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  • Can’t Go No Contact? How to Stop the Obsessive Thoughts, Calm Your Nervous System & Protect Your Peace Around a Narcissist

    Can’t Go No Contact? How to Stop the Obsessive Thoughts, Calm Your Nervous System & Protect Your Peace Around a Narcissist
    Nov 18 2025
    Episode Summary If your mind keeps replaying every conversation, argument, or manipulation, you’re not broken — your nervous system is stuck in protection mode. In this episode, Christy Jade explains why obsessive thoughts happen after narcissistic abuse and the exact steps to interrupt the loop so you can finally reclaim your mental space. If you feel mentally hijacked, constantly analyzing them, or exhausted from thoughts you don’t want, this episode will show you how to break the cycle and come back to yourself. What You’ll Learn Why obsessive thinking is a normal trauma response How trauma bonding and hypervigilance keep the loop alive What your brain is trying to protect you from How to interrupt intrusive thoughts without relying on willpower Somatic tools to regulate your nervous system How to restore clarity and stop overthinking Your Next Step in Healing Work 1:1 with Christy — Coaching and Somatic Healing For survivors who are stuck in loops, overwhelmed, or ready to finally rebuild peace and self-trust with real support and structure. 1-Month Coaching (Private Support & Nervous System Reset) https://shethrives.thrivecart.com/transformational-coaching-monthly 3-Month Coaching (Deep Healing, Identity Rebuild, Full Transformation) https://shethrives.thrivecart.com/transformational-coaching-quarterly Paid Resource: Copy-Paste-Peace Scripts If overthinking or panic about how to respond is feeding your mental spiral, these scripts stop it instantly. https://shethrives.thrivecart.com/copy-paste-peace-scripts/ Empowered Boundaries Course 10 video modules, meditation bundle, and lifetime access. https://shethrives.thrivecart.com/empowered-boundaries Free Resource: Boundaries Pocket Guide https://christyjade.ck.page/ce79ea9250 Join the Free Facebook Community https://facebook.com/groups/christyjade TRANSCRIPT Speaker 1 (00:00): Mama, if you've tried journaling, blocking, deleting, praying, meditating, and you still cannot stop thinking about the narcissist, especially when you can't go no contact because of the kids, court, family, or finances, this episode is going to be a little lifeline for you. Okay? I'm going to break down why your brain won't let go, and the steps to stop the obsessive thoughts. Calm that cute little nervous system of yours and reclaim your peace. Remember your peace bubble. You know about that? Yeah. We want to get your peace bubble on, okay? Even if you're still in contact like frequently. Okay, here we go. (00:46) Have you finally broken free from that narcissist creepy crawly web, but still feel stuck in fear. Wish you could trust yourself again and take your life back. Well, you're in the right place, queen. I'm Christie, wife, mom and narcissistic abuse recovery coach. I've walked the messy road, wasted money on the wrong therapist and dry advice, and had to come to Jesus moment to get me here to feel free. I had to reconnect with me, set boundaries that stuck, and find healing methods that actually lasted. Now I've created a plan that's empowering, doable, and yes, even fun because I'm sparkly and fun. So of course it's going to be fun. So if you're ready to break cycles, reclaim your peace and trust yourself again, this podcast is for you. So steep, that chamomile tea, silence, all that crazy chaos out there, and let's cue your royal glow up. (01:44) All right, Queens, let's go there. Alright, you're not obsessed, you're not weak, you're not crazy. Well, maybe a little crazy, but the good crazy, like my kind of crazy. I like your crazy. Okay, alright. Your brain is actually doing exactly what a brain does when it's been trapped in a cycle of trauma plus unpredictability. Okay? So here's what's happening. We're going to do the queen breakdown. Number one, the threat detector part of your brain. It's still on patrol, it's still out there with its shield, with its sword, it's ready. So when you have to share a child, a house, a calendar school event, your brain is scanning, what will their mood be like today? Will they explode? Will they pull something? This is hypervigilance, and it's not like your character flaw, it's just survival mode, what you've been conditioned to do. Number two, your nervous system is addicted to the pattern, so it's not addicted to them. (02:51) This is a misconception. You're not really addicted to them. You have been, again, kind of conditioned to be addicted to the cycle, the anticipation, the crash, the tiny breadcrumbs of calm that can happen here and there. Your body learned to stay ready. So that leads us to number three, this lack of closure that keeps that loop spinning, right? That addictive loop. So narcissists don't give real endings. They don't give apologies, especially legit ones. They might really fake it. They don't give ownership accountability, and they sure as hell don't give the truth. So your brain keeps searching for what it never got and it is still not getting. Number four, if you cannot go no contact, ...
