FEELING STUCK IN A TOXIC AND/OR ABUSIVE RELATIONSHIP AND KNOWING YOU NEED TO GET OUT BUT YOUR FLOODED WITH EMOTIONS, FEAR, AND UNCERTAINTY; FOCUSING ON THE HOW AND NOT THE WHY?

The how will come, even when it feels like it's impossible, even when it's scary, even when you don't have all the answers. Let all the reasons why guide you away from the toxicity. Know that healing takes time but it feels less overwhelming when you let go of the big picture and just put one foot in front of the other- one step at a time!

We all deserve to be happy, to be respected, and to be loved. Being in a toxic relationship breaks you down, you lose yourself, you lose your confidence; feeling hopeless and stuck. You find all the reasons to justify why you stay and continue talking yourself into all the reasons why you can't leave. 

As someone who knows what it's like to feel stuck; knowing I wanted to get out 3 years into our relationship yet staying for over 10... raising a daughter as a "family" and not wanting to take that away from her- yet she was witness to a relationship that was NOT the example of what love and happiness looked like. Not having the financial stability to go out on my own and not wanting to move back in with my parents; telling myself one day i'll get out just not today.

Now that i'm out and happily married to my best friend I look back and think of how many years I allowed myself to be unhappy and for what? I know it was not as simple as just leaving, but I also know that if I would have focused on the reasons why I needed to get out rather than how i'm going to get out, I would have saved myself and my daughter a lot sooner. Regardless, I got out and I want to help you or someone you know get out too! 

I'm not saying I want to tear down relationships, I believe in marriage and not giving up just because things get hard; however, there is a difference between fighting for your relationship and fighting for your freedom; sometimes even fighting for your life. Together, we can end the cycle of abuse and help empower each other through the tough times, knowing there IS light at the end of this dark and scary tunnel... we just have to take it one step at a time! 

-XO-

Stacy

If this episode spoke to you and you want to reach out, i'm always available! Connect with me @ stacyfayling@gmail.com or over on FB

We are all guilty of it. We tend to put ourselves last on the to-do list. What we often fail to realize is what we are taking away from our own health, wellness, sanity, and happiness. 

There is no reason that self-care needs to be 1. a big lengthy type of event or 2. something we feel guilty about and 3. something that is seldom and/or non-existent! 

We cannot fully and functionally take care of others if we cannot first take care of ourselves. It's so true! Burn out is real. Stress is real. If we continue to go down this path of self-destruction, we are not only hurting ourselves, but we are hurting those around us---and HELLO!! The whole point of us getting so stressed out is because we want to avoid hurting those who matter most to us.

Here's the thing... we can only handle so much before we break. When we break, everything else around us breaks. Same is true when we take care of our mental health and well-being. 

Stop feeling guilty for taking the necessary time to be with yourself! We all need it, and you are no different. Stop talking yourself out of it or saying you are a bad person for thinking about yourself. You are being anything but selfish! 

Don't let your tower become so weak it falls over time and time again. While building is tenacious and empowering... you can only keep building the same failed structure time and time again before you hit a breaking point. Step back, re-evaluate, recharge, and see it through with a new perspective and attitude!

Need a little extra help? No shame girl, I gotchu! Check out my practitioner grade health and wellness supplements that help with so much more: 

-Stress, anxiety, sleep, mood, metabolism, appetite, libido, etc etc etc!! 

https://onyxandleopard.com/health-%26-wellness 

As always, DM me with all your comments and questions!!! 

-XO-

Stacy

Seriously, one of the hardest things I've found to do is niching down. To niche down so specifically though, you need to really dig deep into who you are and find your ONE true passion!

AGH! How frustrating this can be at times when you have so many life experiences and knowledge you feel pulled towards. How difficult it is to get so specific in your passion without feeling like you don't fit it.

BINGO! The key here is to do what you are most passionate about without worrying about judgement or "fitting in." Know why?! Because your niche and your tribe will be drawn to you because believe it or not, you're not the only one! 

So many, not all, but many others, have experienced your similar story or can relate in some way. The beauty is, you can take the pressure off of feeling like you have to please everyone---- selling to all is selling to NO ONE!

Take some time to reflect on yourself and your memories to really find your true passion; the thing that keeps you up at night, the thing that people always come to you for, and that thing that has made a difference in your life. 

It. Will. Come!

As always, please share comments, suggestions, and a quick review so I can better serve you as my listener :) 

Thank you for being here, 

-XO-

Stacy

Homeschooling.

It's on the rise, all thanks to COVID. While some families have been left no other choice, other families are exploring the flexibility, choices, and quality of options for their child's education.

