bring the charge back

    • Shiva/Shakti, banks/river, bowl/water: simple metaphors that click

    • The #1 thing that kills polarity (and how to avoid it)

    📍 Chapters:

    00:00 Introduction to The Together Podcast

    00:51 Understanding Polarity: Masculine and Feminine Energies

    03:13 Personal Stories: Navigating Polarity in Daily Life

    07:31 Reconnecting Through Vulnerability

    22:43 Defining Masculine and Feminine Essence

    30:37 Creative Chaos in the Kitchen

    31:23 Understanding Masculine and Feminine Rhythms

    32:39 Exploring Gender and Essence

    36:07 Balancing Masculine and Feminine Energies

    40:05 Conscious Polarity in Relationships

    48:51 Practical Applications of Polarity

    54:52 The Number One Killer of Polarity

    57:11 Free Offer and Final Thoughts


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  • Beyond the Ordinary: How Sacred Relationships Redefine Modern Love

    Beyond the Ordinary: How Sacred Relationships Redefine Modern Love
    Jan 6 2026

    If you’ve outgrown conventional relationship advice and are craving a deeper, more conscious way of loving, this episode is for you.In a world that emphasizes hyper-independence, self-healing, and “doing your own work,” many couples feel confused about how to actually grow together. Sacred relationship offers a radically different paradigm—one where love becomes a living practice of mutual evolution, nervous system maturity, and devotion to the shared space between two people.


    In this foundational episode, Mike & Courtney explore how sacred relationship redefines modern love by moving beyond unconscious patterns, codependence myths, and purely individual growth. They share personal stories from their own marriage, the mentors who shaped their journey, and why thriving relationships require radical sovereignty AND deep togetherness.

    This conversation is an invitation into a more mature, embodied form of love—one that creates not just stability, but vitality, coherence, and real transformation for both partners.


    ✨ In this episode:

    • What sacred relationship actually is (and what it’s not)

    • Why hyper-independence weakens intimacy

    • The difference between individual healing and relational mastery

    • Why couples need support from people living this work

    • How the “Sacred We” becomes a third, guiding intelligence

    • Why relationship can be an accelerated path of awakening

    Chapters:

    00:00 Introduction and Welcome

    00:14 Defining Sacred Relationship

    01:42 The Journey of Self-Love and Togetherness

    04:13 Challenges and Growth in Relationships

    07:23 The Role of Therapists and Guides

    09:16 Personal Development vs. Relational Skills

    12:36 The Importance of Relational Support

    17:24 The We Space and Mutual Growth

    29:57 The Role of Adaptive Child in Relationships

    30:23 Understanding the Adaptive Child

    30:43 The Role of the Wise Adult

    32:31 The Power of Sacred Relationships

    35:17 The Importance of Supportive Circles

    39:45 Navigating Triggers and Growth

    43:18 The Impact of Sacred Relationship Coaching

    48:54 Reflecting on Your Support System

    50:02 Invitation to Sacred Relationship

    57:50 Final Thoughts and Encouragement

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  • Frustrated with an avoidant partner who pulls away? Understand why and how to invite real connection