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  • The Partner After the Narcissist: How to Support a Woman Healing From Toxic Relationships (Without Triggering Her)

    The Partner After the Narcissist: How to Support a Woman Healing From Toxic Relationships (Without Triggering Her)
    Nov 15 2025
    Episode Summary If your partner is healing from narcissistic abuse and you want to support her without triggering past trauma, this episode gives you the essential steps to show up as the safe, steady partner she needs. Today, I’m breaking down what survivors carry into new relationships, the communication shifts that help her feel secure, and the practical ways to be a grounded, supportive partner — especially if her past involved narcissistic or toxic relationships. What You’ll Learn in This Episode Why loving a survivor can feel different (and why it’s not your fault) The nervous system patterns survivors often bring into new relationships How the wrong type of “space” can trigger abandonment fears The power of time-stamped reassurance (and how to use it) Validation vs. problem-solving — and why survivors need both in the right order What NOT to do when she shuts down, spirals, or becomes hypervigilant How healthy, steady love rewires her sense of safety Your Next Step in Healing If this episode helped you understand your partner — or helped you feel seen in your own healing — and you want deeper support, I offer private 1:1 coaching to help women rebuild emotional safety, boundaries, peace, and self-trust after narcissistic abuse. You’re not meant to navigate this alone. You deserve support built for your nervous system and your season of healing. Work With Christy Monthly Coaching and Somatic Healing A powerful month of private support to help you break patterns, rebuild self-trust, regulate your nervous system, and make real movement in your healing. Includes: weekly 1:1 sessions, tailored tools, and coaching support between calls. https://shethrives.thrivecart.com/transformational-coaching-monthly/ Quarterly Coaching and Somatic Healing Three months of deep transformation designed to help you rise, rebuild, and create lasting internal safety. Includes: weekly 1:1 sessions + unlimited Voxer support between calls for ongoing guidance, integration, and nervous system co-regulation. https://shethrives.thrivecart.com/transformational-coaching-quarterly/ "Copy.Paste.Peace." Scripts Get the exact boundary, communication, and nervous-system-safe scripts you need for co-parenting, texting, conflict, and more. https://shethrives.thrivecart.com/copy-paste-peace-scripts/ Free Resources Boundaries Pocket Guide Quick-reference boundary scripts, grounding tools, and communication lines you can use today. https://christyjade.ck.page/ce79ea9250 Join the Private Facebook Community Connect with other women healing from narcissistic abuse in a safe, supportive space. https://www.facebook.com/groups/2420729361374989 Listener Request If you want a Part 2 specifically for partners — or an episode on how women can learn to receive healthy love after abuse — send me a message and let me know. I’d love to create exactly what you need. TRANSCRIPT Speaker 1 (00:00): Hello. This episode is for Queens and Kings, and if you are a regular listener, it could get some insight into you and what you need for you. But this was created specifically for partners of someone who has gone through narcissistic abuse or just toxic relationships in general, right? So thank you to the listener who wrote in, I don't know if he is a listener, but he knows of me somehow and wrote in asking for information on how to support his partner. That is someone who is recovering and healing from narcissistic abuse and toxic relationships. So hats off just the fact he wrote in shows so much. So thank you for all the super supportive partners out there, right? So if you are that partner after the narcissist or a friend or someone who just wants to know how to help people who have gone through this abuse, you're the safe one, the steady one, the one that they can finally breathe around or maybe should be able to finally breathe around, right? This episode is for you loving a woman who's healing from toxic relationships. It is different. I don't want to go say it's, oh, it's so much harder, but it is different and there are specific ways to deal with it. Just like everything else. Everyone has their stuff, so I'd like to call it not harder, but different. And if you want to support her without triggering those old wounds, like I said, you're already a rare kind of person. So let's talk about how to show up for them the right way. (01:50) Have you finally broken free from that narcissist creepy crawly web, but still feel stuck in fear? Wish you could trust yourself again and take your life back. Well, you're in the right place, queen. I'm Christie, wife, mom, and narcissistic abuse recovery coach. I've walked the messy road, wasted money on the wrong therapist and dry advice and how to come to Jesus moment to get me here to feel free. I had to reconnect with me, set boundaries that stuck and find healing methods that actually lasted. Now, I've created a plan that's empowering, doable, and yes, even fun because ...
