What happens when we die?

From where we came - To where we go?

What exists beyond our "reality"?

There is an interconnection among these questions. 

They will be the subject of several posts. 

In this post, we will concentrate on what happens when we die.

What happens when we die?

And what happens when someone dear to us dies?

These questions seem to have the same answer. But the motivation behind them is different.

In the first one, we try to console ourselves about surviving after death.

In the second one, we are trying to deal with the sorrow and missing of a dear one.

Before I answer those questions, we have to be on the same page about some points.

What part of a person do we get used to or attached to?

And what part of us are we afraid to lose when we die?

The answer to both questions is what you consider "I" and "you".

The probable answer is "individuality". This "unique thing" makes one person feel separated from the others.

We can relate this individuality to the Ego and the personality (click here to see a post about that).

And we are so attached to that individuality...

The first time I reached a state of non-separation, it was amazing and frightening at the same time. I had no individuality anymore.

Where am I? 

Am I still existing? 

Where is that guy (me) who liked so many things and had many plans?

So, although it is possible to feel the divine essence, you usually get attached to the Ego.

Our fear of death is the fear of losing it. 

And our sorrow and longing are for that Ego of someone we don't have access to anymore.