Episodios

  • Ep. 143: Why are BLACK MEN so ANGRY? (Part 1) with Odi

    Ep. 143: Why are BLACK MEN so ANGRY? (Part 1) with Odi
    Nov 3 2025

    In XYBM 143, I sit down with Professor Odi — a psychotherapist doing incredible work with Black men in our community @blackmansafehaven. For his third appearance — and part one of a two-part series — Odi returns to share new insights on the emotional landscape of Black men, exploring why so many feel unseen, unheard, and misunderstood. We unpack the “deficit model” that defines Black men by what they lack, the male loneliness epidemic, and how patriarchy harms everyone — especially those it claims to empower.

    Tune in on all podcast streaming platforms, including YouTube.

    Leave a 5-star review ⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️ if you found value in this episode or a previous episode!

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    SAFE HAVEN:
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    Safe Haven is a holistic healing platform built for Black men by Black men. In Safe Haven, you will be connected with a Black mental health professional, so you can finally heal from the things you find it difficult to talk about AND you will receive support from like-minded Black men that are all on their healing journey, so you don’t have to heal alone.

    Join Safe Haven Now: https://www.expressyourselfblackman.com/safe-haven


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    Guest: @professor.odi (https://www.instagram.com/professor.odi/)
    YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/c/ExpressYourselfBlackMan
    Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/expressyourselfblackman
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    1 h y 56 m
  • XYBM Clips: You can’t have success without pain

    XYBM Clips: You can’t have success without pain
    Oct 30 2025
    If you want to listen to the full episode (XYBM 142) from this clip, search for the title: "Ep. 142: "Why EVERY BLACK MAN needs HOPE with Elliott Connie" — it was released on October 20, 2025.

    In XYBM 142, I sit down with Elliott Connie — a psychotherapist, author, and podcaster helping people heal through solution-focused brief therapy. We have a honest conversation about the lasting effects of childhood trauma and abuse, the power of self-love, and the challenges Black men face in advocating for their mental well-being.

    Elliott also opens up about his own story — growing up with an abusive father and how setting one boundary changed the entire fabric of their relationship for years.

    Tune in on all podcast streaming platforms, including YouTube.

    Leave a 5-star review ⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️ if you found value in this episode or a previous episode!


    BOOK US FOR SPEAKING + BRAND DEALS:
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    Explore our diverse collaboration opportunities as the leading and fastest-growing Black men's mental health platform on social media. Let's create something dope for your brand/company.

    Take the first step by filling out the form on our website: https://www.expressyourselfblackman.com/speaking-brand-deals

    HOW TO FIND A DOPE, BLACK THERAPIST:
    ————————————
    We are teaching a FREE webinar on how to find a dope, Black therapist – sign up for the next session here: https://event.webinarjam.com/channel/black-therapist

    All webinar attendees will have the opportunity to be paired with a Black mental health professional in Safe Haven. We have had 1K+ people sign up for this webinar in the past. Don’t miss out. Slots are limited.

    SAFE HAVEN:
    ————————————
    Safe Haven is a holistic healing platform built for Black men by Black men. In Safe Haven, you will be connected with a Black mental health professional, so you can finally heal from the things you find it difficult to talk about AND you will receive support from like-minded Black men that are all on their healing journey, so you don’t have to heal alone.

    Join Safe Haven Now: https://www.expressyourselfblackman.com/safe-haven

    SUPPORT THE PLATFORM:
    ————————————
    Safe Haven: https://www.expressyourselfblackman.com/safe-haven
    Monthly Donation: https://buy.stripe.com/eVa5o0fhw1q3guYaEE
    Merchandise: https://shop.expressyourselfblackman.com

    FOLLOW US:
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    TikTok: @expressyourselfblackman (https://www.tiktok.com/@expressyourselfblackman) Instagram:
    Host: @expressyourselfblackman
    (https://www.instagram.com/expressyourselfblackman)
    Guest: @elliottspeaks (https://www.instagram.com/elliottspeaks/)
    YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/c/ExpressYourselfBlackMan
    Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/expressyourselfblackman
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    9 m
  • XYBM Clips: Stop feeling guilty for outgrowing people

    XYBM Clips: Stop feeling guilty for outgrowing people
    Oct 29 2025
    If you want to listen to the full episode (XYBM 142) from this clip, search for the title: "Ep. 142: "Why EVERY BLACK MAN needs HOPE with Elliott Connie" — it was released on October 20, 2025.