    Frustrated with an avoidant partner who pulls away? Understand why and how to invite real connection
    Dec 24 2025
    Are you frustrated with an avoidant partner who pulls away just when you’re trying to connect?In this deeply personal solo episode, Courtney Wren explores avoidant attachment, emotional withdrawal, and why pushing for connection often creates more distance instead of intimacy. Many people in conscious relationships feel lonely, unseen, or blamed for “needing too much” when their partner shuts down — but what’s actually happening underneath avoidance is far more complex.Courtney unpacks how avoidant attachment forms through emotional neglect, why avoidant partners often feel “fine” while the relationship suffers, and how nervous system regulation plays a critical role in intimacy. She shares real stories from her relationship with Mike, practical examples of what not to do, and powerful ways to invite connection without overwhelming, shaming, or chasing your partner.This episode is especially for those asking:Why do I feel like I’m doing all the work?How do I stop pushing and still stay true to myself?Is it possible to heal avoidance together?✨ In this episode:Why avoidance isn’t a choice — and why it feels safer than connectionThe difference between healthy space and relational withdrawalHow shame blocks avoidant partners from knowing what they feelWhat actually invites an avoidant partner back into connectionHow to stop repeating childhood attachment wounds in adult loveWhy meeting avoidance with compassion creates real change🎁 Free Gift: Leave a 5-star review, screenshot it, and send it to https://www.sacredrelating.com/together-podcast-gift to receive our Guided Journal Practice: Coming Home to Clarity.🌱 Join the Together Community → https://www.sacredrelating.com/⁠ 💛 Work with Mike & Courtney 2:2 → https://www.sacredrelating.com/sacred-relating-couplesWork with Mike → https://www.itsmikeelliott.com/coachingWork with Courtney → https://www.courtneywren.com/rebirth📺Subscribe to our YouTube Channel → https://www.youtube.com/@thetogetherpodcast🏹Join the Initiated Man Waitlist→ https://www.itsmikeelliott.com/initiated-man-waitlist💎 Join the Waitlist for The Holy Mama Membership →https://www.courtneywren.com/holymamawaitlistDonation link 👇🙏🏼❤️🌏⁠https://www.paypal.com/donate/?hosted_button_id=VWHABJWZ749X4⁠Email:⁠⁠transform@itsmikeelliott.com⁠⁠⁠relating@courtneywren.com⁠Website:⁠⁠www.itsmikeelliott.com⁠⁠www.sacredrelaring.comwww.courtneywren.comInstagram:@MikeElliott.Relating@courtneywren.sacredrelatingMINDFULMEDS MUSHROOM PRODUCTShttps://mindfulmeds.io/THE SKIN DEEP CARDS: ⁠https://shop.theskindeep.com/collections/all⁠Promo Code: Together15
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  • Why So Many Women Are Exhausted And What They Actually Need

    Why So Many Women Are Exhausted And What They Actually Need
    Dec 12 2025
    Burnout, mental load, resentment, feminine essence, masculine presence—why so many women feel unseen (and how couples reconnect fast).There are so many women and mothers today who are wrung out—tired, irritable, overburdened, underappreciated, and quietly nearing the point of giving up. And there are so many partners who are trying, yet still feeling “never enough.”In this episode, I’m your brother and ally. I break down why women burn out, how the mental and emotional load silently stacks over time, and why so many couples get trapped in misattunement—loving each other in ways that don’t land.We cover:Why burnout + resentment builds (and what’s actually underneath it)The “mental load” problem and why it’s so invisibleThe myth of “masculine vs feminine” (and a clearer model of essence)What feminine essence needs to feel seen, met, and openWhat masculine essence needs to feel valued, trusted, and motivatedPractical ways to shift the dynamic so love finally landsChapters:00:00 – Why So Many Women Are Burnt Out06:45 – The Hidden Mental & Emotional Load Women Carry15:20 – When Men Are Trying but Still Missing the Mark22:40 – How Divorce Initiated Me Into This Work30:10 – The Myth of Masculine & Feminine Energy38:30 – Understanding Essence Beyond Gender50:15 – What Feminine Essence Actually Needs57:40 – Why Appreciation for Tasks Doesn’t Land1:06:20 – What Masculine Essence Needs to Thrive1:15:10 – How Polarity Restores Connection & Desire1:26:30 – Practical Tools to Meet Each Other Differently1:38:00 – Repair, Receivership & Moving Forward TogetherIf you’re a woman feeling unseen, this gives language to what’s been happening inside you.If you’re a man who wants to meet your woman better, this gives you a practical orientation and tools that change everything.If this hits home, share it with your partner and leave a 5-star review—this work deserves to reach more couples🎁 Free Gift: Leave a 5-star review, screenshot it, and send it to https://www.sacredrelating.com/together-podcast-gift to receive our Guided Journal Practice: Coming Home to Clarity.🌱 Join the Together Community → https://www.sacredrelating.com/⁠ 💛 Work with Mike & Courtney 2:2 → https://www.sacredrelating.com/sacred-relating-couplesWork with Mike → https://www.itsmikeelliott.com/coachingWork with Courtney → https://www.courtneywren.com/rebirth📺Subscribe to our YouTube Channel → https://www.youtube.com/@thetogetherpodcast🏹Join the Initiated Man Waitlist→ https://www.itsmikeelliott.com/initiated-man-waitlist💎 Join the Waitlist for The Holy Mama Membership →https://www.courtneywren.com/holymamawaitlistDonation link 👇🙏🏼❤️🌏⁠https://www.paypal.com/donate/?hosted_button_id=VWHABJWZ749X4⁠Email:⁠⁠transform@itsmikeelliott.com⁠⁠⁠relating@courtneywren.com⁠Website:⁠⁠www.itsmikeelliott.com⁠⁠www.sacredrelaring.comwww.courtneywren.comInstagram:@MikeElliott.Relating@courtneywren.sacredrelatingTHE SKIN DEEP CARDS: ⁠https://shop.theskindeep.com/collections/all⁠Promo Code: Together15
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    54 mins
  • Conscious Cock:Soft, Slow, Sacred

