David & Sherie talk about the challenge of having extreme beliefs about recovery and relationship frustrations, and how to avoid that. This includes misusing words like narcissism, abuse, boundaries, or safety. Using these words out of context to justify control or ever greater boundaries is not going to be helpful to either recovery, or relationships.

David & Sherie finish talking about addiction recovery and specifically how to be more focused doing recovery when struggling with ADHD or ADD, We then summarize so you have a simple, bigger picture perspective about how to do recovery if also struggling with ADHD. As a summary, these things are important:

• Incorporate treatment for both ADHD and addiction
• Keep recovery conversations shorter and more frequent
• Using lists and visual aid or reminders
• Clear structure with flexibility
• Good medication management
• Adapt mindfulness practices

David & Sherie continue talking about addiction recovery and specifically how to be more focused doing recovery when struggling with ADHD or ADD, What things will help, and what is different? Listen to learn more!

David & Sherie talk about addiction recovery and what is different and how to recover more effectively when struggling with ADHD or ADD, something we see a lot of in our offices. If you suspect you or your partner may struggle with this, these episodes will really be helpful!

Sherie does a body scan mindfulness meditation in this week's episode. Prepare to relax and listen to what she shares and we hope you enjoy it time and time again!

David & Sherie talk about FANOS, which is an acronym and a way for couples to check in daily and stay close and connected. It's especially helpful when overcoming addiction and creates accountability and honesty. It stands for Feelings, Affirmation, Needs, Ownership, and Sobriety or Spirituality. We go into detail on these and help you to know how to do it going forward.

David & Sherie talk about some very basic principles every couple should use, and can solve 95% of your relationship issues. From John Gottman, these skills include:

1. Express feelings using “I” statements

2. Use a softened start up

3. Stay Calm and Regulate Emotions

4. Turn Towards and Make and Keep Bids for Connection

5. Practice Repair Attempts

6. Accept Influence

David & Sherie finish talking about desires and our role in changing desires to better match the life we want to live. We want to move from knowing a thing to wanting a thing to loving a thing, and we talk about the final steps to do this. Here are all the steps in the process and the bold ones are covered in this episode:

1. Understand what virtue really is
2. Strengthen Your Why & Define your Purpose
3. Genuinely pursue loving virtue with energy, vigor, and effort!
4. Create experiences of loving virtue in triggering situations through visualizing
5. See Others as Souls, Not Objects
6. Shift from Suppression or avoidance to Acceptance and Substitution
7. Expect Struggles, But Keep Going
8. Spiritual Practices