What happens when a psychologist in a 25-year sexless marriage decides she’s done living without desire?

This week,Dr. Alisa Kriegel joins Elle and Vee to share her raw, transformative journey from disconnection to deep erotic empowerment — the story behind her upcoming memoir From Sexless Marriage to Sex Goddess.

We talk about:

• How up to 40% of marriages are sexless — and why no one wants to admit it
• The power of communication, curiosity, and skin-to-skin contact in rekindling intimacy
• How understanding your body’s changes (tilted uterus, menopause, hormones — all of it) leads to better sex
• The truth about genital fit and why “one size fits all” is a myth
• The healing that comes when you finally feel desired again
• Using dating and non-monogamy as tools for self-discovery and growth
• Why becoming a “sex goddess” is about owning your body, your boundaries, and your pleasure

Dr. Kriegel breaks down the emotional, physical, and spiritual sides of erotic awakening — from painful intercourse to passionate play, from shame to self-love, from wife to woman fully embodied.

If you’ve ever felt disconnected from your desire, trapped in routine, or unsure how to find your way back to pleasure — this episode will remind you that it’s never too late to reclaim your erotic energy.

CHAPTERS

Introduction to Alisa Kriegel (00:00)

Sexlessness in Relationships: How It’s defined (3:46)

The Importance of Prioritizing Intimacy (5:37)

Navigating a Sexless Marriage (14:47)

The Journey to Self-Discovery through Online Dating and into Swinging (19:43)

The Worst First Date One Night Stand Experience (25:11)

Below Average, Average and Slightly Above Average Cocks (27:30)

What is Genital Fit? From the Kama Sutra (30:41)

Understanding Body Changes and Sexuality (32:41)

Sex First Mentality (36:40)

What is a Sex Goddess (39:06)

Using Dating to Learn Revelations Desire and the False Emotional Protection of Dating Men In Relationships (47:36)

Men Love Pussy (56:20)

Can Someone Else’s Orgasm Trigger Your Orgasm Without Any Manual Stimulation? (59:53)

Created a List for a Relationship Blueprint: Manifesting Your Partner And Surrendering to Fear and Vulnerability (01:03:32)

The Problem with Traditional Dating (01:07:18)

🎙️ Guest Info

Dr. Alisa Kriegel
Psychologist • Author • Sex & Relationship Expert
📖 Book: From Sexless Marriage to Sex Goddess — available November 4, 2025
🎧 Podcast: Let’s Talk About Sex, Really
🌐 Website: alisakriegel.com
📸 Instagram: @alisakriegelauthor

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This week Elle and Vee chat about rough oral play: aka face fucking.

What is face fucking? What is the difference between fellatio and erumatio? (00:34)

Do you like rough oral sex? How our relationship with it has evolved. (4:11)

Running mascara as marks. (11:04)

CNC. (12:24)

Roman showers: throat sex to the point of throwing up. (14:25)

Things to think about for the giver/top. (17:52)

Tricks and tips for the receiver/bottom. How to deal with gag reflex. (21:30)

The best positions. (25:45)

Safety precautions. How to communicate when you’re being bottoming. (30:56)

Breath: listening to the breathing cues of the bottom. What makes you “tap out” when you’re in the bottom position? (33:17)

Blow jobs vs F.F.: the origin of the phrase “blow job”. (36:12)

Listener questions and comments: “Am I supposed to suck or just keep my mouth and throat open?” (38:30)

Spit: does your spit taste ok when you deep throat? (40:30)

How do you suggest this to your partner? (41:28)

Do guys like to be deep-throated, and how many people can? (45:46)

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This week, Vee and Elle chat with Eden, a tantra facilitator and intimacy coach, discussing the importance of creating safe spaces for women to explore their sexuality and intimacy without the male gaze. They talk what actually happens inside femme-only temples — no boys, no judgment, just sacred play, deep connection, and maybe a little glitter lube. They unpack queerness, non-monogamy, and the power of women’s spaces that feel safe and sexy. From overcoming mean-girl energy to feeling fully seen in our desires, this convo pulls back the curtain on tantra, sisterhood, and the kind of turn-on that heals.

