What if the parts of you that sabotage, overachieve, numb out, or shut down… were just trying to help?

In this 2 part series, I sit down with trauma therapist and IFS expert Kathy Kinghorn to explore how Internal Family Systems (IFS) gives us a radical, compassionate map of the human psyche. You'll learn how the different “parts” of you—yes, even the ones that seem chaotic or contradictory—are showing up for a reason.

✨ Topics We Cover:

• What IFS actually is (& how it mirrors your external family)
• Why they're ALL trying to help you
• The neuroscience of parts
• What happens when we speak, lead, or parent from unintegrated parts

🔗 Know an immigrant who needs a mental health eval with Kathy's team? Click here. Kathy's website: here.
💫 Become trauma-informed? Click here.
🌄 Somatic retreat this fall: Mythic Zions
🤍 Work w/ me privately: Mentorship for Coaches + Creatives

✨ Tik-Tok-er who insipired this interview: here.

Overview:

01:17 Understanding Internal Family Systems (IFS)

04:55 Exploring Parts and Self-Energy

14:23 Real-Life Examples and Applications of IFS

29:00 Conclusion & Teaser for Part Two, w/ how this all relates to the current state of the US

Lindsay’s current program offerings:

• Looking for a new career as a Certified Trauma-Informed Coach? It’s time to Become a Trauma-Informed Coach. Learn more about Lindsay's life coach certification here. Next round starts September, 2025!
• Are you already a Certified Coach looking to deepen your skillset by Becoming Trauma-Informed, with a spiritual twist? Click here to see if Lindsay's Advanced Intuitive Trauma Certification for Coaches is a fit for you. Our next round will begin September, 2025.
• Want a certification above + PRIVATE MENTORSHIP from yours truly? I have limited spaced available. Apply here.

Check out her website here: Website.
Find me on Instagram : @lindsaypoelmancoaching

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Your host, certified life coach Lindsay Poelman started her journey of intentional healing started when she learned that her husband had been lying to her about pornography use for a greater part of their marriage. After processing and accepting her circumstance more fully, she found coaching—which propelled her into a forward focused state of ...

What is Spirituality? What is Religion? How much overlap is there, and can one exist without the other?

Have you ever felt like spirituality was only available through organized religion? Or that questioning religious dogma meant risking exile, shame, abandonment, or spiritual ruin?

In this episode, Lindsay Poelman shares a heartfelt, trauma-informed snippet from her FREE ReSourced program—a powerful and supportive offering for people who are leaving or have left high-demand religions like Mormonism and are seeking to reconnect with their spirituality in a safe, embodied, and empowered COMMUNITY.

Lindsay unpacks:

• The difference between spirituality and religion—and why unbraiding them is essential for spiritual reclamation.
• How patriarchal systems codified and controlled spirituality throughout history.
• The neuroscience of spiritual connection and how your nervous system plays a crucial role.
• How trauma can disconnect us from our intuition, and why it's not your fault.
• What it looks like to return to spiritual safety through your body.
• Multiple definitions and lenses for spirituality—from Jungian archetypes to earth-based wisdom.

This episode isn’t about convincing anyone to leave religion. It’s about honoring your journey, supporting your sovereignty, and offering a space for you to reclaim your inner knowing—on your own terms.

Want in on this FREE OFFERING? Click here.

Lindsay’s current program offerings:

• Looking for a new career as a Certified Trauma-Informed Coach? It’s time to Become a Trauma-Informed Coach. Learn more about Lindsay's life coach certification here. Next round starts September, 2025!
• Are you already a Certified Coach looking to deepen your skillset by Becoming Trauma-Informed, with a spiritual twist? Click here to see if Lindsay's Advanced Intuitive Trauma Certification for Coaches is a fit for you. Our next round will begin September, 2025.
• Want a certification above + PRIVATE MENTORSHIP from yours truly? I have limited spaced available. Apply here.

