In this episode, master financial coaches, Shana and Vanessa, who co-host the Financial Coaching for Women podcast, which ranks in the top 1.5% worldwide and stays in the top 10 "How To" podcasts on Apple in the US AND they are on Top Self today to discuss how financial transparency and trust are crucial in relationships.

Backed by five years of hands-on experience as financial coaches and training by Dave Ramsey, Shana and Vanessa, have guided thousands of people all over the world, crafted what feels like a million budgets, and honed their own unique systems. Their advice stands out because it's non-judgmental, straightforward, and breaks down complex financial concepts into simple, actionable steps.

They offer practical tips for couples to manage their money together, touching on:

• the significance of budgeting,
• building honest communication, and
• avoiding financial secrecy by setting up separate spending accounts while keeping joint finances transparent and honest
• ending the paycheck to paycheck cycle
• automating your budget, bill, savings and spending

00:00 Introduction and Guest Welcome
01:35 How It All Began: The Story of Friendship and Business
02:20 The Importance of Trust in Financial Relationships
03:07 Common Financial Issues in Relationships
04:10 Early Financial Conversations in Dating
05:49 Impact of Upbringing on Financial Behavior
08:11 Transparency and Trust in Marriage
12:03 Building a Budget Together
15:36 Joint vs. Separate Accounts in Marriage
17:57 Creating a Joint Budget
18:07 Balancing Different Financial Priorities
18:46 Bonus Tip: Making Budget Meetings Fun
21:13 Automating Your Finances
21:40 Separating Accounts for Better Management
25:27 Handling Different Income Levels
28:43 Common Financial Mistakes
29:26 Digital Envelope System
31:21 Conclusion and Resources

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If you are someone who is a recovering alcoholic or thinking about getting sober, you're in the right place my friend. Addiction is tough and I have seen it throughout my family and others families and it can be so destructive.

Join myself and Rachel Harrison as she talks a bit about her recovery, how she is different today in many ways other than just being sober. I hope this episode can be an inspiration for you as alcohol mixed with jealousy whether you have an addiction to it or not, can be a recipe for disaster.

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Today is heavy and you may feel called out a bit and it just might feel uncomfortable. Just like jealousy, this topic may feel shameful too but you are not alone in this either.

I'm talking about cheating and not your partner cheating... you cheating. I'll cover possible reasons this might be something you do or have done in the past. Its a short one but I hear it enough and I know you are feeling guilty and ashamed so I thought we should talk about it.

It's also a great reason to sign up for the upcoming Bootcamp and you can register by clicking either of the provided links below based on what payment option works best for you.

The Trust Building Bootcamp starts on August 7th. We meet every Wednesday at 7:00 pm Eastern Time for 6 weeks until September 11th.

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I am flying solo in today's episode and wanted to discuss just a few takeaways from my last guest Topaz Adizes and our conversation about the questions we ask and why we ask them.

It's a quick dump episode but an important one when it comes to communicating with our partners and the reassurance questions we ask over and over again.

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Feel like your asking the same questions over and over again to your partner? Does it seem like you already know what you want the answer to be? Wonder why your conversations often seem to escalate when you ask your burning question? Is your partner getting a little on the defensive side and maybe feel like their back is against the wall when answering.

It's very possible we're not asking relationship strengthening questions or posing our questions in the right way and here to tell you what you should be asking instead is an author and filmaker, Topaz Adizes, who has spent over a decade exploring human emotion and intimacy through over 1200 crafted conversations.

In this episode, as he gives some reframe examples, you can hear not only how the questions would land differently but how they open up the possibility for some really good conversations.

Here are a few other things we talk about:

the art of asking well-constructed questions to strengthen relationships
insights on maintaining a healthy partnership by creating the right space for communication.
practical advice about avoiding binary questions and ensuring curiosity-driven inquiries
the importance of regular check-ins to prevent conflicts from escalating

Topaz's work can be found at theskindeep.com.

00:00 Introduction to Topaz and His Work
01:23 The Concept of 'The And'
02:44 Crafting Meaningful Questions
07:51 Navigating Relationship Challenges
11:44 Creating Safe Spaces for Conversations
13:14 Maintaining Healthy Relationships
24:08 Personal Growth Through Relationships
25:22 Final Thoughts and Resources

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This episode includes LIFE CHANGING information from Thais Gibson, that years from now, you're going to remember listening to it and know it was the pivotal moment that set you on a path of transformation.