    In XYBM 142, I sit down with Elliott Connie — a psychotherapist, author, and podcaster helping people heal through solution-focused brief therapy. We have a honest conversation about the lasting effects of childhood trauma and abuse, the power of self-love, and the challenges Black men face in advocating for their mental well-being.

    Elliott also opens up about his own story — growing up with an abusive father and how setting one boundary changed the entire fabric of their relationship for years.

    Tune in on all podcast streaming platforms, including YouTube.

    Leave a 5-star review ⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️ if you found value in this episode or a previous episode!


    BOOK US FOR SPEAKING + BRAND DEALS:
    ————————————
    Explore our diverse collaboration opportunities as the leading and fastest-growing Black men's mental health platform on social media. Let's create something dope for your brand/company.

    Take the first step by filling out the form on our website: https://www.expressyourselfblackman.com/speaking-brand-deals

    HOW TO FIND A DOPE, BLACK THERAPIST:
    ————————————
    We are teaching a FREE webinar on how to find a dope, Black therapist – sign up for the next session here: https://event.webinarjam.com/channel/black-therapist

    All webinar attendees will have the opportunity to be paired with a Black mental health professional in Safe Haven. We have had 1K+ people sign up for this webinar in the past. Don’t miss out. Slots are limited.

    SAFE HAVEN:
    ————————————
    Safe Haven is a holistic healing platform built for Black men by Black men. In Safe Haven, you will be connected with a Black mental health professional, so you can finally heal from the things you find it difficult to talk about AND you will receive support from like-minded Black men that are all on their healing journey, so you don’t have to heal alone.

    Join Safe Haven Now: https://www.expressyourselfblackman.com/safe-haven

    SUPPORT THE PLATFORM:
    ————————————
    Safe Haven: https://www.expressyourselfblackman.com/safe-haven
    Monthly Donation: https://buy.stripe.com/eVa5o0fhw1q3guYaEE
    Merchandise: https://shop.expressyourselfblackman.com

    FOLLOW US:
    ————————————
    TikTok: @expressyourselfblackman (https://www.tiktok.com/@expressyourselfblackman) Instagram:
    Host: @expressyourselfblackman
    (https://www.instagram.com/expressyourselfblackman)
    Guest: @elliottspeaks (https://www.instagram.com/elliottspeaks/)
    YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/c/ExpressYourselfBlackMan
    Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/expressyourselfblackman
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    11 m
  • XYBM Clips: Don’t punish your kids for doing this

    XYBM Clips: Don’t punish your kids for doing this
    Oct 28 2025
    If you want to listen to the full episode (XYBM 142) from this clip, search for the title: "Ep. 142: "Why EVERY BLACK MAN needs HOPE with Elliott Connie" — it was released on October 20, 2025.

    In XYBM 142, I sit down with Elliott Connie — a psychotherapist, author, and podcaster helping people heal through solution-focused brief therapy. We have a honest conversation about the lasting effects of childhood trauma and abuse, the power of self-love, and the challenges Black men face in advocating for their mental well-being.

    Elliott also opens up about his own story — growing up with an abusive father and how setting one boundary changed the entire fabric of their relationship for years.

    Tune in on all podcast streaming platforms, including YouTube.

    Leave a 5-star review ⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️ if you found value in this episode or a previous episode!


    BOOK US FOR SPEAKING + BRAND DEALS:
    ————————————
    Explore our diverse collaboration opportunities as the leading and fastest-growing Black men's mental health platform on social media. Let's create something dope for your brand/company.

    Take the first step by filling out the form on our website: https://www.expressyourselfblackman.com/speaking-brand-deals

    HOW TO FIND A DOPE, BLACK THERAPIST:
    ————————————
    We are teaching a FREE webinar on how to find a dope, Black therapist – sign up for the next session here: https://event.webinarjam.com/channel/black-therapist

    All webinar attendees will have the opportunity to be paired with a Black mental health professional in Safe Haven. We have had 1K+ people sign up for this webinar in the past. Don’t miss out. Slots are limited.

