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Where the Road Bends

By: Steven Schlafman
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  • Where the Road Bends is a space to explore personal evolutions and life transitions. Join host Steve Schlafman as he interviews a diverse range of guests on their own stories of transformational change, as well as practitioners who study change and guide others through their own transitions. Tune in for thought-provoking conversations, practical advice and wisdom, and inspiration for your own journey of transformation. Whether you're longing for something new, going through a big change yourself, or simply curious about how people evolve, Where the Road Bends is exactly where you need to be.
    2023
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  • #008: Dr. Susan Campbell - From Triggered to Tranquil

    #008: Dr. Susan Campbell - From Triggered to Tranquil
    May 26 2023
    MAY 26  • 1 hour 15 minutes 35 secondsWTRB Episode #008: Dr. Susan Campbell: From Triggered to Tranquil — — — — —The eighth guest on WTRB is Dr. Susan Campbell, a former University of Massachusetts professor who left academia in 1967 to become a professional speaker and coach in the world of holistic psychological therapy. A certified Radical Honesty Trainer since 2001 and a pioneer of the Authentic Relating Movement, she has published ten books on relationships, transparent communication, conflict resolution and personal evolution.In this episode we covered:Susan’s transition from academia to private practice  How Authentic Relating fosters discovery of our true natureNavigating emotional pain, and learning to regulate our nervous systemUnderstanding and adapting personal control patternsTrigger Work: uncomfortable reactions as a catalyst to whole-makingUsing mindful awareness to alter old behavioral patternsDr. Campbell’s work addresses the core issues that require attention in order for couples and individuals to create deeply fulfilling, authentic relationships. In Campbell’s view, emotional pain itself is the doorway to deeper intimacy and expanded awareness. Her books, workshops, videos, newsletters and coaching classes teach practitioners to embody mindful witnessing of uncomfortable triggers in order to cultivate an empathetic wisdom that greatly enriches relations with self and others. — — — — — —Listen now on Apple, Spotify, Simplecast.To sign up for the newsletter and podcast visit https://www.wheretheroadbends.fm/—Where to find Steve Schlafman:• Website: https://www.schlaf.co/  • Twitter:  @Schlaf• Facebook: Steve Schlafman• LinkedIn: Steve Schlafman—Where to find information on Dr. Susan Campbell:• Website: www.SusanCampbell.comReferences:Getting Real: 10 True Skills You Need To Live An Authentic LifeFrom Triggered To TranquilFrom Chaos to ConfidenceFive-Minute Relationship RepairHead Start ProgramOffice of Economic OpportunityTime Stamps:(00:00) Dr. Susan Campbell Soundbite(00:18) Podcast Welcome(00:47) Introduction to Susan Campbell(02:14) Who is Dr. Susan Campbell? In Her Own Words(03:00) Developing Her Core Philosophy(04:26) Reacting to Resistance in The Corporate World(05:23) Shift from Academia to Couple and Family Therapy(08:08) What It was Like To Be A Woman in Academia in the Mid 60s(10:02) Wanting More Out of Life(11:27) A Season of Personal Discovery in California(13:28) The Authentic Relating Movement(15:13) Publishing Book “Getting Real”, Discovering The Movement(17:03) "10 Truth Practices" Example: Clearing The Air(19:09) Why People Might Withhold Important Information(21:11) The Great Need to Better Handle Emotional Pain(21:57) Self-Generated Stories Vs. Reality(23:48) Security/Control Mindset Vs. Learning/Discovery Mindset(26:59) Communication and The Unconscious Need For Control(29:21) Reparenting Ourselves: Learning How To Regulate Our Nervous System(31:25) Defining Personal Control Patterns in Communication(34:24) Practicing Non-Judgement When Observing Our Unhealthy Patterns(35:59) Being Aware of True Motivation When We Notice Ourselves In a Pattern(36:29) Trigger Reactions As Catalyst to Whole-Making(39:26) The Internet as a Modern Whole-Making Function For Humanity(41:22) Healing and Whole-Making: Peeling Away Defenses(42:06) Exploring "Trigger Work”(47:22) The Empathy and Tenderness of a Witness Mindset(49:23) Trigger Signature Exercise with Steve(57:35) Revealing What We’ve Discovered to Our Partners(60:26) Stumbling On The Path to Peaceful Articulation(61:04) Continuing Trigger Signature Exercise with Steve(62:37) Using Awareness to Alter Behavioral Patterns(64:04) Navigating Transition: Honoring Resistance to Change(69:20) Trigger Work In Relationships(72:49) How To Find Dr. Campbell’s Work(74:08) Podcast Outro—Stay curious and keep exploring the winding road of life.For inquiries about sponsoring the podcast go to wheretheroadbends.fm
