What does it mean to be at the HELM of one’s life?

What is a helm?

Helm (per Google): a tiller or wheel and any associated equipment for steering a ship or boat in a certain direction.

“She stayed at the helm, alert for tankers.”

Our life is like a ship… there are many moving parts that work in conjunction to get us to where we want to go.

Be at the helm in ALL areas of your life, they all matter.

Resources mentioned:

Sacred Space, book by Denise Linn

IMPORTANT:

If you are in an abusive relationship and you don’t feel safe, call the National Domestic Violence Hotline!

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800-799-7233

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What set of choices brought us to our current life?

Did we make conscious choices with a certain outcome in mind or did we just stumble our way here?

Are you on a trajectory of your choosing, with a particular outcome for your future life?

IMPORTANT:

If you are in an abusive relationship and you don’t feel safe,

call the National Domestic Violence Hotline!

National Domestic Violence Hotline

Hours: 24/7. Languages: English, Spanish and 200+ through interpretation service

800-799-7233

OR text START to 88788

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Why do most of us fall short of achieving our dreams?

Because we’re not ALL IN on what it takes to do the thing!

We’re not willing to work 80 hrs/week for ourselves to not work 40 hrs for someone else, but work those 80 hrs on OUR TERMS!

Are you ALL IN??

I hope you said YES! Let's go!!!

IMPORTANT:

If you are in an abusive relationship and you don’t feel safe, call the National Domestic Violence Hotline!

National Domestic Violence Hotline

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800-799-7233

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The difference between on how we act in the moment has everything to do with whether we are looking for short or lasting lifelong results.

IMPORTANT:

If you are in an abusive relationship and you don’t feel safe, call the National Domestic Violence Hotline!

National Domestic Violence Hotline

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800-799-7233

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What’s important about this topic what it means to us, to me, to you.

I may think someone is settling, but if they are happy it really doesn’t matter what I think.

The question is whether we are settling for a life less happy and prosperous (to us) than what we truly want, and are capable of creating… therein lies the tragedy in settling!

How to know if we’re settling, and why we are doing so…

If you are unhappy about any area of your life, and you do nothing about it, you are settling!

Example: You rent where you live and your landlord is a pain in the toe, and you hate living there, but you’ve not ever even looked to see if you can buy your own place… you are settling for mediocrity and you are contributing to your own unnecessary suffering!

A solution could be applying to get preapproved and look for a place within your price range, right NOW, so that you never have to deal with a landlord again!

Whatever you’re settling for (you’re unhappy about it), start working on improving it.

Even if it takes your whole life to journey to it… in fact, pursuing an ideal is part of the joy we experience as humans.

It’s okay if it takes forever… that’s normal!

When we continuously strive to improve ourselves and our life, the joy is in fact in the journey and there is no end to what we can go after (think gardeners... They never stop gardening).

It is my belief that when we are unhappy in life, or blame others for our own misery, it’s because we are not pursuing a worthy ideal(s), big or small.

An ideal doesn’t have to be big, I can be anything that fills your heart with joy!

Putting up with anything that robs you of a joyful life is monumental… could be a matter of life and death!

Being unhappy can actually make you sick… our bodies thrive when we are happy and at peace.

Pursue happiness and peace in your life, always! Starting right now, start by focusing on and loving all the good you already have and then add to that, and never stop!

Related podcast Episodes:

EP 105: BE TOO BUSY TO BE UNHAPPY

⁠https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/ep-105-be-too-busy-to-be-unhappy/id1597656935?i=1000636755131⁠

EP 119: LOVE YOUR LIFE RIGHT NOW

⁠https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/ep-119-love-your-life-right-now/id1597656935?i=1000648101508⁠

IMPORTANT:

If you are in an abusive relationship and you don’t feel safe, call the National Domestic Violence Hotline!

