Stacie and Eden explore the intricate balance between feeling grateful and experiencing other, seemingly contradictory emotions. Eden shares her personal journey of balancing motherhood with a newborn and a two-year-old, expressing her challenges with exhaustion and guilt. Stacie and Eden emphasize the importance of acknowledging and processing all emotions without judgment, and discuss societal pressures that often hinder this process. They advocate for intentionality in thoughts and actions, likening it to a pilot adjusting coordinates. The episode encourages listeners to embrace their emotions, practice mindfulness, and the importance to create supportive communities for holistic conversations.

What is Discussed:

Gratitude and Tension (00:00:00)Exploring the tension between feeling grateful and having other conflicting emotions, using personal experiences as examples.

New Motherhood Challenges (00:02:12)Discussing the challenges and conflicting emotions of being a new mother while feeling grateful for the blessings.

Acknowledging Negative Feelings (00:05:48)Encouraging the acknowledgment of negative feelings and the importance of giving oneself permission to feel them.

The Impact of "Shoulding" (00:08:00)Discussing the negative impact of societal and external pressures on one's ability to listen to their own instincts and make choices.

Permission to Feel (00:10:54)Exploring the idea of giving oneself permission to feel conflicting emotions and the importance of recognizing and addressing them.

Reframing and Acknowledging Emotions (00:13:00)Highlighting the significance of acknowledging emotions as a prerequisite for reframing and reorienting one's perspective.

Creating a Space for Conversations (00:16:11)Emphasizing the need for a community and space for holistic conversations about the challenges and responsibilities that affect women's lives.

Gratitude and tiredness (00:17:18)Discussion about feeling tired and struggling to feel genuinely grateful.

Therapy and emotions (00:18:08)The benefits of therapy in recognizing and processing emotions without judgment.

Imagination and reframing (00:20:53Exploring the impact of imagination on emotions and the importance of reframing negative thoughts.

Self-regulation and gratitude (00:22:10)Learning to self-regulate emotions and focusing on personal control for gratitude.

Being present and content (00:25:27)The challenge of being present and finding contentment in the present moment.

Practicing presence (00:33:22)The importance of practicing presence and overcoming default thinking about the past or the future.

The importance of intentional thinking (00:34:05)The speakers discuss the importance of being intentional with thoughts and decisions to avoid drifting off course.

The power of intention (00:34:55)The conversation emphasizes the need to be intentional in daily life, with a focus on making new choices and thoughts.

Acknowledging and reframing feelings (00:37:23)The discussion centers around acknowledging one's true feelings and reframing them to create space for gratitude.

The impact of intention on life's course (00:41:25)The analogy of a pilot intentionally changing coordinates is used to illustrate how small shifts in intention can significantly impact life's trajectory.

Coping mechanisms and delaying personal work (00:44:08)The speakers discuss the tendency to delay personal growth and the importance of acknowledging one's coping mechanisms.

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Stacie & Eden continue the conversation on the complexities and transformative potential of marriage. Stacie shares her personal journey, emphasizing the importance of managing expectations and finding fulfillment beyond the marital relationship. Both hosts discuss the significance of personal growth, open communication, and the balancing act of dependency within marriage. They highlight the concept of "iron sharpens iron," illustrating how partners can challenge and refine each other. Throughout, they underscore the need for a supportive community and a strong relationship with God to navigate marital challenges and growth.

What is Discussed:

The complexities of marriage (00:00:59) Discussion about the challenges and transformations experienced in marriage.

The pain and struggles in the beginning of marriage (00:01:56) Exploring the difficulties and pain experienced by some wives in the early stages of marriage.

Managing expectations in marriage (00:04:05)The speaker shares her experience of letting go of expectations and finding a new perspective on marriage.

Marriage as a path to holiness (00:10:28)Exploring the concept of marriage as a journey towards holiness rather than just happiness.

Challenges and growth in marriage (00:12:23)Discussion about the challenges and growth experienced in the early stages of marriage.

Adjusting to differences in marriage (00:14:19)The speakers talk about adjusting to each other's differences and the growth it brings.

