Will this be my last episode? What the heck am I doing with my life, if not uploading episodes? 

I'm baaaaack! But only kind of? Tune in for a quick life update and for what you can expect from me in future episodes. 

Also, learn the history behind the podcast name - its a doozy.

Follow the pod on Instagram at uncovering_podcast. Let's chat over there!

CONTENT WARNING: descriptions of domestic violence and sexual assault.

Welcome to the season one finale! In this episode, I enlist the help of my parents and Gena to recount:

• The day I left J, and went to live safely with my parents. 
• J’s mom came over (the day after I left) to talk to me.
• I try to figure out what I want, and I decide I want a divorce.
• I retrieve my belongings (my family comes along so I’m not alone).   
• J continues to stalk me. 
• I petition for a Restraining Order.
• I moved to another state entirely, and Josh followed me there.
• What happens now? Tune in to listen.

Music by RoboRob

Artwork by Asif Ulislam

Resources: 

National Domestic Violence Hotline: 800-799-7233

Learn more about Domestic Violence and Sexual Assault: 

• https://metoomvmt.org/
• https://www.nsvrc.org/
• https://ncadv.org/why-do-victims-stay

Let's take a much needed break, and shoot the shit with Paul! We reflect on our friendship, Mario Kart, chocolate and gelato, Paul's matchmaking influence on my current healthy relationship; but also we get back on track and talk about his observations and our friendship while I healed from DV.

Music by RoboRob

Artwork by Asif Ulislam

Resources: 

National Domestic Violence Hotline: 800-799-7233

Learn more about Domestic Violence and Sexual Assault: 

• https://metoomvmt.org/
• https://www.nsvrc.org/
• https://ncadv.org/why-do-victims-stay

CONTENT WARNING: descriptions of domestic violence and sexual assault.

J and I moved to Bellingham, and as I began finding my voice and confidence, he increased his controlling and abusive behaviors. I have so much to say about this time period! Join me, my mom, and introducing: GENA!!!

Music by RoboRob

Artwork by Asif Ulislam

Resources: 

National Domestic Violence Hotline: 800-799-7233

Learn more about Domestic Violence and Sexual Assault: 

• https://metoomvmt.org/
• https://www.nsvrc.org/
• https://ncadv.org/why-do-victims-stay

CONTENT WARNING: descriptions of domestic violence and sexual assault.

The yellow and red flags continue! My parents and I recount the wedding day and year one of marriage. We'll dive into several incidents from this timeframe when J: 

• Isolated me from my family
• Began sexually assaulting me
• Controlled what and how much food I ate
• Started trying to control what I wore
•  Inflicted spiritual abuse
• Acted out in extreme jealousy
• Displayed physical intimidation 

I must reiterate my content warning. Please exercise self-awareness, and skip this (or any) episode if you are not in a good place to hear about DV /SA. 

Music by RoboRob

Artwork by Asif Ulislam

Resources: 

National Domestic Violence Hotline: 800-799-7233

Learn more about Domestic Violence and Sexual Assault: 

• https://metoomvmt.org/
• https://www.nsvrc.org/
• https://ncadv.org/why-do-victims-stay

CONTENT WARNING: descriptions of domestic violence and sexual assault.

I bring on my parents again to help me spell out the “yellow flags” during the engagement time frame. I bring a couple red flags to the table from my one-on-one interactions with J. 

From strange religious evangelizing, to apathy for obtaining housing and a job, to the first incident of sexual assault/harassment; the engagement period has us scratching our heads, and leaves me wishing I could go back in time to break up and end all contact with J!

It's messy. Activate your empathy. 

Music by RoboRob 

Artwork by Asif Ulislam

Resources: 

National Domestic Violence Hotline: 800-799-7233

Learn more about Domestic Violence and Sexual Assault: 

• https://metoomvmt.org/
• https://www.nsvrc.org/
• https://ncadv.org/why-do-victims-stay

CONTENT WARNING: descriptions of domestic violence and sexual assault.
In this episode, I tell the story of how I met my now ex-husband. I also bring on my parents for their perspective; what did they think about J when they met him, and when I first started dating him? Spoiler: the red flags started early, not just a random incident “here and there,” but a pattern that even my parents noticed (and were increasingly annoyed by it). 

Can you guess where I got my coping mechanisms, shining personality, and sarcasm? While my parents and I don’t see eye to eye on everything in life, we have come together in a brilliant display of Anderson-family storytelling. Enjoy.

Also, please excuse my roaring heater which turned on in the middle of this episode. I decided it was fine, and kept talking. Would YOU want to re-record this shit? Didn’t think so. 

Resources: 

National Domestic Violence Hotline: 800-799-7233

Learn more about Domestic Violence and Sexual Assault: 

• https://metoomvmt.org/
• https://www.nsvrc.org/
• https://ncadv.org/why-do-victims-stay