That problem that you have… it's not what you think it is. And you're not unhappy for the reasons that you think you are.

Welcome back to another episode of the Create Your Happy podcast! In this episode, “You Don’t Have a Relationship Problem, You Have an Identity Problem,” we're exploring a profound topic: how your external problems are actually reflections of your internal identity.

Let’s dive into understanding the roots of your challenges and discover how embracing your true identity can transform your life. It’s time to get to the root of all of these “problems” so that you can see them more clearly for what they truly are!

🔥 What You'll Discover in This Episode:

• Seeing Internal Reflections: Learn how your external problems are really internal disconnections.

• The Illusion of Suffering: Find out how resisting reality causes unnecessary suffering and how embracing what is can lead you to true peace.

• Reclaiming Your Power: Discover how changing your thoughts, feelings, and reactions can help you reclaim your power and find genuine freedom.

• Embracing All of You: Explore the importance of accepting all parts of yourself, flaws and all, to achieve wholeness and authenticity.

💡 Featured Quotes:

"You don't just face random problems. You're encountering an I-dentity problem."

"Our own self beliefs are actually what are causing us our own pain and suffering."

"When we claim our rightful power to change the world by reframing our thoughts, our feelings, and our reactions, we can finally find true freedom and peace."

Journal Prompts For Reflection:

To help you integrate these insights, here are the journaling prompts to explore.

Reflect on a current or recent problem in your life.

How might this situation actually be reflecting a part of your identity?

What is this problem teaching you about yourself?

Where might this problem be signaling an unmet need that you have?

How can you go about meeting that need for yourself?

🌟 Essential Resources for You:

📕Unstuck for Women: Ready to dive deeper into these concepts? My book "Unstuck for Women" includes my signature Spiral Stopper Method, designed to help you rewire your neural pathways from survival mode to conscious creator mode. Get your copy here: http://www.gtfu.ca/

📓Self Discovery Journal: Begin your journey of self discovery with the "Unstuck for Women Daily Self Discovery Journal." This tool will help you illuminate your unique path to freedom and happiness. Find it here: http://www.gtfu.ca/

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Hey hey, gorgeous human, I’m so excited to be back with another episode of the Create Your Happy podcast! Today, I’m tackling the topic of hyper independence and asking for help in “Doing it All Yourself? You’re Doing Independence WRONG!”

Are you ready to explore the roots of hyper-independence and the impact on your relationships? Let’s explore why this form of "independence" might not be quite the high virtue you’ve been led to believe and how by learning to ask for help you are actually giving a GIFT to others.

🔥 What You'll Discover in This Episode:

• Understanding Hyper-Independence: Learn how this trait can lead to isolation and strain your relationships.

• The Historical Context: Discover how the feminist movement and changes in financial independence have shaped modern hyper-independence.

• The Impact on Men and Women: Explore how shifting roles and expectations have influenced both genders.

• Shifting from Independence to Interdependence: Find out why embracing vulnerability and community can lead to deeper connections and personal happiness.

💡 Featured Quotes:

1. "True strength lies in your willingness to be vulnerable."

2. "Hyperindependence can create a barrier to intimacy, leaving both parties feeling isolated."

3. "In giving, not only do we help others, but we receive the enriching experiences that we most long for."

🌟 Essential Resources For You:

Authenticity Unleashed Program: Struggling with hyperindependence and finding it hard to ask for help? Learn how to set healthy boundaries and embrace your authentic self with this incredible program. Enroll now: https://coachchristyholt.com/product/authenticityunleashed/

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Welcome back, beautiful human, to another episode of the Create Your Happy podcast! Today, we’re focusing on a powerful topic: letting go of grudges to discover freedom. Are you ready to shake off the heavy load of past hurts? Let’s explore how to lighten your emotional load with three quick and easy steps.

🔥 What You'll Discover in This Episode:

• Understanding Grudges: Learn how holding onto grudges can perpetuate your suffering and bind you to the past, trapping you in a cycle of anger and resentment. It's time to let that shit go!

• Shake It Off: A simple physical exercise to release tension and grudges within seconds.

• Healing with Ho'oponopono: Discover the ancient Hawaiian practice of reconciliation and forgiveness to restore emotional balance.

• Stay Present: Tips for staying anchored in the present moment, where true freedom lies.

💡 Featured Quote:

"Every moment that you spend holding onto a grudge is a moment of peace that you are denying yourself."