Challenging Each Other (00:16:22)Discussion on the positive impact of being challenged in a marriage, personal growth, and emotional support.

Iron Sharpens Iron (00:17:23)Comparison of marriage to the concept of iron sharpening iron, highlighting the role of a partner in personal growth and transformation.

Dependency and Balance (00:22:45)Exploration of the concept of dependency in marriage, finding a balance between independence and interdependence.

Enduring Together (00:27:54)Reflection on enduring through challenging seasons in marriage and the importance of community support and endurance.

The Mystery of Marriage (00:31:48)Discussion on the evolving nature of marriage, personal growth, and the role of faith and intimacy in navigating challenges.

Find Community (00:32:50)Stacie discusses the importance of finding a supportive community, using the analogy of a midwife or sherpa for guidance.

Longevity in Marriage (00:33:55) Stacie expresses her desire to learn from long-married couples and emphasizes the importance of enduring through challenges in marriage.

Seeking Community (00:35:04)Stacie encourages seeking community support in challenging times, highlighting the value of online resources and not giving up when facing difficulties.

Endurance and Wisdom (00:36:06) Stacie emphasizes the value of endurance and seeking wisdom in difficult times, cautioning against making hasty decisions in relationships.

Challenges of Marriage (00:37:10)Stacie discusses the mysterious and challenging aspects of marriage, emphasizing the need to seek guidance and stay close to God.

Navigating Challenges (00:38:04) Stacie and Eden reflect on their own marriage challenges.

Beauty in Marriage (00:40:42) Stacie and Eden discuss the beauty and pain in marriage, highlighting the growth and beauty that can come from enduring the challenges.

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Stacie and Eden dive into the complexities of marriage, sharing personal experiences and insights. Stacie empathizes with women facing early marital challenges and encourages open dialogue. Eden, celebrating two years of marriage, discusses societal pressures and the reality of her non-traditional journey. They emphasize the importance of commitment, communication, and understanding each other's traumas. Stacie shares her faith-driven approach to overcoming marital struggles, while Eden reflects on navigating triggers and conflict. Their candid conversation inspires listeners to reframe expectations and celebrate the ongoing commitment in marriage.

What is Discussed:

The mystery of marriage (00:00:24) Stacie and Eden introduce the topic of marriage as a mysterious and complex experience.

Challenges at the beginning (00:01:57) Stacie discusses the challenges and unexpected experiences that some people face at the beginning of their marriages.

Unmet expectations and reframing (00:05:46) Eden shares her realization about unmet expectations and reframing her ideas about marriage, including the pressure of societal norms.

Challenging societal programming (00:14:51) Stacie and Eden discuss the need to challenge societal programming and expectations related to marriage, including the pressure for extravagant weddings and expensive engagement rings.

Marriage Realities (00:15:58) Discussion about atypical marriage experiences and the mismatch between social media imagery and reality.

Celebrating Commitment (00:17:48) Emphasizing the importance of commitment over grand weddings, and the possibility of celebrating commitment repeatedly over time.

Navigating Turbulence (00:20:46) Navigating through bumpy experiences, managing expectations, and processing trauma in relationships.

Trusting Through Imperfection (00:26:28) Understanding the need to trust in imperfect experiences and the journey of deepening faith through tumultuous times.

Triggering Each Other (00:30:19) Recognizing and learning to manage triggering each other's trauma responses in a relationship.

The tumultuous beginning of the relationship (00:32:20) Discussion about the condensed time and intense experiences at the start of their relationship.

The challenges of moving in together (00:33:11) Challenges and pressures of moving in together, including interracial marriage and societal pressures.

Rapid change and its impact (00:36:57) Eden's now husband's quick change, how it affected their relationship, and their subsequent challenges.

The moment of realization and feeling seen (00:39:16) Discussion about when they knew they wanted to marry each other and the feeling of being truly seen and understood.

Building a strong foundation before marriage (00:43:24) The foundational work done in their relationship before marriage and the challenges they faced, leading to a strong foundation.

Reflection on the challenges and beauty of relationships (00:45:26) Reflection on the challenges and beauty of relationships, and the importance of working through difficulties.

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