When you're triggered or tempted to watch porn, you cannot not regulate. What you can do is choose how you will regulate. In this episode, you'll learn ten powerful grounding techniques to regulate your brain and body without porn:

1. Deep Breathing (Diaphragmatic - image)
2. Power Breathing (Wim Hof Method - video)
3. External Observation (5-4-3-2-1 - image)
4. Internal Observation: (How We Feel - app)
5. Ten Befriending Questions (Excerpt - PDF)
6. Imagination (visualize your inner world)
7. Creativity (be a creator, not a consumer)
8. Movement (be proactive, not passive)
9. Identity (remember who you are - PDF)
10. Co-regulation (do any of these with a friend)

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How does sex trafficking affect boys and men (not just girls and women) and what does healing look like? Hear Mike Chapman's incredible story. This episode is a taken from Mike's recent presentation, "Family-Controlled Sex Trafficking of Young Boys: One Survivor's Healing Journey" at the International Human Trafficking & Social Justice Conference.

Mike Chapman is a survivor of childhood sexual abuse and family-controlled sex trafficking, and a survivor of sexual assault by clergy as a young adult. In his spiritual journey to recovery, Mike has had to battle anger, PTSD, anxiety, codependency, and addictive behaviors, including porn addiction. Mike is also a Full-Time Sign Language Interpreter and a Part-Time Santa Claus Portrayal Artist. He’s been happily married to his wife Beth for over 35 years, and they have 2 adult children – Lizzy and Mac. He and Beth live in Hubert, NC. Mike is currently a part-time Recovery Life Coach for both Polar Life Consulting and Husband Material. To find out more or to contact Mike, email him at PolarLifeConsulting@gmail.com

Check out Mike's own podcast:
Healing for Male Survivors with Mike Chapman

Join Mike and Drew at the next Husband Material Retreat at husbandmaterial.com/retreat

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How does living in a drugified world affect our brains, and what can we about it? Renowned psychiatrist Anna Lembke vulnerably shares her own story of addiction to romance novels and erotica, how digital media hijacks our brains, and what freedom practically looks like. Along the way, you'll learn the meaning of dopamine fasting, self-binding strategies, and prosocial shame. Take notes!

Dr. Anna Lembke is professor of psychiatry at Stanford University School of Medicine and chief of the Stanford Addiction Medicine Dual Diagnosis Clinic. A clinician scholar, she has published more than a hundred peer-reviewed papers, book chapters, and commentaries. She sits on the board of several state and national addiction-focused organizations, has testified before various committees in the United States House of Representatives and Senate, keeps an active speaking calendar, and maintains a thriving clinical practice.

Buy Anna's books:

• Dopamine Nation: Finding Balance in the Age of Indulgence
• The Official Dopamine Nation Workbook: A Practical Guide to Finding Balance in the Age of Indulgence
• Drug Dealer, MD: How Doctors Were Duped, Patients Got Hooked, and Why It’s So Hard to Stop

Learn more about Anna at annalembke.com

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Have you ever wondered if certain sexual behaviors are okay? How do you decide what to believe and how to behave? In this episode, you'll learn 3 foundational principles of sexual ethics: integrity, intimacy, and impact.

Looking for a safe place to talk about sensitive topics?
Ask your questions in the Husband Material Community!

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Why do we sexualize our emotions, and how can we process our emotions without sexualizing them? In this episode, Jonathan Hernandez answers these questions in English. Check out the Spanish version of this episode here.

Jonathan Hernandez is a newly Certified Husband Material Coach with over a year of experience as a Certified Connection Codes Coach. He completed three years at Bethel’s School of Supernatural Ministry and is passionate about helping couples build deeper connection and guiding men into healthy and fulfilling sexuality.

Connect with Jonathan here:
rueda.jonnythecoach.com/english

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¿Por qué sexualizamos nuestras emociones y cómo podemos procesarlas sin sexualizarlas? Jonathan Hernández responde a estas preguntas en el primer episodio de Husband Material en Español. Aquí tienes la versión en inglés: https://podcast.husbandmaterial.com/713910/episodes/17963054-how-to-process-sexualized-emotions-with-jonathan-hernandez

Jonathan Hernández es nuevo coach de Husband Material. Cuenta con más de un año de experiencia como coach certificado de Connection Codes. Estudió tres años en la Escuela de Ministerio Sobrenatural de Bethel y tiene una gran pasión por ayudar a las parejas a vivir más conectadas y a los hombres a experimentar una sexualidad sana y plena.

Guía gratuita de la Rueda de emociones:
rueda.jonnythecoach.com/rueda-794076

Guía de las emociones/template diario:
rueda.jonnythecoach.com/guia-103093

Curso de los fundamentos:
rueda.jonnythecoach.com/curso

Aplicación para Sesión de Claridad:
rueda.jonnythecoach.com/formulario_sesion_claridad

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What is connection? What causes disconnection? How can we reconnect? Dr. Glenn and Phyllis Hill explain the core components of relational connection—especially for couples.

Dr. Glenn and Phyllis Hill are the founders of Connection Codes, a life-changing framework that has helped thousands of couples and families around the world experience deeper intimacy, safety, and joy. Married for over four decades, Glenn and Phyllis know firsthand what it’s like to feel disconnected and stuck in painful cycles. Their own struggles led Glenn to return to school, earning a doctorate in Clinical Sexology and a master’s in Marriage & Family Therapy. Together, they discovered simple, powerful tools that restored their marriage and now equip others to thrive. Today, they travel globally, teaching couples, churches, and leaders how to process emotions, resolve conflict, and build relationships that reflect the love of Christ. Glenn and Phyllis are passionate about helping people discover that emotions aren’t a problem to fix, but a God-given tool to master—so that homes can be healed, marriages strengthened, and communities transformed.

Get the Core Emotion Wheel and learn to regulate your emotions at connectioncodes.co/drew-boa

Buy the book: The Connection Codes: The Blueprint & Tools for Creating the Relationships You Crave, by Dr. Glenn and Phyllis Hill

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Have you ever felt like you're too much? In Mark 6:30-56, we see that nothing and no one is too much for Jesus. This sermon was originally preached on Sunday, September 7, 2025 at the Husband Material Retreat in Colorado.

Learn more about our 2026 retreats here.

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