Introduction to Eden and Creating Safe Spaces for Women (00:00)

Exploring Queerness and Its Pathway to Non-Monogamy (7:31)

Monogamish & Territorial Feelings and Do You and Your Partner Share Separate Play Details (10:51)

Elle’s Journey Into Queerness and All Femme Party Experiences (16:08)(

The Role of Male Gaze When Women Are Playing And Who Initiates in all Femme Spaces (19:37)

Painted Picture Being In The Temple of Eden (22:29)

Ice Breaker Games and Relating Games (26:04)

Is There A Space for Straight Women In All Women Spaces? (31:42)

What’s the Difference between Temple Parties vs. Traditional Play Parties (35:20)

Expanding Events DC and Philly (43:08)

What if I am a Newvie or Inexperienced to Tantra, Can I Come to Temple of Eden? (46:01

Practices To Do At Home To Feel Your Inner Goddess (50:27)

Follow Along! EFT Tapping Glamour Magic Practice (52:03)

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This week, Vee and Elle unpack everything couples should talk about before stepping into a shared play space—from emotional boundaries to desires, jealousy, and how to reconnect afterward, using a conversation framework they learned on an ISTA retreat. From collars and rituals to new relationship energy (NRE), aka limerence, and the messy middle between fantasy and reality—Vee goes deep on her experience. Whether you're new to the lifestyle, playing with a new partner, or redefining your relationship agreements, this episode is packed with real talk, practical tools, and deeply personal moments.

RDBSM (Relationship, Desires, Boundaries, Sexual Health, Meaning). (00:25)

R: Relationship: Vee navigates a new Monogamish relationship with Mister A. Dom/sub dynamics and wearing collars to denote ownership and ritual. (6:13)

Conscious Relating: redefining your relationships as they fit into your life. (7:26)

D: Desires: playing together with another couple or a female unicorn. (13:31)

B: Boundaries: the idea of men’s cum as ownership leading to wanting to be there for your partner’s orgasm. (13:57)

NRE (New Relationship Energy) vs Love: WTF is limerence? And how do you know when it’s evolved from new relationship energy to actual true romantic love? Instability vs stability. (17:14)

Boundaries contd: Not playing separately, keeping play and connection in the container of the scene or the play party, and then “keep it in the group text”. Locking in and taking the performative aspect out of exhibitionism. (20:37)

M: Meaning: creating a container to explore safely within the time boundaries of the party. (26:30)

Traffic Light System: What to do in the moment if you’re feeling activated or jealous? Borrowing from BDSM scenes to have a safe word or traffic light system in more traditional scenes. (29:15)

A: Aftercare: going home together, reconnecting, and talking over breakfast? (33:13)

Post-Party: Back to School theme and showing ownership by wearing a collar. (34:29)

Wax Play experience: performing for your man when you know he’s watching. (37:38)

Connecting with your partner first: Vee cums for the first time at a play party! (42:44)

Mixed feelings: Watching your partner fuck someone else. What a guy should say when the female is unsure about playing. (45:42)

Popping their cherry: Vee and Mister A play with another couple for the first time. (51:08)

Aftercare and debriefing the next day. (57:02)

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This week, Vee and Elle sit down with journalist and sexual freedom philosopher Nicolle Double L to explore the intersection of BDSM, psychedelics, and sexuality as tools for self-discovery and healing. The conversation dives into cervical orgasms, DMT release, altered states, and how sex can mirror a psychedelic journey, especially when paired with presence and aftercare. The discussion delves into the neurochemistry of orgasms, the therapeutic aspects of BDSM, and the significance of set and setting in both sexual and psychedelic experiences.

Chapters:

Introduction and Connection To Writing, Shame, and BDSM (00:00)

The Role of MDMA and Psychedlics in Healing (13:49)

Does MDMA Ruin Sober Sex? (17:03)

The Neuroscience of Edging, Orgasms and Psychedlelics (25:40)

The Parallels of Set, Setting and Integration After Sex/BDSM Experiences As Seen in Psychedelic Experiences (29:03)

What is Integration? Ex: Aftercare or Honest Space For Feedback & Reflection (32:30)

Safe Space vs Brave Space (35:16)

Do Cervical Orgasms release DMT? (39:55)

Visions and Taste Changes During Orgasms (47:18)

The Descent of Inanna: The First Dominatrix? (53:46)

