In this episode we explore the concept of toxic positivity and to be honest... it rocks our world. We take a test to see if we are toxically positive, spoiler: we do real bad. We share a TED Talk that helped us understand how we can be there for the people we love without dismissing their feelings. Kelsey opens up about a recent tough experience and how those around her responded, and Kyla shares how ignoring her feelings for too long resulted in an ulcer.

We get uncomfy this episode learning new things and discovering areas where we fall short. We learn that emotions are data we can use to uncover our values, and that ignoring them will only make them louder. We cover the importance of leaning into the messiness of life so that we can experience the good stuff at full volume. A key moment: discomfort is the price of admission to a meaningful life — oh yeah, let that sink in. To summarize, we learn that having good vibes only isn’t really good after all.

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• Ep 09: How Do We Become More Resilient

• Toxic Positivity Test
• Ted Talk: The Gift and Power of Emotional Courage
• Unfuck Your Brain Podcast
• The Body Keeps The Score Book
• Brené Brown
• Non-violent Communication Book

• What is the Vagus Nerve
• More on the Vagus Nerve
• Vagal Tone Exercises
• Repressed Emotions
• Reptillian vs. Mammalian Brain
• “It’s Okay to Not be Okay” - Harvard Business Review