In today’s episode, we get into the topic of the fear of being seen, exploring the underlying trauma that leads to avoidance behaviors and vulnerability in relationships.

We discuss the common thoughts, actions, and patterns that arise when individuals struggle with feeling exposed and unworthy. Additionally, we address the impact of childhood trauma, emotional neglect, and exclusion on the development of these fears.

Episode 249 also highlights the symptoms of low self-worth and how they manifest in perfectionism, people-pleasing, and self-abandonment.

In this episode, we cover…

• 04:04 Common patterns when you have a fear of being seen
• 04:48 The risk of personal development
• 07:55 Using perfectionism and people-pleasing as ways to exempt yourself from criticisms
• 11:09 Self-abandonment as a means to hide yourself
• 12:09 Making a list of things you're proud of about yourself
• 13:16 Why being humble is actually quiet confidence
• 14:47 Why you're afraid of people getting access to you
• 15:45 The traumas that lead to fear of being seen
• 21:08 How the fear of being seen manifests for love addicts
• 25:04 How the fear of being seen manifests for love avoidants
• 26:45 Disassociating to keep yourself safe
• 31:28 How to work on your fear of being seen

Resources mentioned in the episode:

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• Listen to Episode 163: How Childhood Emotional Neglect Leads to Love Addiction
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