FEELING STUCK IN A TOXIC AND/OR ABUSIVE RELATIONSHIP AND KNOWING YOU NEED TO GET OUT BUT YOUR FLOODED WITH EMOTIONS, FEAR, AND UNCERTAINTY; FOCUSING ON THE HOW AND NOT THE WHY?

The how will come, even when it feels like it's impossible, even when it's scary, even when you don't have all the answers. Let all the reasons why guide you away from the toxicity. Know that healing takes time but it feels less overwhelming when you let go of the big picture and just put one foot in front of the other- one step at a time!

We all deserve to be happy, to be respected, and to be loved. Being in a toxic relationship breaks you down, you lose yourself, you lose your confidence; feeling hopeless and stuck. You find all the reasons to justify why you stay and continue talking yourself into all the reasons why you can't leave. 

As someone who knows what it's like to feel stuck; knowing I wanted to get out 3 years into our relationship yet staying for over 10... raising a daughter as a "family" and not wanting to take that away from her- yet she was witness to a relationship that was NOT the example of what love and happiness looked like. Not having the financial stability to go out on my own and not wanting to move back in with my parents; telling myself one day i'll get out just not today.

Now that i'm out and happily married to my best friend I look back and think of how many years I allowed myself to be unhappy and for what? I know it was not as simple as just leaving, but I also know that if I would have focused on the reasons why I needed to get out rather than how i'm going to get out, I would have saved myself and my daughter a lot sooner. Regardless, I got out and I want to help you or someone you know get out too! 

I'm not saying I want to tear down relationships, I believe in marriage and not giving up just because things get hard; however, there is a difference between fighting for your relationship and fighting for your freedom; sometimes even fighting for your life. Together, we can end the cycle of abuse and help empower each other through the tough times, knowing there IS light at the end of this dark and scary tunnel... we just have to take it one step at a time! 

-XO-

Stacy

If this episode spoke to you and you want to reach out, i'm always available! Connect with me @ stacyfayling@gmail.com or over on FB

We are all guilty of it. We tend to put ourselves last on the to-do list. What we often fail to realize is what we are taking away from our own health, wellness, sanity, and happiness. 

There is no reason that self-care needs to be 1. a big lengthy type of event or 2. something we feel guilty about and 3. something that is seldom and/or non-existent! 

We cannot fully and functionally take care of others if we cannot first take care of ourselves. It's so true! Burn out is real. Stress is real. If we continue to go down this path of self-destruction, we are not only hurting ourselves, but we are hurting those around us---and HELLO!! The whole point of us getting so stressed out is because we want to avoid hurting those who matter most to us.

Here's the thing... we can only handle so much before we break. When we break, everything else around us breaks. Same is true when we take care of our mental health and well-being. 

Stop feeling guilty for taking the necessary time to be with yourself! We all need it, and you are no different. Stop talking yourself out of it or saying you are a bad person for thinking about yourself. You are being anything but selfish! 

Don't let your tower become so weak it falls over time and time again. While building is tenacious and empowering... you can only keep building the same failed structure time and time again before you hit a breaking point. Step back, re-evaluate, recharge, and see it through with a new perspective and attitude!

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As always, DM me with all your comments and questions!!! 

-XO-

Stacy

Seriously, one of the hardest things I've found to do is niching down. To niche down so specifically though, you need to really dig deep into who you are and find your ONE true passion!

AGH! How frustrating this can be at times when you have so many life experiences and knowledge you feel pulled towards. How difficult it is to get so specific in your passion without feeling like you don't fit it.

BINGO! The key here is to do what you are most passionate about without worrying about judgement or "fitting in." Know why?! Because your niche and your tribe will be drawn to you because believe it or not, you're not the only one! 

So many, not all, but many others, have experienced your similar story or can relate in some way. The beauty is, you can take the pressure off of feeling like you have to please everyone---- selling to all is selling to NO ONE!

Take some time to reflect on yourself and your memories to really find your true passion; the thing that keeps you up at night, the thing that people always come to you for, and that thing that has made a difference in your life. 

It. Will. Come!

As always, please share comments, suggestions, and a quick review so I can better serve you as my listener :) 

Thank you for being here, 

-XO-

Stacy