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  • Your 5 minute Power Shift for Calmer Co-Parenting and Stronger Kids

    Your 5 minute Power Shift for Calmer Co-Parenting and Stronger Kids
    Nov 13 2025
    The 5-Minute Reset to Protect Your Kids From a Narcissistic Parent (Without Escalating Anything) Episode Summary In this Thrive in 5, Christy Jade guides you through a simple five-minute process that helps you protect your child’s emotional safety when dealing with a narcissistic parent. Instead of reacting from fear, conditioning, or pressure to “keep things smooth,” you’ll learn how to regulate your body, detach from the narcissist’s hooks, and model calm authority your child can immediately feel. This micro-training focuses on one small but powerful shift: stabilizing your own nervous system so your child learns emotional safety, discernment, and self-trust — even when the other parent continues their chaos. These five minutes will change how you show up in high-conflict moments. What You’ll Learn How to identify your body’s early alarm signals during narcissistic tension A simple three-breath pattern to instantly calm your nervous system How to shift out of emotional reactivity and into factual, steady communication One-sentence boundary responses that model calm authority for your child A grounding tool your child can use after visits, calls, or stressful interactions How to reinforce safety without escalating the conflict or feeding the drama Your Next Step in Healing 3-Month Coaching: Deep-Dive Transformational Journey Platinum Coaching (3 months – includes Voxer support) https://shethrives.thrivecart.com/transformational-coaching-quarterly/ 1-Month Coaching: Focused Support + Somatic Healing Gold Coaching (1 month) https://shethrives.thrivecart.com/transformational-coaching-monthly/ The Empowered Boundaries Course 10 training modules, meditation bundle, and lifetime access https://shethrives.thrivecart.com/empowered-boundaries Free Resource: The Boundaries Pocket Guide https://christyjade.ck.page/ce79ea9250 Join the Free Facebook Community Private support for women recovering from narcissistic abuse https://facebook.com/groups/christyjade TRANSCRIPT Speaker 1 (00:03): Welcome to your Thursday, thrive in five, your five minute pause from the chaos, the gaslighting, and that text you knew better than to reply to take a breath Queen. This one's for you. Today's Thrive in five is all about your energy and moments when the narcissistic parent creates tension because your kids absorb your state more than the actual words that are spoken, right? They're little sponges. So you're going to teach your child safety by regulating yourself first, right in the moment. So we're going to give you this advice. You can save this if you're feeling it right now. You can use it now, but you can listen to know what to do. And then definitely save this episode. So in the moment you can refer to it and maybe you can even take little notes. But this is definitely a saver episode. Alright, so you're going to set your timer for five minutes, okay? (01:06) Get yourself a little timer. It can be on your phone. One of those cute ones you have in the kitchen, the little kitchen timers. I have one that's a little mushroom. It's so cute. Alright, squirrel. Okay, so five minutes. Minute one, you're going to notice your body's alarm system. So think of that last text demand or surprise request from the narcissistic parent, right? And your body probably does one of these things. The chest tightens, the stomach drop. I know that one. The shoulders rise all the way up to your ears and your breath gets shallow, right? One of those two of those, all of those. So first, in that first minute, notice it name the sensation out loud like my chest feels tight. Naming it out loud equals calming it. Okay? True, true facts, only true facts here on the Queen's show. Alright, minute two, you're going to then slow the pace for your child. (02:11) Kids mirror your nervous system. Okay? Remember that? So you can repeat this three breath pattern and you can do it silently or with your child if they're present to teach them, right? We're role modeling and teaching our children what to do when stress comes about. So one, you're going to inhale through your nose. Two, you're going to hold it for two seconds, and three, you're going to exhale a little longer than that. Inhale. And this tells your child and yourself, we handle intensity with calm, not chaos. Opposite of the lovely narc, right? We want to be opposite. So we handle intensity with calm, not chaos. Minute three, detach from that narcs hook. Okay? Ask yourself, what is the fact here? Not the feeling. I get it. We are all up in our feelings. We're empaths. We're good hearted people, we've been mind ed, right? I get it. (03:22) But we need to role model and give ourselves peace. So what is the fact? So what's an example of that? The feeling is he's trying to control me again and getting triggered. The fact is pickup is at four. That's all I need to address. Whatever he's trying to do, we don't need to worry about. It's good to know that, right? That's very helpful ...