Rape Fantasy or Consual Non-Consent (CNC) (57:07)

BDSM: Flow States, The Default Network Mode (DNM), the Suspension of Selfhood, Good Dom Vs Bad Dom (59:28)

Listener Q/A: If You Are Experimenting With Psychedlics, What Should Take Into Consideration To Not Have A Bad Experience? (01:10:18)

Nicolle Double L articles referenced in this episode:

1. Can MDMA Increase Women’s Sexual Desire?
2. Do Orgasms Cause the Release of DMT?
3. BDSM is the temporary suspension from the burden of selfhood

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In this episode, Vee and Elle play only the NSFW cards from Esther Perel’s card game Where Should We Begin.

Where Should We Begin: Esther Perel’s card game.

“A text message you fantasize about recieving…”: domming your husband from afar, cock cages, and naughty sexts. (6:06)

“A sexual experience I’d pay for…” From sex workers in Amsterdam to strippers to dominatrixes. (10:30)

Somatica visualization/fantasy: Vee guides Elle to figure out what she would want in a fantasy situation. (14:56)

“When I imagine a life of poly…” What is your capacity for polyamorous relationships? (19:40)

“The relationship that taught me the most about sex...” (26:44)

“A sexual encounter I wish hadn’t been cut short…” (30:51)

“My sexual superpower is…” Cock worship, empathy and attunement, sloppy blowjobs with deep throat, unicorning. (35:44)

Whoreible Life vs Where Should We Begin. (40:14)

Evolving dynamics and labels in the consensually non-monogamous scene. (41:11)

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In this episode, Vee shares her transformational ISTA experience— what is ISTA like (International School of Temple Arts)? What can you expect going to an ISTA retreat? The ladies dive into how Vee FINALLY found the tools to get out of her head and into her body, how to communicate boundaries lovingly, and awakening eros AKA life force. Get ready to hear about emotional release, using tantric exercises to let go of an ex, and the conversation to have before hooking up with a new person.

What is ISTA? Deep dive into self. What drew Vee to go to ISTA? (1:05)

Breath. Sound. Movement: tool for moving through emotions. (5:48)

Intentions going into ISTA. (7:45)

Being your own anchor and not seeking outside validation. (10:52)

Aha Moments: tuning into the 4 energy centers to make decisions. (15:23)

Engaging with the world from a place of fullness. (20:20)

Communicating your NO and learning how to speak your boundaries. (21:22)

The Body Keeps the Score: “if it’s hysterical, it’s historical.” (24:23)

Using rituals and symbolism to let go of an ex. (26:10)

Dancing without judgement as a tool for getting into your body and awakening your sensuality. (27:36)

Approaching situations and ENM with curiosity. Working through triggers and wounds by “surrendering” to situations that are out of your control. (29:59)

Celibacy and back-of-the-bus hookups. (34:33)

Boundaries are awesome. (38:31)

RDBSM *TA: Relationship Desires Boundaries STI Health Meaning *Trauma *Aftercare. (41:58)

Top Tips for going to ISTA. (53:44)

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In this meandering conversation, Elle and Vee blend kink, parenting, and intimacy into one candid, sex-positive chat. They dive into everything from pregnancy porn and the risks of recording intimate videos to the awkwardness of moms finding sexy photos. They explore sex-positive parenting, New Relationship Energy (NRE), and the intensity of Dominant/submissive dynamics—discussing what makes a good Dom, what subs and tops truly get out of play, and why negotiation is key.

Seasons of life: Have Vee and Elle switched places sexually?! (00:35)

Pregnancy gang bang video. (3:19)

Dangers of recording videos. Repercussions of having home porn. (5:24)

Sexy photos discovered by mom. (10:06)

Sex-positive parenting: Speaking about sex with your mother as an adult, and having the sex talk with your kids. (14:47)

NRE: New Relationship Energy. How Dominant/Submissive dynamics can create an intense connection and attachment quickly. (23:39)

“Sub space feels like love and care.” (30:04)

Characteristics of a good dom. Unbound by Kasia Urbaniak. (31:56)

What do doms get out of topping? (34:05)

What do subs get out of bottoming? (37:16)

Negotiations before a D/S scene. (40:40)

Ice bath vs Impact Play. (44:16)

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