    SAFE HAVEN:
    ————————————
    Safe Haven is a holistic healing platform built for Black men by Black men. In Safe Haven, you will be connected with a Black mental health professional, so you can finally heal from the things you find it difficult to talk about AND you will receive support from like-minded Black men that are all on their healing journey, so you don’t have to heal alone.

    Join Safe Haven Now: https://www.expressyourselfblackman.com/safe-haven

    SUPPORT THE PLATFORM:
    ————————————
    Safe Haven: https://www.expressyourselfblackman.com/safe-haven
    Monthly Donation: https://buy.stripe.com/eVa5o0fhw1q3guYaEE
    Merchandise: https://shop.expressyourselfblackman.com

    FOLLOW US:
    ————————————
    TikTok: @expressyourselfblackman (https://www.tiktok.com/@expressyourselfblackman) Instagram:
    Host: @expressyourselfblackman
    (https://www.instagram.com/expressyourselfblackman)
    Guest: @elliottspeaks (https://www.instagram.com/elliottspeaks/)
    YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/c/ExpressYourselfBlackMan
    Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/expressyourselfblackman
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    12 m
  • BEST MOMENTS of Ep. 142 with Elliott Connie

    BEST MOMENTS of Ep. 142 with Elliott Connie
    Oct 27 2025
    If you want to listen to the full episode (XYBM 142) from this clip, search for the title: "Ep. 142: "Why EVERY BLACK MAN needs HOPE with Elliott Connie" — it was released on October 20, 2025.

    In XYBM 142, I sit down with Elliott Connie — a psychotherapist, author, and podcaster helping people heal through solution-focused brief therapy. We have a honest conversation about the lasting effects of childhood trauma and abuse, the power of self-love, and the challenges Black men face in advocating for their mental well-being.

    Elliott also opens up about his own story — growing up with an abusive father and how setting one boundary changed the entire fabric of their relationship for years.

    Tune in on all podcast streaming platforms, including YouTube.

    Leave a 5-star review ⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️ if you found value in this episode or a previous episode!


    BOOK US FOR SPEAKING + BRAND DEALS:
    ————————————
    Explore our diverse collaboration opportunities as the leading and fastest-growing Black men's mental health platform on social media. Let's create something dope for your brand/company.

    Take the first step by filling out the form on our website: https://www.expressyourselfblackman.com/speaking-brand-deals

    HOW TO FIND A DOPE, BLACK THERAPIST:
    ————————————
    We are teaching a FREE webinar on how to find a dope, Black therapist – sign up for the next session here: https://event.webinarjam.com/channel/black-therapist

    All webinar attendees will have the opportunity to be paired with a Black mental health professional in Safe Haven. We have had 1K+ people sign up for this webinar in the past. Don’t miss out. Slots are limited.

    SAFE HAVEN:
    ————————————
    Safe Haven is a holistic healing platform built for Black men by Black men. In Safe Haven, you will be connected with a Black mental health professional, so you can finally heal from the things you find it difficult to talk about AND you will receive support from like-minded Black men that are all on their healing journey, so you don’t have to heal alone.

    Join Safe Haven Now: https://www.expressyourselfblackman.com/safe-haven

    SUPPORT THE PLATFORM:
    ————————————
    Safe Haven: https://www.expressyourselfblackman.com/safe-haven
    Monthly Donation: https://buy.stripe.com/eVa5o0fhw1q3guYaEE
    Merchandise: https://shop.expressyourselfblackman.com

    FOLLOW US:
    ————————————
    TikTok: @expressyourselfblackman (https://www.tiktok.com/@expressyourselfblackman) Instagram:
    Host: @expressyourselfblackman
    (https://www.instagram.com/expressyourselfblackman)
    Guest: @elliottspeaks (https://www.instagram.com/elliottspeaks/)
    YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/c/ExpressYourselfBlackMan
    Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/expressyourselfblackman
    Más Menos
    17 m
  • Ep. 142: Why EVERY BLACK MAN needs HOPE with Elliott Connie

    Ep. 142: Why EVERY BLACK MAN needs HOPE with Elliott Connie
    Oct 20 2025
    In XYBM 142, I sit down with Elliott Connie — a psychotherapist, author, and podcaster helping people heal through solution-focused brief therapy. We have a honest conversation about the lasting effects of childhood trauma and abuse, the power of self-love, and the challenges Black men face in advocating for their mental well-being.

