Welcome to episode 81! In today's podcast I show you 8 positive signs you have moved on from your ex and how you can use these to guide your journey as a way to measure your progress.

In this episode, we cover:

1. Neutral or Indifferent Feelings: You feel neutral or indifferent about your ex.
   
   
2. No Future Fantasies or Past Romances: You don’t fantasise about them in your future or think about them romantically in the past.
   
   
3. Sense of Closure: You feel a sense of closure about the relationship, even without direct closure from them.
   
   
4. Minimal Thoughts: You rarely think about them, if at all.
   
   
5. No Jealousy: You don’t feel jealous about them being with someone else.
   
   
6. Openness to Dating: You’re open to dating others and don’t compare them to your ex.
   
   
7. Minimal Social Media Checks: You don’t check their social media frequently.
   
   
8. No Desire to Reunite: You wouldn’t want to get back together with them, even if given the chance.

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Welcome to episode 80. Since starting this podcast in November last year, I’ve been releasing episodes twice a week. My Monday episodes focus on practical tips and strategies, while Friday episodes offer inspiration for the weekend. Moving forward, I’ll concentrate more on the Monday episodes, providing more depth, and this will be the final Friday bitesized episode for now. Future interviews might bring back the twice-weekly schedule.

Today's episode is essential for anyone trying to move on or heal from heartbreak. Whether your relationship ended recently or it's been months or even years, if you still struggle to move on, this episode is for you.

We delve into the importance of "setting intentions for healing." Without a clear intention, our emotions can lead us astray, especially during heartbreak. These emotions can push us to actions that hinder our healing, like contacting an ex when feeling lonely or upset. Setting a strong intention can help you resist these impulses by making you reflect on the consequences.

I offer an exercise to help set your intention for healing. Grab a pen and paper and list everything that was unhealthy about the relationship. Next, list what you want in a future relationship, referencing what you loved in past ones. Finally, list all the reasons you must heal to be ready for a future relationship. This exercise will give you a tangible reminder of why your future self deserves you to show up and heal.

If you enjoyed this episode, feel free to listen again. Thanks for tuning in, and I’ll catch you next week!

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In this episode of Breakup to Blessing, we explore the crucial differences between healing and moving on after a relationship ends. Understanding these distinctions is key to achieving emotional freedom and forming healthier future relationships.

Show Notes:

• The Difference Between Healing and Moving On:

  • Moving on means being free from your ex in terms of attachment and desire. This involves not having any romantic feelings towards them and not letting emotions like resentment, anger, or jealousy prevent you from committing to another relationship.

• Healing:

  • Healing is a more complex process that varies depending on what needs healing. It can take years, especially if the relationship involved abuse, trauma, or long-term emotional pain. Therapy might be necessary to aid in this process.
  • Sometimes, you may not even realise there are unresolved issues until you are in a new relationship and get triggered. These moments reveal what still needs attention.

• Testing Your Healing:

  • The true extent of your healing often becomes apparent when you commit to another person. Real-life situations can test your emotional responses, revealing any lingering trauma. For example, if your ex's unresponsiveness caused you anxiety, this might resurface in a new relationship if not fully addressed.

• Complex Sources of Trauma:

  • It's important to recognise that unresolved trauma may not only stem from your relationship with your ex. It can be a product of various past relationships, including those with family members, which affect your romantic relationships.

• Moving On vs. Complete Healing:

  • Ideally, you should start by moving on from your ex before aiming for complete healing. Waiting to be fully healed before entering a new relationship might mean you never get into one. You can heal while in a relationship, but remember, it's not your partner's job to fix you. The responsibility is yours, though having a supportive partner is crucial.

• Supporting Each Other:

  • A partner's role is also significant. Even if they weren't part of your past, they have a role in supporting you if they want to build a future with you. A committed relationship involves embracing both the good and the difficult parts.

• The Reality of Past Experiences:

  • Everyone has a past, and the older you get, the more likely it is that you and others will have things to work on. There's no such thing as being fully healed and completely free from the past when entering a new relationship.

• Key Takeaway:

  • The minimum you should aim for is to move on from your ex—the person. From there, you can work on healing other aspects.

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