National Domestic Violence Hotline

Hours: 24/7. Languages: English, Spanish and 200+ through interpretation service

800-799-7233

OR text START to 88788

⁠⁠Learn more⁠⁠

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What is your life can you concentrate your efforts on to make it as amazing as possible?

For me, on the surface…

My garden

My closet

My home equity (very important!)

My zero debt

My fridge full of every condiment you can think of!!

My hats, scarves, handbags (have many but mostly use an old trusted one)

My Spices

My fully stocked and organized pantry

My relationships

This list is endless for each of us, but it's little things like these that are very important in that they are like chain links/stepping stones if you will, that can grow and expand to and make our life as a whole even better…

What in YOUR life are you concentrating on, or COULD START, that would lead you in the direction of a better, more fulfilling life?

One area that a lot of us struggle with is RELATIONSHIPS… unsettled relationships are sleep stealers, so we must do our best to cultivate the ones we care about most.

Let’s do this together. Everything, no matter how small, is a bridge to the next area, and all areas of life are linked together!

IMPORTANT:

If you are in an abusive relationship and you don’t feel safe,

call the National Domestic Violence Hotline!

National Domestic Violence Hotline

Hours: 24/7. Languages: English, Spanish and 200+ through interpretation service

800-799-7233

OR text START to 88788

⁠⁠Learn more⁠⁠

Let’s connect on social media!

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What paradigm are you operation on right now?

We have paradigms such as…

“Diets don’t work”… I lose weight then I gain it all back! The ‘thermostat’ is keeping our program weight according to our current paradigm.

Why is that? The thermostat was programmed, and so are we, based on past experiences and everything going on around us and we go back to something we do not want.

“The most money I can make is”…

Whatever your current job pays you, which is based on your current skills set.

“This is the best job that I’m capable of getting/doing, so I’m stuck here”… How many people do you know who stay at a current job even if they hate it? They’re stuck in their current paradigm.

“I’ll never be able to afford to buy my own place”…

Unless you’re planning on moving or dying soon, what’s the reason for thinking this?

“I’ll never get out of debt/debt is BAD”…

Not all debt is bad, did you know that?

“I’m stuck in this”… marriage/this town/ this house.

Is this really true?

“I’m too old to”… learn new things, new technology, new skills, change my life.

What if all we had to do is try new things, new thoughts, new habits on???

Are you really too old to… ?

Are you really stuck in… ?

Is it true that diets don’t work? Maybe it’s our current programming/paradigm that keeps sending us back to eating foods we shouldn’t, when we are not hungry.

Let’s start REPROGRAMMING a new paradigm into our being.

Resources mentioned:

The Science of Being Well by Wallace D. Wattles

Bob Proctor’s Change Your Paradigm, Change Your Life

IMPORTANT:

If you are in an abusive relationship and you don’t feel safe, call the National Domestic Violence Hotline!

National Domestic Violence Hotline

Hours: 24/7. Languages: English, Spanish and 200+ through interpretation service

800-799-7233

OR text START to 88788

⁠⁠Learn more⁠⁠

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I think too often we think “if I only knew 'how to'”! Everyone asks “how”, but my how is not your how.

We need to ask ourselves “why”… the why is the reason and the way!

1st: Look and listen… be open, a vessel, a cup.

2nd: Take note… it’s like writing down a recipe and reading the instructions.

3rd: Apply… what good is owning a beautiful dress if we never wear it, having fine china you never use?

4th: Embody/PRACTICE... it’s like wearing high heels until you don’t fall, until if feels natural to you.

Everything is a working-in-progress… A never-ending journey, to be enjoyed. Never a one-and-done thing.

This is MY WORK too, I feel like I could say so much… but I still need to go deeper within and find the words.

IMPORTANT:

If you are in an abusive relationship and you don’t feel safe, call the National Domestic Violence Hotline!

National Domestic Violence Hotline

Hours: 24/7. Languages: English, Spanish and 200+ through interpretation service

800-799-7233

OR text START to 88788

⁠⁠Learn more⁠⁠

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