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    1 hr and 16 mins
  • #007: Andy Johns - Healing from Childhood Trauma and Silicon Valley

    #007: Andy Johns - Healing from Childhood Trauma and Silicon Valley
    Apr 21 2023
    APRIL 22  • 1 hour 10 minutes 23 secondsWTRB Episode #007: Andy Johns: Healing from Childhood Trauma and Silicon Valley — — — — —The seventh guest on WTRB is Andy Johns, a recovering tech executive, founder of Clues.life, a prolific writer, and a passionate mental health advocate. After several health scares pushed him to finally confront deep psychological pain that stemmed from childhood trauma, Andy discovered a new approach to understanding his sense of self, life purpose and holistic well-being. This resulted in a career transformation that led him to leave Silicon Valley and embark on the mission to “help others heal from emotional pain, transform themselves, and discover their life purpose. Andy now aims to make Clues.life "the most useful mental health library on the internet." It aggregates and curates humanity's most important knowledge and wisdom regarding the human mind and human condition. Motivated by his own personal healing journey, Andy’s goal is to assist others by reducing stigma surrounding the subject of mental health, and demystify topics in an arena that many may have previously found unapproachable.Before his transformation, Andy was a Silicon Valley startup veteran, holding executive, product, and growth positions at unicorns like Wealthfront, Quora, Twitter, and Facebook. He was also an early investor in unicorns such as Robinhood, Webflow, Reforge, Blue Bottle Coffee, and Homebrew Ventures.In this episode, we delve into topics such as:The impact of childhood trauma on mental health and self-identityThe role of therapy in addressing harmful identity structuresThe liberating power of authentic self-expressionThe significance of space, play, and experimentation in emotional healingThe role of community and acts of service in the recovery process— — — — — —Listen now on Apple, Spotify, Simplecast.To sign up for the newsletter and podcast visit https://www.wheretheroadbends.fm/—Where to find Steve Schlafman:• Website: https://www.schlaf.co/  • Twitter:  @Schlaf• Facebook: Steve Schlafman• LinkedIn: Steve Schlafman—Where to find information on Andy Johns:• Website: Clues.Life• Substack: Andy JohnsReferences:James Hollis“How To Know When To Stop” Essay By Andy JohnsHormetic SciencesCarl JungAristotleClues.lifeAndy Johns SubstackTime Stamps:(00:00) Andy Johns Soundbite(00:51) Podcast Welcome(01:20) Introducing Andy Johns(02:11) Old Andy vs. New Andy(04:08) Parallels Between People(05:01) A Traumatic Childhood(07:33) Absorbing The Emotional Pain of Parents(09:01) A Painful Catalyst to Transformation at Age 27(12:42) How He Continued to Achieve In The Industry During His Crisis(15:02) The Physical Toll of Enduring Crisis(17:40) Finally Leaving Silicon Valley, Embarking on a “Coddiwomple”(21:17) Analyzing Identity Structures Resulting from Childhood Trauma(26:22) Rewriting Identity and Rebuilding Sense of Self(26:54) Writing As Part of Healing(28:31) Recognizing Synchronicities Around Mental Health and Wellness(29:57) The First Substack Publication: A Truth Bomb(30:40) The Freedom That Comes With Confronting Fear and Being Authentic(32:46) Honesty and Loving Support in Groups of Recovering Addicts(33:38) The Universality of Difficulty and Trauma(34:27) Social Effects of Liberated Authentic Expression(36:04) Acts of Service Playing A Role in Rebuilding Sense of Self(37:10) The Importance of Space, Play and Experimentation For Emotional Healing(46:04) How To Know If You Are Pushing Too Hard Past Your Range of Tolerance(52:03) The Effect of Societal Laws on Forming Identity(54:33) Self-Assessment: “Am I A Man?”(56:41) “The Real Adulthood”(58:17) Creating Clues.life To Share Wisdom With Others(64:55) The Human Being is a Creative Dreamer(68:51) Podcast Outro—Stay curious and keep exploring the winding road of life.For inquiries about sponsoring the podcast go to wheretheroadbends.fm.