    Elliott also opens up about his own story — growing up with an abusive father and how setting one boundary changed the entire fabric of their relationship for years.

    Tune in on all podcast streaming platforms, including YouTube.

    Leave a 5-star review ⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️ if you found value in this episode or a previous episode!


    BOOK US FOR SPEAKING + BRAND DEALS:
    ————————————
    Explore our diverse collaboration opportunities as the leading and fastest-growing Black men's mental health platform on social media. Let's create something dope for your brand/company.

    Take the first step by filling out the form on our website: https://www.expressyourselfblackman.com/speaking-brand-deals

    HOW TO FIND A DOPE, BLACK THERAPIST:
    ————————————
    We are teaching a FREE webinar on how to find a dope, Black therapist – sign up for the next session here: https://event.webinarjam.com/channel/black-therapist

    All webinar attendees will have the opportunity to be paired with a Black mental health professional in Safe Haven. We have had 1K+ people sign up for this webinar in the past. Don’t miss out. Slots are limited.

    SAFE HAVEN:
    ————————————
    Safe Haven is a holistic healing platform built for Black men by Black men. In Safe Haven, you will be connected with a Black mental health professional, so you can finally heal from the things you find it difficult to talk about AND you will receive support from like-minded Black men that are all on their healing journey, so you don’t have to heal alone.

    Join Safe Haven Now: https://www.expressyourselfblackman.com/safe-haven

    SUPPORT THE PLATFORM:
    ————————————
    Safe Haven: https://www.expressyourselfblackman.com/safe-haven
    Monthly Donation: https://buy.stripe.com/eVa5o0fhw1q3guYaEE
    Merchandise: https://shop.expressyourselfblackman.com


    FOLLOW US:
    ————————————
    TikTok: @expressyourselfblackman (https://www.tiktok.com/@expressyourselfblackman) Instagram:
    Host: @expressyourselfblackman
    (https://www.instagram.com/expressyourselfblackman)
    Guest: @elliottspeaks (https://www.instagram.com/elliottspeaks/)
    YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/c/ExpressYourselfBlackMan
    Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/expressyourselfblackman
    Más Menos
    2 h y 10 m
  • XYBM Clips: Ask yourself these questions before getting in a relationship

    XYBM Clips: Ask yourself these questions before getting in a relationship
    Oct 15 2025
    If you want to listen to the full episode (XYBM 141) from this clip, search for the title: "Ep. 141: How to Heal so you can build Healthy Relationships with James Harris” — it was released on October 6, 2025.

    In XYBM 141, I sit down with James Harris — licensed mental health professional, Army veteran, and founder of Men to Heal. We dive deep into the ongoing journey of healing, the impact of trauma, and how childhood adversity can shape the way we move through the world. James shares powerful stories from his upbringing, his time in the military, and navigating his mother’s early onset dementia — all while breaking down what depression and trauma responses really look like for Black men.

    We also talk about therapy: how to find the right therapist and why it’s so important for Black men and veterans to have spaces where they can heal and be understood.

    This episode is especially meaningful to me because James was one of the first mental health professionals to support Express Yourself Black Man — back when we had less than 10K followers. So if you support us now, know that he supported us then. Show him some love and follow him — he wants to see you win!

    Tune in this episode on all podcast platforms — including YouTube.

    Leave a 5-star review ⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️ if you found value in this episode or a previous episode!


    BOOK US FOR SPEAKING + BRAND DEALS:
    ————————————
    Explore our diverse collaboration opportunities as the leading and fastest-growing Black men's mental health platform on social media. Let's create something dope for your brand/company.

    Take the first step by filling out the form on our website: https://www.expressyourselfblackman.com/speaking-brand-deals

    HOW TO FIND A DOPE, BLACK THERAPIST:
    ————————————
    We are teaching a FREE webinar on how to find a dope, Black therapist – sign up for the next session here: https://event.webinarjam.com/channel/black-therapist

    All webinar attendees will have the opportunity to be paired with a Black mental health professional in Safe Haven. We have had 1K+ people sign up for this webinar in the past. Don’t miss out. Slots are limited.