As a leading figure in personal development, Thais is the co-founder of the Personal Development School and an expert in attachment theory.

Wonder why no matter how much you tell yourself you're not going to be jealous anymore and then just a few days later you find yourself in a jealous meltdown and don't know why you can't shake it? We talk about the reason for this and spoiler alert... your conscious mind can't outwill your subconscious mind.

Here are just a few of the mind blowing topics we cover in this episode:

• subconscious reprogramming techniques
• how to meet your own needs
• effectively dealing with core wounds that trigger emotional suffering, like jealousy

Thais also breaks down the four attachment styles: secure, anxious, dismissive-avoidant, and fearful-avoidant, offering tips on how to identify and shift your attachment style for healthier, more fulfilling relationships. This life-changing episode promises to blow your mind and offer actionable steps to transform your inner world and outer connections.

00:00 Introduction and Guest Announcement
02:31 Thais Gibson's Background and Journey
02:44 Understanding Attachment Styles and Personal Development
04:23 Thais's Personal Struggles and Healing Journey
07:05 The Power of the Subconscious Mind
13:03 Core Wounds and Emotional Feedback
16:52 Jealousy, Envy, and Core Wounds
33:31 The Impact of Childhood Trauma on Adult Relationships
36:26 Late-Night Texts and Dating Dilemmas
37:03 Understanding and Addressing Unmet Needs
39:32 The Magical Kitchen Analogy
42:07 Steps to Meet Your Needs Independently
45:01 Reprogramming Core Wounds
50:40 Exploring Attachment Styles
01:01:45 Conclusion and Final Thoughts

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I absolutely can't stand it when I hear people say "you have to just get over it". Or especially things like.. you're crazy, or you're nuts when they are referring to you being jealous.

There is such a stigma around "being jealous" that people seem to just have no tolerance for. Yes, I understand it is not healthy, yes I understand its not something to pass off as if its OK to be that way but it certainly doesnt make you crazy or nuts or broken.

EVERYONE has something they need to work on or something that is triggering for them or reminds them of something else. That just means your brain is working the way it should. Its doing it's brain thing... survival and efficiency.

If you continue to feel bad about being jealous, you are going to keep focusing on the wrong thing and this will continue to be a heavy weight on your shoulders. Stop focusing on the idea that it is embarrassing or that they are something fundamentally wrong with you. There no need to put your enegy in that space.

The longer you run from it, the longer you try to deny or push down that you have this, the long you will be running from it.

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You've been told to "Think Positive" so many times in your life and this could be keeping you stuck. According to my guest today, Dr. Eddie O'Connor, a clinical psychologist and host of 'The Psychology of Performance', shares his insights on the detrimental effects of positive thinking when misapplied.

This very thing is the reason I was kicked out of therapy. I kept trying to figure out how to fix the fact that I was angry at my father for being an alcoholic, that I was sad that I had been cheated on time and time again.

And, just as Dr. O'Connor explains in this episode, I didn't need to be fixed. I wasn't broken and you're not broken either. Join us in the great conversation as we talk about:

overcoming anxiety, building self-worth, and achieving peak performance
the importance of addressing and understanding fear and anxiety
practical strategies for managing performance anxiety
the value of resilience and realistic thinking over forced positivity

Bring us along on your drive and learn that acknowleding and adapting to your fears can lead to a more confident and fulfilled life.

00:00 Welcome to Top Self: Overcoming Anxiety and Insecurity

01:00 Introducing Eddie O'Connor: The Psychology of Performance

01:38 Unpacking the Myth of Positive Thinking

01:58 Eddie's Journey into Sports Psychology

03:45 Strategies for Overcoming Performance Anxiety

05:10 Applying Sports Psychology to Relationships

07:56 The Reality of Anxiety and How to Navigate It

15:05 Choosing How to Respond to Our Thoughts

18:05 The Limitations of Positive Thinking

22:02 Finding Purpose in Pain and Moving Forward

25:41 Closing Thoughts and Resources

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