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  • The Truth Many Therapists Don’t Tell You: How to Protect Your Kids From a Narcissistic Parent (Without Fueling More Drama)

    The Truth Many Therapists Don’t Tell You: How to Protect Your Kids From a Narcissistic Parent (Without Fueling More Drama)
    Nov 11 2025
    The Truth Therapists Don’t Tell You: How to Protect Your Kids From a Narcissistic Parent (Without Fueling More Drama) Episode Summary You’ve been told to “keep the peace for the kids.” But what if that advice — the one therapists and co-parenting experts keep repeating — is actually teaching your child to ignore their own intuition? In this episode, Christy Jade breaks down the truth most professionals avoid: you cannot co-parent with a narcissist. You’ll learn how to stop over-accommodating, document every interaction, and teach your child emotional safety without turning them into your confidant. It’s time to protect both your peace and your child’s nervous system while modeling real, grounded strength. If you’ve ever felt stuck trying to “stay civil” while your ex keeps creating chaos, this episode will help you see what real peace looks like — and how to hold it. What You’ll Learn Why traditional co-parenting advice doesn’t work with narcissists How old conditioning keeps you accommodating — and how to stop The importance of documenting every interaction and using third-party apps How to model calm authority and emotional safety for your kids Your Next Step in Healing Empowered Boundaries Course — 10 video modules, meditation bundle, and lifetime access https://shethrives.thrivecart.com/empowered-boundaries Work 1:1 with Christy — Coaching and Somatic Healing Choose your transformation level: Gold (1-Month Coaching Package): https://shethrives.thrivecart.com/transformational-coaching-monthly Platinum (3-Month Deep-Dive Coaching Journey): https://shethrives.thrivecart.com/transformational-coaching-quarterly Free Resource: Boundaries Pocket Guide https://christyjade.ck.page/ce79ea9250 Join the Free Facebook Community https://facebook.com/groups/christyjade TRANSCRIPT: Speaker 1 (00:00): Queens. I am so excited for this episode. This actually was created because a client of mine and I were talking about this topic and she said, you need to make this an episode. So when y'all speak, I listen. Alright, so you've been told to keep the peace for the kids, right? I'm sure many of you have heard that, but what if that very advice, the ones, many therapists and co-parenting experts keep repeating, is actually quietly teaching your child to ignore their own intuition. So today I'm going to break down the real truth about how to protect your kids from a narc co-parent without losing your sanity or ending up back in court. So let's talk about the advice. Most professionals are too afraid to give you. (00:54) Have you finally broken free from that narcissist creepy crawly web, but still feel stuck in fear? Wish you could trust yourself again and take your life back. Well, you're in the right place, queen. I'm Christie, wife, mom, and narcissistic abuse recovery coach. I've walked the messy road, wasted money on the wrong therapist and dry advice and how to come to Jesus moment to get me here to feel free. I had to reconnect with me, set boundaries that stuck and find healing methods that actually lasted. Now, I've created a plan that's empowering, doable, and yes, even fun because I'm sparkly and fun. So of course it's going to be fun. So if you're ready to break cycles, reclaim your peace and trust yourself again, this podcast is for you. So steep, that chamomile tea, silence, all that crazy chaos out there, and let's cue your royal glow up. (01:52) All right, it's Christie Jade. Today's episode might ruffle a few feathers. We're talking about something I see every single week with my clients, the pressure to keep things smooth with a narcissistic co-parent, even when it's slowly destroying your peace and your child's sense of safety. So yes, obviously we don't want to trigger narcissists into pop-off mode, okay? That's not my point here. But here's the hard truth. Most parenting advice out there does not apply when the other parent is a narcissist. You cannot co-parent with someone who loves chaos, control and manipulation. You can parallel parent, and even then you need to do it with strong ass boundaries and rock solid documentation, which I've talked about on this podcast, right? But today we're going to cut through the guilt, the conditioning, and the miss, okay? You're going to walk away knowing what it looks like to protect your child and yourself legally, emotionally, and energetically without ending up back in court. (03:02) But no guarantees. I'm not a lawyer, okay? I am just your favorite little truth telling queen with a mic. But we're going to do our best here together. Okay? So first of all, the lie you've been sold, you've been told that kids need both parents equally. You've been told to be flexible. Take the high road, keep communication fully open. But when one parent is toxic or narcissistic in our cases, the advice is actually dangerous because flexibility becomes a weapon. So keeping the peace becomes another way of saying keep walking on ...