Check out her website here: Website.
Find me on Instagram : @lindsaypoelmancoaching

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Your host, certified life coach Lindsay Poelman started her journey of intentional healing started when she learned that her husband had been lying to her about pornography use for a greater part of their marriage. After processing and accepting her circumstance more fully, she found coaching—which propelled her into a forward focused state of ...

Someone on my email list asked me a question, so I thought it'd be helpful to talk about on today's episode.

“Why bring politics into nervous system regulation?”

If you’ve ever wondered whether you should be bringing your values into your coaching, your healing, or your business...

If you’ve been told nervous system work is “neutral”...

If you’ve been praised for being the “quiet one,” the “good girl,” or the one who never rocks the boat...

This is the episode you need to hear.

I share:

• Why nervous system regulation is rarely apolitical (even if yours feels that way)
• How public policy and systemic harm get embedded in our bodies—and passed down
• What dentists, trauma survivors, and traffic stops have in common (yep, really)
• Why silence isn't always sacred—and can sometimes be complicity in disguise

I also get real about:

• The moment I stopped performing palatable neutrality
• Why I want my kids to know I used my voice
• How to reclaim your unique way of creating change

But don’t just read about it—listen in.

The nuance lives inside the conversation. And the invitation at the end? It might just change your life.

00:00 Introduction and Email Context

01:04 The Interconnectedness of Health and Politics

01:47 The Impact of Trauma on Health

03:00 Politics and Nervous System Regulation

05:16 Real-World Examples of Political Impact

09:39 Personal Responsibility and Advocacy

15:53 Invitation to Join Certification Programs

17:14 Conclusion and Final Thoughts

Lindsay’s current program offerings:

• Looking for a new career as a Certified Trauma-Informed Coach? It’s time to Become a Trauma-Informed Coach. Learn more about Lindsay's life coach certification here. Next round starts September, 2025!
• Are you already a Certified Coach looking to deepen your skillset by Becoming Trauma-Informed, with a spiritual twist? Click here to see if Lindsay's Advanced Intuitive Trauma Certification for Coaches is a fit for you. Our next round will begin September, 2025.
• Want a certification above + PRIVATE MENTORSHIP from yours truly? I have limited spaced available. Apply here.

Check out her website here: Website.
Find me on Instagram : @lindsaypoelmancoaching

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Your host, certified life coach Lindsay Poelman started her journey of intentional healing started when she learned that her husband had been lying to her about pornography use for a greater part of their marriage. After processing and accepting her circumstance more fully, she found coaching—which propelled her into a forward focused state of ...

We always hear about bad spending habits—but no one talks about the worst ways we try to save money.

In this episode, I share a personal story from a family gathering that led me to reflect upon what it really costs us to make "practical" money decisions that compromise our wellbeing, our joy, and sometimes even our health.

This episode will make you rethink everything from how you spend on yourself… to the deeply subconscious reasons you don’t.

You'll hear:

• The one line from an A/C installer that stopped me in my tracks.
• The surprising connection between attachment styles and money habits.
• How trauma, nervous system dysregulation, and childhood conditioning shape our spending choices.
• Why some of your worst spending patterns might actually be self-protective—and how to shift that with compassion.
• Prompts to explore the energy behind your past decisions .
• A loving challenge to stop glorifying suffering in the name of saving.

Whether you tend to over-give, under-spend, or freeze when it comes to investing in yourself—this episode is here to bring awareness to ultimately rewire your money relationship with clarity & care.

🎧 Listen now to explore the hidden cost of staying stuck—so you can start making decisions that support the version of you you're becoming.

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If this episode resonates, I’d love to hear from you.
Come find me on Instagram @lindsaypoelmancoaching and share:
🗣️ What’s one “worst way to save money” that stuck with you?