🌟 Essential Resources:

• Sweary AF Meditation Series: Need a quick emotional reset? Check out my five-minute sweary meditation series. Perfect for when you need to bring your focus back to the here and now. Access it here: ​​https://bit.ly/swearyzen

• Breaking Free From Anxiety & Overwhelm: Empowering Strategies for Thriving in Life Video: Tired of feeling overwhelmed? Join me as we tackle it head-on in this video resource. Learn practical, no-BS strategies to transform from merely surviving to absolutely thriving! Watch it here. https://youtu.be/reZaQ-c5PoA

• The Power of Now Book: Enhance your understanding of the importance of living in the present with Eckhart Tolle’s "The Power of Now." Order on Amazon US https://amzn.to/3JH6SP7 or Amazon Canada https://amzn.to/3wiat2Z

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👉 Next on Create Your Happy:

Join me next week as we delve into the importance of asking for help. It’s not a virtue to be hyperindependent; it’s often a trauma response which causes unnecessary suffering. We are not meant to do life alone — community is how we experience what is inside of us. Stay tuned for practical tips and heartfelt discussions on embracing community and support.

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Welcome to Season 3, Episode 20 of Create Your Happy: "Peaceful Dialogues: Advanced Techniques for Conflict Resolution in Relationships" 🎉

Hello, beautiful human! I'm thrilled to share today's episode, where we expand on last week’s topic of healthy communication by exploring some advanced techniques for resolving conflicts. These strategies will empower you not only in intimate relationships but in all interactions throughout your life, so grab a pen and paper and be prepared to take some notes!

🔥 What You'll Discover in This Episode:

• Understanding Conflict: Uncover the origins of conflict, as well as the impact of communication styles and perceptions when it comes to conflict.

• Cultivating Compassion: Explore how healthy boundaries, compassion and mindful listening can transform confrontations into opportunities for growth.

• Actionable Conflict Resolution Techniques: I share practical steps you can use right away to approach conflicts with grace and maintain healthy connection.

💡 Featured Quote:

"Conflict is natural, but how we handle these moments can truly transform our relationship and deepen our understanding of both ourselves and others."

🌟 Essential Resources:

• Sweary Meditation Series: Perfect your pause-and-plan technique with my Sweary Meditation series, helping you find your zen in under five minutes. Access it for free here. https://bit.ly/swearyzen

• Unstuck for Women: Dive deeper into self-regulation techniques with "Unstuck for Women." Grab your copy here. http://www.gtfu.ca/

• Authenticity Unleashed Program: Unlock your true self with the Authenticity Unleashed Program. This comprehensive course provides strategies for setting boundaries and cultivating authentic relationships ensuring you live your most fulfilling life. Sign up now: https://coachchristyholt.com/product/authenticityunleashed/

🎧 Listen and Share:

If this episode inspires you, please leave a rating or review wherever you’re listening. Your feedback not only helps me improve but also helps others find the podcast!

Next on Create Your Happy:

Join me next week for "Let That Shit Go: Three Powerful Techniques to Release Grudges." We're going to tackle how holding grudges can imprison us and block our personal freedom. Get ready to dive into liberating exercises designed to anchor you in the present moment—because that's where past hurts lose their grip and the anxiety of future uncertainties can't reach us. Staying present helps us avoid unnecessary pain and suffering, so let's learn to let that shit go and embrace the now!

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Welcome to a very special milestone episode of the Create Your Happy podcast! 🎉 This is Episode 100 of the show and to celebrate this incredible occasion, I have a special offer just for you (see below)! 🎉

Today we are celebrating, not just another episode, but a centennial of explorations and conversations dedicated to creating happiness and love in our lives. I’m your host, Christy Holt, AKA The Happiness Hussy, and I couldn't be more excited to share this moment of epic celebration with you, my incredible listeners, who make all of this possible.

So let’s dive into "Calm Conversations: Strategies for Mindful Communication in Close Relationships."

🔥 What You'll Discover in This Episode:

• The Power of Regulating Our Nervous System: Learn how fine-tuning our body's own responses can set the stage for more connective and less stressful interactions.

• Techniques for Effective Communication: We explore practical strategies that foster understanding and empathy, so that you can turn every conversation into an opportunity for connection and growth.

• Applying Mindfulness in Conversations: Explore how being present can transform your relationships and make communication a breeze.

💡 Featured Quote

"When we're dysregulated or stuck in this survival mode, we tend to react versus respond."

🌟 Special 100th Episode Offer:

• $100 Pocket Mentorship: Celebrate the 100th episode of Create Your Happy with an exclusive, limited-time offer for one week of pocket mentorship for just $100 CAD. This offer includes on-demand, personalized voice and text support right in your back pocket. Perfect for when you need guidance on-the-go! Available until May 31st. Email me at hello@coachchristyholt.com to get started!