    SAFE HAVEN:
    ————————————
    Safe Haven is a holistic healing platform built for Black men by Black men. In Safe Haven, you will be connected with a Black mental health professional, so you can finally heal from the things you find it difficult to talk about AND you will receive support from like-minded Black men that are all on their healing journey, so you don’t have to heal alone.

    Join Safe Haven Now: https://www.expressyourselfblackman.com/safe-haven

    SUPPORT THE PLATFORM:
    ————————————
    Safe Haven: https://www.expressyourselfblackman.com/safe-haven
    Monthly Donation: https://buy.stripe.com/eVa5o0fhw1q3guYaEE
    Merchandise: https://shop.expressyourselfblackman.com

    FOLLOW US:
    ————————————
    TikTok: @expressyourselfblackman (https://www.tiktok.com/@expressyourselfblackman) Instagram:
    Host: @expressyourselfblackman (https://www.instagram.com/expressyourselfblackman)
    Guest: @men_to_heal (https://www.instagram.com/men_to_heal/) (https://www.mentoheal.com/)
    YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/c/ExpressYourselfBlackMan
    Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/expressyourselfblackman
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    11 m
  • XYBM Clips: This is how you can support a veteran in your family

    XYBM Clips: This is how you can support a veteran in your family
    Oct 14 2025
    If you want to listen to the full episode (XYBM 141) from this clip, search for the title: "Ep. 141: How to Heal so you can build Healthy Relationships with James Harris” — it was released on October 6, 2025.

    In XYBM 141, I sit down with James Harris — licensed mental health professional, Army veteran, and founder of Men to Heal. We dive deep into the ongoing journey of healing, the impact of trauma, and how childhood adversity can shape the way we move through the world. James shares powerful stories from his upbringing, his time in the military, and navigating his mother’s early onset dementia — all while breaking down what depression and trauma responses really look like for Black men.

    We also talk about therapy: how to find the right therapist and why it’s so important for Black men and veterans to have spaces where they can heal and be understood.

    This episode is especially meaningful to me because James was one of the first mental health professionals to support Express Yourself Black Man — back when we had less than 10K followers. So if you support us now, know that he supported us then. Show him some love and follow him — he wants to see you win!

    Tune in this episode on all podcast platforms — including YouTube.

    Leave a 5-star review ⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️ if you found value in this episode or a previous episode!


    BOOK US FOR SPEAKING + BRAND DEALS:
    ————————————
    Explore our diverse collaboration opportunities as the leading and fastest-growing Black men's mental health platform on social media. Let's create something dope for your brand/company.

    Take the first step by filling out the form on our website: https://www.expressyourselfblackman.com/speaking-brand-deals

    HOW TO FIND A DOPE, BLACK THERAPIST:
    ————————————
    We are teaching a FREE webinar on how to find a dope, Black therapist – sign up for the next session here: https://event.webinarjam.com/channel/black-therapist

    All webinar attendees will have the opportunity to be paired with a Black mental health professional in Safe Haven. We have had 1K+ people sign up for this webinar in the past. Don’t miss out. Slots are limited.

    SAFE HAVEN:
    ————————————
    Safe Haven is a holistic healing platform built for Black men by Black men. In Safe Haven, you will be connected with a Black mental health professional, so you can finally heal from the things you find it difficult to talk about AND you will receive support from like-minded Black men that are all on their healing journey, so you don’t have to heal alone.

    Join Safe Haven Now: https://www.expressyourselfblackman.com/safe-haven

    SUPPORT THE PLATFORM:
    ————————————
    Safe Haven: https://www.expressyourselfblackman.com/safe-haven
    Monthly Donation: https://buy.stripe.com/eVa5o0fhw1q3guYaEE
    Merchandise: https://shop.expressyourselfblackman.com

    FOLLOW US:
    ————————————
    TikTok: @expressyourselfblackman (https://www.tiktok.com/@expressyourselfblackman) Instagram:
    Host: @expressyourselfblackman (https://www.instagram.com/expressyourselfblackman)
    Guest: @men_to_heal (https://www.instagram.com/men_to_heal/) (https://www.mentoheal.com/)
    YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/c/ExpressYourselfBlackMan
    Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/expressyourselfblackman
    Más Menos
    10 m