hi besties, i hope you missed me as much as i missed you! for this first episode of 2023, the topic is making friends as an adult, how that can go, why it can be tricky, and how can you maintain it! we were never really taught how to make friends as an adult. at least for me and melissa as immigrants to canada, we didnt have that highschool or hometown bond that many in vancouver already have. so how do we venture off and find our life-long friends?

• how did you find friends before? how did that go? did you maintain it?
• how can friendships be toxic?
• friendship break ups are the worst, imo probably harder than romantic breakups. why?
• challenges of making friends as an adult

feelings chart here!

also peep the new cover art 

hi bestiess!! guess what?? it's a relationship episode! yup. that's right, i wouldn't have guessed it either – didn't think i would do an episode about relationships but here we are. let me know if you vibe with it and want to hear more – or you hate it and tell me never again :p

this episode is specifically about if you've ever been mean to your partner and especially if you regret it after. i'm pretty 89% sure we've all done that and been there. we don't start out as relationship experts unless you're just a perfect human being and you were not brainwashed by media. 

how to tell if you've been gaslit? or you're truly hearing your partner's feeling that is relevant to the situation? what is a healthy relationship? what are "high standards"? and what does "if they wanted to, they would" mean? let's go through it together because i have no idea either, but hear me out.. 

hi hi hi. lately my mind has gone awol because i'm trying to do so many things at once. i recently left a toxic environment and on a new journey!! this episode was recorded when i was questioning and doubting myself a lot. if i'm a "good person" or in gen z words: "am i toxic?" lmao. but i've come to realize, no one is a "bad person" (exceptions of serial killers but even then people are fascinated on why they are the way they are) because even in disney movies, villains come from trauma or they have some crazy backstory - and thats where we can relate to them. to be a genuinely good person, i believe is when you genuinely try. no ones a 100% hero, no ones a villain either. no ones a saviour, no ones a victim. we all are just living out here as multi-dimensional beings. i know i keep saying that but its true. it's funny because im about to say don't think too deep about it, but here i am, thinking on a deeper level. lol. <3 

hi bessies. thanks for being patient i love you. today's episode is me questioning and explaining ideology. there's a lot going on in the world today and many of us can be emotionally drained from all the mass media talking about it. it is important to be educated on these matters but it is also important to remember our own emotions and to take care of ourselves. 

i will try to analyze ideology because we throw words like that around so much. language and how we use it really does affect our own reality and mental state. to become more expansive as humans, we should be able to be open to new perspectives but with an eager mind for intelligent stimulation. that means we should always question what mass media tries to impose on us and never just fully accept it without our own mind taking a stab at it. 

i'll talk about our consciousness, how complicated we are, how we complicate the world, toxic positivity, capitalism, individualism, and more. and of course, i stumble to my own conclusions and hope for the best y'all understand what i'm putting down. enjoy!!

hi beautiful besties! today's episode is on the psychological effects on social media and how we can harness that desire of being better into light and love with ourselves. i don't know how either– i go through it too, but i just want to bounce some ideas of y'all because ya girl is struggling even how to not do that. suffering either way lol. and is plastic surgery just a standard in beauty now? how do you deal with it as someone who's never thought about it but now second guessing yourself 😳?

i'll tell you my little trick that i try to do every night when it comes to manifestations because i've seen some massive improvements! i've also learned this short mantra i remind myself when I am surrounded by energy that I don't want to take in, in hopes to not lose yourself in the process of being there for a friend or partner.
 
i also mention the book, "Non-violent Communication", and I have been using language from there everyday and in my podcasts, but stay tuned for that episode because i will dive deeper on that soon! 

enjoy bestieeeessss! muah! 

hi pretty besties ☺️ this episode is short, sweet, and in no need of trigger warnings! how wholesome hehe. forgive me for not uploading an episode a couple fridays 🥺 i wish to give you my full self and to do that i want to be ready for you besties. and so here it is! today’s episode is on forgiveness unto others and yourself. and i’m also gifting a little exercise for your inner child to help present you appreciate, forgive, and heal.

hi bestieeees. okay disclaimer, just because someone does not participate in cancel culture doesn't mean they are better or evolved, for us specifically, we are exploring the aspects of cancel culture that makes us humans. humans that make mistakes.

this is part 2, check out part 1 for scarlet's story.

part 1 is an overview of how scarlet came to be who they are now and a little snippet of this nerve-wracking topic for many public figures, artists, or anyone that's out there on social media. we also touch base on how vancouver is a hot spot for chlamidya to dispel shame and guilt of those whom experienced it – because it's okay besties, we were all young and dumb.

part 2 covers the difference between "call out" and "call in" and when either of these should be used. why part of cancel culture is abusive and toxic. why trigger warnings are essential. and finally, we'll end with our own conclusions and advice to those going through the experiences we have faced. *if you have gone through trauma, please reach out for professional help and counselling here.

• Find Scarlet and their Art Collective page here. 
• Find Zach here and their amazing music here.

hi bestieeees. okay trigger warning (miscarriages, STDs, rape, and major life trauma??). this is only part 1 of this 2 part episode because Scarlet, Zach, and I had a long conversation on this topic. cancel culture (especially in vancouver) is a big topic that a lot of people tiptoe around. topics such as STD's as well is something that people are scared to talk about because of the shame and guilt embedded into it. well, we're here to dispel all that fear. we're here vulnerable asf– a gift to all you besties. 

part 1 is an overview of how scarlet came to be who they are now and a little snippet of this nerve-wracking topic for many public figures, artists, or anyone that's out there on social media. we also touch base on how vancouver is a hot spot for chlamidya to dispel shame and guilt of those whom experienced it – because it's okay besties, we were all young and dumb. 

part 2 will cover the difference between "call out" and "call in" and when either of these should be used. why it is getting out of control and examples in the celebrity world. finally, we'll end with our own conclusions and advice to those going through the experiences we have faced. 

• Find Scarlet and their Art Collective page here. 
• Find Zach here and their amazing music here.

tune in for part 2 besties, it'll get even darker. lol.