Obviously homeschooling isn't a new idea; however, it is becoming more main stream. Which is great because there are a lot more resources and communities who are embracing homeschool families. Now is the best time to delve into the world of homeschooling... but how?

I'm sure that is one of many questions, naturally. We are going to throw it all out on the table today as I share our personal experience with homeschooling for the last 2 years. Mind you, neither my husband and I were homeschooled and we didn't start fresh; we started with our 14 year old daughter who was entering the 8th grade (YIKES!)

Suffice it to say, it was a successful year and we are happily going at it again, having mixed up the curriculum a bit (one of the perks of homeschooling) and continue to be satisfied with our decision to homeschool for the 2nd year. Our 15 year old daughter who is now a freshman has also actually embraced it.

It's not as hard as you think, the steps are in place, and it's actually fun picking and choosing and tailoring an education for child based on their interests, learning styles, and values. We will for sure be doing the same for our son who is 3 and is also enjoying his "schooling" 

Tune in for all the deets ;) 

-XO-

Stacy

Homeschooling Laws by State

Last year's all-in-one boxed curriculum (Pre-K through 9th/10th grade)

This Years Science and Nutrition Curriculum (K-12)

This Year's English and Social Studies (Pre K-12)

Rosetta Stone Homeschool

Math we used the last 2 years (1st-12th) Math curriculum isn't usually required in Kindergarten

Christianbook.com/Homeschool another great homeschool resource

*Don't forget to check out facebook for local homeschool communities and resources! 

In a world full of CBD enthusiasts pushing products, it can be easy to get wrapped up in all the hype without knowing the facts.

Today we break it down; (no pun lol) all the benefits, debunking myths, and getting to the bottom of they CBD hype. 

We discuss what CBD is, how it's used, created, and what it's capable of. It may come as a shock to you or it may just be a bit of a review. Either way, there is something to be said about what CBD can do for our health and wellness!

Make sure to tune in and check the sites below for more info and research :) 

https://www.businessinsider.com/first-lab-made-marijuana-thc-cbd-startups-demetrix-2019-2

https://www.nature.com/articles/d41586-019-02525-4

https://www.healthcanal.com/health/benefits-cbd-oil

*Disclaimer- As a licensed professional, I am not prescribing or suggesting that anyone stops or starts a new supplement or medication without discussing first with their health care provider. While supplements such as CBD have a long list of health benefits backed by science and research, it is not up to me to decide, prescribe, or discontinue the medication and treatment provided by an individuals health care professional. The information provided today is solely for education purposes and is not to disrespect, eliminate or replace other important methods of treatment; such as traditional medicines. I do not recommend or prescribe anyone to stop and or start a medication or supplement without discussing first with their health care provider! I do not claim to be an expert nor claim to know any and all side effects or interactions when using CBD. This podcast episode is for informational purposes only. The information and products discussed are to be decided and used at the sole discretion of the consumer, customer, and/or listener. Please discuss with your health care provider and consume at your own risk*

@onyxandleopard

info@stacyfayling.com

www.onyxandleopard.com 

GO GO GO!! 

It's that busy time of year again; back to school; which usually means late nights, low energy, and dinner of champions.

Not anymore!! With these helpful tips and tricks, you will be winning the snack/pre-dinner game every week :) Check out one of my favorite on the go snacks- ENERGY BITE RECIPE

Don't forget to shop for yourself mama: 

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and when you need less stress and anxiety and more energy and a good nights sleep, you can rely on: 

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-XO-

Stacy

HAPPY FRIDAY ONCE AGAIN!!!!

This weekend, reverse that negative self-talk and see what happens!

Rather than telling ourselves and our minds all the "bad" things about us, try saying this positive affirmation (below) every day over the weekend. See how your mindset, attitude, and outlook change by doing this one quick daily habit. 

Change it up week after week or continue saying the same one; make it stick! 

Not a fan of affirmations? Put your focus on eliminating the negative self talk instead :) 

AFFIRMATION

“I am who I am supposed to be. I accept my strengths and embrace my flaws. I will be my own competition. I will let go of doubt and toxicity and I bring in joy and abundance”

Have a great weekend!

-XO-

Stacy

We can't exactly take a girls trip to Target together, but sometimes just being chill, lounging with a drink in hand, chatting it up together is all the therapy we need :) 

I'm sure we could all use more time with our girlfriends and we often times are looking for ways to fill the void through other communities/groups, etc. 

Share how you make the time, ideas, all the secrets to creating more bestie time. 

Also share your favorite podcasts and self-help books so we can all have a go-to tribe in our own home! 

Let's make this last quarter of 2021 the best yet :) 

-XO-

Stacy

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