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  • People Have Flavors
    Aug 11 2025

    I thought it would be clever to ask you what flavor of person you liked best, but running through the potential answers in my head made it abundantly clear that it would likely turn problematic real quick, so let’s forget I even suggested it, shall we?

    Flavor is the way our bodies interpret the signals they receive from food, and it’s a helpful tool in figuring out what to eat and what to reject. In a similar way, we process information about the people around us to determine who to draw near and who to push away. That can feel really personal — especially when you’re being rejected by a child you’ve brought into your home.

    In today’s episode of the Hunger for Connection, we take the idea of flavor and apply it to relationships. When we discover how much of our interpersonal struggles are based in autonomic responses to sensory information, we begin to have more compassion for ourselves and others and learn that healing comes when we recognize the role flavor is having on our hearts and minds.

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    19 m
  • Interoception is Reality
    Jul 30 2025

    Is it rude of me to start with such a fancy word? I apologize. What I meant to say was this:

    You feel what you feel, and you’re feelings are real.

    Truer words are rarely said - especially by a cartoon reindeer. Believe it or not, he’s speaking solid scientific truth. Your feelings are a very real thing, and they will lead to very real attitudes and behaviors.

    Your child’s feelings are also very real, and they often motivate them to act in ways that bring about some very, very real feelings inside you as their caregiver. Am I right?

    How do we care for children with big feelings that cause them even big, baffling behaviors? In this episode of the Hunger for Connection, we dive into the neuroscience of feelings and see how understanding hunger can help us show up with love and compassion for those who need it most in our lives.

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    22 m
  • Asking Better Questions
    Jul 7 2025

    Yes, I have kids.

    No, they haven’t always eaten everything I’ve put in front of them.

    In spite of all this, I stand by my statement: there is no such thing as a “picky eater.”

    This is not an argument over semantics but an attempt to understand attitudes and behaviors - both around food and otherwise - in a way that seeks to recognize the Hunger for Connection that is behind them.

    In today’s episode, we’ll look at the neuroscience of fear and safety and how something really good can make things really difficult - especially when it comes to getting children to eat their blue vegetables (see what I did there?).

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    31 m
  • Thinking Outside the Box
    Jun 23 2025

    Sometimes people get stuck in a certain way of thinking. We see it all the way from international geopolitics down to kiddos refusing to eat their vegetables. It can be challenging to challenge someone else’s worldview - even in seemingly simple, small, harmless ways - in order to help them see the potential for joy and connection can be found when they step outside their box.

    This is certainly the case when caring for disconnected children. Why is outside-the-box so difficult for them, and how can we care for them in a way that expands their ability to receive compassion?

    In this episode of the Hunger for Connection, we dive into the neuroscience of small-box thinking and seek ways to help them stretch their boxes bigger.

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    31 m
  • No Such Thing as a Picky Eater?!
    Apr 8 2025

    Yes, I have kids.

    No, they haven’t always eaten everything I’ve put in front of them.

    In spite of all this, I stand by my statement: there is no such thing as a “picky eater.”

    This is not an argument over semantics but an attempt to understand attitudes and behaviors - both around food and otherwise - in a way that seeks to recognize the Hunger for Connection that is behind them.

    In today’s episode, we’ll look at the neuroscience of fear and safety and how something really good can make things really difficult - especially when it comes to getting children to eat their blue vegetables (see what I did there?).

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    23 m
  • Eat Your Blue Vegetables
    Jan 27 2025

    I did not misspeak… or mistype? Many of the most beneficial foods for you and your child are blue vegetables - at least, that’s what they’d say in ancient Japan.

    Were they colorblind? No. While the colors we see are the result of light wavelengths interacting with the sensory receptors in the backs of our eyeballs, the way that we interpret those signals are largely learned and formed through culture.

    In today’s episode of the Hunger for Connection, we once again dive into the science of food and how our bodies experience flavor - including through the eyes! You’ll see how this understanding of perception can open you up to greater empathy and compassion for children having a difficult time dealing with what their bodies are sensing.

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    19 m
  • Getting Through a Tough Season
    Jan 20 2025

    The holiday season came and went before I could sit down to record an episode. Election season is over, and the college football season is wrapping up in a few short hours (go Bucks!). The winter season is now upon us, as is a new year and visions for what the future will hold.

    In our lives as parents, we go through different seasons - and caring for disconnected children can bring with it some dark and difficult periods. Are you looking forward to this year and this next chapter of your parenting journey with hopeful anticipation or guarded concern?

    In this episode of the Hunger for Connection Podcast, I’ll draw on my own experiences of some tough seasons and give you encouragement routed in the trusted philosophy of the Hunger for Connection. I hope you take value from it, and please share it with a friend.

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    13 m
  • It’s NOT Getting Hot in Here
    Dec 5 2024

    Do you enjoy watching celebrities recoil in pain as they munch on wings dipped in sauces of increasing degrees of “heat?” Hot they really are not.

    Your sensory system has an incredible capacity to detect all sorts of various sensations - light, dark, hot, cold, sweet, sour, rough, smooth, heat, and pain. However, it sometimes gets it wrong.

    Hot foods are a perfect example. In spite of the searing, burning tingle they bring to your tongue, spicy dishes are not in fact “hot,” but your body thinks they are.

    Today on the Hunger for Connection Podcast, Chef Kibby dives into the neuroscience of hot stuff and the important lesson it can teach us about how a disconnect between the body and the brain can impact the way we show up in relationships.

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    27 m