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  • A 5-Minute Reset for When You Start Blaming Yourself for Their Cheating

    A 5-Minute Reset for When You Start Blaming Yourself for Their Cheating
    Nov 6 2025
    A 5-Minute Reset for When You Start Blaming Yourself for Their Cheating If your brain keeps going back to “What did I do wrong?” after being cheated on by a narcissist — this mini reset is your lifeline. Today’s Thrive in 5 will help you stop making THEIR betrayal mean something about YOUR worth… and gently bring your power and truth back into your own body again. Your Next Step in Healing ✨ Ready to take your recovery deeper — with personalized support? My 3-Month Platinum Coaching Package is where we walk together through the exact steps to rebuild your identity, restore your self-trust, and protect your peace with rock-solid boundaries — so you never tolerate this level of chaos again. 🔥 This is for the woman who is DONE repeating old patterns. 💻 Apply here → https://shethrives.thrivecart.com/transformational-coaching-quarterly/ More Coaching Options GOLD PACKAGE Coaching + Somatic Healing Session: https://shethrives.thrivecart.com/journey-to-peace-coaching-blueprint FREE Ways to Connect Grab your Boundaries Pocket Guide → https://christyjade.ck.page/ce79ea9250 Join my Private Facebook Community → https://www.facebook.com/groups/christyjade EMAIL: fiercemamac@gmail.com TRANSCRIPT: Speaker 1 (00:03): Welcome to your Thursday, thrive in five. Your five minute pause from the chaos, the gaslighting and that text you knew better than to reply to take a breath queen. This one's for you. If your brain keeps going back to what did I do wrong or what's wrong with me, this is your five minute reset today, especially after Tuesday's episode, all about why narcissists cheat, right? And not having any guilt. We're going to get rid of that. So the part of you that is still taking responsibility for their betrayal, can we say that again? There's part of you that is taking responsibility for their betrayal is the part we're going to release right now. Alright, so step one, we need to interrupt that mental chaos going on. So say this out loud or in your head, repeat after me. Their cheating was a reflection of their emptiness, not my worth. (01:20) Right? We are not allowing your brand to keep making their behavior means something about you anymore. We're done. Okay, step two, we're going to ground that nervous system. So let's take a minute here. If you're in a place, you can, if not save this episode or this part for later and place one hand on your chest and one on your belly and you're going to breathe in for four seconds in 1, 2, 3, 4. Hold for two seconds. One, two, and exhale. 4, 6, 5, 4, 3, 2, 1. Yes. Get it all out. Okay. And as you continue your regular breaths, tell your body, I am safe from their chaos. Now I am safe from their chaos. Now the body needs to receive that message from you, not from them. We want it from them. We want to get validation and answers all the things. No ma'am. We're not going to seek it from them anymore. Alright, now step three, the identity statement. So you are not someone who got cheated on. That's not going to be your identity. You are someone who survived a professional manipulator and more. But we'll keep it just in the basics here, right? That's a very different identity, isn't it? So with that, you can have a mantra of I was never lacking. They were, we're not going to take ownership for their lacking. I was never lacking. They were. (03:23) All right. Step four, the forward focus. When your brain tries to replay the cheating or compare you to someone else, I want you to pause and say, I don't recycle pain to understand it. There's no more recycling that needs to go on here. There is no new meaning hiding in your old wounds. So we stop going backward to decode people who were not operating in real love the way we think of love and we think about connection is not the way a narcissist does. Okay? So trying to decode why or how, I mean I gave you some reasons why on Tuesday's episode, but playing it all back recycling, it is not how Queen's going to spend their life. No. We can learn it and heal from it. So the power is not an analyzing their betrayal. The power is in protecting your heart going forward. (04:48) And that's doing some healing. Yes, but it's also protecting it moving forward. And if that means boundaries, distance, silence, the gray rock method. I'll try to remember to put that episode. If you don't know what the gray rock method is, girl, you're in for a fun one. I have one or two episodes, I forget if it's one or two, I do have at least one episode on the Gray Rock Method, okay? But that's exactly where your peace lives. Next in the protection mode, in the it is time to take care of me mode. This is your queen era. Did you not get the memo queen? Better get used to be called queen. Okay? Hold your power. You've earned it, you have earned it, and you are deserving of peace and of power and you can will get it. You can just show up doing right now, just watching these podcasts or listening to these podcasts, if you want to do ...