    Conscious Cock:Soft, Slow, Sacred
    Dec 4 2025
    This is not a conversation about sex — it’s a conversation about awakening.In this episode, we sit down with Emily and Rob for one of the most honest, soul-rattling explorations of sexuality, shame, intimacy, and true erotic awakening.We uncover:What parasympathetic / yin sex really isHow to move from friction-based sex to regenerative lovemakingThe meaning of “conscious cock” and why soft penetration can create more pleasureWhy women feel numb — and how to reawaken the cervix, womb, and erotic systemHow men can dissolve shame, pressure, performance anxiety, and inherited porn conditioningHow to reconnect cock + heartHow betrayal can become an initiation into deeper intimacyWhy receiving is the hardest — and most transformative — practice for menHow couples can build a relationship where sex is emotional, spiritual, and deeply connectiveWhether you’re a man, woman, or couple, this episode will change the way you see intimacy forever.Chapters00:00 – Why Most Couples Never Reach True Intimacy06:15 – Conscious Cock: What It Really Means12:40 – Unconscious Taking vs. Sacred Penetration20:14 – Betrayal as the Sexual Initiation27:50 – Parasympathetic Sex: Soft, Slow, Sacred37:10 – The Masculine Initiation: Receiving Without Performing46:40 – Yin Sex, Heart Orgasms & Regenerative LovemakingFind Emily online: Website: http://www.maiden-medicine.com/Instagram: @maidenmedicine🎁 Free Gift: Leave a 5-star review, screenshot it, and send it to https://www.sacredrelating.com/together-podcast-gift to receive our Guided Journal Practice: Coming Home to Clarity.🌱 Join the Together Community → https://www.sacredrelating.com/⁠ 💛 Work with Mike & Courtney 2:2 → https://www.sacredrelating.com/sacred-relating-couplesWork with Mike → https://www.itsmikeelliott.com/coachingWork with Courtney → https://www.courtneywren.com/rebirth📺Subscribe to our YouTube Channel → https://www.youtube.com/@thetogetherpodcast🏹Join the Initiated Man Waitlist→ https://www.itsmikeelliott.com/initiated-man-waitlist💎 Join the Waitlist for The Holy Mama Membership →https://www.courtneywren.com/holymamawaitlistDonation link 👇🙏🏼❤️🌏⁠https://www.paypal.com/donate/?hosted_button_id=VWHABJWZ749X4⁠Email:⁠⁠transform@itsmikeelliott.com⁠⁠⁠relating@courtneywren.com⁠Website:⁠⁠www.itsmikeelliott.com⁠⁠www.sacredrelaring.comwww.courtneywren.comInstagram:@MikeElliott.Relating@courtneywren.sacredrelatingTHE SKIN DEEP CARDS: ⁠https://shop.theskindeep.com/collections/all⁠Promo Code: Together15
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    1 hr and 14 mins
  • How to Know When to Leave Your Relationship

    How to Know When to Leave Your Relationship
    Nov 29 2025

    If you’ve been feeling confused, disconnected, or stuck in the “should I stay or should I go?” loop, this is one of the most important relationship episodes you’ll ever hear. Millions of people search for clarity around leaving a relationship because unresolved uncertainty creates emotional distress, nervous system dysregulation, and a chronic sense of instability in the bond. In conscious partnership, clarity, commitment, emotional safety, and direction are essential for healthy attachment, secure love, and real connection.