Lindsay’s current program offerings:

• Looking for a new career as a Certified Trauma-Informed Coach? It’s time to Become a Trauma-Informed Coach. Learn more about Lindsay's life coach certification here. Next round starts September, 2025!
• Are you already a Certified Coach looking to deepen your skillset by Becoming Trauma-Informed, with a spiritual twist? Click here to see if Lindsay's Advanced Intuitive Trauma Certification for Coaches is a fit for you. Our next round will begin September, 2025.
• Want a certification above + PRIVATE MENTORSHIP from yours truly? I have limited spaced available. Apply here.

Check out her website here: Website.
Find me on Instagram : @lindsaypoelmancoaching

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Your host, certified life coach Lindsay Poelman started her journey of intentional healing started when she learned that her husband had been lying to her about pornography use for a greater part of their marriage. After processing and accepting her circumstance more fully, she found coaching—which propelled her into a forward focused state of ...

00:00 Introduction and Personal Update

00:14 Feeling Alone: Personal Experiences

04:20 Understanding the Biology of Loneliness

10:55 Micro Moments of Connection

14:16 The Power of Naming Shame

18:32 Seeking Safe Spaces and Connection

24:20 Conclusion and Final Thoughts

Lindsay’s current program offerings:

• Looking for a new career as a Certified Trauma-Informed Coach? It’s time to Become a Trauma-Informed Coach. Learn more about Lindsay's life coach certification here. Next round starts September, 2025!
• Are you already a Certified Coach looking to deepen your skillset by Becoming Trauma-Informed, with a spiritual twist? Click here to see if Lindsay's Advanced Intuitive Trauma Certification for Coaches is a fit for you. Our next round will begin September, 2025.
• Want a certification above + PRIVATE MENTORSHIP from yours truly? I have limited spaced available. Apply here.

Check out her website here: Website.
Find me on Instagram : @lindsaypoelmancoaching

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Your host, certified life coach Lindsay Poelman started her journey of intentional healing started when she learned that her husband had been lying to her about pornography use for a greater part of their marriage. After processing and accepting her circumstance more fully, she found coaching—which propelled her into a forward focused state of ...

Ready to stop spinning your wheels and build a business that actually feels like you? In this episode, Lindsay Poelman shares the real reasons coaches and entrepreneurs plateau from the get go—and what they need to break through and rise.

Lindsay introduces her private, high-touch mentorship program designed for visionary business owners who are done with hustle and burnout and want to grow with clarity, sustainability, and integrity.

You’ll hear about:

• Why traditional business tactics often fall flat (especially for heart-led leaders)
• The power of nervous system regulation + strategic support
• Lindsay’s blend of Capricorn structure + Cancer soul in mentorship
• What’s included in the yearlong container
• How this container creates the kind of safety that brings your true self online—and your next level with it

If you’re ready to scale without selling your soul, this episode is your sign.

👉 Want to work with Lindsay 1:1? Tap here to apply now.

⏱️ Optional Timestamp Tweaks (more compelling labels):

00:00 – Why This Mentorship Exists
00:53 – Why You’re Still Stuck (Even If You’re Working Hard)
01:13 – From Accountant to Trauma-Informed Mentor: My Journey
06:16 – Structure Meets Flow: How I Mentor from Both
12:23 – The Full Mentorship Breakdown (What’s Included)
15:37 – Building a Business That Nourishes You Back
17:41 – Who This Mentorship is For (and How to Apply)

Lindsay’s current program offerings:

• Looking for a new career as a Certified Trauma-Informed Coach? It’s time to Become a Trauma-Informed Coach. Learn more about Lindsay's life coach certification here. Next round starts September, 2025!
• Are you already a Certified Coach looking to deepen your skillset by Becoming Trauma-Informed, with a spiritual twist? Click here to see if Lindsay's Advanced Intuitive Trauma Certification for Coaches is a fit for you. Our next round will begin September, 2025.
• Want a certification above + PRIVATE MENTORSHIP from yours truly? I have limited spaced available. Apply here.

Check out her website here: Website.
Find me on Instagram : @lindsaypoelmancoaching

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Your host, certified life coach Lindsay Poelman started her journey of intentional healing started when she learned that her husband had been lying to her about pornography use for a greater part of their marriage. After processing and accepting her circumstance more fully, she found coaching—which propelled her into a forward focused state of ...