📘 Additional Essential Resources:

• "Unstuck for Women" Book: Grab your copy of Unstuck for Women to discover tools and insights for navigating personal challenges and enhancing your emotional well-being through self-regulation strategies.Available here: http://www.gtfu.ca

• Sweary Meditation Series: Not great at meditating? No problem! Try my Sweary Meditation series designed to help you find your zen in under five minutes. Perfect for those who want a no-nonsense approach to mindfulness. Access for free here: https://bit.ly/swearyzen

• Love Reimagined Program: Transform your love life from the inside out. This program guides you through redefining what love means to you and helps improve your relationship dynamics. Ideal for those ready to explore profound emotional connections. Learn more and enroll here: https://coachchristyholt.com/product/lovereimagined/

• Authenticity Unleashed Program: Unlock your true self with the Authenticity Unleashed Program. This comprehensive course provides strategies for setting boundaries and cultivating authentic relationships, ensuring you live your most fulfilling life. Sign up now: https://coachchristyholt.com/product/authenticityunleashed/

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📣 Next on Create Your Happy:

Stay tuned for the next episode, where we'll continue the conversation we started today by exploring specific communication strategies for conflict resolution and enhancing relational dynamics. Make sure to subscribe so you don’t miss out!

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Welcome back to another empowering episode of Create Your Happy! I’m your host, Christy Holt (AKA The Happiness Hussy), and today, we're exploring a profoundly intimate and essential aspect of our lives—our sexual relationships. This episode, "Breaking Free of Sex-pectations: Reclaiming Pleasure Beyond People Pleasing," examines how societal pressures and people pleasing behaviors can tarnish our intimate experiences and what we can do to reclaim our pleasure when sex feels like a chore.

🔥 What You'll Discover in This Episode:

- The High Cost of People Pleasing in the Bedroom: Unpacking how saying 'yes' when we mean 'no' affects our intimacy and self-perception.

- Authentic Pleasure vs. Obligated Intimacy: Identifying and overcoming the feelings that turn intimate moments into chores.

- Empowering Self Discovery and Expression: Strategies to communicate your needs and desires effectively to enhance intimacy.

💡 Featured Quotes:

"When sex feels like another task on your to-do list, it's a sign that something's off."

"Every begrudging yes, when we really mean no, is building a wall between our true selves and the world."

🌟 Exclusive Resources for You:

- People Pleaser’s Path to Freedom eBook/Masterclass: Escape the yes trap and learn to live freely with this empowering teaching to help you break free from people pleasing. Available here: https://bit.ly/ppptffreebie

- Breaking Free from People Pleasing: Empowering Moms to Embrace Authenticity Video: A deep dive into overcoming the people pleaser syndrome with practical tips and real-life applications for moms. Watch here: https://youtu.be/PChK4tDxTFo?si=FpH7yRufZWUTwB1j

- Authenticity Unleashed Program: Shed societal expectations and embrace your true self for healthier, more genuine relationships. Sign up now: https://coachchristyholt.com/authenticityunleashed

- Love Reimagined Program: Explore how to build profound self intimacy in my Love Reimagined online course. Learn more here: https://coachchristyholt.com/lovereimagined

- Unstuck for Women Daily Self Discovery Journal: Begin your journey of self discovery and unlock the doors to personal clarity and authentic living. Get your copy here: https://coachchristyholt.com/unstuckjournal

- BOOK: Come As You Are by Emily Nagoski: Order in Canada - https://amzn.to/4aOh7fT Order in USA - https://amzn.to/49xhdHU

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👉 Other Must-Watch Episodes Related to Today’s Topic:

- Season 3 Episode 9 | Breaking Free: How Boundaries Can Transform Your Love and Life

- Season 3 Episode 7 | Stop Being a PEOPLE PLEASER Start Being Authentically You (Here's How)

- Season 3 Episode 2 | Love Reimagined: Letting Love Itself Transform You from the Inside Out

- Season 1 Episode 1 | Sex, Intimacy, and Spirituality with Kellie Sanetel

- Season 1 Episode 20 | Let’s Talk About Sex, Baby! with Tanya Gill🎶

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Welcome to Season 3, Episode 17 of Create Your Happy: "Beyond Sacrifice: Harmonizing Love, Life, and Parenting for Mutual Growth." As your one and only Happiness Hussy and host, Christy Holt, I’m back with another episode, this time exploring a topic that's been a huge part of my journey and learning: the concept of sacrifice in relationships.