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  • Why Narcissists Cheat And the 3 Lies They Tell You (So You Keep Blaming Yourself)

    Why Narcissists Cheat And the 3 Lies They Tell You (So You Keep Blaming Yourself)
    Nov 4 2025
    Why Narcissists Cheat And the 3 Lies They Tell You (So You Keep Blaming Yourself) Today, I’m breaking down the REAL reasons narcissists cheat, how they use infidelity as a weapon, and the 3 most common lies they tell you to keep you confused, self-blaming, and emotionally destabilized. This episode will help you stop internalizing their betrayal — and start turning your power inward. Your Next Step in Healing ✨ Ready to set boundaries that actually stick — without the guilt spiral? My Empowered Boundaries Course will walk you step-by-step through how to protect your peace, voice, and energy (without losing your heart). 🎓 10 video modules + meditation bundle + lifetime access 💻 Enroll here → https://shethrives.thrivecart.com/empowered-boundaries Book a 1:1 Coaching Session GOLD PACKAGE Coaching + Somatic Healing Session: https://shethrives.thrivecart.com/journey-to-peace-coaching-blueprint SILVER PACKAGE: SAVE when you purchase a month of sessions: https://shethrives.thrivecart.com/transformational-coaching-monthly/ PLATINUM PACKAGE: SAVE and BONUSES when you go on a DEEP transformational 3-month journey: https://shethrives.thrivecart.com/transformational-coaching-quarterly/ FREE Ways to Connect! Grab your Boundaries Pocket Guide → https://christyjade.ck.page/ce79ea9250 Join my Private Facebook Community → https://www.facebook.com/groups/christyjade TRANSCRIPT: Speaker 1 (00:00): You think the pain was that other person, but the real pain was how it made you question your worth. And I want that to end today. Have you finally broken free from that narcissist creepy crawly web, but still feel stuck in fear? Wish you could trust yourself again and take your life back while you're in the right place. Queen. I'm Christie, wife, mom and narcissistic abuse recovery coach. I've walked the messy road, wasted money on the wrong therapist and drive ice and had a come to Jesus moment to get me here to feel free. I had to reconnect with me, set boundaries that stuck and find healing methods that actually lasted. Now I've created a plan that's empowering, doable, and yes, even fun because I'm sparkly and fun. So of course it's going to be fun. So if you're ready to break cycles, reclaim your peace and trust yourself again, this podcast is for you, so steep, that chamomile tea, silence, all that crazy chaos out there and let's cue your royal glow up. (01:12) Alright, queen, deep breath in through the nose, out through the mouth. I love a good halo breath. Before we dive into something a little crazy, it's a hot topic. A lot of questions come in about cheating the lying, why they do it, all sorts of questions. So today we're just going to basically address why they cheat and the three lies they tell you, which there is always manipulation and calculation going into what they do. So we'll cover that as well. So I want to start by saying this clearly directly, very queen styley, right? With the most unshakeable conviction, if a narcissist cheated on you, it had absolutely nothing to do with you not being enough or you being who you are. Okay? Their cheating is not a mirror of your worth. It's actually a mirror of their emptiness. We know narcissists are a big black hole and this is a mirror of that evidence of that. (02:29) So today we're going to break this down in a way that makes you stop blaming or questioning yourself once and for all. We don't have time for that, right? We got queen lives to live. So first of all, let's start with the real reasons that narcissists cheat, right? People cheat that aren't narcissists. That's very true, but we're talking about narcissists today, so we're going to talk about their reasons so they don't cheat because they're unhappy in the relationship and that can be a thing that other people do, but narcissists actually cheat because they are so addicted to supply. You've probably heard me say this a million times, but this is very, very important in this topic. They are addicted to supply, so really envision what that's like, right? You're not like that so you don't get it. But try to imagine a person that is addicted to basically feeding their ego and it's again this big black hole, so it's never truly filled. (03:37) You can't fill it so nobody can news, spoiler alert. So cheating gives them that ego fuel, novelty power, and they love power and even a sense of superiority and those things are what they are chasing. They're not chasing what we chase or desire the connection into intimacy. That came out weird for some reason. Intimacy partnership, they're not seeking those things. They're essentially seeking supply. So another reason, and a lot of women don't talk about this enough, is they cheat to punish you. Say that again. They cheat to punish you, especially when you start getting stronger, and I guarantee if you look back at when you maybe thought maybe they were cheating or there was evidence of cheating, or they give you a timeline, sometimes they'll ...