    In this powerful episode, Mike & Courtney guide you through the psychology behind feeling half-in/half-out, why this state quietly destroys relationships, how to identify deal-breakers, and how to know whether your partnership is meant to evolve or dissolve. They also share deeply personal stories about their past relationships, trauma patterns, attachment wounds, and what mature love looks like when clarity finally arrives.


    🌿 In this episode, you’ll learn:

    • Why “one foot in, one foot out” is emotionally and physically damaging

    • The difference between discomfort and real deal-breakers

    • How to find clarity when you’re terrified of choosing

    • Why honesty (with self and partner) is the key to maturity

    • What sacred devotion looks like—even when the relationship must end

    • How to exit with love instead of drama

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    58 mins
  • How Your Day-to-Day Is Chipping Away at Your Connection: From Feeling Taken for Granted to Tackling Life Together

    How Your Day-to-Day Is Chipping Away at Your Connection: From Feeling Taken for Granted to Tackling Life Together
    Nov 20 2025

    If you’ve been craving deeper connection, emotional intimacy, or more support in your relationship, this episode is for you. Most couples don’t disconnect because of big fights—they drift because of the everyday, unconscious habits that slowly erode closeness. From frustrations about chores to mismatched rhythms, unspoken expectations, and stress in your nervous system, the day-to-day can quietly chip away at even the strongest relationships.

    In this powerful and relatable episode, Mike and Courtney break down how to rebuild connection, improve communication, and strengthen emotional safety in conscious partnership. They explore masculine and feminine dynamics, relationship repair, appreciation practices, and how to shift from resentment to teamwork.

    You’ll learn simple, practical tools for sacred relationship, couples connection, and creating a healthy daily rhythm where both partners feel seen, supported, and valued.

    🌿 In this episode, you’ll learn:

    • Why the “little things” create big disconnections

    • How to talk about frustration without blame

    • The 3 keys for staying connected: talk about it, take initiative, practice appreciation

    • How structure and flow create harmony

    • A nervous-system-based approach to reconnecting in the daily grind

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    1 hr and 13 mins
  • When Your Partner Won't Change - From Confusion to Clarity

    When Your Partner Won't Change - From Confusion to Clarity
    Nov 13 2025

    What do you do when your partner just won’t change?You’ve done the work, communicated your needs, practiced patience—and it’s still not shifting.

    In this heart-opening episode, Mike & Courtney dive into one of the most common questions couples face:

    “What if I’m evolving and my partner isn’t?”

    They reveal the hidden dynamics underneath this frustration—why we try to change others, what “counterwill” really is, and how to find your own clarity instead of waiting for someone else’s.

    🌿 You’ll learn:

    • Why “trying to change your partner” always backfires

    • The real reason your partner resists transformation

    • How to move from control to curiosity

    • The link between self-abandonment and resentment

    • How to know when to accept, stay, or lovingly let go

    • A powerful journal prompt to reconnect to your truth

    📍 Chapters:

    00:00 Introduction to Sacred Relationships

    01:00 When Your Partner Won’t Change

    03:00 The Confusion Crossroad: Stay or Go?

    06:00 Love, Conditions, and Acceptance

    10:00 Real Stories of Growth and Boundaries

    15:00 The Power of Bringing Truth to the Table

    22:00 Trying to Change vs. True Relating

    27:00 Counterwill: Why Pressure Doesn’t Work

    31:00 Facing Your Own Fear of Change

    36:00 Teaching Your Partner How to Love You

    42:00 Taking the First Step—Without a Guarantee

    48:00 Acceptance vs. Dealbreakers

    52:00 From Codependence to Self-Love

    58:00 Journal Prompt + Together Community Invitation


    🎁 Free Gift: Leave a 5-star review, screenshot it, and send it to https://www.sacredrelating.com/together-podcast-gift to receive our Guided Journal Practice: Coming Home to Clarity.

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    www.courtneywren.com

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    @MikeElliott.Relating

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    Promo Code: Together15
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    1 hr and 2 mins
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