Tera and Wes open up about going through an emotional disconnect and how they rebuilt their relationship using the Connection Codes method. They discuss their struggles with loneliness, guilt, and fear, and how these emotions impacted their marriage and family life. Tera and Wes also explore how learning to process emotions in the moment has helped them break old patterns of conflict, ultimately leading to a stronger, more connected partnership. This episode shows us how slowing down and creating emotional safety can transform a relationship.

Links and Resources:

• Book a discovery call for Overwhelm Overhaul: ⁠⁠⁠⁠https://calendly.com/tera-wages/30min⁠⁠⁠⁠

• To download the Core Emotion Wheel: ⁠⁠⁠⁠https://tinyurl.com/rnyne5jf⁠⁠⁠⁠

• To enroll in Foundations use the code PODCAST for 20% off: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://tinyurl.com/rnyne5jf⁠⁠⁠⁠

• Learn more about becoming a Certified Connection Codes Coach: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.connectioncodes.co/certified-coach⁠

Chapters

• 00:00:00 - The Start of Our Connection Codes Journey

• 00:02:35 - How Our Journey Began During COVID

• 00:04:22 - The Core Emotion Wheel: A Life-Changing Tool

• 00:05:07 - Real-Time Emotion Wheel: An Unfiltered Demo

• 00:09:07 - Wes Opens Up: His Path to Emotional Awareness

• 00:12:08 - Tara’s Reflection on Connection and Communication

• 00:13:51 - The Tough Stuff: Breaking Through Emotional Barriers

• 00:19:34 - Parenting with Emotional Awareness: The Real Impact

• 00:25:23 - Emotional Anchoring: How to Stay Grounded in the Chaos

• 00:26:06 - Reflecting on Old Conflicts and New Growth

• 00:27:05 - Sticking with It: Committing to Emotional Growth

• 00:28:24 - Real-Life Transformation: What It Looks Like

• 00:30:42 - Processing Emotions in Real Time: No More Bottling It Up

• 00:37:04 - Creating a Safe Space: The Key to Emotional Healing

• 00:41:30 - The Challenges of Holding Space for Each Other

• 00:45:45 - Wrapping Up: Final Thoughts and Encouragement

In this episode, the team is diving into the challenges of dealing with difficult family dynamics, focusing on the difference between disassociation and stunt doubling. The hosts share stories about how overwhelming situations, especially with family, can lead to shutting down emotionally or "faking it" just to get through. They explain how disassociation can protect us in moments of stress but can also lead to deeper problems, while stunt doubling is a conscious choice to stay present without fully opening up. They are letting you in on ways to get through these tough moments, helping you find balance between staying true to yourselves and protecting their mental well-being.

Links and Resources:

Book a discovery call for Overwhelm Overhaul: ⁠⁠⁠https://calendly.com/tera-wages/30min⁠⁠⁠

To download the Core Emotion Wheel: ⁠⁠⁠https://tinyurl.com/rnyne5jf⁠⁠⁠

To enroll in Foundations use the code PODCAST for 20% off: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://tinyurl.com/rnyne5jf⁠⁠⁠

Learn more about becoming a Certified Connection Codes Coach: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.connectioncodes.co/certified-coach

Chapters 00:00:00 - When to Show Up or Fake It: Intro to Stunt Doubling vs. Disassociation 00:01:13 - Panic on the Road: How Family Stress Can Lead to Disassociation 00:02:42 - Disassociation: The Mind’s Escape Hatch We All Use 00:04:15 - Driving Blind: Personal Stories of Emotional Shut Down 00:07:59 - Stunt Doubling: Why Pretending Might Save Your Relationships 00:11:08 - The Battle Between Authenticity and Survival 00:15:16 - Culture and Disassociation: Are We All Just Numb? 00:18:18 - Stunt Doubling: A Strategy for Emotional Survival 00:21:42 - Finding Safety: A Client’s Journey Through Stunt Doubling 00:23:51 - How to Stunt Double Without Losing Yourself 00:26:34 - Navigating Life’s Stressful Moments: When to Stunt Double vs. Disassociate 00:31:18 - Core Emotion Wheel: The Tool That Keeps You Grounded 00:34:50 - Wrapping Up: Tools and Insights for Navigating Family Dynamics

In this episode, the Connection Codes team is discussing the impact of emotional and physical pain on our daily lives and relationships. They share personal stories about how unprocessed emotions can show up physically as chronic pain and stress, affecting our ability to experience joy and connection. They also give advice on how to recognize and address these emotions so we can break free from the cycle of pain and live a more fulfilled life.

