How can a couple devastated by porn heal, grow, and become even stronger? In this episode, Rich and Deanna Millentree tell their incredible story.

"We're Rich and DeAnna Millentree and we love growing in marriage! We've ridden the rollercoaster of marriage for over 28 years. The ups are exhilarating, but the downs are daunting. As Christian Marriage Coaches, we have one big goal: guide couples to ignite deep, lasting connections to Jesus and one another—no matter where your marriage is at. Together, we will help you break the bad habits that have left you feeling like distant roommates. Let us help you find your vibe."

Connect with Rich and Deanna here:

1. Growing In Marriage website: growinginmarriage.com
2. Growing In Marriage podcast: growinginmarriage.com/podcast
3. Confident Husband Mastermind: growinginmarriage.com/chm
4. Couples Bible Study: growinginmarriage.com/couples
5. Instagram: instagram.com/growinginmarriage

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In this episode, I transform one of my triggers using The F.L.O.S.S. Method with help from three Certified Husband Material Coaches: Andrew Loyd, Juan Mejia, and Rocky Pisor. This episode was recorded live at the recent HMA In A Day workshop as a live demonstration of Trigger Tuesday, one of the weekly coaching calls in Husband Material Academy.

The F.L.O.S.S. Method:

F = Fear

L = Lie

O = Origin Story

S = Sadness

S = Surrender

Drew Boa is a Pastoral Sex Addiction Professional and Coach in Colorado Springs, Colorado. Connect with Drew at drewboa.com

Andrew Loyd is an Ordained Pastor and Coach in Cottage Grove, Oregon. Connect with Andrew at restoredstorycoaching.com

Juan Mejia is a Licensed Professional Counselor and Coach in Atlanta, Georgia. Email Juan at juanmejiacounseling@gmail.com.

Rocky Pisor is a Pastoral Counselor and Coach in Fresno, California. Connect with Rocky at reconnecthope.com

Free resource mentioned in this episode:

• What If I Don't Remember Much Of My Childhood? by Adam Young

Take the Husband Material Journey...

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• Step 2: Join the private Husband Material Community
• Step 3: Take the free mini-course: How To Outgrow Porn
• Step 4: Try the all-in-one program: Husband Material Academy

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Triggers don't have to be tyrants. In this episode, you'll learn how to transform your triggers from threats into opportunities for healing using The F.LO.S.S. Method. This episode is an excerpt from the recent HMA In A Day workshop.

The F.L.O.S.S. Method:

• HMA Preview Lesson at husbandmaterial.com/hma-preview

Take the Husband Material Journey...

• Step 1: Listen to this podcast or watch on YouTube
• Step 2: Join the private Husband Material Community
• Step 3: Take the free mini-course: How To Outgrow Porn
• Step 4: Try the all-in-one program: Husband Material Academy

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Tera Brown went from trying to fix her husband's sex addiction to finding herself, her emotions, her boundaries, and her sacred ground. In this episode, you'll learn what it looks like to heal from relational trauma and feel alive in your body.

Tera Brown is a trauma-informed life coach trained by APSATS (Association of Partners of Sex Addiction Treatment Specialists). She woke up from a lifelong pattern of avoiding her emotions when her husband disclosed his sex addiction after 16 years of marriage. Tera and her husband have now been married for 29 years.

Tera specializes in helping women and couples create personal safety, emotional sobriety, and peace. Learn more about her coaching practice, support groups, and online classes at coachtera.com.

Interested in Tera's experiential retreat?

Check out La Loba: The Woman Who Knows

Next retreat: October 18-20, 2024 in Smithfield, Utah

Mentioned in this episode:

The Four Agreements by Don Miguel Ruiz (paid link)

Take the Husband Material Journey...

• Step 1: Listen to this podcast or watch on YouTube
• Step 2: Join the private Husband Material Community
• Step 3: Take the free mini-course: How To Outgrow Porn
• Step 4: Try the all-in-one program: Husband Material Academy

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How do I sit in the dirt with someone who is experiencing sexual brokenness? What if I don't know what to say? What if I find myself dysregulated or sexually aroused by the other person? Jeremy Williamson offers invaluable wisdom and counterintuitive clarity about how "be with" others in such a way that they experience the presence of God.