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    1 hr and 10 mins
  • #006: Kyle Kowalski - The Art of Living Intentionally

    #006: Kyle Kowalski - The Art of Living Intentionally
    Apr 7 2023
    APRIL 7  • 1 hour 13 minutes 39 secondsWTRB Episode #006: Kyle Kowalski - Living Intentionally — — — — —The sixth guest on WTRB is Kyle Kowalski, a former marketing executive who turned an existential crisis into a meaningful career in holistic education. In 2015 Kyle launched the website Sloww.co, which offers a wealth of powerful information to help us explore the deep and many aspects of intentional living and personal development.In this episode we covered:How Crisis Can Catalyze Significant Life TransformationHow Observation and Reflection Assist in “Connecting The Dots”Discovering Purpose and MeaningConcepts of Intentional LivingCuriosity and Fostering A Questioning MindsetSurrendering Control and Appreciating The Mystery of LifePerspectives on Free Will, Nature and NurtureKnown as “The Art of Living For Students of Life”, Sloww.co shares observations and syntheses on slow and simple living, the search for meaning and purpose, spirituality and consciousness, natural and social sciences, psychology, metaphysics and many more philosophical and science-based materials. Kyle’s mission in offering this rich educational support is to help us better understand ourselves, transcend stuck patterns, and more confidently and consciously traverse the dynamic landscapes to self-actualization.— — — — — —Listen now on Apple, Spotify, Simplecast.To sign up for the newsletter and podcast visit https://www.wheretheroadbends.fm/—Where to find Steve Schlafman:• Website: https://www.schlaf.co/  • Twitter: @Schlaf• Facebook: Steve Schlafman• LinkedIn: Steve Schlafman—Where to find information on Kyle Kowalski:• Website: www.sloww.co• Twitter: @KyKowReferences:Maria Popova - The MarginalianHoward Gardner - Frames of Mind and The Theory of Multiple IntelligencesRené Gerard - Memetic DesireCal Newport - Digital MinimalismJoseph Campbell - The Hero’s JourneyParker Palmer - Let Your Life SpeakIkigaiDan Buettner - Blue ZonesJim Collins:The Hedgehog ConceptThe Flywheel EffectNeval RavikantMarie KondoJoshua Becker - Becoming A MinimalistGreg McKewan - EssentialismDavid Foster WallaceAlan WattsEkhart Tolle - A New EarthDouglas HardingDavid BohmMichael Singer:The Untethered SoulLiving UntetheredThe Surrender ExperimentTerrance McKennaSteve March - Alethia Coaching AcademyThe Lottery of BirthWarren Buffet - The Ovarian LotteryRobert Kegan - Theory of Adult DevelopmentRobert Sapolsky - The Biology of BehaviorDavid Eagleman - LivewiredJohn Rawls:The Veil of IgnoranceOriginal Position Thought ExperimentVictor Frankl - Man’s Search For MeaningClayton ChristiensenKen RobinsonJames HollisRamana MaharshiTime Stamps:(00:00) Kyle Kowalski - Soundbite(00:44) Introducing Kyle Kowalski(02.06) The Multi-Dimensionality of Kyle Kowalski(05:01) The Synthesizing Mind(06:11) Observation, Reflection and Dot-Connection(07:15) Stumbling Into The Marketing Industry(07:58) Discovering That Self-Worth Was Tied to Work(09:28) Social Conditioning and Material Desire(10:53) Work Burnout, Questioning Purpose(14:06) Existential Crisis, Resetting Life Perspective(15:02) Discovering Concepts of Intentional Living(16:06) Origins of Sloww.co(18:00) Period of Increasing Cognitive Dissonance(20:04) Transformation as a Long Unfolding Process(20:58) Entrepreneurial Projects During Career, Sloww.co Launch(22:42) First Sloww.co Post - Digital Minimalism(23:26) Backed Into A Corner, Stars Aligned For Leap Of Faith(26:11) Transformative Learning and the Importance of Supportive Partnership(27:00) Finding Support on The Internet(27:49) Early Days After Quitting Career & Diving Into Entrepreneurship(29:16) Choosing Between Options: “Which One Can't I NOT Do?”(30:28) The Journey Of Understanding and Articulating Purpose(33:32) Ikigai: A Japanese Perspective on Passion and Life Purpose(36:09) Jim Collins & The Hedgehog Concept(37:22) Bringing Ikigai Full Circle: Sharing Your Gift With The World(38:33) How To Find Your Own Ikigai(39:22) The Role That Money Plays in Ikigai(40:55) Introducing The Four Sloww Stages(42:20) Lifelong Learning: Innate Vs Taught(43:17) Curiosity, A Questioning Mindset(44:16) The Four Sloww Stages(47:05) A Start For Intentional Living: Asking Questions(47:38) Simple Living Vs. Slow Living(48:26) Decluttering, Intentional Spending(49:35) Voluntary Simplicity, Downshifting, Minimalism(51:27) Social Programming: Obstacle and Motivation for Change(53:26) Addressing Potential Concerns About Intentional Living(53:34) Looking Back to Connect The Dots(56:04) Personal And Universal Coherence(56:33) Surrendering Control; Awe and Reverence for the Mystery of Life(57:45) Recognizing Synchronicities in the Unfolding of Life(59:36) Thoughts On Free Will(62:13) A-Ha Moment: Convergence of Conceptual, Experiential and Scientific(64:32) The Paradox: A Seemingly Limiting Idea Is Actually Liberating(65:15) The "Lottery Ball" Thought Experiment(66:36) The "Lottery of Birth", Nature and Nurture(68:25) Book ...
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    1 hr and 14 mins
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