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Welcome back to the Mr. and Mrs. Therapy podcast! In this episode, we continue our deep dive into the series on negative cognitions and beliefs. We've already explored feelings of responsibility and guilt in previous episodes. Today, we shift our focus to safety and vulnerability, specifically examining the negative beliefs around trust.

Join us as we discuss how environments of constant doubt and scrutiny can lead to the belief that "I cannot be trusted," and explore the implications of this mindset. We then delve into the nuances between "I cannot trust myself," "I cannot trust my judgment," and "I cannot trust anyone," analyzing how each impacts personal growth and relationships.

We'll also touch on how these negative beliefs can manifest in everyday life, causing anxiety, chronic indecision, and even social withdrawal. Whether it's about trusting oneself or others, understanding these subtle differences is crucial for personal development and healing.

Thank you for joining us today. Stay tuned for our next episode, where we'll continue to explore themes of safety and vulnerability, including beliefs like "I cannot protect myself" and "I am in danger." Remember, your mind is a powerful thing.

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In this episode, we continue our insightful series on negative cognitions and beliefs. Today, we delve into the second category under responsibility: "I did something wrong." We explore three core beliefs in this category and discuss their origins and impacts on our lives.

We start with "I should have done something," examining how traumatic events can lead to an overinflated sense of responsibility. Next, we discuss "I did something wrong," where external blame leads to persistent self-blame and low self-worth. Lastly, we cover "I should have known better," which often arises from experiences of betrayal or being scammed.

Join us as we unpack these negative beliefs, understand their roots, and learn how they affect our current lives. Together, we aim to bring awareness and healing, helping you navigate these complex emotions. Stay tuned for our next episode, where we explore beliefs related to safety and vulnerability.

Remember, your mind is a powerful thing!

[Remember, our podcast is here to spark conversations and offer insights. Join our community on our Mr. and Mrs. Therapy Podcast Group, share your experiences at podcast@mrandmrstherapy.com, and if you're seeking more personalized advice, consider booking your free coaching consultation. Please note, this podcast is for informational purposes only and is not intended to provide diagnosis or treatment.]

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Welcome to the Mr. and Mrs. Therapy podcast! In today's episode, we continue our series on negative cognitions and negative beliefs, focusing on the "I Am Something Wrong" category. If you haven't caught the previous episodes, we highly recommend listening to those first.

We'll delve into the beliefs such as "I am stupid," "I'm insignificant," "I'm a disappointment," "I deserve to die," "I deserve to be miserable," and "I am different or I don't belong." Understanding these deeply rooted negative thoughts is crucial, especially if you're considering EMDR therapy, a trauma therapy technique that we find highly effective.

We'll explore how these negative beliefs originate, often from childhood experiences, academic pressures, or toxic relationships, and how they manifest in our adult lives, affecting our self-esteem, decision-making, and overall mental health. Join us as we discuss ways to identify and heal these harmful beliefs to lead a more fulfilling life.

Don't miss our next episode, where we'll tackle the "I Did Something Wrong" category of beliefs. Stay tuned, and remember, your mind is a powerful thing!

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Welcome to the Mrs. Therapy podcast! In this episode, we continue our series on negative beliefs and cognitions, particularly how they relate to EMDR therapy. If you're new here, EMDR is a highly effective trauma treatment that helps reprogram the brain to let go of negative beliefs. We're diving deeper into these beliefs, exploring their origins and impacts on our current lives.

In the last episode, we discussed beliefs such as "I don't deserve love" and "I'm worthless." Today, we examine "I am not good enough," tracing its roots to high parental expectations and societal pressures. We also explore how it manifests as perfectionism and procrastination, affecting various aspects of life including work and relationships.

Next, we tackle the belief "I deserve only bad things," often stemming from abusive relationships or harsh parenting. This belief can lead to learned helplessness and self-sabotaging behaviors, making it difficult to accept positive experiences.

We also discuss "I am permanently damaged," a belief arising from traumatic events or long-term mental health struggles. This can result in hopelessness and a reluctance to seek help, believing that recovery is impossible.

Finally, we explore "I am ugly or my body is hateful," frequently rooted in body shaming or physical trauma. This belief can lead to cosmetic surgery addiction, eating disorders, or social withdrawal.

Join us as we delve into these beliefs, offering examples and insights to help you identify and challenge them in your own life. Stay tuned for more episodes where we'll cover additional categories of negative beliefs, including feelings of safety, control, and choice. Have a great day and remember, your mind is a powerful thing.

[Remember, our podcast is here to spark conversations and offer insights. Join our community on our Mr. and Mrs. Therapy Podcast Group, share your experiences at podcast@mrandmrstherapy.com, and if you're seeking more personalized advice, consider booking your free coaching consultation. Please note, this podcast is for informational purposes only and is not intended to provide diagnosis or treatment.]