Jeremy Williamson is a storywork coach and counselor with ReStory. He is also the Director of Restorative Experiences at Restoration Project. As a former pastor and missionary with 20+ years of experience, Jeremy serves as a kind and passionate guide for men and women who long to know God and live in wholeness. Email Jeremy at jeremy@restory.life.

If you loved this interview...

• Take the Sitting In The Dirt Course by Chris Bruno and Jeremy Williamson (highly recommended!)
• Join Sitting In The Dirt Cohort (for 5 weeks with Jeremy)

Use the discount code HUSBANDMATERIAL for $10 off!

Take the Husband Material Journey...

• Step 1: Listen to this podcast or watch on YouTube
• Step 2: Join the private Husband Material Community
• Step 3: Take the free mini-course: How To Outgrow Porn
• Step 4: Try the all-in-one program: Husband Material Academy

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Have you ever been disappointed by traditional counseling or talk therapy? In this episode, you'll discover the power of a whole-brain approach to outgrowing porn. You'll learn the why, what, and how of experiential healing work. This episode is required viewing for my clients.

Related episodes:

• How To Heal Your Inner Child
• Experience Healing Through IFS
• Experience Healing Through The Immanuel Approach
• Experience Healing Through Psychodrama
• Healing Through Artwork And Storywork
• Attunement: The Key To Connection

Are you interested in doing experiential healing work?

• Join the waitlist for HMA: joinHMA.com
• Apply for 1:1 coaching with me: drewboa.com/application
• Apply for our next healing weekend: husbandmaterial.com/apply

Take the Husband Material Journey...

• Step 1: Listen to this podcast or watch on YouTube
• Step 2: Join the private Husband Material Community
• Step 3: Take the free mini-course: How To Outgrow Porn
• Step 4: Try the all-in-one program: Husband Material Academy

Thanks for listening!

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How do you pursue restoration after a relapse, especially in marriage or ministry leadership? Rocky Pisor tells his own story of processing a porn relapse after 17 years of sobriety. You'll learn how to notice the warning signs of impending relapse, and how to respond to relapse with curiosity and compassion rather than punishing yourself or pretending like everything is fine. There is wisdom in this episode!

Rocky Pisor is a Certified Husband Material Coach, Sex Addiction Mentor, Trauma-Informed Facilitator, and Pastoral Counselor who has worked through his own story of freedom from sex addiction. Learn more at regener8mentoring.com

Read Rocky's free resource: How to Process a Lapse/Relapse

Schedule a free, no-obligation personal chat with Rocky: https://calendly.com/rocky-pisor/quick-chat

Email Rocky at rockyp@regnener8mentoring.com

Take the Husband Material Journey...

• Step 1: Listen to this podcast or watch on YouTube
• Step 2: Join the private Husband Material Community
• Step 3: Take the free mini-course: How To Outgrow Porn
• Step 4: Try the all-in-one program: Husband Material Academy

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"There is nothing inherently wrong with an aroused man." What is arousal? Why is it good? Sam Jolman helps us reclaim the heart of masculine sexuality for the purpose of awe, play, and worshipping God. You'll learn how arousal always has a script, why evil hates arousal, and the difference between sexuality and sensuality. At the end, you'll receive a beautiful blessing from Sam. This episode is amazing!

Sam Jolman (MA, LPC) is a trauma therapist with over twenty years of experience specializing in men’s issues and sexual trauma recovery. His writing flows out of this unique opportunity to help people know and heal their stories, and find greater sexual wholeness and aliveness. He received his master’s in counseling from Reformed Theological Seminary and was further trained in Narrative Focused Trauma Care through the Allender Center at The Seattle School of Theology and Psychology. Sam lives in Colorado with his wife and three sons. Fun fact: Sam and Drew attend the same church!

Buy Sam's new book (paid link):
The Sex Talk You Never Got: Reclaiming the Heart of Masculine Sexuality

Join Sam's newsletter for a free copy of the first chapter: samjolman.substack.com

Learn more and connect with Sam at samjolman.com

Take the Husband Material Journey...

• Step 1: Listen to this podcast or watch on YouTube
• Step 2: Join the private Husband Material Community
• Step 3: Take the free mini-course: How To Outgrow Porn
• Step 4: Try the all-in-one program: Husband Material Academy

Thanks for listening!

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The doors will close on Sunday, July 21.
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