Through many difficult personal experiences and hard lessons, I've come to see that true love won’t require us to lose ourselves. Let's dive into how we can love deeply without sacrifice, embracing self love as our guiding light.

🔥 What You'll Discover in This Episode: 🔥

-The Myth of Sacrifice in Love: We're unraveling the old belief that love requires sacrifice and why it's time to let it go.

-Self Love as the Foundation: How embracing self love allows us to create relationships where everyone's needs are met.

-Creating Win-Win Solutions: Practical steps to finding solutions that honour both you and your loved ones without compromise.

-The Impact of Sacrifice on Parenting: A personal reflection on parenting without sacrifice and what it means for our children.

💡 Featured Quotes: 💡

"The belief that love requires us to sacrifice is a myth that many of us have lived by. But here's the truth, sacrificing our needs leads to self abandonment."

"True love supports growth and fulfillment, not sacrifice, and that love enriches us, not diminishes us. If you’re giving from a place of abundance, there will always be enough."

🌟 Exclusive Resources for You: 🌟

📓 People Pleaser’s Path to Freedom Masterclass (Audio/Video) + eBook: Are you tired of saying yes when your heart says no, especially in your closest relationships? This incredible masterclass + eBook are designed to help you navigate away from people pleasing habits and towards a life where your pleasure and needs are front and center. Start your journey to freedom and fulfillment today. Get instant access now: https://bit.ly/ppptffreebie

🔥 Authenticity Unleashed Program: Unlock the power of living authentically with this comprehensive program and community support. Discover how embracing your whole self and setting clear boundaries can transform your relationships and lead you to a more fulfilling life. Perfect for those looking to navigate love and life with integrity and joy. Enroll in the Authenticity Unleashed Program here: https://coachchristyholt.com/product/authenticityunleashed/

🧘‍♀️ Sweary AF Meditations: Want to reclaim a few moments for yourself? Find your inner peace with a twist. Access this free 5-minute meditation series and Find Your F*cking Zen here: https://bit.ly/swearyzen

👉 What's Coming Up:

Join me in the next episode, “Breaking the Bedroom Obligation: Reclaiming Pleasure Beyond People Pleasing”. Together, we'll dive into a deeply personal and transformative discussion about intimacy, obligation, and the people pleasing behaviors that can infiltrate our most private moments. When sex starts feeling like a chore, obligation creeps in, and we find ourselves saying yes when we really mean no, it's time to take a step back and reassess. We'll explore how saying yes to others can mean saying no to ourselves, and how we can start listening to our intuition to find harmony and reclaim pleasure. If you've ever felt pressured, guilty, or disconnected in the bedroom, this episode is intended to guide you toward a healthier, more joyful understanding of your desires and boundaries.

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Welcome back to the Create Your Happy podcast! I'm your host, Christy Holt, and in this episode we're going to be exploring the effects of self sabotage in our lives and relationships. If you've ever found yourself on the brink of success or happiness, only to inexplicably push it away, this episode is for you. Together, we'll uncover the roots of self sabotage and discover how to navigate our way to freedom and fulfillment.

🔥 What You'll Discover in This Episode: 🔥

• The True Essence of Self Sabotage: It's not a deliberate act of self destruction but a misdirected attempt by our minds to protect us.

• Strategies for Overcoming Self Sabotage: Identifying patterns and cultivating self awareness to break free.

• Embracing Growth: How embracing vulnerability and stepping out of our comfort zones can lead to authentic and more meaningful relationships as well as self improvement.

💡 Featured Quotes: 💡

"Self sabotage is the mind's misguided attempt at keeping us safe in what's familiar."

"You're not setting out to mess things up. You're certainly not holding the intention to get in your own damn way."

🌟 Exclusive Resources for You: 🌟

💖 Love Reimagined: Ready to get out of your own damn way when it comes to creating your love story? Start here with this incredible program to guide you as you reimagine love and empower yourself to create the relationships that make you truly fucking happy. https://coachchristyholt.com/product/lovereimagined/

🔥 Authenticity Unleashed: Unlock your potential by embracing your true self with this program to guide you through setting boundaries and authentic expression. https://coachchristyholt.com/product/authenticityunleashed/

👉 What's Coming Up:

Join me next week for "Beyond Sacrifice: Creating Win-Win Solutions in Love and Life" to discover why sacrificing everything for your kids or partner is NOT the path to fulfillment. We'll explore alternative strategies that honour your needs and the well-being of those you love.

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