What if the most radical thing you could do for your community is not to argue — but to be deeply, visibly well?

Today on the podcast, Lindsay shares anecdotes and insights on the power of non-confrontational activism, emphasizing healing and personal growth as catalysts for community change.

Today Lindsay shares:

• A reframe on what activism can look like, in any community;
• Why healing yourself is activism;
• The power of story, questions, and quiet alignment; and
• How to influence without burning out or needing others to agree.

Whether you’ve left a tight-knit faith community or just feel out of place in your specific culture, this episode is a must-listen.

Through storytelling and personal reflections, she demonstrates how living authentically and compassionately can inspire others. If you struggle to do this, or want support while figuring things out, take a look at the link below to learn more about programs that could support you.

00:00 Introduction and Greetings

01:33 Activism in Conservative Communities

02:07 The Power of Non-Confrontational Activism

03:48 Healing and Compassion in Activism

07:12 Storytelling as a Tool for Change

09:01 A Personal Story of Quiet Activism

15:13 The Role of Healed Leaders

15:41 Invitation to Join the Movement

Lindsay’s current program offerings:

• Looking for a new career as a Certified Trauma-Informed Coach? It’s time to Become a Trauma-Informed Coach. Learn more about Lindsay's life coach certification here. Next round starts September, 2025!
• Are you already a Certified Coach looking to deepen your skillset by Becoming Trauma-Informed, with a spiritual twist? Click here to see if Lindsay's Advanced Intuitive Trauma Certification for Coaches is a fit for you. Our next round will begin September, 2025.
• Want a certification above + PRIVATE MENTORSHIP from yours truly? I have limited spaced available. Apply here.

Check out her website here: Website.
Find me on Instagram : @lindsaypoelmancoaching

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Your host, certified life coach Lindsay Poelman started her journey of intentional healing started when she learned that her husband had been lying to her about pornography use for a greater part of their marriage. After processing and accepting her circumstance more fully, she found coaching—which propelled her into a forward focused state of ...

In part 2 of this authentic and vulnerable episode, join host Lindsay Poelman as she explores the transformative experiences of Dan Gurley in her trauma-informed coaching program.

In this compelling episode, Dan shares his insights on societal norms around male emotional expression, the critical importance of understanding the nervous system, and the unique challenges men face in today's world.

Learn how trauma-informed coaching has not only impacted Dan's personal and professional relationships but also how it equips him to help others navigate their own emotional landscapes.

Listen in to understand why investing in trauma-informed coaching could be a life-changing decision for anyone looking to heal and grow.

00:00 The Emotional Struggles of Men

00:48 Balancing Work and Emotional Well-being

02:25 The Importance of Metabolizing Emotions

05:03 Discovering Trauma-Informed Coaching

06:24 The Impact of Trauma on Men

11:25 Personal Growth and Self-Compassion

19:33 The Need for Male Mentors and Healers

23:19 Conclusion and Final Thoughts

Lindsay’s current program offerings:

• Looking for a new career as a Certified Trauma-Informed Coach? It’s time to Become a Trauma-Informed Coach. Learn more about Lindsay's life coach certification here. Next round starts September, 2025!
• Are you already a Certified Coach looking to deepen your skillset by Becoming Trauma-Informed, with a spiritual twist? Click here to see if Lindsay's Advanced Intuitive Trauma Certification for Coaches is a fit for you. Our next round will begin September, 2025.
• Want a certification above + PRIVATE MENTORSHIP from yours truly? I have limited spaced available. Apply here.

Check out her website here: Website.
Find me on Instagram : @lindsaypoelmancoaching

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Your host, certified life coach Lindsay Poelman started her journey of intentional healing started when she learned that her husband had been lying to her about pornography use for a greater part of their marriage. After processing and accepting her circumstance more fully, she found coaching—which propelled her into a forward focused state of ...