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  • The Boundary Reframe Every Empath Needs

    The Boundary Reframe Every Empath Needs
    Oct 30 2025
    Thrive in 5: The Boundary Reframe Every Empath Needs Episode Summary: If you’ve ever felt guilty for setting boundaries or worried that saying “no” makes you cold, this quick episode is your reminder that boundaries are not walls — they’re filters. In just five minutes, Christy shares a powerful reframe for empaths who give, love, and feel deeply… sometimes at their own expense. You’ll walk away with a grounding practice and a mindset shift to help you protect your peace without losing your warmth. In This Episode: • Why saying “no” isn’t rejection — it’s redirection • How to stop confusing peacekeeping with people-pleasing • A 3-breath somatic practice to anchor self-respect in your body • The truth about what healthy boundaries really mean for empaths 💖 Your Next Step in Healing Book a 1:1 Coaching Session → GOLD PACKAGE: Coaching and Somatic Healing Session 👉 shethrives.thrivecart.com/journey-to-peace-coaching-blueprint SILVER PACKAGE: SAVE when you purchase a month of sessions 👉 shethrives.thrivecart.com/transformational-coaching-monthly PLATINUM PACKAGE: TRANSFORM and get BONUSES when you go on a deep 3-month journey 👉 shethrives.thrivecart.com/transformational-coaching-quarterly 💌 More Ways to Connect Grab your FREE Boundaries Pocket Guide → christyjade.ck.page/ce79ea9250 Join the Free Facebook Community → facebook.com/groups/christyjade TRANSCRIPT Speaker 1 (00:00): Hello, beautiful souls. Today's Thrive in five is for my tender hearted empaths who have been told they're too nice, too sensitive, or that setting a boundary means you're being called or a biatch, right? Let's reframe that in five minutes flat because it's thriving. Five baby. Welcome to your Thursday. Thrive in five, your five minute pause from the chaos, the gaslighting, and that text you knew better than to reply to take a breath, queen. This one's for you. All right, so here's the truth. Boundaries aren't walls. They are filters. Can we start picturing that queen screen? Ooh, did you like that? I didn't even plan that y'all. That's some true organic criming. Okay, so boundaries don't block love. That's not the point of them. They do. They block drain, right? They don't want to encourage what happens when you are around people who drain you. So if you've ever said yes to keeping the peace only to feel resentful or exhausted later, that's your little baby spirit whispering to you. (01:26) This isn't peace, this is people pleasing, dressed up as kindness. So when you're an empath, which I am, and we don't want to lose that empathy, we don't want to go the other end, but when you are an empath, your instinct is to nurture, to fix. But the twist is real. True. Nurturing needs to include you too. Yes. Right? You cannot pour. This is one of my favorite quotes, by the way, is you cannot pour from an empty cup, right? So you can't pour love from an empty cup and call it compassion. It's just not going to work. It's not going to work for anybody. So here is your reframe for the week. Every time you say no, imagine it instead as a yes to your peace, your purpose, your healing, whatever it's saying yes to for you. So boundaries are not rejection, they are redirection. (02:34) That sounds like something I could say to a class of fifth graders. Boundaries aren't rejection, they're redirection. Everybody now, but your time, your energy and your heart, it's redirecting that toward what truly matters while protecting yourself and your peace. Okay? So what's a little somatic anchor? We can, you can ground the truth in your body through this little exercise. Yay. It's exercise time. All right. Take one hand to your heart and one to your belly. Now, breathe in through that nose. My favorite halo breath, inhale. As you inhale, my peace matters. Exhale and think it's safe to protect my energy in my peace matters out. It's safe to protect my energy, especially before saying yes to something that doesn't feel aligned. Check in with yourself first and remind yourself with this little tiny exercise one more time, and you can write this down on a little sticky note. (03:48) Put it on your mirror, put on your car. Inhale, my peace matters. Exhale it safe to protect my energy. Okay? You're not being cold, you are being clear. That's okay. You're not being a jerk because you're being firm even, okay? Even if you have to get firm, you're not being a jerk. You're being clear. You're being truthful, you're being honest. That doesn't equal cold, that doesn't equal mean. And if you didn't watch or listen to Tuesday's episode, go check that out. We dive deeply into this stuff and you're getting clear, right? The clearer, the more you practice this, basically, the clearer you're going to get on what you want, what you desire, what you need, and that's not selfish. That's about damn time. Okay? Can we quote that? So if this hit home, go back and listen to Tuesday's full episode. If you didn't, it's called Why ...