Links and Resources:

• Book a discovery call for Overwhelm Overhaul: ⁠⁠⁠https://calendly.com/tera-wages/30min⁠⁠⁠
• To download the Core Emotion Wheel: ⁠⁠⁠https://tinyurl.com/rnyne5jf⁠⁠⁠
• To enroll in Foundations use the code PODCAST for 20% off: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://tinyurl.com/rnyne5jf⁠⁠⁠
• Learn more about becoming a Certified Connection Codes Coach: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.connectioncodes.co/certified-coach

Chapters

• 00:00:00 - Joyful Reunion: Reconnecting and New Beginnings

• 00:00:36 - Diving Deep: The Reality of Pain and Chronic Pain

• 00:01:27 - Welcome: Exploring Human Connection on the Connection Codes Podcast

• 00:02:01 - A Fresh Start: New Studio and a Surprise Reveal

• 00:04:21 - Why Core Emotions Matter: Understanding the Foundation

• 00:05:18 - Choosing Favorites: The Core Emotions That Drive Us

• 00:08:36 - Productivity vs. Emotions: The Unseen Connection

• 00:13:17 - Core Emotion Wheel: A Practical Exercise for Daily Life

• 00:18:45 - Unpacking the Layers: Emotional Triggers and Responses

• 00:23:53 - The Power of Connection: Transforming Relationships and Lives

• 00:25:57 - Certified Coaching Program: Empowering Others to Spread the Word

• 00:26:32 - Living in Pain: The Interplay Between Emotional and Physical Suffering

• 00:28:00 - Unprocessed Emotions: The Hidden Impact on Your Well-Being

• 00:30:36 - Stories of Pain: Personal Accounts and Shared Experiences

• 00:35:01 - Processing Emotions: Why It’s Crucial for Health and Happiness

• 00:40:07 - Practical Tips: Strategies for Maintaining Emotional Health

• 00:48:53 - Final Thoughts and Resources: Tools for Your Journey

We confront the overwhelming pressures that come with balancing personal and professional lives, and how unprocessed emotions can drastically reduce productivity and cloud decision-making. The Connection Codes team shares powerful strategies for managing these emotions, helping you break free from the mental blocks that keep you from reaching your full potential. You'll walk away with insights into how emotional intelligence directly impacts your success and learn practical tools to regain control and clarity, both at home and in the workplace.

Links and Resources:

Book a discovery call for Overwhelm Overhaul: ⁠⁠https://calendly.com/tera-wages/30min⁠⁠

To download the Core Emotion Wheel: ⁠⁠https://tinyurl.com/rnyne5jf⁠⁠

To enroll in Foundations use the code PODCAST for 20% off: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://tinyurl.com/rnyne5jf⁠⁠

Learn more about becoming a Certified Connection Codes Coach: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.connectioncodes.co/certified-coach

Chapters:

• 00:00:00 - Drowning in Overwhelm: A Personal Story of Feeling Stuck
• 00:01:08 - The Connection Codes Podcast: Reconnecting with Yourself and Others
• 00:01:56 - Overwhelm: The Hidden Impact of Emotions
• 00:05:11 - Why Emotions Are Sabotaging Your Productivity
• 00:07:23 - The Overlooked Side of Work-Life Balance: Your Emotional State
• 00:11:26 - Raw Vulnerability: Personal Experiences That Shape Us
• 00:20:04 - Your Body Knows Best: Listening to Physical and Emotional Cues
• 00:22:22 - When Overwhelm Takes Over: Strategies for Emotional Processing
• 00:23:10 - Finding Solutions: The Importance of Support in Overcoming Overwhelm
• 00:24:04 - Mastering Overwhelm: Techniques to Regain Control
• 00:25:21 - Coaching Insights: Navigating Through Overwhelm with Professional Guidance
• 00:28:53 - Unlocking Emotional Intelligence: The Key to Personal and Professional Growth
• 00:35:04 - Practical Tools You Can Use Today for Emotional Resilience
• 00:41:10 - Final Encouragement: Moving Forward with Confidence and Clarity

Replay Episode. (We will be back next week with something brand new! But this is one of our most popular episodes that is worth revisiting 🙌🏻)

Dr Glenn & Phyllis dive into a moment where they were both filled with emotion. They break down how they kept it from becoming a disconnect & share how they worked through it without causing any more damage. A painful moment connected them further. Listen to learn how to build the safety in your relationship that your partner craves.

Links and Resources: Book a discovery call for Overwhelm Overhaul: ⁠https://calendly.com/tera-wages/30min⁠ To download the Core Emotion Wheel: ⁠https://tinyurl.com/rnyne5jf⁠ To enroll in Foundations use the code PODCAST for 20% off: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://tinyurl.com/rnyne5jf⁠ Learn more about becoming a Certified Connection Codes Coach: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.connectioncodes.co/certified-coach⁠ (If links aren't working, please copy and paste.)