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Welcome to Mr. and Mrs. Therapy, the podcast that empowers you to transform life's challenges into opportunities for personal growth and healthier relationships. Join your hosts, Tim and Ruth Olson, licensed marriage and family therapists and trauma experts, as they share their insights and strategies to help you heal from the past and build meaningful connections.

In today's episode, we begin a new series on negative cognitive cognitions—your negative beliefs often rooted in trauma. We'll explore different categories of negative beliefs, such as feelings of responsibility, safety and vulnerability, and control and choice. Learn how these beliefs shape your daily life and discover practical ways to address and overcome them.

If you resonate with any of these negative beliefs, take some time to reflect and identify the experiences that contributed to them. Understanding these beliefs is crucial for healing and moving forward. Join us as we delve into the first group of negative beliefs, starting with "I don't deserve love" and "I am a bad person," and learn how to transform these limiting thoughts into opportunities for growth and healing.

Remember, your mind is a powerful thing. Tune in to Mr. and Mrs. Therapy and start your journey towards healing today.

[Remember, our podcast is here to spark conversations and offer insights. Join our community on our Mr. and Mrs. Therapy Podcast Group, share your experiences at podcast@mrandmrstherapy.com, and if you're seeking more personalized advice, consider booking your free coaching consultation. Please note, this podcast is for informational purposes only and is not intended to provide diagnosis or treatment.]

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Welcome to Mr. and Mrs. Therapy, the podcast that empowers you to transform life's challenges into opportunities for personal growth and healthier relationships. We're your hosts, Tim and Ruth Olson, licensed marriage and family therapists and trauma experts. Join us as we unravel the layers of personal growth, healing from trauma, and building healthy relationships through engaging conversations, expert insights, and practical strategies.

In today's episode, we continue our deep dive into vulnerability. If you haven't already listened to the first episode on this topic, we recommend you go back and listen to that before jumping into today's discussion. We explore the tension between our deepest desires for genuine connections and our strongest desires for safety and control. Through personal stories and expert advice, we highlight the importance of being true to yourself and the benefits of risking vulnerability for deeper, more meaningful relationships.

We discuss how vulnerability shows up in everyday life—from parenting and workplace dynamics to personal development and intimate relationships. Learn how small acts of openness can lead to significant personal growth and stronger bonds with those around you. As you go about your week, challenge yourself to embrace vulnerability and experience the transformative power it can bring to your life.

Thank you for joining us on Mr. and Mrs. Therapy. Remember, your mind is a powerful thing. If you found today's episode helpful, please share it with a friend and leave us a review on Apple Podcast. If you have any questions or topics you'd like us to discuss in future episodes, visit our Facebook group. Always remember, there is hope and there is help available.

[Remember, our podcast is here to spark conversations and offer insights. Join our community on our Mr. and Mrs. Therapy Podcast Group, share your experiences at podcast@mrandmrstherapy.com, and if you're seeking more personalized advice, consider booking your free coaching consultation. Please note, this podcast is for informational purposes only and is not intended to provide diagnosis or treatment.]

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In this episode, we delve into the idea of vulnerability—why it can be scary to engage in and why it's so beneficial. We discuss common perceptions of vulnerability, the fears associated with it, and how to weigh the potential risks and rewards. Vulnerability isn't just about sharing deep secrets; it's about openness and the possibility of building genuine connections. Join us as we explore how vulnerability can lead to deeper, more meaningful relationships and how to navigate the delicate balance of trust and openness.

If you're struggling with vulnerability and would like to unlock your ability to truly connect with others, we offer consultations to help you on your journey. So sit back, get comfortable, and let's start healing.

[Remember, our podcast is here to spark conversations and offer insights. Join our community on our Mr. and Mrs. Therapy Podcast Group, share your experiences at podcast@mrandmrstherapy.com, and if you're seeking more personalized advice, consider booking your free coaching consultation. Please note, this podcast is for informational purposes only and is not intended to provide diagnosis or treatment.]

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In this episode Tim and Ruth delve into the detrimental effects of comparison on children and how parents can foster a healthier environment for personal growth.

Tim and Ruth discuss the concept of "tabula rasa" and the importance of recognizing and nurturing each child's unique traits and interests. They provide insights on how to avoid harmful comparisons, both within the family and externally, and emphasize the significance of intrinsic motivation over extrinsic rewards.

Through engaging anecdotes and expert advice, the Olson's offer practical strategies for parents to encourage their children to do their best without the pressure of comparison. This episode is a guide to helping your children develop a strong sense of self-worth and resilience, equipping them to navigate life's challenges with confidence.