Episodios

  • A Labour of Love: Building a Circle Holding Non Profit with Becoming Mum's Liz Allum

    A Labour of Love: Building a Circle Holding Non Profit with Becoming Mum's Liz Allum
    Oct 13 2024
    In this episode with Liz of Becoming Mums, we covered: • The importance of having co-facilitators to support with the skills to read the room and create a permissive atmosphere • How being clear about what your demographic needs is more important than what you want to do (and will help you get funding) • Talking to existing organisations or projects that work with your demographic to see how they work and what gaps in provision there are so you’re not reinventing the wheel but creating allies • The importance of paying artists a proper fee for their time in providing a creative aspect to your circle and how creating can support talking • How you as a facilitator create the structure for the space, but then get out of the way of where the talking wants to go: it’s not about your agency but the people who are there • Having shared experience / being a peer makes all the difference when inviting speakers to a circle • How as a facilitator there might come a time when it’s right to move on because you’re no longer in the demographic • Creating community and connections is what underpins change in society
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    41 m
  • Are Circles Woo Woo? with Julia and Tessa

    Are Circles Woo Woo? with Julia and Tessa
    Oct 9 2024
    In this episode, we covered: Talking circles are called by different names, including conversation circles, listening circles, sharing circles and groups (women's groups, men's groups, girl's groups) Circle time can be very straight forward or contain lots of ceremony - it depends on the purpose and the demographic Ceremony can be missing in many people's lives and be enriching Having familiar words or practices (or rituals) can create a sense of safety and familiarity that helps settle people's nervous systems There's space for all sorts of different circles If you're unsure about going to one, contact the facilitator and ask what the circle is like
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    11 m
  • Separation, Ordeal, Return: Creating Men's Circles with Lee Stegels

    Separation, Ordeal, Return: Creating Men's Circles with Lee Stegels
    Oct 6 2024
    In this episode, Julia and Lee covered: • How men are often attracted to circle when they’re at crisis point • The application process for the closed group after being part of an open one • The structure of the meeting allows deep sharings to happen: ‘freedom within form’ • How he provides several opportunities to talk, with longer each time for more depth • Silence can be part of a person’s allotted time • Structure, intention and timeframe are three important aspects to consider • Rites of passage for men include grief and facing fear • Working with 14-16 year old boys involves matching then with a ‘man of trust’ who has done his own work • It’s important to attend a circle yourself as a facilitator and have your own self-practice • Toxic masculinity is toxic terminology – there is zero tolerance to sexist, racist or homophobic language, but use of it rarely happens in circle • Lee shares how to do an introduction to a men’s circle and a settling practice
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    31 m
  • Let's talk MONEY with Julia and Tessa

    Let's talk MONEY with Julia and Tessa
    Oct 2 2024
    In this episode, Julia and Tessa covered: The hidden costs and time spent in running a talking circle Avoiding facilitator burnout by being compensated for your time Different models for running a listening circle Getting funding to make the circle free for participants to attend Experiences of trying to run a circle by donation
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    18 m
  • Children's Circles and Rites of Passage with Jane Bennett

    Children's Circles and Rites of Passage with Jane Bennett
    Sep 29 2024
    In this episode with Jane Bennett, we covered: • How a circle format can work well for sensitive topics in general and to differentiate it from puberty lessons in school in particular • We talked about how having a conversation before the circle can help manage expectations of what will happen • How circle time can lessen feelings of shame or embarrassment and increase positivity around taboo subjects • When crafts or other ways of keeping hands and eyes busy can be advantageous • Why the process of normalising talking about difficult subjects is so important and how circle facilitators achieve that • How you adapt for the people attending the circle, with the example of dads attending Fathers Celebrating Daughters events • A fantastic tip for new (and old) facilitators on the importance of taking time to be present.
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    35 m
  • Stop interrupting! Attunement and Reciprocity in Listening with Julia and Tessa

    Stop interrupting! Attunement and Reciprocity in Listening with Julia and Tessa
    Sep 25 2024
    In this episode about listening with Julia and Tessa, we covered: The importance of the listener being attuned and not having an agenda How wonderful when listening is reciprocal and the listener isn’t trying to fix anything The signs of someone not listening to you How to do a Listening Partnership The joy of a longer term listening partnership That self-worth can grow as someone feels their voice is important
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    21 m