In this episode, the Connection Codes team talks about the realities of love and marriage, pushing back against the lie that relationships are only about finding "The One." They discuss how feelings of love change over time, as well as the importance of safety and connection in maintaining a healthy relationship. They also go into the science behind emotions, experiences, and the impact of life stages like early parenthood on a couple’s bond. Tune in to hear a fresh perspective on what it takes to keep love alive and thriving through the ups and downs of married life. Links and Resources: Book a discovery call for Overwhelm Overhaul: https://calendly.com/tera-wages/30min To download the Core Emotion Wheel: https://tinyurl.com/rnyne5jf To enroll in Foundations use the code PODCAST for 20% off: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://tinyurl.com/rnyne5jf Learn more about becoming a Certified Connection Codes Coach: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.connectioncodes.co/certified-coach (If links aren't working, please copy and paste.) Chapters 00:00:00 - Kicking Off: Do Feelings Really Change After Marriage? 00:01:28 - The Quest for 'The One': Unpacking the Myth 00:03:47 - From Love to Lows: Understanding Emotional Shifts 00:07:38 - The Chemistry of Love: What Science Says About Emotions 00:12:45 - True Tales: Navigating Love's Complex Journeys 00:16:00 - The Impact of Cultural Differences on the Concept of Love 00:19:15 - Unprocessed Pain in Relationships: A Silent Barrier to Love 00:21:10 - Understanding Emotional Disconnect and Reconnecting 00:26:33 - Joy Interrupted: When Happiness Fades in Relationships 00:28:51 - Reviving Joy: How to Bring Fun Back into Marriage 00:30:30 - Counseling Power: A Lifeline for Troubled Times 00:33:30 - Staying Intentional: Keys to Thriving Together 00:36:20 - Adventures Await: Facing Fears, Finding Joy 00:39:52 - Pain and Joy: How Acknowledging Hurt Leads to Happiness 00:43:57 - Emotional Tools: Discovering the Core Emotion Wheel 00:51:12 - Closing Thoughts: Encouragement for the Journey Ahead

In this episode the Connection Codes team is talking about the subtle yet powerful impact of words and emotions in relationships. They explore how seemingly simple questions can carry deeper meanings and trigger unexpected responses, often rooted in past experiences and fears. They discuss how leading with emotions like joy and fear can foster genuine connections and reduce misunderstandings. The conversation addresses the importance of authentic communication, and how sharing true emotions can strengthen bonds and create more meaningful interactions. You’ll leave this episode with a fresh perspective on the science of connection and the effect of emotional honesty in everyday life.

Links and Resources:

Book a discovery call for Overwhelm Overhaul: https://calendly.com/tera-wages/30min

To download the Core Emotion Wheel: https://tinyurl.com/rnyne5jf

To enroll in Foundations use the code PODCAST for 20% off: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://tinyurl.com/rnyne5jf

Learn more about becoming a Certified Connection Codes Coach: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.connectioncodes.co/certified-coach

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Chapters

• 00:00:00 - Unlocking Emotional Insights: Podcast Kickoff
• 00:01:31 - Client Epiphany: A Moment of Clarity
• 00:03:00 - Words That Change Relationships
• 00:04:26 - The Science of Emotional Connection
• 00:06:28 - Real-Life Examples of Emotional Communication
• 00:10:41 - Navigating Misunderstandings and Challenges
• 00:15:34 - Personal Stories: From Theory to Practice
• 00:22:19 - Respecting Personal Preferences in Relationships
• 00:23:11 - Embracing Emotional Vulnerability
• 00:24:20 - Harnessing the Power of Emotional Language
• 00:25:04 - Guiding Emotional Conversations
• 00:26:48 - The Art of Asking the Right Questions
• 00:27:45 - Understanding the Core Emotion Wheel
• 00:30:01 - Facing Real-Life Emotional Struggles
• 00:39:50 - The Continuous Journey of Connection
• 00:41:35 - Final Thoughts and Words of Encouragement

Dr. Glenn and Phyllis Hill share their unforgettable engagement story, marked by an unexpected fireworks mishap. They open up about the challenges and rewards of maintaining a long-term relationship, discussing the importance of addressing and processing emotional pain rather than suppressing it. They provide insights into the tools and practices that help couples connect on a deeper level, revealing how consistent effort and communication can lead to personal and relational growth. Join them as they unpack the complexities of emotional weight, the significance of the core emotion wheel, and the journey towards authentic connection!

Links and Resources:

• Book a discovery call for Overwhelm Overhaul: ⁠⁠https://calendly.com/tera-wages/30min⁠
• To download the Core Emotion Wheel: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.connectioncodes.co/podcast
• To enroll in Foundations use the code PODCAST for 20% off: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.connectioncodes.co/podcast
• Learn more about becoming a Certified Connection Codes Coach: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.connectioncodes.co/certified-coach⁠

Chapters:

• 00:00:00 - The Painful Path to Progress
• 00:01:04 - Welcome to the Connection Codes Podcast
• 00:01:40 - Celebrating 42 Years: Engagement Story
• 00:03:00 - The Explosive Proposal: Fireworks and Chaos
• 00:09:44 - Commitment and Connection: Staying Together
• 00:13:11 - Understanding and Managing Pain
• 00:17:34 - The Hard Work of Emotional Healing
• 00:22:37 - Understanding Human Emotions
• 00:26:21 - Processing Anger and Emotions
• 00:27:06 - The Core Emotion Wheel
• 00:33:15 - Acknowledging and Addressing Loneliness
• 00:38:45 - The Overwhelm Overhaul Program
• 00:39:34 - Final Thoughts and Encouragement