Episodes

  • Should I Tone Down My Personality To Attract More Dates? ft. Emma Willmann

    Should I Tone Down My Personality To Attract More Dates? ft. Emma Willmann
    May 26 2024
    This week’s Sunday Special delves into boundaries, appropriateness, and x, but first, J&J are catching up with Emma Willmann (@emmawillmann). The conversation from Emma’s last time on the pod gets a quick update with where it continued with a sex therapist on Emma’s podcast, Ask Men Anything. Then, Jared needs the insight of women he knows for his latest TikTok finds. Next, a male listener thinks his personality is to blame for his lack of dating life. He’s friendly and chatty, but the consensus of his friend group is that these characteristics could be “gay-coded,” so is the solution to become closed off? The episode ends with a “Petty or Prudent?” about a breakup reaction after our listener comes out to her boyfriend as queer, but it’s not the reaction to her sexuality that she’s concerned about. Jared, Jordana and Emma add some extra layers of perspective she may be looking past. Listen to our last episode with Emma, "Was This A Red Flag Or Is My Internalized Homophobia Showing?" from February 21. Listen to Emma's follow-up conversation on Ask Men Anything, "Asking Dr. Justin Lehmiller Anything" from February 27. https://youtu.be/AMPqjOcuAg8 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
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    54 mins
  • The Curse Of The Cool Girl

    The Curse Of The Cool Girl
    May 22 2024
    This week, J&J are finding the balance in a few debates, from ideal thermostat temps to awkward callouts. The first email asks if there’s a limit to how much an ex is brought up during a date. Jared and Jordana don’t initially agree and weigh both sides of the conversation. Next, in a segment sponsored by Netflix, they get a “Friends-To-Lovers” story submission that's out to motivate other listeners to make a move. The second advice email is looking for the line between going for what you want and seeing what the person you’re dating is willing to do. There could be truth to “If he wanted to, he would,” but doesn’t that go both ways? The episode ends with a “Red Flag or Deal Breaker” about being overly communicative, being put in an awkward situation pre-date, and disagreeing about the best sex you’ve ever had. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
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    1 hr and 10 mins
  • Why Being Mad About A Wasted Relationship Isn’t Helping You

    Why Being Mad About A Wasted Relationship Isn’t Helping You
    May 19 2024
    J&J are jumping right into this week’s Sunday Special, kicking off with an “Icky or Picky?” about a delayed Hinge response. Our listener’s match explained that he took so long to get back to her because he only likes to focus on one match at a time, but she can’t decide if it’s unfair of her to be put off or if that was indeed too much too soon. Then, they get an email from a listener struggling to forgive herself for giving her ex a second chance despite problematic circumstances. J&J discuss who she's really mad at and what needs to change so she can move on in peace. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
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    27 mins
  • A Friends-To-Lovers Story Gone Wrong

    A Friends-To-Lovers Story Gone Wrong
    May 15 2024
    We’re talking guilty pleasure shows, that time Jared almost experienced death by pizza bite, and wedding planning ahead of jumping into the episode. Our first email comes from a listener dreading an upcoming wedding knowing they’ll be single, without a plus one, and only know two other guests on an acquaintance level. Then, we receive a “Friends-To-Lovers” story submission in a segment sponsored by Netflix, and this one takes a turn. The second advice email comes from a gay listener in his late 30s looking for long-term love and frequently finding short-term romance. He’s been quick to cut things off once he realized he and his dates weren’t looking for the same thing, but is he missing out on great experiences by doing so? The episode ends with a “Red Flag or Deal Breaker” about sleep farts, childhood homes, and splitting the check. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
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    1 hr and 4 mins
  • My Husband's Ex Is Being Petty. Can I Be Pettier?

    My Husband's Ex Is Being Petty. Can I Be Pettier?
    May 12 2024
    This episode is all about communication and honesty, but it’s not addressed in the usual way. First, Jordana fondly remembers her go-to first date question that she’s no longer allowed to ask. It may have ruffled feathers and ruined a friend’s date, but it gave her all she needed to know to engage with someone early on. Then, J&J play a round of “Petty or Prudent?” about a listener’s reaction to her husband’s ex. Our listener was fine with a filmmaker ex keeping in touch with her husband until his ex made a film about “the ups and downs of ‘young love’” based on their former relationship. She confronted her about the film and, when the ex claimed it was more about love in general, she asked for tickets. Her friends are egging her on to attend, but would that be petty? Next, we hear from a 35-year-old woman struggling with the men she’s meeting on the apps. She finds them all so…boring. She asks J&J a series of questions to adjust her approach (i.e. Should she lessen her expectations? Are these incompatibilities a deal breaker?), but they feel like she’s sidestepping an obvious factor in her problem. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
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    48 mins
  • Can I Turn My Friend-To-Lover Back Into A Friend?

    Can I Turn My Friend-To-Lover Back Into A Friend?
    May 8 2024
    Something’s comiiinnnnggggg – before we dive into the first email, Jared and Jordana have an announcement (spoiler: it has to do with Fra)! Then, the first email comes from a 32-year-old listener in LA with a common issue. She’s going on dates and they’re fine, but she doesn’t really care to push further. Where’s the lapse in connection, and is it safe to assume it must be coming from her end? J&J start at the crux of her dating issues and, like many of us, it has to do with an old situationship. The Awkward Encounter drove one listener to commit to cutting off her ex for good. Next, we get into our first “Friends to Lovers” submission in a new segment sponsored by Netflix. In anticipation of Bridgerton season 3, listeners are filling us in on how their own “friends to lovers” scenarios played out. The episode ends with a “Red Flag or Deal Breaker?” about voice messages, forgetting a first date, and date-crashing friends. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
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    1 hr and 8 mins
  • Why The “When You Know, You Know” Spark Might Be Missing ft. Matthew Hussey

    Why The “When You Know, You Know” Spark Might Be Missing ft. Matthew Hussey
    May 5 2024
    This Sunday Special, we’re taking notes from a professional! J&J are joined by Matthew Hussey (@thematthewhussey), a life coach and best-selling author with nearly 20 years of work elevating lives and relationships. We start with what Matthew came to terms with in the modern dating climate as his career evolved, then J&J get him to delve into how his own love life developed over time and the long-distance relationship that led him to say "I do" last year. His wife Audrey enters the chat to give her POV about their early stages and the surprising text she sent that drove him to make a decision. Plus, he answers listener questions sent in from Instagram, talks about raising your standards, and the importance of communication. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
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    1 hr and 14 mins
  • Could A 'Certified Lover Boy' Ever Commit?

    Could A 'Certified Lover Boy' Ever Commit?
    May 1 2024
    Is it petty or prudent to use your life experiences with others in your life’s work? What if you’re one of the biggest pop stars in the world? Before dissecting listener emails, J&J dish first thoughts on Taylor Swift’s new album, “The Tortured Poets Department.” The first email comes from a listener disputing her latest breakup after her ex questioned whether they truly had long-term compatibility. To her, you have to invest in a relationship first in order to build compatibility, so she leaves it up to J&J to chime in and decide. The Awkward Encounter gave us all the ick. Then, the next email is from a listener who can’t decide if she should follow her heart or the advice of her loved ones. She’s seeing a friend of a famous rapper who flies her out and makes her feel special, but her family disapproves and wants her to come down from cloud nine. Is there a chance for something real to blossom with a lifestyle like his? The episode ends with a “Red Flag or Deal Breaker?” about picky eaters, invasive date questions, and threatening to break up after an argument. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
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    1 hr and 17 mins