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  • Why Empaths Struggle With Boundaries (And How to Fix It Without Becoming ‘Cold’ or ‘Mean’)

    Why Empaths Struggle With Boundaries (And How to Fix It Without Becoming ‘Cold’ or ‘Mean’)
    Oct 28 2025
    Why Empaths Struggle With Boundaries (And How to Fix It Without Becoming ‘Cold’ or ‘Mean’) If you’ve ever tried to set a boundary and instantly felt guilty — this episode is your wake-up call. Christy breaks down why empaths struggle to say no, how childhood conditioning wires you to overgive, and the exact mindset shifts that help you protect your peace without losing your warmth. You’ll learn why your nervous system panics when you speak up, how to rewire that fear, and how to find that sweet spot between kindness and self-abandonment. Because boundaries don’t make you cold — they make your love sustainable. 💖 ✨ In This Episode, You’ll Learn: Why empaths confuse love with self-sacrifice The “nice girl” myth that keeps women stuck in burnout How to tell if you’re saying yes out of love or fear The nervous-system reason boundaries feel “wrong” How to set limits without guilt, shame, or freezing up 👑 Your Next Step in Healing ✨ Ready to set boundaries that actually stick — without the guilt spiral? My Empowered Boundaries Course will walk you step-by-step through how to protect your peace, voice, and energy (without losing your heart). 🎓 10 video modules + meditation bundle + lifetime access 💻 Enroll here → shethrives.thrivecart.com/empowered-boundaries Book a 1:1 Coaching Session → GOLD PACKAGE Coaching and Somatic Healing Session :shethrives.thrivecart.com/journey-to-peace-coaching-blueprint SILVER PACKAGE: SAVE when you purchase a month of sessions: https://shethrives.thrivecart.com/transformational-coaching-monthly/PLATINUM PACKAGE: SAVE and BONUSES when you go on a DEEP transformational 3 month journey! https://shethrives.thrivecart.com/transformational-coaching-quarterly/ 💌 More Ways to Connect Grab your FREE Boundaries Pocket Guide → Christyjade.ck.page/ce79ea9250 Join the Free Facebook Community → facebook.com/groups/christyjade TRANSCRIPT Speaker 1 (00:00): Hello Queens. Have you ever tried to set a boundary and immediately felt like you were the villain? Let's talk about why that happens and how to protect your peace without losing that beautiful, gorgeous heart of yours. Have you finally broken free from that narcissist creepy crawly web, but still feel stuck in fear? Wish you could trust yourself again and take your life back. Well, you're in the right place, queen. I'm Christie, wife, mom, and narcissistic abuse recovery coach. I've walked the messy road, wasted money on the wrong therapist and dry advice, and how to come to Jesus moment to get me here to feel free. I had to reconnect with me, set boundaries that stuck and find healing methods that actually lasted. Now, I've created a plan that's empowering, doable, and yes, even fun because I'm sparkly and fun. So of course it's going to be fun. (00:58) So if you're ready to break cycles, reclaim your peace and trust yourself again, this podcast is for you. So steep, that chamomile tea, silence, all that crazy chaos out there, and let's cue your royal glow up. All right, so you've probably been called maybe too sensitive, too nice or too much at some point. I've been called all of those at one point or another in my life. And as an empath, you've learned to read the room, anticipate people's needs, and we love to fix. So maybe fix all the vibes even when it costs you your own piece, right? So here's the truth though. You don't necessarily have a boundaries problem that might be more of a symptom of a different problem, which not everyone talks about, but I'm here to talk about the things we don't talk about. You have a fear of being misunderstood, problem. (02:04) You have a fear of being misunderstood. So deep down, you may not actually be afraid of saying no. You more are afraid of being seen and perceived as someone who does not care or who is not empathetic because you in fact, do care and you don't want to be seen as something you are not. So you're afraid, not of the boundary itself, but what the reaction to the boundary will be. So this episode is your permission slip to finally say, I can be kind and still protect my peace. So let's get into it. Why empaths struggle? So first of all, you were conditioned to prioritize connection over comfort. And that could be from your childhood. You could have earlier family dynamics where you were rewarded for self-sacrifice. So like, oh, you're such a good girl when you help, right? And yes, we want to instill that in our kids, but it could go to an unhealthy level where it's always based around you pushing outside of yourself to do something for others. (03:30) Or you could also have been punished for any self-assertion or calling things out that didn't seem right. Even if you did it in a nice kind way, or when you saw something wasn't fair and you vocalized it, you could have been punished for that, right? So your nervous system equates someone else's comfort with safety due to that. So setting boundaries can feel dangerous ...
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